Why do men like such small women?

Question

I'm a 5'5 woman and i've been rejected several times for not being small enough. Majority of these men were much taller than me. Even the tall guys are with women much smaller than me. All the guys that are usually averagish and tall I never see them with a woman above 5'2. What gives? They even said that average and tall women aren't feminine enough either and state short women are the most feminine which would exclude women 5'3+. Are averagish and tall women not attractive enough?

BoobMan · Accepted Answer

Here's the thing: there's nothing wrong with average to tall girls. Some of them are INSANELY hot. BUT, as guys we don't really care THAT much about a girl's height. What matters most to the most guys is what her body shape looks like. You girls on the other hand seem to REALLY value having a guy that's at least as tall as you or taller. So for an average to tall girl, that's going to leave a LOT fewer guys in your potential dating pool than a short/petite girl will have in her pool. Meanwhile those tall guys aren't particularly focused on you just because you're average to tall--they're checking out the girls with the best body shapes at pretty much all heights. So you end up in a nasty situation where there are not many guys who meet your dating criteria and those guys have LOTS of girls who meet their criteria and so you have this problem.

Incidentally, this is the exact same dynamic at play as in this question: Why is it harder for successful women to find a good long term partner?

Note the similarity of my response there.

AshrafWest · Accepted Answer

I’m gonna speak from my own point of view, but I don’t think they’re rejecting you because of your height. Honestly, me and all the men I know couldn’t care less about a girls height as long as she is shorter than me (or them).

Maybe they are just using it as an excuse to cover up the real reason. Do you think there might be another reason?

Maybe one guys really is insecure about his masculinity and needs an extremely short girl, but that would be an outlier and really unique case. Most guys simply don’t care.

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

As a girl who’s 5’10”, I can’t say that I can relate to your experiences.

I’ve had a love/hate relationship with my height for as long as I can remember, starting in elementary even. I’ve never experienced rejection or anything negative because of my being taller than most girls (and guys, before they all hit their growth spurt). I’ve never even heard guys say anything negative about it, either. Sure, I’ve heard the classic ‘men will find it emasculating to be shorter or smaller than their gf’ but the irony is that I’ve only ever heard that from other girls.

flamiE · Accepted Answer

Never in my life have I heard such thing lol I’m 5’5 too and I get told I’m not tall enough all the time😂😂😂 Also get roasted that my feet don’t touch the ground when I sit down.. all types of things but I was never referred to as “not small enough”.

Those men must’ve been extra i mean that’s barely 3 inches above whats considered “petite” and they have the audacity to tell you you’re not small enough? 😂😂😂 that’s like women who say they won’t date a man below 6’ and if he happens to be 5’11 they’re not interested.. madness 😂

caring__1 · Answer

For every type of person, there are people who appreciate that type. It's interesting you say you've been rejected several times. I'm sure if you'd ask guys how many times they've been rejected, it would be significantly more than several. Chances are, it's something other than height that's getting in your way. 5'5" is not tall. Ask people who know you well to help you see how you may be coming across that might be less than ideal to potential partners. Don't get fixated on one thing (blaming it for everything) when it might be something else or a combination of other things.

proNutro · Answer

I completely get you. I guess because they think it looks more “feminine”? Which is rubbish to me🤷🏼‍♀️
Being 5’7 I’ve gotten rejected quite a few times being told, and I quote, “we’re not compatible, you’re too talk for me”
Though I have dated two guys about two or three inches taller than me and they were fine with it but still preferred smaller girls.
I’d 100% date a guy my height or shorter or taller as long as they have no problem with the height difference. So draining dating someone when they make it known they prefer something different from you.

Not sure why something we can’t control is a dealbreaker for so many people.

razelove · Answer

Well, it makes you feel like a big manly man if you don't have much else in your life to make you feel that way. If a woman is short enough, she may be tighter and more shallow as well, though really I've just found that to vary from person to person more so than picking based on height.

Personally I like taller women, it makes pretty much all positioning easier, and in the like 2 cases of women being taller than me it was such a novelty to lean up for a kiss, or be able to have sex in the shower without all kinds of contortions that could lead to injury or death for a novelty fuck.

