Why do most beautiful women have bad relationships?

[Desconhecida]

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I wrote "MOST of them - I didn't generalized it.

[RingOfFire]

I don't know if it's "Most" beautiful women who have bad relationships, but certainly many do. I could write a book on this topic, but here's a couple reasons.

1. Good looking girls learn at an early age they don' have to do anything else but exist to have an endless line of guys tripping all over each other to get with them. So unlike average or below average looking girls they don't pay much attention to developing the skills needed to hold onto a guy after you are with him. When lobster is 10 cents a pound, you throw away your lobster traps because you can have all you want of it without fishing.

2. Good looking girls know they can get good looking and wealthy guys. Good looking guys have the same kind of problem as good looking girls, they can get all the girls they want (although not as many as a good looking girl... but after 100 people on line it doesn't make much difference).

So when a good looking girl gets with a good looking guy, you have TWO people who haven't developed he relationship skills to keep the relationship going. That spells almost certain doom.

And when a good looking girl gets with a wealthy guy, it is a relationship for the wrong reasons right from the start.

Money doesn't make a good relationship. So there's two of the key reasons so many of these relationships don't work out.

And I'll give you some more from my personal experience of having been in relationships with beautiful women. I am wealthy. And one thing that stresses the relationships for me is that I never know if they are after me or my money. It's very hard to trust anyone. I try not to let them know, but as soon as they see my cars, my house, etc. it's obvious. So I try to put off letting them see anything like that to get a feel for what they are really thinking. Contrary to what most people think, money stresses relationships. It's stressful to be poor but also stressful to be wealthy. And it makes relationships more difficult. A lot of very beautiful women are looking for wealthy men. Why? Because they can. They don't all necessarily have bad intentions, but it's still not a good beginning to a relationship. And I think that's one reason many of their relationships fail.

[007kingifrit]

they don't develop personalities

[Mishan97]

I don’t want to sound conceited and I don’t think I’m all that but I am aware that I’m attractive and the first serious relationship I had was very physically abusive, emotionally abusive, and extremely toxic. I was cheated on by this guy multiple times as well. I realized it was because he was incredibly insecure. He would get extremely jealous anytime I’d go out anywhere, whether it was to the club, the gym, or even the grocery story. He knew I’d get hit on by guys and this made him paranoid even though I’m a faithful person. He would hit me if he suspected guys were flirting with me. He demanded the passwords to all my social media’s and would get so insecure when he saw messages from other men even though I wouldn’t reply to any. Also, the way we met was a red flag too. It was at a bar and he was staring at me the whole time and mumbled something to me that I couldn’t hear. I got curious so I asked him later what he said and that’s how we met so basically from the first meeting he showed he felt inadequate and insecure to approach me. He’d constantly make remarks about other women and compare me to them to make me insecure because he thought if I knew my worth that I’d leave him eventually. It kinda worked bc I got so insecure while dating him that I started believing that he was the best I could do, even though I’d get hit on all the time. So to answer your question, from my personal experience, a lot of men get insecure when dating a pretty women and for immature men this insecurity manifests itself in abuse and emotional manipulation. My ex was so insecure that he would cheat on me just so he could brag to his friends that he was cheating on “someone so hot”. I know this because those were his exact words when I went through his phone. He thought it made him seem cool that he could get a pretty girl and treat her like shit and she would stay. So basically it’s insecurity and immaturity.

[KnightKissedbyFire]

Beautiful women are often the ones who are recovering from traumas and are also going to be "needy" in a relationship due to how they were treated. Most men see a beautiful "thing" but don't want to stick around when they realize they can't just have a trophy bimbo with no emotions. Beautiful people are usually those who are the most broken and looking for someone help them feel safe.

[MrOracle]

1. Generally, only the most confident men will approach her - the others feeling "out of her league." The vast majority of these men are going to be players, who just want to use her for her beauty/body, but they will usually be good-looking, certainly popular, and will be exciting/dangerous, so women tend to be attracted to them and choose them.

2. Many really good-looking women can already get so much just with their looks that they never work on developing any other skills - they don't focus in their education, their social skills, their personality, etc., because they don't feel that they need to. But all of those things help them make better choices with relationships, and without those skills, it's easy for many of them to be used.

[FraS92]

The first is absolutely true, women in general want to be courted and desired, but in this way they select the "professionals"

[psychoticanimaIIover]

I thought women weren’t supposed to focus on their education anyway - didn’t you say before that was wasting their prime years? 😊

[likelyOK]

I think that idea is outdated just because your beautiful does not mean that you don’t want to become more educated if your smart by nature you seek out intellectual stimulation.

