Why do most beautiful women have bad relationships?

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RingOfFire · Accepted Answer

I don't know if it's "Most" beautiful women who have bad relationships, but certainly many do. I could write a book on this topic, but here's a couple reasons.

1. Good looking girls learn at an early age they don' have to do anything else but exist to have an endless line of guys tripping all over each other to get with them. So unlike average or below average looking girls they don't pay much attention to developing the skills needed to hold onto a guy after you are with him. When lobster is 10 cents a pound, you throw away your lobster traps because you can have all you want of it without fishing.

2. Good looking girls know they can get good looking and wealthy guys. Good looking guys have the same kind of problem as good looking girls, they can get all the girls they want (although not as many as a good looking girl... but after 100 people on line it doesn't make much difference).

So when a good looking girl gets with a good looking guy, you have TWO people who haven't developed he relationship skills to keep the relationship going. That spells almost certain doom.

And when a good looking girl gets with a wealthy guy, it is a relationship for the wrong reasons right from the start.

Money doesn't make a good relationship. So there's two of the key reasons so many of these relationships don't work out.

And I'll give you some more from my personal experience of having been in relationships with beautiful women. I am wealthy. And one thing that stresses the relationships for me is that I never know if they are after me or my money. It's very hard to trust anyone. I try not to let them know, but as soon as they see my cars, my house, etc. it's obvious. So I try to put off letting them see anything like that to get a feel for what they are really thinking. Contrary to what most people think, money stresses relationships. It's stressful to be poor but also stressful to be wealthy. And it makes relationships more difficult. A lot of very beautiful women are looking for wealthy men. Why? Because they can. They don't all necessarily have bad intentions, but it's still not a good beginning to a relationship. And I think that's one reason many of their relationships fail.

007kingifrit · Accepted Answer

they don't develop personalities

Mishan97 · Accepted Answer

I don’t want to sound conceited and I don’t think I’m all that but I am aware that I’m attractive and the first serious relationship I had was very physically abusive, emotionally abusive, and extremely toxic. I was cheated on by this guy multiple times as well. I realized it was because he was incredibly insecure. He would get extremely jealous anytime I’d go out anywhere, whether it was to the club, the gym, or even the grocery story. He knew I’d get hit on by guys and this made him paranoid even though I’m a faithful person. He would hit me if he suspected guys were flirting with me. He demanded the passwords to all my social media’s and would get so insecure when he saw messages from other men even though I wouldn’t reply to any. Also, the way we met was a red flag too. It was at a bar and he was staring at me the whole time and mumbled something to me that I couldn’t hear. I got curious so I asked him later what he said and that’s how we met so basically from the first meeting he showed he felt inadequate and insecure to approach me. He’d constantly make remarks about other women and compare me to them to make me insecure because he thought if I knew my worth that I’d leave him eventually. It kinda worked bc I got so insecure while dating him that I started believing that he was the best I could do, even though I’d get hit on all the time. So to answer your question, from my personal experience, a lot of men get insecure when dating a pretty women and for immature men this insecurity manifests itself in abuse and emotional manipulation. My ex was so insecure that he would cheat on me just so he could brag to his friends that he was cheating on “someone so hot”. I know this because those were his exact words when I went through his phone. He thought it made him seem cool that he could get a pretty girl and treat her like shit and she would stay. So basically it’s insecurity and immaturity.

KnightKissedbyFire · Accepted Answer

Beautiful women are often the ones who are recovering from traumas and are also going to be "needy" in a relationship due to how they were treated. Most men see a beautiful "thing" but don't want to stick around when they realize they can't just have a trophy bimbo with no emotions. Beautiful people are usually those who are the most broken and looking for someone help them feel safe.

MrOracle · Answer

1. Generally, only the most confident men will approach her - the others feeling "out of her league." The vast majority of these men are going to be players, who just want to use her for her beauty/body, but they will usually be good-looking, certainly popular, and will be exciting/dangerous, so women tend to be attracted to them and choose them.

2. Many really good-looking women can already get so much just with their looks that they never work on developing any other skills - they don't focus in their education, their social skills, their personality, etc., because they don't feel that they need to. But all of those things help them make better choices with relationships, and without those skills, it's easy for many of them to be used.

mindNsoul · Answer

I think beautiful people struggle in general. It is not a gender thing.

Beautiful people seek generally beautiful partners who are not necessarily equipped with the best character.

Plus if you get used to receiving the attention and being popular it is very difficult to build depth as well. You get used to the attention and the abundance of options that in a way you become entitled.

