- No, I wouldn't.
I think it's important for everybody (so for women too) to be careful, respect themselves and give sexual intimacy the value it deserves. So I won't date a girl with a high body count because that just shows me how she doesn't really value sex as something to give only to a few chosen people through a process of strong emotional bonding and thoughts of a serious relationship for the future.
If the girl has been with 5 guys genuinely in love and trying to have a serious relationship which just ended, I'd be with her without a problem. But if she's been with just 3 guys having sex without any real value to it, then I wouldn't.0|00|0Is this still revelant?
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- Not typically. What that means is if she had a high count, but went through some life altering experience and reformed her ways and has gotten herself together and proven it, then maybe. But it's gonna be hard not to think of all the people who have been there before you.
Before you think this is a double standard it's not. I hold men to the same account. I don't think man-whores are any better than female-whores. Men need to not do that either.0|00|0Is this still revelant?
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- The FIRST thing I told my present wife was... MY body count AND...
that there was a MUTUAL 'blanket amnesty' for PAST relationships and mistakes.
Can't work to achieve an HONEST mutual commitment IF you're holding back or 'stockpiling' judgements
on your Intended's history.
WHOM they are NOW, ... what attracted you to THEM, didn't 'miraculously' occur
without life experience... NO retrospective critiques!0|00|0 - Depends on when that body count was primarily acquired. If she's 40 and it was mostly as a young adult, I probably would if she met my dating criteria. But if it's been a lifelong problem, it indicates a lack of impulse control and perhaps mental illness, which are two complete dealbreakers for me.0|00|0
- Absolutely, in fact I prefer it.
Because my type of girl is the kind that doesn't care what society thinks is right. We all have sexual desires but in my opinion only the elite chose to act on them and that I can't help but respect0|00|0 - A girls body count is the last thing I would care about. As long as they are clean and free of any STIs or other issues then why should I care if they have had a lot of sex?
That's their business. Past is past, let it stay there.1|21|1 - Good day Anon.
sorry love I wanted to give my opinion so bad but did not know for the life of me what a body count is I will Google it and be back.0|00|0Ok so i am back. it is a tricky matter because you find girls that just easily put out but then you also find girls that honestly feel that they have met the one every time a guy winks ate her and most men take liberty of that. that would increase the body count (now that I know what it means lol) and that might not effect my decision that much so my honest answer is No is she is cheap and yes if there is reason due to circumstances
- Dating short-term, yes. Long term? No. And I make sure they know this. So they choose to opt-out beforehand or not. So I won't be stringing them along.0|00|0
@Asker not sure who this is directed to. If you think a man who doesn't string a woman and gives the woman the choice to walk away is a man who "ain't shit". Then don't bitch when men play women.
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- My wife and I both have high body counts (60+ each). I knew she did. We dated, hers continued to go up for a while... and then she decided I was who she was looking for. 17 years later and still going strong.1|00|0
- If she is fat than I won't date her, if she has absolutely no muscle but looks normal then I am fine with it.0|00|0
- Depends on the relationship with the men she slept with and if they were exclusive and together for a while, not casual flings or rebounds.0|00|0
If she is a casual sex kind of girl, over 10. If she is one for relationships, over 4
- I always stayed clear of those.
My wife was actually a virgin.0|00|0 - no... never... sorry to be cruel... i will not risk infection... neither infidelity... nor divorce... high body count is a good red flag concerning those points.1|20|1
for me in particular, and I am not speaking for other people... it will depend on age... but more than 20 will be just to much for me... i undertand 10 can happen relatively fast... but is expected a moment in wich move to more significant relations and longer ones to happen... so 15 is forgivable. but over 20... show that never happened.
- I don't judge female serial killers as long as they are virgin.0|00|0
- Anonymous12 dNo issue with it. unless the girl wears it like a medal and brags about it, or many conversations end up on the topic.0|00|0
- Can we please stop with the cringy "body count" thing? Sexual partners are not fucking casualties.
And yeah, I would. I want her to be experienced.1|00|0All you people throwing around random numbers are so ridiculous. None of you even specify within what period of time. Within a year? 10 years? A month? None of you even mention that. Use your fucking brains, you idiots.
- Date her for sex, yes. Have a serious future with her, no.0|12|0
@Asker "using" in a sense of giving false hope perhaps. But "using" for sex is not him using them, because there is conscent. But since you didn't like the sound of Kraken's comment, well that's what a lot of men have to deal with. Getting used. And not even for sex that is.
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@Asker as I said, if he is giving false hope, then you can see that as using on a moral sense, not a physical (because otherwise that would be rape).
Asker. I like sex. The fact that she has a high body count was a choice she made.
Asker. You seem upset about the idea of using people for sex BUT does not a "high body count" woman regularly use men for sex?
