Would you date someone who is very attractive but rude to other people?

[Avicenna]

Yes

No

[VIVANT]

No. How people behave when no one is looking is most important to me. Anyone can act nice but feel it’s a chore and when they tire of it they stop. I want someone who is kind bc they desire to be deep inside.. Not as a show. It isn’t enough that I get the benefit of them acting nice. I want them to actually have that inherent quality where they care about the fact of others suffering / avoiding causing suffering/ trying to alleviate it. I don’t get on with assholes they piss me off. Withoit even doing anything. Just knowing the indifference, annoys me lol

[Juxtapose]

I think if you dig deep into those people they can often have fascinating philosophies and are more aggressive in bed.

I usually only get along with the ones who are willing to have an open mind and are also intellectually curious. That alone would be more than enough for me to forgive the bad attitude and lack of empathy towards other people.

As long as they don't actually hurt other people, it's irrelevant to me. They don't have to spend their time trying to make the world a better place to be worth hang out with or developing a deeper relationship with.

That's just me though. I like aggression, passion and freedom. There's something almost majestic about someone who is so free that they will do socially unacceptable things like yell at a kid lol.

[WowwGirl]

@Juxtapose + @VIVANT

[WowwGirl]

❤️❤️❤️😊

[Juxtapose]

Long live @WowwGirl and @VIVANT

[VIVANT]

@Juxtapose

I don’t think being passionate and assertive Or loud lol equals asshole. That’s just spirited.. it’s people who harm others or are indifferent to real suffering. Not petty stuff tust anyone will have to deal with day to day.

It is true Being online I end up talking to People I likely wouldn’t Stumble upon irl and they can be quite colorful. but there’s some lethal of humanity that is recognizable. And it gets deeper as you dig.

There’s a sliding scale online I don’t have offline I suppose, but even then there’s a limit.

🤔 now I’m trying to think of people I met online who seemed like assholes but I talked to anyhow bc I saw something.. but then I cut them off bc they crossed a line..

Uhh nope. 🤷‍♀️never happened. Any asshole I stopped talking to, I stopped talking to bc they blocked ME 🙃😎

[VIVANT]

That lady seems colorful not what I’d consider an asshole 😊

[WowwGirl]

I just think you are both adorable

[Juxtapose]

I agree @VIVANT , the violence, extreme sadists and sociopaths? No way. Not anyone close to that bad either.

Empathy is a social adhesive & it makes co-existance worthwhile.

[WowwGirl]

@Juxtapose I like how you just ignore me😂 @VIVANT too..❤️

[WowwGirl]

Am I a ghost? Can you see me 😂

[Avicenna]

@WowwGirl: You playing matchmaker again?

[Juxtapose]

Oh ffs you too? xD

[Avicenna]

@Juxtapose: @VIVANT is a quality lady. I also think you should make a move.

[WowwGirl]

🤣🤣🤣

[SexyAshh]

Im blunt, honest, and have a strong personality so im always mistaken for rude. Especially on here. It just depends on the person and their sensitivity level.


As far as dating, im fine with fellow blunt strong personalities, but usually i need someone is opposite to balance me out or we just end up butting heads.

[TruthBringer]

This website is full of snowflakes who can't handle someone who speaks their mind.

[SexyAshh]

@TruthBringer yeah I've definatly noticed that. Big time. I either argue just to show them theyre an idiot or just block because i dont have the patience to desl with that. Its constant

[Juxtapose]

A touch of diplomacy and politeness will make people a lot more receptive without diluting your message.

But then again, you've never said anything bad to me that I can remember and I don't hold back my thoughts.

[SexyAshh]

@Juxtapose Politeness to me is fake, no one is actually polite. I treat others how im treated. If you're nice to me, i respect you and will be nice back.

Rude to me, ill be even more rude back.

there's a handful of people i really enjoy on here and have no issues with because theyve earned my respect, one being @Avicenna

I dont think I've ever really had a convo with you so i can't say much at this point in time.

[Juxtapose]

I can see how politeness is seen as ritualistic and forced, but to me, it just means starting off on a positive note. Kindness out of nowhere can be sincere and encourage more of it in return.

Of course there are situations where it's 100% fake and just makes me sigh.

[Dchrls78104]

@Juxtapose good point.

[TruthBringer]

If you're beautiful from the outside, but ugly from the inside, then you're ugly. Period. So no, I stay far away.

[OlderAndWiser]

A girl can be attractive without being a 9/10, but a rude girl can never be attractive.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

No because if they're rude, they're not really that attractive than are they. Ugly attitude makes for an ugly person...

[KrakenAttackin]

Well said Brains.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@KrakenAttackin thank you.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Hell no! That would be such a turnoff! The best looks in the world don't make up for a hideous personality.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I've done it and I'm still doing it in a sense.

[TechniCarl]

No, I could care less about how attractive soneone is but a bare minimum is that they have manners

[Flower7]

No, because I've learned that the way someone treats other people is the way they'll eventually treat me.

[Smoothing]

Hell to the no. Attitude and personality matters to me more than looks.

[Juxtapose]

Yeah, so long as they were nice to me. They could sass me a little, it's sexy lol.

[Juxtapose]

I think a part of me recognizes that most people are annoying and kind of wishes I was less considerate and more free to express my disdain.

But at the same time, I don't want to make people's days any harder so I refrain from doing so unless I feel like it's time to deviate.

[Juxtapose]

So I kind of admire people that are more open to such a degree about their feelings, within reason.

[Dchrls78104]

Absolutely not. I'd be a fool to. Travis Alexander did: her name was Jodi Arias.

[Nikki1989]

No, I couldn't deal with someone like that.

[DizzyDesii]

I can't. Hate those types

[Jamie05rhs]

No. Because that means she'd probably be rude to me eventually as well.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No, sadly I couldn't do it

[Phoenix98]

I would not I don't like women who are genuinely rude to everyone it's a turn off.

[clampfan101]

Being rude is extremely unattractive. Not exactly a good trade.

[FackThePackers21]

You had me at "very attractive." Certainly wouldn't marry her though.

[PrettyRegular]

Depends. If the rudeness would be under control, why not.

[WowwGirl]

I have before but wasn't aware till later

[pizzalovershouse]

No not unkess there being rhdd to gerks

[JCT666]

Absolutely not.

[Konabeana]

Never.

[mindNsoul]

No way

[mindNsoul]

Your personality is your personality. If you're rude to others than you are going to be rude to me. Nah. Not my cup of tea. Plus that's ugly.

[austinbooth]

No way

[Bluemax]

Nope

[Bluemax]

by the way, I feel this question is missing something. Something that we are not good judges of, as indeed all people are very biased when it comes to judging their own behavior.

Are we able to *recognize* rude behavior as well in super hotties as we do lesser attractive people? Are we more tolerant of rude behavior in hotties than rude behavior in normal looking or unattractive people.

Some research suggests the answers are no and yes respectively. And we seem to largely be unaware of this.

[Bhavin2184]

Nope..

[nodnol32]

Nope.