AdithyaR · Answer

I've never really understood either side of it, why guys like short girls and girls like short guys. I can understand women choosing y'all men to certain extents cause of the brains evolutionary instinct to choose a mate for the best genetics.

But beyond that it's mostly cause society attributed height to masculinity, making I necessary that men must be tall and women short. So women end up choosing tall guys to feel feminine and guys choosing short girls to feel masculine.

Absolute stupidy, all of it, in my opinion. I've never found height to be a criteria. I've liked girls who were shorter than me and I've liked girls who were taller than me and their height never came to my mind.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

I mean yeah. I've only dated short girls. I've hooked up with some taller girls but it just doesn't give me an uncontrollable desire that i feel with short girls.

Short girls are better for sex too. Throw them around and pick them up positions and stuff way easier.

Also tall girls scare me because if a short girl gets chunky in the future she still will be smaller overall than me. If a girl say 2 inches shorter than me gets chunky someday she could be larger than me and that would completely disgust me. Thats not just a turn off but imagining sex with a larger woman makes me want to puke.

At the end of the day i have really found some taller girls hot but only very thin ones or athletic ones because they are still tiny. But i do fear them becoming large someday so i do always prefer short short girls.

Last few girls i dated were 5'0" 5'1" 4'8" 5'3" 4'11" none weighed more than 110lbs.

KyceG · Answer

Nah I like all kind of women. I want date another short girl for the simple fact that holding hands, and a lot of other things are awkward. If a girl is too short you can’t have shower sex, doggy style is even kind of weird unless she can really properly arch. I’m not going to lie though It’s not necessarily the height for me but a skinny petite woman is really fun to me and probably my over all preference it’s just depends, because they can easily be picked up, thrown around, in bed you can bend them how you want and break them.

Ally247 · Answer

Same reason women like tall men. Small= femininity, fragility, submission, therefore guys want smaller girls. They're seen as cute, delicate and petite. Tall= masculine, domineering, strength etc. Girls feel smaller and more 'feminine' with taller men, and men feel more 'masculine' with smaller women. What's to blame? The patriarchy.

SunnyJp · Answer

Girl same, I swear. I’m 5’10 and every guy reject me because I have big hands, feet and for my height.
I gave up on dating. All the men have the same reaction.
My girlfriends are all petite and small and when I go out with them I look like a mother with her kids (actually a guy told me this).

I was born like that and I love my height. People tend to be scared when they see me and this is an advantage when I travel alone.

modelUN242 · Answer

I heard that short women can be bitches and have a complex. Since they're "feminine" they could get away with stuff I guess. I'm around 5'4" but I kind of wished I was taller lol. Those men who rejected you could have had other reasons because the "not small enough" is a shitty reason, unless you're heavy.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

I am 5 ^ 1 tall and have dated men from 5 ^ 3 to 6 ^ 4 tall but prefer men who R 5 ^ 3 - 5 ^ 7 tall ! my mom was 4 ^ 9 tall and married my dad who was 5 ^ 7 tall ! they had 6 children of which I am the youngest of and my sisters R 4 ^ 11 tall and my brothers R 5 ^ 7 tall like my dad ! however , height should not matter when it comes down to it for love is all that really matters ! thanks

QuestionMark19 · Answer

We're that used to getting rejected by taller Women, that we don't even bother approaching. So we go for smaller Women.

I'm 5'9, and prefer to go for girls who are 5' - 5,'4 max.

What I will say is this:, in my opinion, Men who are tall. As in 6'4 and up going for 5'1, 5'2 women?
Worrying behaviour.
... we all know what I mean by that, as well. In comparison, she's literally the same size as a kid compared to him.

TadCurious · Answer

I can't relate to this at all. Women are attractive of all heights. It's mind boggling to me that any guy would specifically reject a girl because she's 5' 5" (or any height). But here's the important thing: You wouldn't want to be with a guy who is that shallow anyway.

TeeBar · Answer

Weird: I've never heard of anything like this, even in the Far East where tiny females are common.
It sounds as though you are trying to convolute the opinion of one single guy (perhaps a recent boyfriend) into a Universal Truth. Your thesis is completely off base.

