If a guy is interested, will he always make a move?

[Anonymous]

[Apope16]

NO. NOT TRUE. A guy can be in love with you or have a crush and not make a move at all.

It is the responsibility of a modern woman in the 21st century to make a move on a guy or ask out a guy if she likes them. It is no longer the 1800s anymore.

I was sexually and emotionally abused as a child. I would get panic attacks at the thought of making a move on a woman. It was a terrifying thing for me. I remember making a move for my first kiss with a girl I was in love with and I was in agony. I think at the time when I was struggling that if she made a move on me first it would have made me better off.

It took years to get me to be the guy I am now. I lost my virginity at 27 years old. Now I am 33 years old and I am getting sex on the first date.

So no. If you feel the connection and you can feel that a guy really likes you a lot and thinks you are special? Then its probably true. You should help ease his agony or shyness. Make a move! If you would like advice on that PM and I can help you out.

[Asker]

How would you say is a good way to approach a guy by text then? What are signs a guy might have feelings but does not have the courage to contact the girl?

[Nazgol]

Why are you putting it out there everywhere that you were sexually abused as a child? Are you trying to get people to feel sorry for you & have empathy for your proud but reckless behaviors? Listen up if u haven't know this before , noone cares that you were sexually abused. A lot of people are but they don't become proud dicks like you

[BestOpinions2020]

@Nazgol it doesn't sound like he's proud and he was saying that to help explain and people do care its messed up what happened to him

[Nazgol]

@BestOpinions2020 you can defend him if you want but he IS saying that, if you look at his other posts

[Btejgi]

@Nazgol You sound like a mother that would sexually abuse a child. You’re an evil one.

[Nazgol]

@Btejgi haha yeah right ok there buddy!

[Stephen_77]

@Nazgol Maybe you're a pedophile yourself? Or a hateful feminist?

[Nazgol]

@Stephen_77 sure, maybe I'm many things!!!🤔😮

[Jingle-Balls]

@Nazgol If it was a girl you'd most likely hail her as a hero for being so courageous and facing her fears. Fucking hypocrite.

[Nazgol]

@Jingle-Balls No, I dont think toying around with people is right, whether you're a boy or girl. You should really look into this guy's other posts and see how proud he is of his wrong behaviors

[Stephen_77]

@Nazgol Shut up you whinny female.

[Nazgol]

@Stephen_77 ok :) doesn't affect me. Typical immature losers who love to insult. Keep them coming

[Nazgol]

@stephen oh look what I found another female hater just like apope

[Stephen_77]

@Nazgol And you're a man hater, so I guess that makes us even.

[Nazgol]

@Stephen_77 no, I'm not. You don't know anything about me so dont talk. I was a victim of someone just like this guy apope, and it was not fun. I fell for him deep while I later understood what he's doing and his intentions, very similar to this guy

[Nazgol]

@Stephen_77 I'm also now married to a toxic and emotionally abusive guy. So can you guess why I feel what I feel?

[Nazgol]

*Toxic & controlling

[loveslongnails]

" It is the responsibility of a modern woman in the 21st century to make a move on a guy or ask out a guy if she likes them." This is nonsense, pure and simple.

Responsibility? No way. It's an option. I'd say it's more of a responsibility to deal with your abuse and overcome it, as it seems you have, than to somehow "require" a woman to make a move.

[Stephen_77]

@Nazgol No, more like you're the one that abuses him.

[Nazgol]

@Stephen_77 ooh, are you some invisible ghost or shall I say spirit that are in people's lives and knows about them? Sounds like it! Rofl

[Floppy2112]

@Nazgol :)

[Nazgol]

@Floppy2112 :)

[Floppy2112]

@Btejgi No she's not. She's a good person.

[Nazgol]

@Floppy2112 thank you! So are you!!

[Stephen_77]

@Floppy2112 White knight fanny

[Apope16]

@BestOpinions2020 nobody understands a mans sexual vulnerability in society. Nobody. I have to be open about why so people understand. Women can talk rape but a mans sexual vulnerability is judged? Its like the herpes transparency movt. people shouldn't be ashamed about who they are. For years men have been abused because we are treated like shit from people like comment above

[JSmuve]

Another day, another girl asks this question.

No. It depends heavily on the guy and the circumstances. For instance, let's say I see a girl I'm interested in but there's no opportunity for me to make a move. Maybe she's talking to her friends or is walking the other direction after she caught my eye. Am I interested? Yes. Will I make a move? No because she's 70 meters away walking in the opposite direction. What's a guy supposed to do, chase a stranger down?

Or, maybe she's at the gym, earbuds in, working away, giving off closed body language. Would I be interested in her? Of course. Would I make a move? Not when she's giving off closed body language.

So there's two very reasonable, every-day examples of when a guy might be interested in a girl and not make a move based entirely on circumstance and the woman's actions.

If the guy and girl in question are already on a first-name basis then a guy might not make a move because the woman isn't giving off any indication that she's interested in the guy, or even worse, she's giving off indications that she's not interested.

[Asker]

Do you think guys missinterperate some of those signs sometimes? That they girl is not interested enough for the guy to continue taking initiative?

