How do you react when your date brag a lot?

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Dongtai · Accepted Answer

Define bragging. I had a girl accuse me of “trying to impress her” on the first date and that I wasn’t focused on “her”? But as I recall the date. She was extremely boring.

When I take a girl out my goal is to get to know her. But what do you do when the person has nothing to say about themselves? Not even anything small. We’re both in college so I assume she’s ambitious but whenever I asked her questions she had little to nothing that moved the conversation. She couldn’t even tell me about her with more than a sentence.

I’ve done a lot for someone my age I guess. I’ve published books. Traveled to different countries. I work on graphic novels. I’m physically fit and workout. I love to read and watch tv. It’s very easy for me to talk about myself. So when she told me she didn’t know, I started asking her questions like have you traveled? When she said no I told her about one of the places I’ve been and how she’d love traveling. I spoke about the things I’ve done and tried to connect her to the conversation so we could “talk.”

It never crossed my mind that it looked like bragging. But on the other hand if I didn’t say anything there’d be nothing but weird silence lol.

If the person is bragging without asking questions that pull me in I probably wouldn’t notice because confident women are rare and it turns me on. And if she’s bragging I can at least ask questions about the things she brags about and learn about her. There’s nothing wrong with bragging as long as you’re not putting people beneath you. Society makes this big deal about people being proud of themselves and talking about accomplishments as if it’s a crime to be self-motivated and confident then wonder why so many people are insecure.

It’s ok to be confident and proud. Just give other people room to be big as well.

nonratracereality · Accepted Answer

When I was real but going through this knowing the outcome, if I wasn't real I'd be saying what the hell. You want it to show not to blow!!! But he doesn't realize for her to be like that and he accepted it for what he liked but not focused on the rest of what he wasn't paying attention to. So eventually it caught up and now its played annoying and not entertaining anymore. So either way knowing or not knowing you're going to feel it and always react to it. I know that's why I had to stop and input you have to share all that is human. If everybody dedicated a cause like if we could be really trusted and understand that if everybody who is working and at least making $300 a week donate $1 a week to a help that will be supervised and managed and all recipients who are really down on their luck can get a boost. Pay it forward.

Simplismilez · Accepted Answer

I mean it depends on what they're bragging about. If they're talking about how much money they make and how successful they are then I'll end the date and never call back. If they're bragging about the kind of work they do and how they feel it impacts people positively then I'll want a second date. If they're bragging about winning a video game tournament I'll congratulate them. It's all in the context of what they're bragging about.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I dated a guy who bragged a lot about his looks. After while he wasn't even cute anymore. He was ruining himself with he cockiness. I met a guy last week who constantly bragged about his jewelry. Like you're wearin a $10,000 watch and want to tell people that? I doubt he was wearing something that expensive but if he was, bragging was a good way to get robbed

Genie23 · Answer

It instantly makes me lose interest in them. So, I'll just make up some excuse to leave as soon as possible.

AmandaYVR · Answer

I'd move on, not date them again.

Anonymouus_ · Answer

I like it. My wife don't do that. Something wrong with her. Why I married her anyway? I mean I love her and all but she never brags about me. I gotta brag about myself to our company. Then I look like an ass. I accomplished badass things and stuff. I'm sort of a celebrity in my line of work. She never mentions it. I gotta sorta humbly mention it my accolades. Then we come home and she says I sorta bragged a bit. What a PITA. She was supposed to brag about me. I brag about her. I say she has a nice ass and everything. She never repays the favor. She is like cat. But I can't help but love her anyway. But I would love her more if she could just say my accomplishments. Don't have to glorify them. Just say, "He did this, he won this, and he won that." That's all.

sszatkow · Answer

Depends on what they brag about. If it’s something I admire and have never done, I like it. If it’s something I’ve done before or don’t respect, or I think is fairly ordinary, it makes the evening boring. In general I think people find stories much more interesting than opinions or claims of skill. If someone told me they had skied some insane chutes in the swiss alps or something, that’s fine to talk about even if there’s no story. If they talk about how they’re a great cook, and all of the things they can cook, and all of their techniques, that’s boring for me.

Espresso-Grande · Answer

Leave early and never see him again.

I went on a date with a guy who bragged about himself. Everything he talked about was "me, myself and I" . He was so boring. Whenever I tried to talk, he just ignored me and talked over me. He wasn't interested in getting to know me. I couldn't bear listening to him any longer , so I left early , and told him I didn't want to see him again to stop him ever contacting me again

SexyAshh · Answer

EVERy guy i date does this. And i kinda roll my eyes but its only for the first few dates/ months. I can see straight through the facade so i can see if they are a truley genuine through it or just putting on a show and an actual deusch.