[MrOracle]

@psychoticanimaIIover I never said "don't get an education", I said "use your 20s to focus on getting a long-term relationship/marriage and starting a family if you want to ever have one, because advanced education will be there after your youth and SMV are gone." And in this case, when I said education, I wasn't referring to college/advanced education specifically, but rather education more generally - including grade school, high school, and independent learning - things that don't reduce a woman's ability to seek a lifelong relationship in her 20s.

[psychoticanimaIIover]

Ah, so high school is sufficient education for women - gotcha.

[hasdrubal164]

@psychoticanimaIIover no dont get educaiton, let the man wokr otherwise many woman get burned out too fast obviously...

[psychoticanimaIIover]

Yes of course. I’m just being silly.

[hasdrubal164]

@psychoticanimaIIover like nobody know obvously people know your putting people in dumb section smh...

[psychoticanimaIIover]

Oh yes uh huh.

[Mishan97]

2nd thing u said is not true at all. I know many beautiful women who I went to college with that are in school studying to be doctors, pharmacists, psychologists, and lawyers. These women are intelligent, insightful, successful as well being beautiful with amazing bodies and model like looks. Don’t stereotype and put people into a box. That’s totally a misconception that beautiful women aren’t intelligent and funny and sociable as well. It’s a myth made up by insecure women and men who are unable to get beautiful women.

[hasdrubal164]

@Mishan97 id like ma girl to be hot but dumb.

[psychoticanimaIIover]

Oh yes of course.

[MrOracle]

@Mishan97 I didn't say ALL, I said "many". Obviously there are going to be women who don't fall into that group, but it doesn't make what I said about that group any less true.

[Mishan97]

Yeah but there’s many ugly women who aren’t smart or sociable or interesting either. It doesn’t have to do with looks lol. Women can be multifaceted just like men can be. Why put people in two dimensional categories when that isn’t the reality? Looks aren't proportional to how smart or interesting or funny a woman is

[MrOracle]

@Mishan97 This discussion is specifically about VERY BEAUTIFUL WOMEN. I didn't create the subject, I'm just answering questions on this topic.

[Mishan97]

Yeah and what u said about very beautiful women isn’t true. You have such an outdated view.

[MrOracle]

@Mishan97 Again, I said SOME. You keep implying that I said or intended to talk about ALL. I did not.

[Mishan97]

I never said you said all but you made a generalization which is flat out not true. Even saying that most beautiful women don’t invest in their education or social skills or personality is not true.

[aliali8]

@MrOracle It depends on where you are from. If you live in the midwest, most women would be married with 5 kids by the time she is 30. In the mid west or poor towns, females over 30s are undesirable. People marry earlier in those places.

But if you go to large modern cities, there are tons of men who would date a 30 something yr old woman. In fact, men in large cities respect and like educated, successful women who can support themselves. Harvard educated men aren't looking for a hot bimbo, who cleans bathrooms at McDonalds, no college education. They have nothing in common with someone like that either.
Average age of marriage and kids is later in larger citifies. I have seen way too many married doctors, pharmacists, surgeons, professors, professionals.

Different places have different cultural values. In poor places, its creating a family, settling down early rather than to wait for the perfect one. In richer places, its about picking the right spouse, becoming a respectable person of value (education, career), then about family.

[K-I-S-S]

Yes, exactly that, saved my the troublenof writing it out.

[Knighted2170]

I used to be a professional fashion photographer. Here's a little something I found out from talking to the models.

They don't get approached as much as people may think. Those who do approach are either players or extremely confident men. Some of those confident men are nothing more than man boys.

After they weed out the players and man boys, it leaves them with very few people to choose from.

The reason they are not approached is because a lot of guys think they are already in a relationship or that she is out of their league. Or, they make up an excuse that she is stuck up and not worth their time.

The reason that beautiful (traditionally speaking) women have a hard time with quality relationships is because people can't see a beautiful woman as being both beautiful and intelligent. She can be one, but not the other.

If you are beautiful you are supposed to be air headed, aloof, stuck-up, concerned with only your looks, popularity, and how much money the guy can spend on you.

The slim pickings of men beautiful women have to choose from (those who approach them) mainly see them as arm candy and trophies. The woman is his avenue to more bragging rights. The moment she shows intelligence he sees it as a loss of his status amongst his buddies. Especially if she is more intelligent than he is.

To find an actual quality guy she has to go through a string of bad relationships. This has an affect of jading her and developing a very tuned B. S. meter and "bitch shield" towatds guys who approach. This then validates the excuse guys have about beautiful women that I noted above.

