I wouldn't trust my man to buy that stuff for me. He don't know what brand/what sizes to get me. I really never understood why the girl can't go out herself for this stuff. I went into the store less than 24 hours after giving birth to buy pads and that was literally after pushing a baby out. A period is a lot less painful so for real ladies go out and buy your own period products.
How hard is it? You take a picture on your phone of the tampons you use, you tell him, go to this store it will be in this aisle... Simple. Why do people make things so difficult in life.
How come your husband not be able to buy the correct period product for you? My father has bought mine before and he always managed to buy the proper ones when I told him what brand and color of packaging it is. You can always keep a picture of your preferred pads that he can refer to. It's no big deal. At worst in the beginning it will be hard for him to know which one to buy but with time they have it in their memory and don't struggle anymore.
Also, good for you that you went to buy your own pads in 24 hours, not all women have that ability and saying that we are not 'real ladies' was extremely insensitive on your part.
@DC_Underground it's not really about him learning. I'd rather be independent and take care of myself like it's not my partner's job to be taking care of me
Part of being of partner is taking care or helping your spouse. It’s fine to be independent but a caring relationship is a joint effort. I mean heck I have heard the greatest athletes in sports say things like “IfI am tired as hell, I need to count on my teammates to help me out”. If I had a girlfriend or wife and she was sick and she preferred a certain medicine I would get. Even if it was 2am I would still go out, it’s my obligation as boyfriend or husband to help. It’s different when someone is completely dependent on their spouse. For example - guys today shouldn’t have the mindset of men in the 1970s where he expects his wife to cook for him every night for 40+ years. It’s a joint effort, that’s why I learned to cook Italian food, Chinese food, Indian food and etc. It’s to help out the future girl I get married to.
Ok but that doesn’t mean literally 24/7, it’s fine to get help. It’s your spouse not a friend where you feel awkward asking. It’s your life you can think that way, I’m different I don’t mind doing that for a girl I’m with.
@kitty71 I think the real problem would be solved by doing a pick up order and making him pick it up. The women gets the right product, man doesn't get embarrassed or overwhelmed trying to find what she needs. I'm not saying my husband wouldn't do this for me because he definitely would do anything I ask but I'm personally responsible enough for buying what I need so I'd never be in this situation anyways
@Apple1996 You were able to take care of yourself, good for you. That is not something to be arrogant about, that is something to be grateful for.
And why would a man be uncomfortable buying pads? It's literally no big deal at all, chill. It's just buying a freaking pad, we're not saying men have to put it on us and what not.
And just because you can manage something on your own doesn't mean that there is anything bad about having a helping hand. Do you and your husband cook your meals separately? Do you do wash your dishes separately? Do you make your half of the bed and leave his side for him to take care of? Do you do your laundry separately? Do you make your money and spend on yourselves separately?
Sure literally every woman can get her own period products and I get most of mine too, but family is there to make things easier and more comfortable!
@CubsterShura we don't share chores like that. Were very traditional. I do all the cooking/cleaning/taking care of the kids and he works. We don't really spend money on ourselves just mostly spend money on the kids. My husband doesn't just go to the store by himself that is obviously my job so it would pretty weird if I made him go buy me things like tampons. It would be like if he asked me for money when I don't work. I guess for people with non traditional gender roles it's normal but for us that doesn't work.
@CubsterShura making money doesn't define someone as independent. And not sure if you know this but in the military if you're married you make double money. Literally my husband makes money by having me as a wife. Plus I'm extremely independent with my children. I've only ever left my son for one day while I was giving birth to his brother. Other than that nobody else has ever watched my children besides me. I'd rather be independent with watching my children then ditching them with daycare so I could work and be "independent"making money. There is many more ways in life to show independence other then working.
Well buying your pads on your own isn't necessarily something that proves any independence either. What makes you independent is being capable of sustaining yourself on your own, and that's all there is to it. Saying that a woman is not independent if a male family member bought her pads is a pretty messed up mindset.