But receiving attention does not equal receiving love necessarily. As it is easier for fake people to surround beautiful people wanting to be part of the popular club. And just to claim bragging rights. Many of the opposite gender will only be interested in their looks and bodies that telling which one is ginuine is challenging.

I don't think beautiful people are bad people all I'm saying the ones I interacted with usually were surrounded by a shallow group of fake people. Which does not help.

And then you have the entitled beautiful ones who are filled with ego and think they're superior. Who by default people can't deal with them long term or avoid them.

The last type of beautiful people is the type who use their looks and charisma at their advantage. They read and develop competencies and intelligence. But usually those are rarely single to begin with.

Then you have the players who cause the issue by just being shallow and wanting to sleep with every beautiful person they meet.

Many good people have the belief that extremely beautiful partners will cheat. So they avoid them. Or they might feel I timidated at times.

Knighted2170 · Answer

I used to be a professional fashion photographer. Here's a little something I found out from talking to the models.

They don't get approached as much as people may think. Those who do approach are either players or extremely confident men. Some of those confident men are nothing more than man boys.

After they weed out the players and man boys, it leaves them with very few people to choose from.

The reason they are not approached is because a lot of guys think they are already in a relationship or that she is out of their league. Or, they make up an excuse that she is stuck up and not worth their time.

The reason that beautiful (traditionally speaking) women have a hard time with quality relationships is because people can't see a beautiful woman as being both beautiful and intelligent. She can be one, but not the other.

If you are beautiful you are supposed to be air headed, aloof, stuck-up, concerned with only your looks, popularity, and how much money the guy can spend on you.

The slim pickings of men beautiful women have to choose from (those who approach them) mainly see them as arm candy and trophies. The woman is his avenue to more bragging rights. The moment she shows intelligence he sees it as a loss of his status amongst his buddies. Especially if she is more intelligent than he is.

To find an actual quality guy she has to go through a string of bad relationships. This has an affect of jading her and developing a very tuned B. S. meter and "bitch shield" towatds guys who approach. This then validates the excuse guys have about beautiful women that I noted above.

pikuroy · Answer

Either you have no choice or you are spoilt for choice.

1. If a girl is beautiful above average, then she is attracting huge number of fuxkboys as well. The number of fukbois compared to good men is higher in this case.

2. Good men most of the time think that beautiful girls are way out of their league and doesn't approach because they know it will be useless. Whereas fukbois are opposite.

3. Beautiful girls generally keep their guards up. They misbehave and abuse guys at first because they think everyone is for her beauty. This makes the good ones leave but the fukbois keep pursuing. The girl eventually thinks the boy must be really in love.

The only way to break out of this is (i have learned this from my friend) make it absolutely clear that no matter what happens there is no sex before marriage and you are not going to marry right now, and behave in a good and polite way. The fukbois would eventually leave... and would check you out once in a year to see if you have changed or the same way as before.

shade_19 · Answer

Coz of insecurity in their partners? Mostly probably
U know we men see a lot of stubborn fukbois who just want to have sex and manipulate girls
On omegle, in game servers, in real life
They flirt and do what not and then maybe just say,"u deserve better, sweetheart" and being spammed by fukboi msgs on insta to discord
.. and when a girl is beautiful, she could question if she really is happy and sufficient with her partner... and this insecurity does run in men's minds a lot of times.. as there is also a thing in a lot girls,"that they try to make their bfs jealous" instead of "assuring that their time is most importantly for them" just sparking it more.
So at one step men themselves themselves make their mentally ready for a break up, and don't attach themselves too emotionally coz they r scared to be hurt... turns out, relations don't go so well and wholesome the way they were supposed to be
Only other hand there r girls who r average looking and have such bfs, so they when their partner talks to opposite gender it's not a big deal to them, coz they could be friends and being friends is not big deal also giving men a thought of "why would she be trapped by fukbois"
Not coz of their looks but average girls r more mature since they do and don't get attention, on other hand there r girls who always get attention and it makes them think they r blessed.. and also there r some who treat their bfs like they r favoring them, and men do see these things happening around,
Not a big deal for fukbois , but a deal for men who want to be in a love relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they are used to everybody kissing their asses and telling them how beautiful they are every day. Most of them have been hearing this since they were 5 years old.

They say they like this but it all too often bores them. While they’ll never admit it they often get bored by people treating them well (especially men).

Being cat like and self destructive they seek out guys who are less interested and/or just all around true assholes. These guys stand out to them because of CHALLENGE.

I learned many years ago to never initially compliment a beautiful woman on the obvious UNLESS she compliments me first. Even then I got to be very careful not to go overboard.