Also, why do you think your pussy is so golden and magical? If you are "high body count" you have knowingly depreciated your pussy's market value. Don't hate the messenger.@Asker you've pretty much pointed out what I said. However, the dynamics for a woman with a high body count do differ as women with a high body count OFTEN stack up on bodies through casual sex. Also, these are often women who get into relationships with men only to let them down sooner or later (often sooner). I don't condone fuckboy behavior, at the same time, I doubt it's "using" someone who allows herself to get used anyway. I'd find it far more worse for a virgin women or a woman with a low-body count to get deceived.
@Asker "Men ain't shit". Yeah, pretty much sums up your mentality and misandrism. Not sure who you've just quoted, but those are definitely not my words since I've perfectly stated to be against selling someone a fantasy just so you can have sex with them and then let them down. To me, a girl who had any casual sex is already an X on my list. For me anything over the number 2 or 3 is what I personally consider high. Although those numbers pale in comparison to the majority of western women's numbers.
@Asker rape is having sex with someone against their will (without conscent). Having sex while deceiving someone is still them giving you conscent. So I can't call that "rape". Nice twisting work you did there. But you can't twist a definition.
@Asker so if we speak of rape, we refer to the awful act of using force or drugging someone to have sex against their will. And when it comes to being deceived, this points back to poor judgment skills and poor judgment of character. So love, if you (and by "you" I mean people in general) have sex with a man you thought he was telling you the truth, then you got yourself to blame, not the world. Nobody forced your legs open, you did it on your own. This is why conservative communities or at least families where the parents (dads in particular) are very strict and educate their children in this regard so that they DON'T fall for such traps. So you got your own naivety to blame.
I Googled it and usually people who are commiting even bigger frauds are being punished for it. Not when a dude tells you sweet words that you want to hear, gets with you in bed and then leaves you hanging. It's your fault for believing him.@Asker I wouldn't call that casual since it was not meant to be casual, I will call sold a fantasy and falling for it due to poor judgment skills and poor skills of handling a situation. I know girls who thought by giving sex, they will get a relationship with the guy. They were dead wrong. Manipulation is questionable since more context is needed. Often, you weren't being "manipulated". You were simply naive. Certain people are easier to deceive than others. And that has a lot to do with lack of experience and/or lack of guidance. So learn to take accountability. You allowed yourself to get deceived because you lacked the means to smell the bullshit. Not everyone is going to fall for sweet talks from a fuckboy. And no one forced your legs open. Only the latter will get you far with the police and not the former. This is why I tell women not to sleep before having commitment and WAIT some time before proceeding to have sex within the relationship. That way you'll minimize the odds of dealing with a fuckboy. The rest depends on your own judgment skills to with whom you're getting into bed with. The "rape by deception" is far more nuanced than you make it out to be. And thus should not be tossed around so easily. There is a reason why religious communities forbid pre-marital sex. To make sure this bullshit doesn't occur.
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@TruthBringer well actually nah so basically he made us exclusive told me I couldn’t even talk to other guys. The list rlly goes on. Anyways he did tell me he only was seeking a relationship in the beginning before making us exclusive no friends with benefits or hookups. The list goes on. Anyways no I don’t think it’s rape at all. I was just wondering if u considered that a casual fling. And yea people have bad judgement all the time but I don’t anymore lol
@Asker in the end it all depends on the situation. What I say is from a general perspective. Specific experiences can always vary and need to be assessed accordingly. Not everything is out of naivety and not everything is because of "rape by deception". From what I've seen it's mostly the former.
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@TruthBringer anyways Gucci. I only date Christians and most Christians (I’ve met at least) will still date me cuz they know not to judge someone based of their past. As long as A) ur sorry for it b) repented c) changed ur ways & d) apologize for not waiting till marriage to ur husband since that’s a decision which effects them. But yeah I check all those boxes. It’s amazing how good of a god we have (not everyone believes in god but) who died for our sins and already paid the price of it. So I’m happy w my Christians boys and my future Christian husband over those other dudes any day. Thanks for answering my questions I was curious about. Have a good one! :)
Asker "Were in a relationship with a lot of men"... right, "in a relationship* an hour after meeting them, in a stall in the men's restroom.
- Probably not. Because they would dsire a huge penis and I am only average.0|00|0
- Nope. We wouldn't.
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- There's always a limit. If you had sex with 350 dudes, I'd probably reconsider.0|00|0
- Anonymous13 dNot under any circumstances, regardless of how hot, attractive or what age she was. It's always an absolute no.0|20|1
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- Anonymous14 dnot interested. I mean if she shows genuine desire to change and I really believe she can turn her life around, and we have great chemistry, I'd consider it... but I'd be very cautious.0|00|0
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does that make you feel better about yourself, putting me down? Enjoy it... cunt. I am sexually conservative, I actually turn down women if I think that me fucking them will prevent them from having fulfilling relationships in the future. I could just act like other men, use women for sex and break their hearts, would that make you respect me more? Think about the words you say and what you are encouraging, this kind of shit is what causes young men to make big mistakes, and women are the ones who suffer in the end.