[VIVANT]

The thing here is this Women can ask men out. They are not limited to whomever approaches them. I agree they can still have difficulty bc some guys will be intimidated and sone may only care for looks , but it isn’t as if they only can choose from whomever shows up. If they out it that way themselves, that shows they see themselves as helpless or entitled which would already be a problem.

[KrakenAttackin]

@VIVANT THIS^^.

[Knighted2170]

@KrakenAttackin Thank you.

[pikuroy]

Either you have no choice or you are spoilt for choice.

1. If a girl is beautiful above average, then she is attracting huge number of fuxkboys as well. The number of fukbois compared to good men is higher in this case.

2. Good men most of the time think that beautiful girls are way out of their league and doesn't approach because they know it will be useless. Whereas fukbois are opposite.

3. Beautiful girls generally keep their guards up. They misbehave and abuse guys at first because they think everyone is for her beauty. This makes the good ones leave but the fukbois keep pursuing. The girl eventually thinks the boy must be really in love.

The only way to break out of this is (i have learned this from my friend) make it absolutely clear that no matter what happens there is no sex before marriage and you are not going to marry right now, and behave in a good and polite way. The fukbois would eventually leave... and would check you out once in a year to see if you have changed or the same way as before.

[likelyOK]

This is a really honest and valid answer some people don’t want knowledgeable these things.

[likelyOK]

I disagree with the marriage part but a lot of these things are true

[pikuroy]

The marriage part is how my friend deals with fukbois. She is quite successful with this procedure. Tell me if you have something better. I will convey it to her. Well. She makes it appear to those guys that she isn't going to have sex before marriage. Doesn't mean she actually follows it.

[likelyOK]

If it works for her than that is all that matters

[mindNsoul]

I think beautiful people struggle in general. It is not a gender thing.

Beautiful people seek generally beautiful partners who are not necessarily equipped with the best character.

Plus if you get used to receiving the attention and being popular it is very difficult to build depth as well. You get used to the attention and the abundance of options that in a way you become entitled.

But receiving attention does not equal receiving love necessarily. As it is easier for fake people to surround beautiful people wanting to be part of the popular club. And just to claim bragging rights. Many of the opposite gender will only be interested in their looks and bodies that telling which one is ginuine is challenging.

I don't think beautiful people are bad people all I'm saying the ones I interacted with usually were surrounded by a shallow group of fake people. Which does not help.

And then you have the entitled beautiful ones who are filled with ego and think they're superior. Who by default people can't deal with them long term or avoid them.

The last type of beautiful people is the type who use their looks and charisma at their advantage. They read and develop competencies and intelligence. But usually those are rarely single to begin with.

Then you have the players who cause the issue by just being shallow and wanting to sleep with every beautiful person they meet.

Many good people have the belief that extremely beautiful partners will cheat. So they avoid them. Or they might feel I timidated at times.

[LoveIsFake]

I can relate to the last thing you said lol. I'm definitely not good looking enough to believe a really atractive girl would want me so I just stay away from them. Plus I do always see the "player" always around her lingering. So I completely avoid her because I already know she's going to choose that dude. I honestly still don't understand how women still can't figure out when they are talking to a player or a person who just wants to use them. I'm like really? I can look at a guy and girl talking and automatically see his intention but they be to blinded by the fact that this guy approached me and has the confidence to talk to me. Here's an issue, if women just believe that a man must be the one to approach you then you'll only meet players and never meet a good man.

[mindNsoul]

I agree with you to a certain extent. However, shy quiet men do play too. There are many incidents that players are obviouse (at least for me) so I avoid them like the plague. However, I've seen players mastering the conservative/ traditional man persona so they can also sleep with good women. It's not easy sometimes as they're willing to fake it until they get it in a away.

[mindNsoul]

I avoid pretty men. I assume they are not the long relationship type weather players or not. Or I assume they are way too invested in their looks. Both are unattractive. So even when they approach me I gently decline the offer.