Tease her or compliment her about something else besides her looks. She doesn’t need to verbally know I’m interested. She already has the intuition to figure that out very quickly. Pointing out the obvious too soon more often then not results in the friend zone. Only right before and after sex is when I’ll be verbally be honest about how hot she is. Reason being I know she at least sees me as masculine enough to do it with.

When I acted this way I found I did much better and getting what I want. In fact I managed to pull this off recently with a much younger and very attractive girl. I showed interest but I didn’t admit I had a crush until we started getting physical. I wasn’t an asshole to her either but I was very careful not to over pursue.

I’ll never been nor will I ever will be a “true” asshole. But I can make adjustments to avoid being too nice and/or pleasing.

hahahmm · Answer

Most women in general have sucky personalities from a male POV. It just happens that it's more noticeable/obvious that the better looking woman is having problems keeping a man. Also, a lot of "modern women" don't value male preferences/opinions. She thinks that his idea of what makes her/women beautiful is unimportant but his ideas do matter since he can vote with his feet. Some women don't like that. They feel entitled to men because they've known so many guys with low standards.

I've seen it here on GAG too.. where a woman will ask "why can't I have male friends when I'm lonely? Why should my boyfriend care?" Then they get upset when I tell them men value loyalty. Some of these women have gone 100% drunk on feminist ideas that are incompatible with keeping a man.

Nawlins34 · Answer

Because relationships don't function on beauty, they work/last with intangibles. Being beautiful/handsome is no indication of a person's ability to set boundaries or to function properly in a relationship. One has to investigate this before committing to anyone and if they don't they welcome failure with said person.

Beauty doesn't require investigating unfortunately, this is part of the reasons why that happens.

If you only pay attention to the beauty of a rose with no regard for the prickles, you deserve the pain and blood loss coming.

Just my opinion, I hope I've helped. Be safe and good luck.

TayTay21 · Answer

Girls' looks have nothing to do with the quality of our relationships. One thing that happens with very attractive people is that we have so much choice in who we can date that it can be overwhelming to choose. Guys are literally coming at us all the time wanting our attention. One of my friends told me she didn't know how I kept a positive attitude with all the attention that I get from guys, because so much of it is negative. I put a dating profile on PoF when I was like 17 and got over 1000 message in my first week. A lot of the guys were easy to weed out, but there were a dozen or so who I would have died to go out with. I didn't go out with any of them because it was so hard to tell enough about them to decide.

Everyone has bad relationships. Just because beautiful women have more choice does *not* mean that it's easy for us to make the *right* choice in who we date.

Jjpayne · Answer

I think they chose a man that most represents perfection.

Strong, confident, rich and charming. Just because they have all of those qualities does not make them treat a girl right. Or any of those qualities for that matter.

As interesting as it is, an overweight guy, that is timid, lower class and qwiky can treat a woman better and make her happy over a man with the best qualities. I think women sometimes pick a man at the surface level and avoid ones that just seem beneath what they are worth when in reality they could just be the diamond I'm the rough

TheorionMage · Answer

Most Suitors are infatuated by 'WHAT' you are, rather than with 'WHO' inhabits that physique.

A light that burns TWICE as bright, usually burns but HALF as long.
A snide male retort is:
"I've NEVER bedded an ugly woman, but MY GAWD I've woken up with a few---"

Think of that STAR TREK episode "The VENUS Drug" with Harcourt Fenton Mudd match-making three average women to lonely miners enchanted by the 'glamoury' affect of an alien drug imparts to those women~

jdonhere77 · Answer

I think we're all attracted to a certain type of person. I don't understand the Dynamics but I've heard a lot of people say this we're attracted to the kind of people that we don't need to be with. Beautiful people probably attract toxic people. And summary I would say this we have a natural tendency 2 migrate toward what is not good for us. I do not understand that myself. If you really want a good relationship and you go out with someone that is toxic and drains your energy and drained your pocketbook, run run as fast as you can the complete opposite direction. Do not go back out of curiosity thank God for your lucky stars and stay out of that person's path never too go there again

Novacane · Answer

Personally, I believe the evil women have the prettiest face, but the reason I say would be that women who are more beautiful are approached more because of their looks, and the guys that will approach her are good looking guys who are just looking to mess around since they know they can get any girl. Therefore she is only in the relationship because of her look and not because of her personality. We live in a world where people rather be with someone good-looking than to be with someone with a good personality, and when these women get treated badly, that is all they know therefore they will not leave those relationships because they want to make it work, leaving them trapped.