Your husband isn't an infant that you can't trust him with buying you this.
Now look, no one cares who buys you pads and if you're the one who does the grocery shopping so that's why he just never happens to buy you pads, that is totally ok and again no one cares. What's bothersome is the mindset that you can't trust your husband like he is some kind of infant and coming with narratives like if a woman has to need a man to buy her pads at times she's not an independent woman taking care of herself... Yikes big yikes.
@CubsterShura it is literally being dependent if you expect your man to go buy you shit that you should have been prepared with in the first place. Not sure how you're not seeing that
Having someone that you can depend on doesn't necessarily mean that you are not self-sufficient or independent on your own.
It's this simple: yes I can buy my own pads and I can manage without having a man to buy for me, however I have men in my life that I can rely on and sometimes they do and there's nothing wrong with it, in fact why would I make myself do the hard work and just get out to buy pads when I know dad will be back in a few hours and he could just buy some for me on the way?
You're acting like a man buying a woman pads is like some kinda abomination to woman independence, or if a woman has a man buying her pads sometimes it means she is some Primadonna who cannot take care of herself.
not a guy but I don't see why this is any different from buying any other drug store or hygiene product for your partner. Like seriously, would you want her to bleed all over the furniture? I'd go to the "men's section" and get my man the brand of shaving cream he likes. Why is this even a question? Don't people want to be helpful?
Lmao this question got featured on the front page 😂🙈 i dont even like discussing periods with people, no matter the sex. But yea if i need something, i’d hope he’d go get it. A lot of exes had to go buy it for their sister or mom anyways. So i think a lot are used to it. As a woman, even i dont like buying it if the cashier is a guy. Its just too awkward 😂
I think a man would go buy. Obviously giving them the right information so they can get the right ones. Boys wouldn't go. It's one of many things that separates the men from the boys, caring and compassionate or embarrassed and getting all weird about functions of the human body.
Yup, and not only for my girlfriend. I always have stuff like that in my car, so whenever someone need something I'm always able to help. I got pads, tampons, condoms, pills, lube and more in a big box in my trunk. It comes in handy more than you'd expect. Lol
I would hope my guy would. I don’t have time for toxic masculinity that’s afraid about a natural function of the female human body. Every man that feels scared about buying a woman her feminine hygiene products should watch the scene from Ten Inch Hero of Jensen Ackles’ character giving a speech of how he’s not afraid to buy fem care products for his lady.
I can do that if her vagina really is really desperate. But I would take pictures and ask the entire store and ask what sort of pad or tampon is good for her vagina and describe her vagina and body. Then I talk about her lovingly and show the staff there her picture including our wedding picture so that when she comes to that store, they recognize her and know her and my love her.
Then I hold a bunch of pads next to my crotch and take pic with staff. Then I sign, "With Love" on it with a little envelope and include picture of me and the staff together.
I've never needed to before but I don't see any problem doing so, if she tells me exactly which products to buy. I wouldn't do it as a course of habit (in my opinion that's something she should be responsible for, since it's her own personal hygiene/health). But if she needs them urgently and I'm already going to the shops then don't see any problem
"Type" lol. Anyway, ofcourse I will. Have done it before. I'm also the dude who never felt embarrassed buying condoms. Only insecure boys have a problem buying things like tampons/pads for their girls. Same goes for buying condoms
Certainly. I'm not the one with the period so I don't see how that would be embarrassing. And even if I was the one with the period, it's super normal to have periods so I don't see what all the fuss is about. Quite frankly I question how many men truly feel uneasy about it.
This reminds me of the time I was in the supermarket, and this man was arguing on the phone with his sweetheart because he couldn't figure out which pads and tampons to buy for her 🤣
What is wrong about a man buying pads to their woman? It is a woman natural thing. What is the harm? But then women do have to buy the condoms for you lousy man?
