Guy I went on a second date with asked for gas money?

[Anonymous]

ok, so I’m prepared to get criticised for this but here goes 😂 I had a first date with a guy hanging at the beach. We had a good time. He later told me that he could take his cousins car and we could go to another nicer beach. It takes about 2 hours 40 minutes there and back. I agreed and we went. Part of the way there there, he asked me to contribute some money for gas. I know that he has a fair amount of money, in fact he seems fairly well off. I gave him all the money I had with me ( I wasn’t expecting it so I didn’t have that much with me). If we took a lot of trips or he genuinely needed the money I’d be fine with giving it , and I have plenty of money. But I don't know, it just felt kind of cheap for him to ask on a second date for gas money for a round trip of about 2 hours 40 mins. I’m expecting criticism for this but it still felt cheap😂

[yucychan]

Not gonna criticize you because the guy's actions does seem weird.
It would be better of him to ask you for the cash right from the beginning when he initiates the idea of a nicer beach. So that at least you know.
It's strange that he'd only ask you for it half-way there.

What if you'd really had no cash with you at all? Are you both gonna be stuck half-way and have to resort to hitch-hiking?
I'll give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he also has insufficient cash with him. Which makes even more sense that he should have informed you right from the start that he needs you to chipped in before even starting on the journey.
I just feel like he's testing you.

[Asker]

I think he may have been testing me too... I think he may be a modern guy who wants everything equal and maybe he was testing me to see if I was selfish or something

[Asker]

Because he did have enough fuel in the tank, the money I gave him I assume he used to fill up later. It also kind of annoyed me becuase I thought I had more money than I did, so I offered him that and he said ‘ that’ll be plenty enough’, implying that perhaps I could be over paying, and he still would have taken it m. It’s like , from the way he said it I didn’t know if he wanted all the gas money or half lol

[yucychan]

In this case, maybe you should re-consider hanging out with him in the future.
For me, I just do not like to be tested. If the guy feels I should be chipping in, then say so in the beginning. Don't create scenarios to test me.
If money's all he care about, then he go ahead to date money, he don't have to date me.

[btbc92]

If you felt that it was kind of cheap and next time don't do it again. Make sure this is somebody that you already know and not a complete stranger. Overall just be glad that he didn't demand for you to pay him. He did politely ask. To be honest I think he's the one that needs to be embarrassed because he decided to take you out on a date and he should have made sure he had enough money.

[SjE78]

sounds like a guy i knew a few years back what you do with your money is up to you but tbh it raises alarm bells when you go on a second date and they ask for money... if he couldn't afford it, he should have arranged to go somewhere local or arranged on having the cash before the date arranged but not by you...

or he should have worked around that without resorting to asking his date

[Liam_Hayden]

"He later told me that he could take his cousins car and we could go to another nicer beach. It takes about 2 hours 40 minutes there and back. I agreed and we went. Part of the way there there, he asked me to contribute some money for gas."

That was a d*ck move by the guy.

[jasco]

Well i understand why you think this way but its just gas money and if you say u are doing well then it shouldn't bother you but i understand that you felt annoyed because he could have done it and I think you just don't like sharing your money and thats fine

[On_the_other_hand]

Is this issue for you mainly based on him a guy and you being a girl?

[Anonymous]

Meh. Guys asking for money on 2nd date. So not hot... Also 80 minutes drive one direction? Don't you have a nice place near you? DROP!

[AmeerX]

I think he should have paid the money. What kind of man is he?

[jeremy_09]

cheap. he'll never change. keep him that way or move on to someone better (for you)

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Maybe he is a bit of scrooge but he likes you. Otherwise he wouldn't ask for a second date

[Tru-陳]

Why didn't you drive him in your car? Too cheap?

[RobM89]

At least he made sure you got home alright

[Iron_Man]

It’s fair Dutch treat

[Anonymous]

Welcome to equality.. No more free rides

[Anonymous]

I like this guy lol.

[Asker]

Why?😂