So it dosnt really bother me.

codydevan88 · Answer

I become interested, and thankful that they would share their accomplishments with me and i share some of my own in return as we learn more about eachother. hopefully we have a lot in common

wingattebaby16 · Answer

as long as he is not bragging about our sex life to his friends, I can put up with it.. and I have his permission if he exaggerates or makes stuff up, I can call him on it in front of peeps...

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I never had a date who bragged. Wait I did have one assert she could out drink me. I told her I appreciate my functioning liver so she was likely right. This detail wasn’t exactly a selling point for me in a date.

Citizenkirk · Answer

As long as they are bragging about how beautiful, insightful, intelligent, and spontaneously witty you are, than a big, sloppy 💋 is an appropriate response.

Agape93 · Answer

I leave them there and go do something else. I’m a human being, not a captive audience for a narcissist.

burlen · Answer

It means no chance having another date with them. I'm allergic to I'm-that-I'm-this-kind-of-people.

spartan55 · Answer

I just let them yammer on like one of those wind-up dolls. I'm thinking that this was anothrg one and done...

EmmaMary · Answer

I have never had any time for self conceited, arrogant and egotistical lowlifes.

likelyOK · Answer

I hate it! It’s a huge turn off especially when he is using money as a bragging rights.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

I give her a very subtle-yet-obvious disapproving look.

laurieluvsit · Answer

I find another date, that is one thing that I can not stand is an arrogant snob!

hornyafbi69 · Answer

Depends on what she's bragging about and how she's doing it like body language type stuff

Hazelstar99 · Answer

I just listen well because I'm a good listener. If someone is happy by bragging then let it be.

thehorriblesheikh · Answer

It is likely that he was being nervous. Some people brag when they feel nervous. I used to do that.

An_Impulse · Answer

what would be the reason they are bragging? Me? Money? Shiny stuff? depends on what kind of bragging it is. :)

AdamPereira2 · Answer

i wouldn't say this is a prolem at all they are just tryna impress you if they do it just tell them you dont have to impress me you are fine just the way you are

worldscolide · Answer

Usually if they brag a lot, its a defense mechanism to hide something.. Red flag honestly.

Juxtapose · Answer

I'll give her something else to brag about when the night is over.

clampfan101 · Answer

I imagine if that ever happened, I imagine I would be embarrassed out of modesty but still like it.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

It's superficial indifference and an inner thought 'what is their reason?' for bragging.

scooogy · Answer

My crush even teases me now and then, but she's the best in her job. I love her to pieces. 🥰

jizzyjay · Answer

Make them prove it and show them up during the process

Lovemoney1 · Answer

I kindly tell her that I dont think think she going to need me

JaelynnGlow · Answer

Pretend like they never existed again in my life 🤷🤣

Anonymous · Answer

If she brags about how much she likes sucking dick... tell her to prove it.

normalice · Answer

I guess it depends on what she's bragging about.

Bluemax · Answer

I'm tempted to goad them on just for amusement.

wankiam · Answer

i would probably lose interest rather quickly

Prof_Don · Answer

It’s a turn off, stop trying so hard!

pigoat · Answer

Don't brag Nuff said

BlckGrl · Answer

I become extremely insecure suddenly

JosyJosy · Answer

I walk off, no more dating

chapawapa · Answer

I wait until I can say goodbye

lanadelrey25 · Answer

About themselves? I'd leave the date.

Iron_Man · Answer

I’m not a fan of that

Jamie05rhs · Answer

It's a turn-off, honestly.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Like a sign they are not worth a 2nd date

msc545 · Answer

By not dating them again

robertKugler · Answer

If it doesn't impress u say so.

Agem123 · Answer

I make it clear he's turning me off.

jalen-bell · Answer

First I got to get one

Anonymous · Answer

Tolerate it. But she wouldn't get a second date.

john0372 · Answer

I leave and cut contact from them. Not worth it.

vengence186 · Answer

No not until decades later

ohshee · Answer

With a see ya

angelcat321 · Answer

I have no idea...

GreenGold1992 · Answer

never call again

In_Trance · Answer

I'm out

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CarlaR · Answer

Smile and laugh

Anonymous · Answer

Ignore her.

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