- Opinion Owner14 d
No stand by what you said bitch. You said 'sounds like you aren't getting any pussy' that was your response. You didn't say "5 is the real number" no you did not.
Fucking own the fact that you're a mean bitch who likes destroying men's self esteem and causing them to turn into the kind of man that you ladies love to complain about, the player. I could do it. I'm 6'2, good looking, I never talk to women, they talk to me, I could EASILY DO IT you want me to be that kind of guy? You want me to emotionally destroy a bunch of women so I can get my dick wet and feel better about myself? Because that is what you are driving me towards doing.
FUCKING OWN WHAT YOU SAID - Asker14 d
Lmaooo stfu I just said sounds like ur not getting a lot of pssy. Do whatever u want don’t blame ur actions of someone else. THAT would be on YOU. And YOU only. If that makes u have a low self esteem sorry bud. I don’t get a lot of dick and if someone told me that I wouldn’t be offended lol
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Alright well tbh I agree people shouldn’t be promiscuous b4 marriage as I’m a Christian. But lol were all sinners. Good for u for being sexually conservative it isn’t popular. But do what u want lol idc it’s ur body, ur choice. If girls only want to fuck w no commitment and u want the same then it’s whatever. But anyways just don’t be hypocritical by not dating a person w a body count of 3 and u have a body count of 3. I mean u can be a hypocrite there’s plenty of them but haha hypocrites r trash to me
- Opinion Owner14 d
oh now you're all flowers and christian. Yeah we all sin, but that is not an excuse to sin. You are part of the problem if you are going to shame sexually conservative men, you realize that right? Do you think I'm a hypocrite? You said "I don't get any" implying I have a low body count, now you are calling me a hypocrite, implying I have a high body count?
You're a mess. You don't know what you are, what you want, or what you want in the world. Talk less, listen more, that's my advice to you. Maybe you learned something from this little interaction, but I doubt it. - Opinion Owner14 d
I think you should know by now that I'm not going to do that, but most men are doing that, BECAUSE of the kind of comments you made. Just want you to understand that you are encouraging the very thing you claim to be against. YOU are the one who is twisted. And you STILL haven't apologized.
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I'm not letting you get away with these dumb semantic arguments. "Don't be hypocritical" and "stop being a hyocrite" can be interpreted in exactly the same way in the vast overwhelming majority of situations, and I think you know that. I'm done with you. Goodbye. Try not to keep fking up
- Opinion Owner14 d
"I was just trolling" classic excuse for being CRUEL AND MEAN. Until you can take responsibility for your words and admit that you were mean, you were cruel, and contributing towards the very thing you claim to hate, I will no longer respond. I am waiting for an "I'm sorry, that was not nice of me" BE AN ADULT
- Opinion Owner14 d
I mean you literally said you were trolling in a previous comment "Lol I was trllong u..."
so you kind of confuse me, but I guess you are trying to apologize genuinely now, so I'm sorry for calling you a cunt and a bitch, it just cuts very deep, you don't know what my life has been like and what sacrifices I have made to do right by myself and by the women I encounter.
- Yes. I don't care about a girl's body count, she could have had sex with 1000 different guys and I still wouldn't care. As long as she doesn't have an STD I'm good0|10|2
- Anonymous12 dProbably not. There's a lot of factors that come into play but that is kind of a big one.0|00|0
- Anonymous12 dPreferably not. But it's a beggar/chooser situation.0|00|0
- Hell no. can't get serious with a ho. Only men with very low self esteem and complete desperation do this.0|30|2
- Anonymous13 dOhhhhhh helllllsss no.
Sluts are garbage. They are good for nothing but what they have proven they are good for.0|10|2- Opinion Owner12 d
Most females get to pick and choose who with and when they have sex, therefore it is expected that they have some standards and self regulation.
You can’t have a prestigious club if you let anyone who shows up into the party.
This doesn’t apply to men the same way... most males have to bust our asses jumping through female hoops and bullshit games to get sex, therefore a male who does it well somehow gains more value to women. It shows he is worthy for some fucked up reason.
For example, an average guy who has dated models and is known for having beautiful women is more intriguing to other females than a hot guy who no female seems to want to be around.
You guys make the rules, we just play your game.
- Yeah, I'm not a hypocrite.0|00|0
- Are you a killer? What body count lol😂0|00|0
- Anonymous13 dWouldn't date but I could help her add to the body count0|01|1
- Only if she accepted to be chained and locked at home so I was certain she won't screw around.0|01|1
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