HikerDude · Answer

It takes balls to get with beautiful women. Either that, or it takes a guy who doesn't care about what anyone thinks of him or what he does. A lot of the guys who consistently hit on beautiful women are in the second category. They don't give a fuck about anything, which is why they aren't scared of rejection. In their minds, rejection is just a sign that the girl was stupid or stuck up. But a lot of these guys end up getting with beautiful women, and as you can imagine, someone who doesn't give a fuck about anyone or anything does not a good companion make. These are the dipshits who are prone to cheat, steal from girls, and end up on episodes of Judge Judy as the loser who owes his ex 9 months of back rent. Beautiful girls respond to these a-holes because they get tired of waiting for pussy good guys to work up the courage to talk to them. They only figure out that they're users after it's too late.

LightyGreen · Answer

Lol girls here are saying it's true and guys here think it's false at least right now.
A beautiful girl attracts all kinds of men so she has a lot of options but she needs to know who has what she wants. Many guys pretend to be what they're not while trying to impress her and it's really hard to tell who's pretending in the early stages. Those who pretend obviously put in more effort to impress her and she chooses him but when things get serious she finds out about his true self and it leads to the end of the relationship.
But that's just one side, some beautiful women have can be arrogant and egotistic. Some people don't realise that there can be many difficult situations in life and relationships don't go smooth without putting effort in them. They feel like they don't need to try because they're already so good and that causes the partner to drift away.

BCA6010 · Answer

"Most" of the "beautiful women" I've known had very little else going for them besides their looks, and that doesn't fool most "good" guys who are looking for more wholesome women. Plus a lot of mostly younger women confuse the bad boy behavior for masculinity and get themselves wrapped into toxic relationships, which in turn can psychologically damage the woman.

Anonymous · Answer

Beautiful women reject all but the best looking men. And the best looking men have so many options that they always think they deserve better than what they have. On the other hand, beautiful women always think they deserve better, too, so they both end up treating each other like garbage and everything falls apart.

Holisticapproachsara · Answer

I always wondered that as well. I guess we attract low quality of people who fall for our looks. Like honey attracting flies. good men tend to shy away. I learned a lot about myself here on GaG. Because most guys dont know how i look like and they fall for my personality and my weird kinks😝i ended up talking to guys here who would be indeed shy to approach me in real life. And some of them are really amazing

sensible27 · Answer

Not sure how you would quantify more beautiful and bad, they're almost relative and subjective terms. If the point was to be accepted at face value it still could be variety of reason such as non optimum selection or (other) general problems in relationships that people in relationships face. I don't really know..

ohshee · Answer

I see that to but its with everyone when we meet someone and start getting most people just look to the out side I mean they get to know the person but the out side person beauty is great I love it but I look to the in SIDE first. That's the real person thsts who I would love the out SIDE is all bonus its kinda like the whip cream and cherry,, but some people see it as the main dish and when they find out it's not. ,, of she says thsts not me I'm inside then that when things go wrong

likelyOK · Answer

They don’t those are just the ones you are seeing, maybe many of the ones you don’t see are already married or hang in different circles, more religious or whatever. Being beautiful does not guarantee you a good life you can be disadvantaged by family tragedy and disfunction

Mswonderous · Answer

I feel it’s because we catch so many guys attention and they only date us because of our appearance not thinking about if they really like who we are and when they find out more about us and realize they don’t like us for who we are they cheat or it turns toxic

boboho · Answer

OK. I guess it's because they get the chance to have a new partner more easily when they break up. So.. more men met her. Certainly will experience things Bad. Like too many opportunities. Good and bad cannot be filtered out. Unless this woman develops herself and her mindset. See more broadly even from the experiences of others. Maybe she will be more careful to choose a partner

Avicenna · Answer

I'm not sure to what extent that is true, but I think a large part of it is choosing the guys that are more glamorous so that they feel they are getting the best deal they can. This includes his looks.

To show you how ingrained this thinking is among lots of women, my stepmother to this day still discourages me from dating women she thinks aren't attractive enough for me (I don't ask her opinion, she volunteers it).

loveslongnails · Answer

So many variables to consider. "Sometimes", a beautiful woman can be very conceited and self-centered, self-absorbed and even narcissistic. That will kill a relationship. Sometimes they expect too much from their SO's, or their expectations are unreasonable, so they become difficult to be with. Sometimes... they're just plain bitches !!

MADIQ · Answer

Because most beautiful women think that their beauty will do the rest for them , they don't give enough good aspects to a relationship. Maybe, you should have asked WHY BEAUTIFUL WOMEN HAVE SHORT LIVED RELATIONSHIPS? Because they want everything to be under their feet. They feel entitled to be adored more than normal girls do thus they end up feeling that their boyfriends aren't giving them enough admiration.