[shade_19]

Coz of insecurity in their partners? Mostly probably
U know we men see a lot of stubborn fukbois who just want to have sex and manipulate girls
On omegle, in game servers, in real life
They flirt and do what not and then maybe just say,"u deserve better, sweetheart" and being spammed by fukboi msgs on insta to discord
.. and when a girl is beautiful, she could question if she really is happy and sufficient with her partner... and this insecurity does run in men's minds a lot of times.. as there is also a thing in a lot girls,"that they try to make their bfs jealous" instead of "assuring that their time is most importantly for them" just sparking it more.
So at one step men themselves themselves make their mentally ready for a break up, and don't attach themselves too emotionally coz they r scared to be hurt... turns out, relations don't go so well and wholesome the way they were supposed to be
Only other hand there r girls who r average looking and have such bfs, so they when their partner talks to opposite gender it's not a big deal to them, coz they could be friends and being friends is not big deal also giving men a thought of "why would she be trapped by fukbois"
Not coz of their looks but average girls r more mature since they do and don't get attention, on other hand there r girls who always get attention and it makes them think they r blessed.. and also there r some who treat their bfs like they r favoring them, and men do see these things happening around,
Not a big deal for fukbois , but a deal for men who want to be in a love relationship.

[Anonymous]

Because they are used to everybody kissing their asses and telling them how beautiful they are every day. Most of them have been hearing this since they were 5 years old.

They say they like this but it all too often bores them. While they’ll never admit it they often get bored by people treating them well (especially men).

Being cat like and self destructive they seek out guys who are less interested and/or just all around true assholes. These guys stand out to them because of CHALLENGE.

I learned many years ago to never initially compliment a beautiful woman on the obvious UNLESS she compliments me first. Even then I got to be very careful not to go overboard.

Tease her or compliment her about something else besides her looks. She doesn’t need to verbally know I’m interested. She already has the intuition to figure that out very quickly. Pointing out the obvious too soon more often then not results in the friend zone. Only right before and after sex is when I’ll be verbally be honest about how hot she is. Reason being I know she at least sees me as masculine enough to do it with.

When I acted this way I found I did much better and getting what I want. In fact I managed to pull this off recently with a much younger and very attractive girl. I showed interest but I didn’t admit I had a crush until we started getting physical. I wasn’t an asshole to her either but I was very careful not to over pursue.

I’ll never been nor will I ever will be a “true” asshole. But I can make adjustments to avoid being too nice and/or pleasing.

[hahahmm]

Most women in general have sucky personalities from a male POV. It just happens that it's more noticeable/obvious that the better looking woman is having problems keeping a man. Also, a lot of "modern women" don't value male preferences/opinions. She thinks that his idea of what makes her/women beautiful is unimportant but his ideas do matter since he can vote with his feet. Some women don't like that. They feel entitled to men because they've known so many guys with low standards.

I've seen it here on GAG too.. where a woman will ask "why can't I have male friends when I'm lonely? Why should my boyfriend care?" Then they get upset when I tell them men value loyalty. Some of these women have gone 100% drunk on feminist ideas that are incompatible with keeping a man.

[Nawlins34]

Because relationships don't function on beauty, they work/last with intangibles. Being beautiful/handsome is no indication of a person's ability to set boundaries or to function properly in a relationship. One has to investigate this before committing to anyone and if they don't they welcome failure with said person.

Beauty doesn't require investigating unfortunately, this is part of the reasons why that happens.

If you only pay attention to the beauty of a rose with no regard for the prickles, you deserve the pain and blood loss coming.

Just my opinion, I hope I've helped. Be safe and good luck.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Right on..

[TayTay21]

Girls' looks have nothing to do with the quality of our relationships. One thing that happens with very attractive people is that we have so much choice in who we can date that it can be overwhelming to choose. Guys are literally coming at us all the time wanting our attention. One of my friends told me she didn't know how I kept a positive attitude with all the attention that I get from guys, because so much of it is negative. I put a dating profile on PoF when I was like 17 and got over 1000 message in my first week. A lot of the guys were easy to weed out, but there were a dozen or so who I would have died to go out with. I didn't go out with any of them because it was so hard to tell enough about them to decide.

Everyone has bad relationships. Just because beautiful women have more choice does *not* mean that it's easy for us to make the *right* choice in who we date.

[Jjpayne]

I think they chose a man that most represents perfection.

Strong, confident, rich and charming. Just because they have all of those qualities does not make them treat a girl right. Or any of those qualities for that matter.

As interesting as it is, an overweight guy, that is timid, lower class and qwiky can treat a woman better and make her happy over a man with the best qualities. I think women sometimes pick a man at the surface level and avoid ones that just seem beneath what they are worth when in reality they could just be the diamond I'm the rough

[Jjpayne]

*in the rough

[aliali8]

nobody is attracted to an overweight guy. its kinda like saying, if you do not want to be single, go date an ugly girl that nobody wanna look at

[Jjpayne]

@aliali8 I've seen it personally a girl wrapped around an overweight guy

I'm not saying it's ideal but my point was appearances can be deceiving

[aliali8]

there are some people who do not need physical attraction. but most of us do need some sort of physical attraction for a relationship to work.