CubsterShura · Answer

Where I live it is short women who struggle to find a husband... short as in 4'11" and below. I have this extremely gorgeous cousin and when we try to find a match for her... the guys become really interested when they see her picture then they ask about her height and we never hear from them again. Gimme some of your height :p

Where do you live? 5'5" shouldn't be too tall for most men until you live in a country with short men.

thimmslicc · Answer

Men are intimidated by taller women. Even stronger women with bulking muscles.
I dont think they rejected you for only the height, but did you go looking for only taller men as well?
I've met some men that like short girls and some that like taller girls. But just never taller or bigger than the guy is. It's an ego thing for everyone not just guys.

watrewks · Answer

I never was overtly attracted to smaller girls but now I’m really starting to like them😳

I love being able to wrap myself completely around them. But I can do that with a 5’5” girl too. I don't know why I like them so much now, but I do plan on dating more if I get the chance :)

TomGarand · Answer

Well, for me personally, average height to tall women are more attractive than shorties. They're physically stronger than short women who have the same builds as them.

A lot of men like short women because it makes them feel more masculine, protective, and dominant. But I'm not one of those men. Being short isn't a deal-breaker, so long as you have some physical strength. I like a woman who can lift something heavy or punch hard.

JSmuve · Answer

When you say that the majority of guys that rejected you are much taller than you, does that mean you're also only attracted to a specific height (e. g. 6'+)? If that's the case, then you can't get butthurt over being rejected for height if you're similarly discerning over height.

Anonymous · Answer

Hmmm smaller dicks? Lol

Ok but honestly just different preferences. I've dated a man who is 6'5 and he doesn't date anyone shorter than 5'8. I was his shortest girlfriend. He usually dated 6ft and taller. 🤷🏽‍♀️.

I've had another Ex who was 6'4 and I was his tallest girlfriend at 5'8. And he usually dates around 5'3.

So I don't know... Personally I think women look better taller 🤷🏽‍♀️... Different strokes for different folks. No harm no foul.

Anonymous · Answer

Makes them feel bigger? Better? I’m Average about 5’5 and some men only like petite women like 5’1 or shorter

devilman666 · Answer

Why do women like such tall men? Get over yourself and stop whining for being born less attractive than other people, you can't force people to be attracted to you.

Anonymous · Answer

In the end, the answer to your question is the same reason small women (and all women, really) prefer tall men. It's because short is a feminine trait and tall is a masculine trait. That's not to say taller women are not attractive. At 5'5" you are not that tall anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

Not true in my case.
I'm 190 cm and I feel with short girls (below 170cm) as I was their daddy. Majority of girls who appears attractive for me are long legged and slender, such girls aren't short. Of course this is my personal perception and doesn't apply to every guy.

Dweezil · Answer

No good explanation. I am attracted to short girls with nice butts. Nice size tits are a bonus. Good things come in small packages... Actually all girls are atractuve. Short is just my preference.

psychoticanimallover · Answer

Your hypothesis does not correspond with what I have experienced in real life. I’m around your height and have had plenty of men willing to cum in my ass. Some even bought me dinner first.

BlacklightShade · Answer

Because they can fit though small window cracks and clean out the jewelry store.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it's odd to be bothered by 5'5, but shorter is generally better. It's just more attractive to be small, there's no articulated thoughts behind it - it's just feelings, just sexual attraction. They're just cute and that's about as detailed a reason you're going to find. Don't get to caught up in trying to find a logical structure with a clear "why" to was is really just emotions.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Lmao. Guess what... men deal with this for not being tall enough. It’s nice to see justice in the world...

jshm2 · Answer

I think it was the first excuse that popped into their head, deary.  You are obviously overly sensitive, and that can be a red flag for most men.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

I think you are having bad luck. That doesn't seem normal at all to reject someone your height because she's too tall. 5"5 is the average height for women in the US. It's not tall at all.

