How do you react when your date brag a lot?

[Chikky]

[Dongtai]

Define bragging. I had a girl accuse me of “trying to impress her” on the first date and that I wasn’t focused on “her”? But as I recall the date. She was extremely boring.


When I take a girl out my goal is to get to know her. But what do you do when the person has nothing to say about themselves? Not even anything small. We’re both in college so I assume she’s ambitious but whenever I asked her questions she had little to nothing that moved the conversation. She couldn’t even tell me about her with more than a sentence.


I’ve done a lot for someone my age I guess. I’ve published books. Traveled to different countries. I work on graphic novels. I’m physically fit and workout. I love to read and watch tv. It’s very easy for me to talk about myself. So when she told me she didn’t know, I started asking her questions like have you traveled? When she said no I told her about one of the places I’ve been and how she’d love traveling. I spoke about the things I’ve done and tried to connect her to the conversation so we could “talk.”


It never crossed my mind that it looked like bragging. But on the other hand if I didn’t say anything there’d be nothing but weird silence lol.


If the person is bragging without asking questions that pull me in I probably wouldn’t notice because confident women are rare and it turns me on. And if she’s bragging I can at least ask questions about the things she brags about and learn about her. There’s nothing wrong with bragging as long as you’re not putting people beneath you. Society makes this big deal about people being proud of themselves and talking about accomplishments as if it’s a crime to be self-motivated and confident then wonder why so many people are insecure.


It’s ok to be confident and proud. Just give other people room to be big as well.

[nonratracereality]

When I was real but going through this knowing the outcome, if I wasn't real I'd be saying what the hell. You want it to show not to blow!!! But he doesn't realize for her to be like that and he accepted it for what he liked but not focused on the rest of what he wasn't paying attention to. So eventually it caught up and now its played annoying and not entertaining anymore. So either way knowing or not knowing you're going to feel it and always react to it. I know that's why I had to stop and input you have to share all that is human. If everybody dedicated a cause like if we could be really trusted and understand that if everybody who is working and at least making $300 a week donate $1 a week to a help that will be supervised and managed and all recipients who are really down on their luck can get a boost. Pay it forward.

[Simplismilez]

I mean it depends on what they're bragging about. If they're talking about how much money they make and how successful they are then I'll end the date and never call back. If they're bragging about the kind of work they do and how they feel it impacts people positively then I'll want a second date. If they're bragging about winning a video game tournament I'll congratulate them. It's all in the context of what they're bragging about.

[DizzyDesii]

I dated a guy who bragged a lot about his looks. After while he wasn't even cute anymore. He was ruining himself with he cockiness. I met a guy last week who constantly bragged about his jewelry. Like you're wearin a $10,000 watch and want to tell people that? I doubt he was wearing something that expensive but if he was, bragging was a good way to get robbed

[Naydyonov]

Very true. "Oh, your shoes cost $300? Are you sure you want to say that as loudly as you are?"

[DizzyDesii]

@Naydyonov 😂😂😂

[Naydyonov]

hehehehe

[ChiTown33]

DD you shoulda robbed him.

[DizzyDesii]

Thank you for mho :D

[Genie23]

It instantly makes me lose interest in them. So, I'll just make up some excuse to leave as soon as possible.

[AmandaYVR]

I'd move on, not date them again.

[Anonymouus_]

I like it. My wife don't do that. Something wrong with her. Why I married her anyway? I mean I love her and all but she never brags about me. I gotta brag about myself to our company. Then I look like an ass. I accomplished badass things and stuff. I'm sort of a celebrity in my line of work. She never mentions it. I gotta sorta humbly mention it my accolades. Then we come home and she says I sorta bragged a bit. What a PITA. She was supposed to brag about me. I brag about her. I say she has a nice ass and everything. She never repays the favor. She is like cat. But I can't help but love her anyway. But I would love her more if she could just say my accomplishments. Don't have to glorify them. Just say, "He did this, he won this, and he won that." That's all.

[sszatkow]

Depends on what they brag about. If it’s something I admire and have never done, I like it. If it’s something I’ve done before or don’t respect, or I think is fairly ordinary, it makes the evening boring. In general I think people find stories much more interesting than opinions or claims of skill. If someone told me they had skied some insane chutes in the swiss alps or something, that’s fine to talk about even if there’s no story. If they talk about how they’re a great cook, and all of the things they can cook, and all of their techniques, that’s boring for me.

[Espresso-Grande]

Leave early and never see him again.

I went on a date with a guy who bragged about himself. Everything he talked about was "me, myself and I" . He was so boring. Whenever I tried to talk, he just ignored me and talked over me. He wasn't interested in getting to know me. I couldn't bear listening to him any longer , so I left early , and told him I didn't want to see him again to stop him ever contacting me again

[SexyAshh]

EVERy guy i date does this. And i kinda roll my eyes but its only for the first few dates/ months. I can see straight through the facade so i can see if they are a truley genuine through it or just putting on a show and an actual deusch.


So it dosnt really bother me.

[Mike_101]

I feel both genders kinda do this though for the first few months. It's called entrapment haha joking but most people will try impress I think and like you said it just depends what place that facade comes from. Is it to hide red flags or is it because they are insecure etc

[SexyAshh]

Yeah i get what you mean. The chinese and astrology all say we share 3 faces. Our initial face, our internal hidden face that comes out occasionally, and the face that comes out when people get to know us. So i always think of that and noticed it to be true

[Mike_101]

It's embarrassing but I actually knew this from Avatar the last airbender haha but yes it definitely seems to be true

[SexyAshh]

Lol i have no idea what avatar is, but good to know 😄👍

[Mike_101]

It's a show I watched as a kid 😂 but it was filled with great advice etc like what you mentioned about the 3 masks

[SexyAshh]

Oh okay well that works. Just good to talk to someone who already knows and isn't ready to start an argument for disagreeing🤦🏼‍♀️ lol

[Mike_101]

Haha same 😊 always happy to chat more if you want. We could always spin topics off each other

[codydevan88]

I become interested, and thankful that they would share their accomplishments with me and i share some of my own in return as we learn more about eachother. hopefully we have a lot in common

[wingattebaby16]

as long as he is not bragging about our sex life to his friends, I can put up with it..

and I have his permission if he exaggerates or makes stuff up, I can call him on it in front of peeps...

[MannMitAntworten]

I never had a date who bragged. Wait I did have one assert she could out drink me. I told her I appreciate my functioning liver so she was likely right. This detail wasn’t exactly a selling point for me in a date.

[Citizenkirk]

As long as they are bragging about how beautiful, insightful, intelligent, and spontaneously witty you are, than a big, sloppy 💋 is an appropriate response.

[Agape93]

I leave them there and go do something else. I’m a human being, not a captive audience for a narcissist.

[burlen]

It means no chance having another date with them. I'm allergic to I'm-that-I'm-this-kind-of-people.

[spartan55]

I just let them yammer on like one of those wind-up dolls. I'm thinking that this was anothrg one and done...

[EmmaMary]

I have never had any time for self conceited, arrogant and egotistical lowlifes.

[likelyOK]

I hate it! It’s a huge turn off especially when he is using money as a bragging rights.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

I give her a very subtle-yet-obvious disapproving look.

[laurieluvsit]

I find another date, that is one thing that I can not stand is an arrogant snob!

[hornyafbi69]

Depends on what she's bragging about and how she's doing it like body language type stuff

[Hazelstar99]

I just listen well because I'm a good listener. If someone is happy by bragging then let it be.

[thehorriblesheikh]

It is likely that he was being nervous. Some people brag when they feel nervous. I used to do that.