For clarification: What on earth does it even mean to be the 'type' to buy pads? Like you mean to tell me that it requires a certain type of man to fucking go to the grocery store and pick up some pads or something? Grow the fuck up, my goodness!
I figured, IUD at your age is VERY young unless U already have kids. Make sure that U get a full STD panel a few times a year, STD+IUD= PID, not fun at all. If possible just don't do it. Be safe, I started at your age so I remember the pitfalls. In the meantime, hear is some easy listening music from "mind hunters "
Here goes the bullshit.😂😭😂 always gets on my nerves. Kotex is better! it has to be heavy, not lite or medium flow. Or, i love tampax pearl. But, be prepared to help me take it🤦😲 i bet y'all don't want a girlfriend now.
I don't think my boyfriend would ever buy sanitary pads for me. I don't see that happening 🤦🏻♀️ I would be surprised if he would give me his jacket when we're walking in the cold and my teeth are chattering unstoppably.
Lol isn't that women don't want men to do? Damn you people confuse the hell out of guys. Do many people have beaten down the throat of men they don't need such chivalry.
Also if its cold why would you not bring your own jacket or cover yourself as much as required, you want your man to be cold 🤣🤣👍 I am just joking Ok it is funny
@Aakash_Hangargi women want the better end of the stick, they only say they want ''equality'' bc they wanna fuck randoms and not being labeled as easy or a slut
Some of the comments are irrelevant. I think whether it's a man or woman, I don't respect one who has sex with random people, because if they don't respect themselves, I don't see the point of respecting them.
@Aakash_Hangargi I do dress as warm as I could, but sometimes I might still be cold, since I don't tolerate cold well. My boyfriend doesn't tolerate warmth, and he actually likes the cold 😶
I'm no man but my dad always was able to buy the right ones for me. I hope my future partner doesn't feel embarrassed by doing this if I ever have an emergency.
It's just a paper anyways lol, but if you get that every month also you know your dates, and you get indication a bit earlier on?, then why not stock them b4? Is there any scientific reason for that not stocking them?
The thing on some question women asked here should j break up with a guy if he doesn't brush on certain days sonething like that and it was related to hygine I understand she is worried about his hygine that is Good but breakup? Lol and same /some women want/demand period sex and want men to be OK with it.
So just like that it should be considered as careless in maintaining hygine right double standards and hypocracy hmm.
Anyways I agree with you people can forget, but it's an necessary item can't afforded to be forgotten.
I had thought that it would get contaminated or expired if stocked..
Even i had seen that teeth brushing thing. Break up is too much.
And lol i don't think they got an expiry date🤔 It's something that can't be forgotten. But i don't think the Asker meant only if your girlfriend is on her periods and she needs it urgently. What if you're going to the store and she says she need it for next week like any other stuff? She's basically trying to stock up
You are right, I was not against men purchasing them no lol that's something every guy can do for any girl even a stranger not a big deal to fuss about some women just don't want to talk or are comfortable to speak of it.
I am sure if boys are educated during teens itself about such natural things and in a way the the explainer is not himself is grossing out boys would be to grow up as considerate men.
Well there will be always few exceptions.
And women should stop getting grossed out first then can expect men to see at as normal first they have to accept that it's normal
It's not the only factor. But i won't stay with such a guy. See it's not just a pad that he is refusing to get. I don't see any big deal in buying a pad. If he has problems in buying a small stuff as a pad, how can i be assured that if ever i stain his bedsheets during my periods, he won't become a godzilla and attack me? Or if i ever fall sick with something embarrassing, he won't go out to buy the medicine for that? Periods is when i need a boyfriend the most and if my boyfriend is unsupportive during that time, then i don't see any reason in keeping such a person around
I am sure, if he is educated properly by his girlfriend reasonable men do understand not a big deal it's just the conditioning. Well people go so far for love, a buying a pad is literally nothing 😂..
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