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How can I stop making the same dating mistakes? Where are the good men at? (Page 2)
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Well, "good men" as "good women" is a point of view. The good men could be around you. They are just not normally visibles because men and women communicate differently and they bring different desires into a relationship.
All of us "good men" no longer want to risk dating or marriage or children thanks to feminists having weaponized the legal system against men, and the whole #metoo thing. We no longer want the risk. Have fun by yourself.
First question: analyze your mistake and work upon it. Only you can prevent them from happening.
Second question: keep looking for men who you find to be 'good'. The right one must be just around the corner.
Define a good man. The first thing I'd wonder is whether you're being too picky about looks and/or height.
Looks gor to do with it.
If it's mostly looks, you will most likely continue to fail unless you're OK with players, hookups and short-term flings. Looks don't make a man "good" in a relationship, and good-looking men have lots of options when it comes to women, so at your age they tend to not commit to one woman.
Learn from your mistakes, everyone makes them. But if you learn from them they're not a waste of time. Get to know someone good before you intent on going further.
They are everywhere.
Here's a better question: What are you doing to attract good men?
I dont know
What dating mistakes are you making also good men are out there, you just need to find out where they are.
Where are they at?
They are around and you have to know how to look for them. They are on the dating apps. They are at the bars. He is the dirty secret most good guys don't have it in them to approach you in public. On dating apps they will be I dont know how to describe it like actually trying to get to know you. That conversations is dry but they want to know who you are. Generally the more flashy they are the more fuck boi they are.
I just wait for the right guy to come around I already tired online dating and wasted too much time. Maybe I need to work on myself I dont have a lot of time to date around.
You dont have to wait at all. That is bothers me. Why does the guy have to find you. Search talk socialize with the find people
The guys who have their shit together, work, have their own place? Your dumb ass put them in the friend zone. Then when you hit about 35, have 3 kids by 4 dad's, you'll want those guys you put in the zone because you now need that stability.
I need to talk to a therapist man because you people aren't any help but have a sake ass attitude.
@asker. I'm just being honest. Women want to sleep around in their youth, have a couple kids by guys who aren't parental material, then want a guy to step up and be a parent and crave stability that they didn't have but need to raise their kids.
Dont you realize that men do the same thing that you are saying that women do.
Not good ones. I work 50-80 hrs a week, own two houses, don't play games, and I know what I want.
Yeah do you see how old I am? Compared to how old you are?
bro chill out. Maybe your attitude is the reason you don't have a girl. Also thanks for stereotyping women.
@Froyologirl
Sorry if the truth hurts. I'm single because I work to much, because I'm driven to succeed.
that's cool bro. You're approaching 40 anyways no one wants you regardless unless you're a billionaire.
Men become more attractive as they get older because they have money and power. As women get older the become worthless because the looks fade and the physical baggage they tend to bring. Don't get me wrong, I do and have dated single mom's, and who's kids where we'll behaved, and that doesn't bother me
Some guys it does.
wow so we're worthless ok. Keep that same energy towards your mom
Lol are you blaming it on the men? Come on, take some responsibility.
Take what responsibility just because society says that you should be in a relationship and married a sorted age doesn't mean that I am supposed to have a man. Maybe I need to stop listening to people and what they say you should do x and y at a sorted age and just stay single. No reason to date for no reason.
U said where are all the good men at.
Because you people act like it is easy to find a good man for a particular woman fast.
You people lol. Well it’s not their fault. Just work on you and it will happen
It is not my fault either that someone wants to waste their time with me.
Could be your fault, just own up to it Jesus Christ, stop blaming men for everything wrong with u
It sounds like someone is bitter themselves but no I can't control what others think or treat me. So stop being a bitch because you are sour about your own problems.
Lol I sound like the bitter one here, riiiiight. You’re confused. I’m the one who has someone🤣🤣🤣🤣 not you dum dum. I’m trying to explain to you men are amazing and when you talk trash saying where are all the good ones, they are literally all around and it’s you’re fault for being crap and not having anyone.
I didn't say anything negative about men I just ask an question. you were the one being rude I didn't do anything to you.
By working out what the mistakes are and not keep making them also they are out there just gotta find them lol
I am 24 do you think I should just focus on finishing my last year in college? Do you think it is just not my time yet?
That or luck as to what to do only you can decide that if you feel that's whats right go for it
I just focus on getting my career started I don't know where to find decent men at the dating apps are bad too many people i come across just want sex. I save myself some time God will send him at the right time.
Focus on finishing your studies and join student governing body if there is such thing. You will get to know some people who will achieve things in there life, take on active role there. If nothing you will find out what good men are like.
God will do nothing for you, sorry, its only you who can help yourself. If your virgin it might complicate thing or two. I would be hesitant to date virgin, quiz they often doesn't know what they want, Im all up for games if we play games, but if its relation than it should be aimed at long term. Virgins tends to not understand it.
