My Boyfriend’s Friend Calls Him Bubba What to do?

Question

My boyfriend’s friend (female) calls him bubba and it bothers me because I don’t know if I trust her or not but I don’t like it what do I do and how do I tell my boyfriend I don’t like it

Answer 1

OmNomaly

Xper 5

You're upset over a common nickname?
I have tons of people that call me Bubba, Bubby, Uncle Bubby, etc.

Unless there are other obvious signs going on that isn't this one. Because this is not a red flag.

It seems like insecurity, unfortunately. This one is on you.

Asker

22 d
I mean he will sit there and call her while at my house and shush me while they laugh and talk so something seems off and I don’t like it
OmNomaly

22 d
Ah with that information. I can see the concern. Try not to make yourself worry too much over it. Because what will happen is going to happen anyways. You can't do much to change it. Just monitor it and see how it goes. If it becomes harder for you. You could calmly sit down with your boyfriend and ask him if it would be alright to go through his phone.

If he acts like he has to hide something then I would absolutely be suspicious. If you're in a relationship. He should have nothing to hide from you. But approach it calmly.

Do they only call each other? Or do they also text?
Asker

22 d
They are always texting from what I’ve seen when I’m with him I don’t know why but it worried me because I just really don’t wanna lose him but ig if he wants to leave it’s his loss
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OmNomaly

22 d
Well the big thing to take from it if it doesn't work out. It's better to have only wasted a little bit of time with them trying to figure out if it would work or not. Then finding out early it's not going to work out. Just try to keep a level head and be calm when you try to come up with logical reasons as to why he is doing what he is.
I would definitely ask to look at his phone calmly. Once you have the opportunity to do so. He should have no problems showing you at all if he has nothing to hide. But it also is dependent on how you approach him about it. You have to be calm when you do it.
Otherwise he is most likely not going to allow it, regardless. (May just think you're looking for a fight)

Answer 2

Asker

I mean he will sit there and call her while at my house and shush me while they laugh and talk so something seems off and I don’t like it

Answer 3

OmNomaly

Ah with that information. I can see the concern. Try not to make yourself worry too much over it. Because what will happen is going to happen anyways. You can't do much to change it. Just monitor it and see how it goes. If it becomes harder for you. You could calmly sit down with your boyfriend and ask him if it would be alright to go through his phone.

If he acts like he has to hide something then I would absolutely be suspicious. If you're in a relationship. He should have nothing to hide from you. But approach it calmly.

Do they only call each other? Or do they also text?

Answer 4

Asker

They are always texting from what I’ve seen when I’m with him I don’t know why but it worried me because I just really don’t wanna lose him but ig if he wants to leave it’s his loss

Answer 5

OmNomaly

Well the big thing to take from it if it doesn't work out. It's better to have only wasted a little bit of time with them trying to figure out if it would work or not. Then finding out early it's not going to work out. Just try to keep a level head and be calm when you try to come up with logical reasons as to why he is doing what he is.
I would definitely ask to look at his phone calmly. Once you have the opportunity to do so. He should have no problems showing you at all if he has nothing to hide. But it also is dependent on how you approach him about it. You have to be calm when you do it.
Otherwise he is most likely not going to allow it, regardless. (May just think you're looking for a fight)

Answer 6

Kiss_Me | 169 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

In regards to relationships, the most dangerous people in the World are Exes and best friends.

Have a chat with him and let him know how you feel.

Answer 7

PhantomMk

Xper 2

It’s not a big deal I have read the comments and understand your concern, however she is just his best friend that’s it nothing to get upset about.

Answer 8

FriendlyEnigma | 180 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

How long have they been friends? Was it before or after you two started dating? Also no matter what just talk to him about it! Communication is key lol, and if he ends up getting super nasty and defensive, dump his ass

Asker

22 d
They have been friends as long as me and him have been friends so about 2 to 3 years it was before we started to date me and him honestly have amazing communication skills if he does get defensive imma really need to think about what I do considering I’m honestly feeling like I’m all he’s got and I feel like the pain that will hurt him will be bad because literally he has no support at home and he claims he has no friends that really I’m all he’s got and he has this girl I’m talking about only rarely is there for him
Asker

22 d
But today his phone was going off like it was nothing it was his mom and a bunch of friends and family
Asker

22 d
And another thing that kinda makes me mad is that I point out how many friends he has and I point out for him to look at the amount of friends I have and he still acts like he has not many friends I’m like are you kidding me you would call your friends when at my house and I had to get him to stop because it would make me pissed I’m like your here to pay attention to me not call some of your so called female friends

Answer 9

Asker

They have been friends as long as me and him have been friends so about 2 to 3 years it was before we started to date me and him honestly have amazing communication skills if he does get defensive imma really need to think about what I do considering I’m honestly feeling like I’m all he’s got and I feel like the pain that will hurt him will be bad because literally he has no support at home and he claims he has no friends that really I’m all he’s got and he has this girl I’m talking about only rarely is there for him

Answer 10

Asker

But today his phone was going off like it was nothing it was his mom and a bunch of friends and family

Answer 11

Asker

And another thing that kinda makes me mad is that I point out how many friends he has and I point out for him to look at the amount of friends I have and he still acts like he has not many friends I’m like are you kidding me you would call your friends when at my house and I had to get him to stop because it would make me pissed I’m like your here to pay attention to me not call some of your so called female friends

Answer 12

Liam_Hayden

Guru

You suck it up. One of the fastest ways to kill the relationship is to alienate the friends.

