My Boyfriend’s Friend Calls Him Bubba What to do?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend’s friend (female) calls him bubba and it bothers me because I don’t know if I trust her or not but I don’t like it what do I do and how do I tell my boyfriend I don’t like it

[OmNomaly]

You're upset over a common nickname?
I have tons of people that call me Bubba, Bubby, Uncle Bubby, etc.

Unless there are other obvious signs going on that isn't this one. Because this is not a red flag.

It seems like insecurity, unfortunately. This one is on you.

[Asker]

I mean he will sit there and call her while at my house and shush me while they laugh and talk so something seems off and I don’t like it

[OmNomaly]

Ah with that information. I can see the concern. Try not to make yourself worry too much over it. Because what will happen is going to happen anyways. You can't do much to change it. Just monitor it and see how it goes. If it becomes harder for you. You could calmly sit down with your boyfriend and ask him if it would be alright to go through his phone.

If he acts like he has to hide something then I would absolutely be suspicious. If you're in a relationship. He should have nothing to hide from you. But approach it calmly.

Do they only call each other? Or do they also text?

[Asker]

They are always texting from what I’ve seen when I’m with him I don’t know why but it worried me because I just really don’t wanna lose him but ig if he wants to leave it’s his loss

[OmNomaly]

Well the big thing to take from it if it doesn't work out. It's better to have only wasted a little bit of time with them trying to figure out if it would work or not. Then finding out early it's not going to work out. Just try to keep a level head and be calm when you try to come up with logical reasons as to why he is doing what he is.
I would definitely ask to look at his phone calmly. Once you have the opportunity to do so. He should have no problems showing you at all if he has nothing to hide. But it also is dependent on how you approach him about it. You have to be calm when you do it.
Otherwise he is most likely not going to allow it, regardless. (May just think you're looking for a fight)

[Kiss_Me]

In regards to relationships, the most dangerous people in the World are Exes and best friends.

Have a chat with him and let him know how you feel.

[FriendlyEnigma]

How long have they been friends? Was it before or after you two started dating? Also no matter what just talk to him about it! Communication is key lol, and if he ends up getting super nasty and defensive, dump his ass

[Asker]

They have been friends as long as me and him have been friends so about 2 to 3 years it was before we started to date me and him honestly have amazing communication skills if he does get defensive imma really need to think about what I do considering I’m honestly feeling like I’m all he’s got and I feel like the pain that will hurt him will be bad because literally he has no support at home and he claims he has no friends that really I’m all he’s got and he has this girl I’m talking about only rarely is there for him

[Asker]

But today his phone was going off like it was nothing it was his mom and a bunch of friends and family

[Asker]

And another thing that kinda makes me mad is that I point out how many friends he has and I point out for him to look at the amount of friends I have and he still acts like he has not many friends I’m like are you kidding me you would call your friends when at my house and I had to get him to stop because it would make me pissed I’m like your here to pay attention to me not call some of your so called female friends

[PhantomMk]

It’s not a big deal I have read the comments and understand your concern, however she is just his best friend that’s it nothing to get upset about.

[Liam_Hayden]

You suck it up. One of the fastest ways to kill the relationship is to alienate the friends.

[msc545]

It seems kind of petty, but if you don't like it, just tell him.

[Anonymous]

She was his friend before you and therefore you have no right to expect that to change just because of you.

[Cherokeehp]

Doesn’t sound like a big deal to me.

[Solstice777]

You know he already cheated on you with her

[Asker]

Are you joking or like dead serious? She has a boyfriend herself and always is drooling over her boyfriend she has and she’s always telling me the good things my boyfriend says about me to try to I’m assuming pump me up and tell me how much he loves me

[Solstice777]

He probably did

[Asker]

Crap

[Asker]

Thank you sir

[In_Trance]

You don't trust yourself. That's the issue

[Asker]

I don’t trust myself at all 🤷‍♀️ with a lot of things

[In_Trance]

Good luck

[Asker]

Thank you sir

[Iron_Man]

Put the gloves on

[Asker]

Oh shit why? I got them on let’s go!!

[Iron_Man]

That’s so awesome I love it when a woman can fight and is willing to put the gloves on 🥊

[Asker]

Explain to me please sir why imma need to fight this so called girl

[Iron_Man]

Because she’s flirting with him

[Iron_Man]

It’s just a friendly sport I was kidding with you

[Asker]

Ahh hell to the no yea we gonna have a problem time to go get on my boyfriends ass about this and hers because this is bullshit no way in hell am I going to allow this I know my boyfriend has a lot of female friends but FUCK NO THATS OUTTA THE QUESTION HIS ASS IS GONNA BE DUMPED IF HE DONT TELL THIS BITCH TO FUCK OFF ILL FIGHT HER ASS IN CHURCH IF I GOT TO

[Asker]

😒 not cool man not cool 😂

[Iron_Man]

You don’t wanna fight in a church if you have to put the gloves on in the yard

[Asker]

Believe me I’ve gotten in tiffs at church because of smart remarks I’ve been told about the way I dress myself being in nice jeans and a shirt is supposedly only for men at the church I go to and I’m supposed to wear a dress like no way is anyone telling me that

[Iron_Man]

Keep it in the backyard my friend keep it in the backyard

[Anonymous]

Yh that’s weird

[Asker]

It is and it bothers me because I don’t wanna keep a cheating guy on my hands because I’m oblivious and he’s being sneaky about it I’m not about to deal with that because I don’t need a cheater in my life I have to much bull crap going on rn