You can't because you're stupid. People are asking you questions to try to help you figure out where you're going wrong and they're flying right over your head.
And that is why you are anonymous.
Are you saying that people who go anonymous are stupid?
I'm saying that you are and going to come here calling me stupid why dont you try being a woman and date these men and see that they are thirsty.
I'd try it but I'd be a very ugly woman, so I'll pass.
Pretty much sums it up
Just because a guy likes you doesn't mean that he is the right one for you. I think that people want to feel an avoidant . Some people are just better off single. Every girl that liked you did you like them?
I think you missed the point. I wasn't saying that you'll like everyone who likes you or that you shouldn't be discerning when it comes to choosing a partner. I was getting at the fact that most people make the same mistakes over and over again when choosing partners bc they're attracted to a certain type of person and perhaps those types of people are not healthy for them. "... feel an avoidant"? I agree with you that some people choose to remain single bc it's what they want.
Remaining single is something you need it isn't always the best thing to do is be in a relationship.
Wow so ladies let me tell you something if you keep making bad chocies with men and finding bad men who just want your cat, then that is a u problem not them
How is it my fault I can't control other people but myself?
its your fault for constantly not looking in order areas, for now reforming your standards, for not looking and waiting for the man that you want, its your fault for not seeing the signs of a man who isn't faithful. U aren't responsible for others but you are for yourself. In short you need to revise your standards, revalue your self and understand that some people are bad and as a good person you need to get away from those people, and go for people who aren't. Sometimes you might need to lower a standard or to not all of them, but no one is perfect either
sorry for any typos but the point i am trying to make is this, if you want something, you gotta change in order to get it
can't change what isn't meant for you in your life. Too many people want to point the figure at you when you are a good person and the other person was just using you. I am not wasting my time on fuckboys I just wait for the right person to come into my life. There is not reason to waste time dating. I stop picking my dates instead God needs to pick my soulmate for me.
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mm well if thats what you wanna do i wish you luck however God doesn't always help you when you want it, Of course he hears it but like everyone else he has the option of not doing it. So i am not saying waiting for God is bad, cause it can work if you pray long enough but i am also saying that you shouldn't wait for everything to come to you. Simply put make friends and see what happens
Do you realize how many times I tried to get a man and failed? I dont have anymore time to waste and looking like a fool. I want to have peace God isn't going to help me make the right decision when it comes to choosing a man. When I go on dating apps it is from what I am choosing not in God's will. You are just asking for yourself to get in some trouble going on tinder and bumble. There is a dating coach named Tony Gaskin who tells women to stay off the apps because we look desperate. If God has planned for me to have a man he would bring him into my life if I really am supposed to have one. A woman put searching for a man doesn't sound right. It takes self development and work in yourself. There is no where to really find and spot descent men especially when this virus shit is going on.
like i said make friends, don't date, and yea dating apps suck so don't do them
Therapy and/or deep, honest self-reflection. The common denominator in all of our relationships is us. We can't keep blaming others for our ending up in the same situations with the same kind of people.
Probably dont need or have any business being in a relationship.
There's no single location where all the "good men" gather. You just have to be perceptive and filter out the dregs.
Like attracts like.
So you calling all of these men bad reflects a trait from yourself
Ok just because you can easily get a man doesn't mean that we all can get one.
Im not being rude im sharing what my therapist told me that finally made my pattern of guys get fixed
I can easily get guys but always attracted the same one.
Ok I'm sorry
Sometimes you have to sort through a ton of shit to find that one piece of corn.
Still waiting on that needle in a hat stack
To get a good man, you have to be a good woman. Clearly you're doing something wrong and aren't a good woman.
Not true - nah
@ct1243 men in here are hurting too just like us good women but they want to bash us for something we didn't even do to them.
Screw men if I can be single it’s one less problem / they normally talk about sex
@ct1243 You're the one picking them; you're the problem.
I don’t pick men - haven’t picked a man in years - I do agree with women vetting men
@DeltaCharlieEcho
It really depends where you are finding them at. That really has a lot to do with it I can see how it is out women's fault because when a man tells us something we dont want to listen. If they are going to start acting funny if you ask them about a relationship just leave. But a lot of men on dating apps it is very rare to find your match those men on there really aren't wanting anything serious.
I don’t meet men on dating sites it’s a waste of time / I just make money and study - that’s important
the good men get badly heart broken or friend zoned.. i know from exp... i am one of the good aka nice guys
Well the same exact thing happens to women do you think that you men are your own hypocrites to this.
i can ask the same... yet i for one would never cheat nor do i play games when it comes to matters of the heart... a heart is meant to be loved not trashed
@asker why do you seem to think men are a hive mind? Are we not individuals to you? Sexist bitch...
@Torari I'm saying that what that person was saying that men do the same thing without even realizing it.
everyone makes mistakes, no one has the perfect score record, you just remember to learn from those mistakes.