[JSmuve]

Misinterpret? Sure. But that's if he even picks up on them in the first place. Some girls want their signs to be really subtle that they wind up going completely missed or ignored because they're too vague. Consistency and obviousness are often a woman's friend in communicating interest, but for a lot of women that's too much of a perceived risk for them (they don't want to appear desperate or easy) so they end up giving subtle, mixed signals that leave a guy confused.

[Elsa143]

Definitely he should. I've also made moves when I was interested in a guy.
So a man also gotta go after what he want. Good things don't come for free. If he's interested then he has to put efforts. If not then you're a minor thing for him.
Don't give me excuses that they fear rejection. They're simply self absorbed and in reality fear about their ego getting hurt.

[domo0906]

I don’t think so. It took my current boyfriend 2 years after we initially met to ask me out. The timing just wasn’t right when we first met and we stopped talking. I would admire him from afar but it wasn’t until he slide into my dms and we hung out a few times then he asked me out. I thought there was no way we could ever be a thing but 2 years later here we are.

[btbc92]

Usually, the answer is a yes when he is serious about what he wants. That goes for women too. A guy can be interested and do nothing, but he is obviously not serious enough. Actions speak louder than words. Everything is a choice. But I don't believe in dating strangers in the first place. So if he doesn't even at least introduce himself (not his friends or sending a messenger to do it when he is less than 10 feet away from you) and start a friendship, not worth the disappointment.

[BestOpinions2020]

just cause the person is serious about what they want don't mean they will make a move they could be to scared shy or might not cause a friend likes u or a friend used to date u or there self conscious about themselves thinking they r ugly or rubbish

[BestOpinions2020]

sorry if I misunderstood u

[btbc92]

I was called shy. If I kept making that excuse I wouldn't get anywhere in life. It doesn't matter what I don't do anything. They don't do anything a woman is not going to wait for him to do something. A woman is not attracted to a guy who is not a leader. Plenty of times I've been scared of things. Plenty of times there are things I didn't want to do. But still had to do what I had to do. If a man is not ready to be independent, he needs to re-evaluate why he wants to date a person. He can like a person all he wants. Even without knowing them. I know for a fact that those type of guys I'm not attracted to. It has nothing to do without them being shot. Because like I said I could be considered one myself. But because they choose to do nothing. I'm going to rely on a person who choose to do nothing? They got their own insecurities they got to work on. Or else that's going to ruin a relationship.

[BestOpinions2020]

some women like weak or shy men I've heard a lot of girls wanting shy guys and its not an excuse its even a mental problem like some people can be so shy they have panic attacks and go to the hospital and have medication

[btbc92]

You do realize most women do like that because they want control right not because I actually like you? But because they want to be in control and it can't handle a man who is in control. Again, I wish I myself I know what it's like to have depression, anxiety, and all kinds of stuff and I still go through it. At the end of the day life is about choices you either choose to let your fear control you or you learn to control it. Life is too short so I highly suggest you think about that.

[BestOpinions2020]

I'm happy for u but not everyone can that's a reason people kill themselves and sometimes girls like shy guys cause they find them cute and women do the same thing as men

[btbc92]

All the more reason why you need to learn to love yourself and not be worrying about if somebody finds you cute. Cuz at the end of the day the only find you're cute when it benefits them. As nothing to do because they want to get to know you. I should know that all my life. That's why I was able to move out the way I had to besides by the grace of God. When you don't put your focus on those things you realize none of that really matters. Because the ones that's going to matter of those who are really cherish you and wants to be in your life to begin with. If they don't you can't force them. You got to get to that point of learning to have that mindset. In this world it really is the strongest that is going to survive. You got to make sure that you know why you are on this planet and everybody has a purpose. You are not here by accident.

[GoodManDave]

No. A guy can have a crush or be interested or attracted on some level, but not make a move. There can be any number of reasons.

There are a lot of women that I'm attracted to in some ways, but I would never pursue. I know that while I may be attracted on some level, it wouldn't be much fun for us to date. Even if I do think the relationship would get off the ground, it might not go very far.

Now, even if I felt a connection, she'd have to make it a little easier to ask her out. My experience is most women make it as difficult as they can for me to ask them out, even when they're supposedly interested (which is rare).

So there ends up being a lot of times when I won't make any move whatsoever, even if I'm attracted to them.

[Floppy2112]

No. There may be various reasons. If he sees you as out of his league or your in a different group or click than him. No matter how much he may like you he may never make a move. Basically, if there is some barrier between you and him, he can like you all he wants and never make any move. He may have already decided you will reject him. Men don't like rejection anymore than women do, so we will mitigate our risks when outcomes do not appear favorable.
This is when women need to step up, because not all guys will. And who knows, that guy may be the best person for you, but for reasons only he knows, he will never make it known. Yes, guys have let women they are actually interested in, pass right on by without even a quip. It happens more than you think.

