Why do people answer Sapiosexual?

[SoapySandwich]

When asked if they are straight, bi or gay they answer sapiosexual. Why do people think that's an appropriate response?

[SueShe]

Because it is obviously a correct answer, just as correct as any of the one that you mention.

A sapiosexual person is a person who finds intelligence to be a sexually attractive quality in others. This could be either of the 2 biological genders and/or any of the multiple sub-genders that humans have suddenly "invented" because they feel they need to be different.

Sapiosexuality is much less based on the gender of the person than his/her intellectual assets. You could have a sapiosexual person that likes gay/lesbian people or straight ones. It is not the looks of the person that matters but his/her intelligence.

[SoapySandwich]

I get that sapiosexual isn't about gender but that's kinda the problem.

Asking if someone is straight, bi or gay is asking what gender they are attracted to. Sapiosexual doesn't really answer that question at all, you could be sapiosexual and straight or sapiosexual and bi etc.

[SueShe]

Well, some people prefer to limit their sexuality to the term sapiosexual rather than any of the more global ones.

[SoapySandwich]

That seems to be the case but it feels illogical to me XD it's strange to have people say they desire intelligence and yet fail spectacularly at answering a basic question.

[chrispy_008]

Because it is an appropriate response. Most saliosexual people do not have a preference in which gender they date and are purely into intelligence. It's like if i was asked that question I would reply demisexual because that is what I am. There is much more go LGBTQ than bi and gay. So saliosexual is appropriate as that is what they are and they aren't and shouldn't hide who they are because some halfwits in society think that it is stupid

[SoapySandwich]

The question of straight, bi or gay (or any other genders, that's a different argument XD) is one of gender, sapiosexual doesn't specify gender that they are attracted to. It is like answering "brown hair is what I look for in my partners".

[chrispy_008]

Not everyone is set in which gender some people really don't care and gender makes no difference at all

[SoapySandwich]

True but is sapiosexual the best way to say that? Is it possible to be a straight sapiosexual? Cause if you can then clearly sapiosexual isn't answering the question.

[chrispy_008]

Each person will differ. So for a small minority yes you probably can be straight sapiosexual but for most people who are sapiosexual don't have a gender preference and it is purely the intelligence that matters. It is all down to each individual person and no two people will be exactly the same but it isn't as simple as straight gay or bi and you've got to be open to get multiple different answers

[SoapySandwich]

I assume I'd get multiple different answers but I also assume I'll get many incorrect answers. So sapiosexual is a bad answer in my opinion even if most people who are sapiosexual are bisexual or pansexual. The answer should be pansexual or bisexual not sapiosexual.

[chrispy_008]

No the answer should be sapiosexual because that is the correct answer. Just because your too much of a halfwit to understand. There is no such thing as an incorrect answer for sexuality. I myself am demisexual. Not pansexual not bisexual but demisexual. Pansexual and bisexual are two different things as well. Sapiosexual is all about intelligence not looks, bisexual gender plays a small role and they will usually have a preference which gender they are attracted to, pansexual is looks and personality but no preference in gender. 3 different terms for 3 different forms of sexuality.

[SoapySandwich]

The question is about gender though eg:
Me: are you straight or bi?
You: I'm demisexual.
Me: so are you straight or bi?

See the problem? You haven't answered the gender question. Sapiosexual and demisexual have nothing to do with gender but that's what's being asked.

I'm not asking what thing you find attractive in partners. If I ask someone if they are straight and they say "i like blue eyes" they haven't answered the question at all.

[chrispy_008]

Yess but people like me aren't attracted to gender. And also may I add there are more than just 2 genders

[SoapySandwich]

I'm not attracted to gender either but I am straight. I'm attracted to qualities and looks that the female gender usually have/show. You could give me a list of people's genders and I wouldn't be attracted to any of them without first meeting/seeing them.

The amount of genders is irrelevant to this discussion.

[chrispy_008]

Yes however you are straight hence you are attracted to the female gender just as gay people are attracted to their own gender and bi people are attracted to a few genders sapiosexual people aren't attracted to gender

[SoapySandwich]

Being attracted to gender makes no sense to me. Being attracted to people of a gender makes sense.

I'm not attracted to everyone female and the fact that they are female isn't what attracts me to them. Although if someone isn't female I probably wouldn't be interested.

Now sapiosexual doesn't state a gender preference, nor does it remove the possibility of a gender preference. Thus making straight sapiosexuals a possible (probably common) thing.

[kikino]

Because there open to genders and not limited to a specific one as long as they are intelligent above all else.

[SoapySandwich]

So being sapiosexual means you are bi?

[MAC1983]

Pardon my ignorance, but what do they mean by that?

[SoapySandwich]

I mean sapiosexual, I've noticed, is a go to response when asking about gender preferences. Eg: straight, gay or bi. Although I dont see sapiosexual as a relevant response when discussing gender preferences. Thus I'm curious as to why people think it is an appropriate response.

[MAC1983]

Having read other answers now, I think it is a way of breaking free from gender-centric labels and using a more personality driven approach, particularly with Intelligence (bear in mind that there are all kinds of intelligence, like emotional, logical, kinetical...).

I remember a Brazilian singer called Renato Russo that said "I love whoever I want!".

I think the key is when you write "gender preference". Sapiosexual is a different kind of priority, I would fathom.

Thanks for introducing me to this!

[Astarlessnightsky]

Because it's their sexual orientation, just like hetereo, homo, or bisexual.

[SoapySandwich]

It isn't really though.

Straight, bi and gay all deal with gender you are attracted to. I mean it's like me asking "what gender are you into?" and you responding "brown hair".

[Astarlessnightsky]

Not quite.

Sapiosexuals aren't attracted to the Sex in general.
Its not they desire the body, but the mind.

And this is different from just being attracted to either the opposite or same or both sex.

So its good and tottally fine to find another special word, which describes that sexual orientation.

[SoapySandwich]

So it's impossible to be a straight sapiosexual? Or a gay sapiosexual? Cause if you can then I think it's clearly answering a different question.

[Astarlessnightsky]

I don't think that fits 100% perfectly.

There is no real attraction to the body and the corresponding sex (wether opposite nor same sex).

If anything i would say sapiosexual are closest to asexual.

[SoapySandwich]

I find it a bit strange. I also wouldn't describe the self proclaimed sapiosexual people I've met as asexual.

They seem to be more pansexual or bisexual. I just see it as 2 different questions, one about gender one is attracted to and another about qualities one is attracted to.

[Astarlessnightsky]

I think Pan- and Sapiosexual mean the same thing.

[SoapySandwich]

Well pansexual means dont have gender preferences. Sapiosexual is nothing about gender.

[m2hard4sum1sbum]

They are dorks or they are embarrassed by the true answer.

[Dave31989]

cause they're fucktards

like trumptards