Answer 13

Anonymous

She was his friend before you and therefore you have no right to expect that to change just because of you.

Answer 14

msc545 | 1.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

It seems kind of petty, but if you don't like it, just tell him.

Answer 15

Cherokeehp | 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Doesn’t sound like a big deal to me.

Answer 16

Solstice777

Xper 4

You know he already cheated on you with her

Asker

22 d
Are you joking or like dead serious? She has a boyfriend herself and always is drooling over her boyfriend she has and she’s always telling me the good things my boyfriend says about me to try to I’m assuming pump me up and tell me how much he loves me
Solstice777

22 d
He probably did
Asker

22 d
Crap
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Asker

22 d
Thank you sir

Answer 17

Asker

Are you joking or like dead serious? She has a boyfriend herself and always is drooling over her boyfriend she has and she’s always telling me the good things my boyfriend says about me to try to I’m assuming pump me up and tell me how much he loves me

Answer 18

Solstice777

He probably did

Answer 19

Asker

Thank you sir

Answer 20

In_Trance | 3.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

You don't trust yourself. That's the issue

Asker

22 d
I don’t trust myself at all 🤷‍♀️ with a lot of things
In_Trance

22 d
Good luck
Asker

22 d
Thank you sir

Answer 21

Asker

I don’t trust myself at all 🤷‍♀️ with a lot of things

Answer 22

In_Trance

Good luck

Answer 23

Asker

Thank you sir

Answer 24

Iron_Man | 10.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Put the gloves on

Asker

22 d
Oh shit why? I got them on let’s go!!
Iron_Man

22 d
That’s so awesome I love it when a woman can fight and is willing to put the gloves on 🥊
Asker

22 d
Explain to me please sir why imma need to fight this so called girl
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Iron_Man

22 d
Because she’s flirting with him
Iron_Man

22 d
It’s just a friendly sport I was kidding with you
Asker

22 d
Ahh hell to the no yea we gonna have a problem time to go get on my boyfriends ass about this and hers because this is bullshit no way in hell am I going to allow this I know my boyfriend has a lot of female friends but FUCK NO THATS OUTTA THE QUESTION HIS ASS IS GONNA BE DUMPED IF HE DONT TELL THIS BITCH TO FUCK OFF ILL FIGHT HER ASS IN CHURCH IF I GOT TO
Asker

22 d
😒 not cool man not cool 😂
Iron_Man

22 d
You don’t wanna fight in a church if you have to put the gloves on in the yard
Asker

22 d
Believe me I’ve gotten in tiffs at church because of smart remarks I’ve been told about the way I dress myself being in nice jeans and a shirt is supposedly only for men at the church I go to and I’m supposed to wear a dress like no way is anyone telling me that
Iron_Man

22 d
Keep it in the backyard my friend keep it in the backyard

Answer 25

Asker

Oh shit why? I got them on let’s go!!

Answer 26

Iron_Man

That’s so awesome I love it when a woman can fight and is willing to put the gloves on 🥊

Answer 27

Asker

Explain to me please sir why imma need to fight this so called girl

Answer 28

Iron_Man

Because she’s flirting with him

Answer 29

Iron_Man

It’s just a friendly sport I was kidding with you

Answer 30

Asker

Ahh hell to the no yea we gonna have a problem time to go get on my boyfriends ass about this and hers because this is bullshit no way in hell am I going to allow this I know my boyfriend has a lot of female friends but FUCK NO THATS OUTTA THE QUESTION HIS ASS IS GONNA BE DUMPED IF HE DONT TELL THIS BITCH TO FUCK OFF ILL FIGHT HER ASS IN CHURCH IF I GOT TO

Answer 31

Asker

😒 not cool man not cool 😂

Answer 32

Iron_Man

You don’t wanna fight in a church if you have to put the gloves on in the yard

Answer 33

Asker

Believe me I’ve gotten in tiffs at church because of smart remarks I’ve been told about the way I dress myself being in nice jeans and a shirt is supposedly only for men at the church I go to and I’m supposed to wear a dress like no way is anyone telling me that

Answer 34

Iron_Man

Keep it in the backyard my friend keep it in the backyard

Answer 35

Anonymous

Yh that’s weird

Asker

22 d
It is and it bothers me because I don’t wanna keep a cheating guy on my hands because I’m oblivious and he’s being sneaky about it I’m not about to deal with that because I don’t need a cheater in my life I have to much bull crap going on rn

Answer 36

Asker

It is and it bothers me because I don’t wanna keep a cheating guy on my hands because I’m oblivious and he’s being sneaky about it I’m not about to deal with that because I don’t need a cheater in my life I have to much bull crap going on rn

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