Calgarydirty69 · Answer

cause they ALL have penis envy, a small girl makes it look bigger, but none of these men have decent size cocks, or they wouldn't I just let it fly I am not some insecure little princess, be so shy, and relay on small girls to make them feel better about themselves

WesBrewer · Answer

I am 6' 3" and I think women that are shorter 5' 4" are the most attractive, I like shorter women the most because by her being short I am able to picker up and carry her around, as well as she asks me for help more often, which are things that I like to do. but just because I prefer a girl that is shorter than 5' 4" doesn't mean I'd reject her, I would date a girl as long as she was at least an inch shorter than me.

nella965 · Answer

where do you come from? the average height of a woman in the US is 5'4-5'5'' in most states. The women that tend to be under 5'4'' are typically Asian, latino, or black populations.

lexiepotter · Answer

As a short girl with a tall boyfriend, he says he feels like a man with me, like he's in charge and has to protect me. I guess it depends on the dynamics of the relationship? Maybe you've only met dominant guys? That being said, I'm not submissive at all In day to day life and he says I'm "small but feisty" lol

abc3643 · Answer

You are practically a perfect height. Nothing wrong. Maybe you have your own height issues so you are not selecting much taller men who'd be happy with a woman like you.

lovelyhoneybones · Answer

That's so weird. I've never heard of a guy rejecting a woman because she's 5'5. That's the standard height for the average American woman but for a man that is 5'10+ that's pretty short.

Sparda20xx · Answer

Generally speaking, what you experienced is rare. Women care more about height than men. Also you're not that tall. 5'5 I believe is average for women. I could see if you were 5'9 .

thatguy9388 · Answer

I don't know why guys like small women, I personally think taller women like 5'7+ are much more attractive

Hogwheels · Answer

I think your experience might be an soon anomaly. Many guys like small girls, but I know a lot of guys that prefer tall women.

Adam1978 · Answer

It's a cultural thing, we in Scandinavia don't mind taller women. We prefer it, it's more practical especially for tall guys like me.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

My ex wife is/was the same height as me. And I somehow enjoyed it like this. Of course taller girls are (potentially) attractive - it's just that you addressed -or met- the 'wrong' guys until now?

Dre_808 · Answer

Everyone has their preferences. I'm 5'9 and some women won't date me because I'm not 6' and they were a lot shorter than me. I don't think I could date a woman that was over 6'2, not that one would want to date me. Just saying.

Filip127 · Answer

Actually for me it's not true. I am normal height and I like girls around 5ft 5 - 5ft 8.

by the way my dad is very tall and he said that he is impressed only by girls that are 5ft 5 and taller (165 cm and more).

yofuknutz · Answer

Its the Psleave, shorter women U can feel the cervix, taller not so much, thanks Nancy Hernandez for that demonstration.

Reivel · Answer

Height is just a number in any measurement system, the really important thing is if you are a good person, nice, kind, sincere and loving

genericname85 · Answer

i mean for practical reasons for example xD if she's small, she's light and more convenient to handle :P

Alyssa11 · Answer

Not all men to be honest. Different men have different preferences.

supercutebutt · Answer

Cuz kids are short and most dudes are secret pedos. Sad but true :(

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

For not being small enough? Really? I mean guys like tall girls, have you seen the models of covers and in Victoria secret?  As long as they are not taller than us we are good.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

For me, tall girls are attractive, provided they are slender; I cannot deal with an overweight woman. But some men think differently. It all depends on personal choices.

Wiredone · Answer

I'm not concerned about height. I don't care if she's taller or shorter than me. Personality and beautiful eyes are my main concern. If they have both of them then I look at boobs and ass

arlesche · Answer

Men like younger women, or at least women that have the traits of being young (right eyes, slim figure, minimal body hair, etc.) This includes being short. In my opinion 5'5 isn't too tall at all.

Bananaman177 · Answer

Why do small women like such BIG men? Reverse the question and it suddenly all makes sense.

slatyb · Answer

Plenty of men are happy with a woman of your height, or taller.

Avicenna · Answer

Everyone has preferences. Some of us prefer tall women.

sklirókorítsi · Answer

They probably want more petty, controllable. I am intermediate size and his hand marry if his dislike

pink_and_inlove · Answer

I don’t know I’m 5’1 with a 6’0 ft 1/2 guy I think 5’5 is perfect. I think that what matters is the personality and if the guy likes your looks too

Hangry22 · Answer

Well irl i have seen more guys go for girls their height or close to it

yeahguy2 · Answer

I'm 5'6 or 5'7 and short for me is someone who is 4'1 and under. I really don't care if my girl is taller then me, but they all want taller guys.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they want a pet who looks like woman. Fuck those guys. They aren't worth your time.

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