[Jjpayne]

@aliali8 that's fair

[TheorionMage]

Most Suitors are infatuated by 'WHAT' you are, rather than with 'WHO' inhabits that physique.

A light that burns TWICE as bright, usually burns but HALF as long.
A snide male retort is:
"I've NEVER bedded an ugly woman, but MY GAWD I've woken up with a few---"

Think of that STAR TREK episode "The VENUS Drug" with Harcourt Fenton Mudd match-making three average women to lonely miners enchanted by the 'glamoury' affect of an alien drug imparts to those women~

[jdonhere77]

I think we're all attracted to a certain type of person. I don't understand the Dynamics but I've heard a lot of people say this we're attracted to the kind of people that we don't need to be with. Beautiful people probably attract toxic people. And summary I would say this we have a natural tendency 2 migrate toward what is not good for us. I do not understand that myself. If you really want a good relationship and you go out with someone that is toxic and drains your energy and drained your pocketbook, run run as fast as you can the complete opposite direction. Do not go back out of curiosity thank God for your lucky stars and stay out of that person's path never too go there again

[Novacane]

Personally, I believe the evil women have the prettiest face, but the reason I say would be that women who are more beautiful are approached more because of their looks, and the guys that will approach her are good looking guys who are just looking to mess around since they know they can get any girl. Therefore she is only in the relationship because of her look and not because of her personality. We live in a world where people rather be with someone good-looking than to be with someone with a good personality, and when these women get treated badly, that is all they know therefore they will not leave those relationships because they want to make it work, leaving them trapped.

[HikerDude]

It takes balls to get with beautiful women. Either that, or it takes a guy who doesn't care about what anyone thinks of him or what he does. A lot of the guys who consistently hit on beautiful women are in the second category. They don't give a fuck about anything, which is why they aren't scared of rejection. In their minds, rejection is just a sign that the girl was stupid or stuck up. But a lot of these guys end up getting with beautiful women, and as you can imagine, someone who doesn't give a fuck about anyone or anything does not a good companion make. These are the dipshits who are prone to cheat, steal from girls, and end up on episodes of Judge Judy as the loser who owes his ex 9 months of back rent. Beautiful girls respond to these a-holes because they get tired of waiting for pussy good guys to work up the courage to talk to them. They only figure out that they're users after it's too late.

[LightyGreen]

Lol girls here are saying it's true and guys here think it's false at least right now.
A beautiful girl attracts all kinds of men so she has a lot of options but she needs to know who has what she wants. Many guys pretend to be what they're not while trying to impress her and it's really hard to tell who's pretending in the early stages. Those who pretend obviously put in more effort to impress her and she chooses him but when things get serious she finds out about his true self and it leads to the end of the relationship.
But that's just one side, some beautiful women have can be arrogant and egotistic. Some people don't realise that there can be many difficult situations in life and relationships don't go smooth without putting effort in them. They feel like they don't need to try because they're already so good and that causes the partner to drift away.

[likelyOK]

This first part is spot on.

[BCA6010]

"Most" of the "beautiful women" I've known had very little else going for them besides their looks, and that doesn't fool most "good" guys who are looking for more wholesome women. Plus a lot of mostly younger women confuse the bad boy behavior for masculinity and get themselves wrapped into toxic relationships, which in turn can psychologically damage the woman.

[Anonymous]

Beautiful women reject all but the best looking men. And the best looking men have so many options that they always think they deserve better than what they have. On the other hand, beautiful women always think they deserve better, too, so they both end up treating each other like garbage and everything falls apart.

[Holisticapproachsara]

I always wondered that as well. I guess we attract low quality of people who fall for our looks. Like honey attracting flies. good men tend to shy away. I learned a lot about myself here on GaG. Because most guys dont know how i look like and they fall for my personality and my weird kinks😝i ended up talking to guys here who would be indeed shy to approach me in real life. And some of them are really amazing

[sensible27]

Not sure how you would quantify more beautiful and bad, they're almost relative and subjective terms. If the point was to be accepted at face value it still could be variety of reason such as non optimum selection or (other) general problems in relationships that people in relationships face. I don't really know..

[ohshee]

I see that to but its with everyone when we meet someone and start getting most people just look to the out side I mean they get to know the person but the out side person beauty is great I love it but I look to the in SIDE first. That's the real person thsts who I would love the out SIDE is all bonus its kinda like the whip cream and cherry,, but some people see it as the main dish and when they find out it's not. ,, of she says thsts not me I'm inside then that when things go wrong