Should a girl offer to pay on a first date? (Page 2)

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Soooo I always offer to pay for my own on a date. I think it’s respectful. However, my mother (yes) is telling me that my date yesterday was the one that asked me out, therefore I shouldn’t have offered. I’ve always offered to pay! Is this wrong? Which one would you rather a girl do? Note: he did end up paying for mine anyway but I did at least offer

Schizoaffective · Answer

I always offer to pay  Plus I don't like to feel like I owe smthng to the person, I rather they feel like they owe me🤷🏿‍♀️

arlesche · Answer

If someone asked you out, you shouldn't be expected to pay, but you should be prepared to in case your date doesn't feel this way.

gemgem · Answer

Even when girls offer I feel like it is just a loaded question, if you take her up on it she will be repulsed and never speak to you again.

jahaims · Answer

I think it is nice to offer to split it. i wouldn't let her but the offer is nice. Men and women are equal after all.

Random_Guy_Online · Answer

I would appreciate it if a girl offers. It shows that she cares. If she doesn't offer, I just usually pay anyway because it's expected 🤷‍♂️.

Pulseofsulfur · Answer

I mean going Dutch is one thing but if the woman is offering to pay for dinner then I'd be embarrassed with my self. I feel like women shouldn't have to pay for a dinner date

Sarahr123 · Answer

You split the bill on the first date. Pay for yourselves.

Sheyhoney · Answer

I was taught that whoever invited pays but I still offer to pay to be respectful.

jamesgoldman · Answer

I will politely decline her money and test her tipping ability (with my money of course)

zakariacou · Answer

If my date would offer to pay, this will get me the idea that she was uncomfortable and don't wanna do it again. Let him pay for dinner, and you may pay for coffee later.

RingOfFire · Answer

I like if she offers to pay if it's a new relationship. But I would never let her do it.

OddBeMe · Answer

Sure, I would say jnc don’t assume the guy wants to pay. Even though normally it’s the person who asks.

johnieohm2 · Answer

That is fine, to my knowledge your mother didn't go on that date so it is up to you about what you want to do.

na2398 · Answer

I'd respect her opinion no matter what. It's always great to split the bills, but on special occasions, it shouldn't be the case. For example, if it's my birthday, I'd not let my girlfriend pay. :) How does this sound?

Maspolomas · Answer

My girlfriend pays but it our money that’s in the bank together I usually take our kid outside because he gets antsy

slatyb · Answer

It's nice of you to offer. When I ask a woman out I don't let her pay. I will let her pay if she invites me and she earns about as much as I do.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

maybe not the first. i think going dutch is best. it depends on the expectations of the date for each individual

bamesjond0069 · Answer

I think you should offer. Any man who lets you pay or split it, that should be the last date.

Jackblue · Answer

To quote Seinfeld a reach is always nice (for your purse).

Unit1 · Answer

Yay for equality. Take it all or leave it. You did the right thing! Men are not wallets on legs and you made your point with that straight up. Do keep it up! I love it!

Swordnen · Answer

If you asked a guy out its your responsibility  If a guy asks you out its his responsibility

jasco · Answer

I don't mind it however, i wouldn't mind paying for the first date either. Its i usually only go out for food and a movie or something cheap, so it won't be a rip off if she isn't a good person

dragoblack · Answer

First date should be pay for your own stuff, unless he/she offers to pay for you. The man paying for the date has become so common that it is expected to be mandatory when it was always meant to be a kind gesture and a show of financial stability.

lillianaustin · Answer

I mean , there's nothing wrong with it. the guy I like offers to pay for me and you can sometimes offer

Bee-Hatch · Answer

If you're wanting a relationship that is equal, start it off that way - 50/50

Kabluie · Answer

I think offering to pay is a good gesture, it sends a message that you probably aren't out to take advantage of them on day one.

silvermoon84 · Answer

I’ve always preferred paying my own way to be honest.

WesBrewer · Answer

I wouldn't really care, but I am also happy to pay for my dates cost.

Wytdrgn · Answer

If he invited you out then he must pay. If you invited out then he should offer to pay at least his share.

iFarted · Answer

It's nice that she does, it'd be a plus to me. I wouldn't take her offer though.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

Nope I'm a man I always pay unless its a birthday present or something

Anonymous · Answer

The person who asks is the person who should pay. However, if you want to make other arrangements on who pays it is best discussed before the date. And certainly before you place any orders.

ETfoneh0me101 · Answer

I would be caught off guard and not know how to react. With how sensitive people are and how equal everyone has to be all the time I would think I'm offending her if I pay

007kingifrit · Answer

its not "wrong" but not necessary. do what makes you feel comfortable

clampfan101 · Answer

I’m fine with me paying, her paying, splitting the bill, the one choosing the location paying... It’s just money. I’ll do whatever I can easily afford, so her offer would be much appreciated.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Well it's decent that you offered to pay for your share.
But it's a thing that the guy asked you out.

I would definitely happy with a woman willing to share the expense, so I don't really ask women out

Asianguy123 · Answer

if you don't want end up with sexual things in return, you can pay for yourself and feel free to say no for sex.

mom_of_two · Answer

I never offer to pay when a guy takes me out on a date

Avicenna · Answer

If she wants to, sure. She shouldn't feel obligated.

Dsg1193 · Answer

Whoever asks the person out should be required to pay. But I’m old fashioned and still think the guy should pay in the early stages

chapawapa · Answer

I never go on dates. But if i did id assume it's 50/50

Guanfei · Answer

No, don't offer to pay, but actually pay. But only for your own stuff. He pays his stuff, you pay yours.

Meldrum · Answer

My wife and I went Dutch the first 6 months we went out. Of course, she was earning a hell of a lot more than me.

ozzzzy · Answer

Girls should also pay sometimes throughout the dating, not just men.

BrownBratzDoll · Answer

I hate dates. I dont like dressing up for men just to pay for my own dates...

Anonymous · Answer

Why WOULDN'T a girl pay her share on a first date? It's 2021 for fuck sake! It blows my mind that any women would still be asking this question today.

NorthwestRider · Answer

It is the 21st century, men should not need to make the moves or pay for the dates

Iron_Man · Answer

No But on the 4th date be prepared to split it 50-50 Dutch treat

Waldoe · Answer

it's an insult to the guy... don't do it. he probably saved his money so he could impress you... and you took that opportunity away from him. tsk tsk

SeaSprayBreeze · Answer

No way. I think everyone should just pay for what they ordered. Simple.

Lunatic1 · Answer

My preference is to go dutch, aka each pay for their own food, or alternate paying for dates.

Anonymous · Answer

I’ll pay but I wouldn’t be stepping out for a second date with that guy lol

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

The guy pays for the date. The girl reciprocates with a BJ in the car.

Anonymous · Answer

No I don't offer c: I like when they take care of me!

Anonymous · Answer

Saying that the one who asks should pay is a cop out. Girls don't ask, so it's conspicuously convenient that when they say "who asked should pay".

Anonymous · Answer

no, you have the hole in-between your legs which is the reason guys should always pay.

Samhanks · Answer

You did the right thing by offering and he did the right thing too. How romantic!

Vetis · Answer

I dont care. Money is made to be spent, and made to be spent.

Lion91 · Answer

That all depends how efficient His Personality is to Her 😍😊

scooogy · Answer

Why don't you just grab some vouchers and put and end to this "who's gonna pay" debate?

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