[cth96190]

No, a male will not always make a move.
He will watch to see if you might be receptive, before he risks being rejected.
Today, he has to be extremely careful, because of the risk of career or education ending Title IX and/or sexual harassment complaints.
If he is in Britain, it is even less likely that he will make a move, because Feminists lobbied successfully for the introduction of an anti-catcalling law that was worded in a way that made it a felony for a male to approach to a female, if, after the event, the female decided that she did not like the way in which he was approached.
Because men lack the ability to read minds and the clairvoyance to predict the future, the only prudent course of action is to not approach a female.
https://www.brit.co/nottinghamshire-stop-catcalling/

[TheorionMage]

NO ONE LIKES 'rejection'... no matter HOW 'diplomatic'...

when the girl's perspective of you is ambiguous
as Benj. Franklin's 'Poor Richard' almanac advised:
"Better to keep silent and be THOUGHT a Fool...
than to speak your feelings and remove all doubt"

But... conversely, "Faint heart N'ere won fair Lady!"
(She may be EQUALLY uncertain of HOW She's perceived! )

[strawberrylipstick]

I for one, never make the first move cause that makes me anxious as hell and then my tics go off which doesn't help with getting someone to like you, imagine going to ask someone out and then you yell "My aunt's got a kid in the cellar!" So... Definitely there are people out there who will not make the first move for whatever reason XD

[BeenThereLovedIt]

A lot of guys were taught by hollywood to make that magical eye-contact that somehow if you can give a girl the correct eye contact and whatever manly look you got to attract her, then boom, she catches your gaze and you both know there's a spark. Then the guy is safe to approach.

We all know this is horseshit, and the truth is that women think you are being creepy. Unless your a really hot guy.

[Stephen_77]

Not true at all. I use to work across the road from a really hot young woman, and quite often I would make lots of eye contact. As a result she would start looking at me and smiling and eventually came up to me.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

@Stephen_77 One exception does not change a general rule.

[Mewipaws]

I won't make a move at all unless I really feel that the girl is somewhat hinting at me to do so. Even now, I still haven't make a move on the girl I am interested in. The most I have did so far is just message her about her pets and anything beyond that, I just froze. Maybe it is due to past trauma but the point is that if you feel that he is interested in you and you feel the same way too, just go for it. I mean there isn't a protocol now where guys must make the 1st move in this era.

[soleil2000]

More often than not, the good guys won't.
The woman needs to be open for that - and, many, unless money is involved, like to be liked/pursued/adored - but prefer to wait for someone richer/someone who will make them wildly famous and similar idiotic desires based on watching too much TV and thinking there are all these 'possibilities' out there (which cannot be further from the truth - big money is such a huge responsibility none of it is any fun - think princess Diana).

[Bang5luts]

Unfortunately, even if a guy is interested he won't always make a move. With all things considered, some guys are shy, afraid of rejection, or afraid of looking like some type of pig. All I am saying is if you like him and you see any type of interest from him or like he's hesitant to make a move. Than let him know you like him or at least that you're willing to meet him half way. I hope this helps

[BruceJender]

It really depends.

I'm really forward, but after I've been gunned down by a girl, I'll tend to stop being so forward.

I expect some guys will continue to be forward no matter what, and others will never make the first move, or take a long time.

It may be that he's not sure how you feel about him, so it might help him if either you made the first move, or made it clear that you like him in another way.

[HikerDude]

No, it really depends on the guy. Some guys have balls of steel and will always go after a girl they want, but other guys are so painfully shy they would rather remain alone than admit what they want.

[MrCommodore]

No, not always. He will wait for multiple signs from the girl first, then when he might make a move. It depends on his personality usually, shy guys need more time and signs.

[WesBrewer]

Nope, this is especially untrue for me, when I find a girl I like all I do is think about what might happen if I ask her out, and I end up taking forever before I actually ask her out.

[Anonymous]

No, definitely not. Just like you women, men are afraid of and hate rejection. It just depends on the guy. I know guys who will not show interest in a girl unless she shows interest first. Doesn't mean she has to make a move, but at least do something to show she is interested. That's not too much to ask, is it?

[rjroy3]

No.

Reasons vary per guy and situation. Most commonly either, assuming he is in fact interested, he's either shy, has a girl already or concerned with social repercussions.

[LogicalGal123]

Yes, but be very careful. Observe what he wants first and figure out if he really want u for u or he just wants to play? If he is really interested in u, he would get out of his way and pursue u.

[Honesttguy]

What kind fairy tales u play there? Observe what he wants lallala.. guys are simple wants to fuck thats 1st, then after that he will think hmm is she a good fuk or bad, does she know anything else besides that.

[LogicalGal123]

There's no fairytale. I know how the game is played a lot longer than u because I played the guy card game as well. If I wanted something, I would do the same thing. A man will pursue u, a boy will play the game. There is a difference. Obviously, u're a boy and that's the only thing u can think of.

[Avicenna]

Usually he will, but some guys are do afraid of failure that they don’t and lose out on the girl they like. Hesitation, not getting rejected, is your biggest enemy.

[Wade8888]

No, he might have social anxiety, but love you to death, in which case he CAN'T make the first move, and needs you to make the first move.

Been there, I know how it feels.

[Alexandrubaschet08]

It depends on how confident he is when he wants to take the first step. It depends on each boy.
I was very interesting in many girls but I didn't make a move, I would have preferred them to have done in those moments.