Do you think my boyfriend is insecure if he gets mad if I hang out with my guy friend?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I am sure he is concerned , sometimes it’s best to not really be friends with opposite sex friends when you are in a relationship because it can cause conflict in your relationship, basically think how would you feel if your boyfriend was spending time with a girl friend without you present? It would definitely make you raise some question of concern So I am sure your boyfriend isn’t to fond of you hanging out with this other guy , Guys pretty much know what other guys think and their intentions , Girl’s are usually blind to it just because you might feel it’s innocent doesn’t mean your boyfriend finds it innocent , so again why I’s best to put opposite sex friends on the back burner and not really hang out with them unless your boyfriend is present and it’s nothing to do with trust it comes down to respect for each other. It’s stuff like this that adds fire to relationships , when I was married to my ex , she had a male co worker/ friend that she would tell me he is just a friend to her , he was an older guy that was married as well she would tell me they were buddies so in the beginning I was fine with it but little by little that motherfucker was slowly making passes at her, I saw one of his text to her that was disrespectful , pretty much a sexual text and I got super pissed off , and told her that this motherfucker isn’t a friend he is trying to get in your pants , of course she got mad at me and acted like I was crazy , and I thought how would you feel if a girl from my work was sending me text like that? Bottom line I was right and busted her cheating on me with him , that’s why I divorced her ass

Novacane · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't call it "insecure"

Guys usually see other guys' intentions so they always put that into consideration.

But that is where the trust comes in. When I was with my ex I would tell her she can hang out with her guy best friend all she wants, she would always tell me when she would hang out with him and even ask me for permission, I told her she does not have to ask me for permission, that is her friend and they were best friends even before I came into the picture, so I have no right telling her who she can and can't hang out with. But that was because I trusted her that there was nothing there and that nothing will happen, even if he tried I know she would stop it.

Queen_T17 · Accepted Answer

Honestly no that does not make him insecure that make him human. One thing about boys is that since he's a guy he knows how other guys think, he knows how just you and another guy sitting in a room alone can easily turn into something more. He knows how easy it is to start thinking the wrong thoughts about a attractive female. We're human after all, and temptation is a easy thing to slip into. Being human means it is super easy to catch feelings for someone when you guys are always spending time alone. So putting yourself in a position where something innocent can lead to a breakup might not be the best choice. Group hangouts are always smarter.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Yes. He's insecure. You'd better get this straight with him once and for all. If he keeps whining about who you're spending time with... it's going to cross over to males AND females. He wants you all to himself. Nothing healthy about that. Jealousy might be more intense if you're with a guy, but it will be if you're spending more time OUT ALONE than with him, with your girlfriend, exercising... and ON and ON. Look elsewhere if his answers about how much time is ENOUGH for him aren't good enough for YOU!

Miristheiss · Answer

You two just may have differwnt boundaries and values.
I wouldn't even date you if expected me to hang out alone at some guys place.
I wouldn't even waste my time.
He should just date someone else who doesn't do that.
He should just turn all those negative emotions into finding a compatible girlfriend.

RosesRevived · Answer

I could go on a long rant about this due to my ex. One of the essential things in a relationship is trust. If he has a reason to not trust you, then I can see why. But if you have male friends and the communication is there to speak to your man and have that mutual respect for each other that you both have friends of the opposite gender, then there should be no reason why you can't hang around your male friends.

Snowman666 · Answer

Yes but for good reasons possibly. Both of those things can be true at the same time. If you don't ever hang out with your boyfreind. Then you are telling him he is not important to you, But your other guy freinds are.

Hangry22 · Answer

Would you be happy and giddy about your boyfriend going to chill at his female friend's place to chill and for a "ride"? That's just plain jealousy. Normal jealousy

CoolGuyJoe · Answer

Have you been spending enough time with him? Is your time together quality? If that's the case, then I say yes.

Anonymous · Answer

He is not insecure. It's inappropriate what you are doing. I also read your comment saying you and your boyfriend barely hang out because he is boring. Why are you even in relationship then? You are disrespectful for doing this and also talking behind his back saying he is boring. Don't even reply to this.

MrsCM · Answer

Little bit insecure but that can happen, just talk to him and see what he's comfortable with

flamiE · Answer

Not necessarily insecure, maybe he’s got trust issues?

Anonymous · Answer

Not appropriate in a relationship.

honestGUY45 · Answer

Whether he's insecure or not, what you're doing is disrespectful. Why shouldn't he be mad?

Kdude010 · Answer

Its always a "guy friend" then the woman eventually sleeps with this "guy friend". It always happens. Its inevitable lol

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the guy friend. Guys are better at reading another guys intentions then girls are. He could be jealous. He might also might be trying to protect you two's relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

The women saying he's insecure, yet whenever the reverse is posted on this forum - a guy hanging out with his girl friend - they immediately get on the "it's inappropriate, it's wrong" bandwagon.

scooogy · Answer

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Wise4myage · Answer

Yes, he likely is. But why not hang out together with this friend?

Dave31989 · Answer

guy friend? what are you, 5? GROW THE FUCK UP

Agape93 · Answer

No, he’s jealous and controlling.

tHISpLACEiSbONKERZ · Answer

I think he should just leave you.

Iron_Man · Answer

Most boyfriends don’t like that I don’t

In_Trance · Answer

No. Thats not appropriate

andy530 · Answer

Sounds that way to me

sheikalana · Answer

Yea he's insecure.

taveuni · Answer

very insecure

Yuuibtony · Answer

Yeah, really

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