Signs a guy you met online is stringing you along through text?

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I asked him what he wanted he said he’s looking to meet someone, enjoy their company and see where it goes but he doesn’t want a friendship, definitely serious. We’ve been texting for 2 weeks non stop, he calls and flirts a lot but only in the evening/late night. He’s kinda high status and a famous pianist. I asked him a second time if he was leading me on and he acted surprised and said he wasn’t. What are the signs a guy gives when he is stringing you along?

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I mean he’s only called twice

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little_bird1 | 981 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Ask him out. If he declines with some excuses or leaves it vague, he is stringing you along.
I was just stringed along big time and I fell for it like a 15 year old girl. I'm ashamed to talk about it basically, but I met this guy on a dating app and he was from another country. I visit his city often that's why I gave it a shot in chatting, otherwise I wouldn't bother. Anyway we texted and video chatted for more then a month every single day all day basically. It was mostly he who initiated everything; all the good morning, goodnight texts, all the sweet and caring hows your day, to very deep and serious conversations. We both opened up to each other deeply, and we also flirted. He told me that he is looking for a relationship and that if we click well he is up for doing LDR in the beginning. He basically told me everything I wanted to hear. And he was so consistent with keeping up the communication, often times I wondered if he even has a life. But he updated me every day about his day, from work to grocery shopping and friends, til going to bed, all via video calls. I felt special, I thought he must really like me then. So fell for him too, however ridiculous that sounded since we didn't even meet yet. It was all good until I came there and he practically ghosted me. He said he was busy and going through some stuff, that he will get back to me in few days. I waited for a week, nothing. I got back home and never heard back from him.

I learned a valuable lesson: texting means NOTHING. And I am never texting with a man ever again, unless he is my boyfriend. I learned that when a man is interested he will make an effort to plan the date as soon as possible! He will hurry to snatch you before someone else does. And he will not be busy, he will cancel other plans for you. I still have no idea what was this guy thinking, but I think he just enjoyed talking online and didn't mind putting time and effort into that. But only that. I guess that's his fix and that's exactly what he's gonna do with next girl as well.

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Thing is he’s always talking about taking me out but now with lockdown is hard to tell whether he’s stringing me along or not

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Thing is he’s always talking about taking me out but now with lockdown is hard to tell whether he’s stringing me along or not

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In_Trance | 7.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.

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When are you meeting in person?

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It should be after the lockdown
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So if you have plans to actually meet in person I don't understand your logic of being strung along. On a side note I wouldn't wait until after lockdown this shitshow will go on forever
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But that’s the thing we haven’t made concrete plans, we’ve just talked about it and suggested to each other and he asked what would be the ideal date for me. But I don't know still he could be stringing me along. We’ve been talking for 2 weeks and we’ve called once and FaceTime once.
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Are you from the UK? I think lockdown will be lift on the 2nd December
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1 y
Also we were meant to meet up just before lockdown. He invited me on the same day he had to cancel due to family emergency - I was left wondering if it actually was a family emergency!
In_Trance

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So set a firm date

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It should be after the lockdown

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In_Trance

So if you have plans to actually meet in person I don't understand your logic of being strung along. On a side note I wouldn't wait until after lockdown this shitshow will go on forever

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But that’s the thing we haven’t made concrete plans, we’ve just talked about it and suggested to each other and he asked what would be the ideal date for me. But I don't know still he could be stringing me along. We’ve been talking for 2 weeks and we’ve called once and FaceTime once.

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Are you from the UK? I think lockdown will be lift on the 2nd December

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Also we were meant to meet up just before lockdown. He invited me on the same day he had to cancel due to family emergency - I was left wondering if it actually was a family emergency!

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In_Trance

So set a firm date

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