Anonymous · Answer

They're probably used to getting their way and being popular because of their looks.
Relationships require a person to love someone other than themselves and to compromise and sacrifice in some ways.
Beautiful people are not always the most mature or capable.
Some of them didn't have to develop much of a social game because of their looks.

hellacray · Answer

Cause they're fake as hell.

Beautiful people try to fit in and follow the crowd. They're probably doing things they don't really like just to get other people's approval. They lack originality.

I can't tell you how many pretty girls all like the same crap.

They listen to the same music, share the same hobbies, and even dress alike.

Not all of them are like this but generally speaking this is sort of the case.

0112358 · Answer

Do you have any data suggesting they have worse outcomes or are you basing this on what you observe with celebrities? Celebrities are not just average attractive people.

magiusX26 · Answer

often its reasons such as trying to base it all off finding someone who looks as good as themselves, thinking that everything will work out because of how "good" they themselves look (used to getting by in life off their looks), they look too hard past looks/ over analyse personality, or lack some sort of fundamental aspect of intellingence to detect major personality flaws in a potential partner (something many people in general have a problem with too).

Horny-ashell · Answer

I don't believe that anyone looks for a bad relationship but that doesn't mean that it can't turn out to be bad and unfortunately some fall for them but they usually don't see it the way it is. And it's really hard to explain it to them and the more you try to help them out of it the more they will stay it's really a bad situation and very difficult to get them to actually see it it's a very long process to get them out of.

Jusin · Answer

Because a lot of confident guys are players and use girls like that just for sex. They see it as a sport and not much else. Plenty of nice guys are shy and less sociable but treat women infinitely better because they value them more.

PeterCharie1991 · Answer

Cos they like attractive men attractive people like themselves that are attractive , and attractive people think theyre god's gift and think they're better and always looking for someone better , ps before I get a bashing I know not all attractive people are like that

RaijuRainBird · Answer

I think it's the 'Jauggernaut' effect. Honest. Lots of guys invest more effort into girls they percieve as ugly because they think they'll have less competition and be easier. But the opposite is true because of that (for now).

YHL6965 · Answer

I guess settling not having the right standards to pick the right guy (s) among the sea of guy that will be attracted to them. Typically, if they go for the more confident guys, it's more likely they will end up with players, manipulators and things like that. Some women do not make the effort to look for a quality guy and only sit back until they pick a guy that goes after them.

msc545 · Answer

They tend to have bad relationships because they think that their appearance entitles them to special privileges and deference, which is very obnoxious and makes others angry. Also, they have profound hypergamy and are always looking for a taller, richer, better-looking man and are never satisfied with who they have.

Solo22 · Answer

Not always true, but women tend to overlook personality for looks. Tall, Athletic, Big dick, it gets them every time. A girl will put up with a broke ass abusive dude for a while cause she "loves" him, but really its the physical stuff she doesn't want to let go of.

InferiorElegy · Answer

They know they can choose any guy they want and so they go for mister sexy with bad boy vibes because she can change him and when she can't change him she labels him as another shit relationship. Maybe try going for substance over the look of the item. I mean you're not going to by a shit burger because they make it look fantastic over a burger that looks like shit but is fucking amazing right, so why do people do this when it comes to dating?

JuneLady · Answer

They tend to focus on the wrong things.
Beauty leads to the need to become more beautiful. Thus, their focus becomes on looks and vanity, and they are attracted to men who focus on that in women. Bad foundations

Anonymous · Answer

I guess I’m what some might call beautiful. Or at least people tell me that I’m hot or sexy or whatever and I have been in terrible relationships. Being pretty doesn’t mean you don’t make bad choices. And it does mean you attract a lot of the wrong kind of attention, probably earlier than you were able to deal with it. Young me was too trusting and there was no shortage of guys who were interested in the pretty, dumb, easy girl.

Citizenkirk · Answer

They don't. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I am very arrogant about my interpretation of that word, because it takes me years of close bonding with someone I deeply care about, too identify and recognize that beauty, which has nothing

TOTEMPLASTER · Answer

Women who KNOW that they are beautiful invariably become self-absorbed narcissists and find it hard to create meaningful relationships based on equality: they MUST be the star.

Anonymous · Answer

Because there are 2 types of women 1. Attractive and they know it and therefore know the can treat every guy like s*** because there'll always be another guy in line. Or 2. Ugly and nice to every guy because she knows her choices are very limited and has learned not to take people for granted.
Which one are you? 🤣

Ripper_E · Answer

I don't know where you are getting that information from but IF that were true, it's probably because they make poor decisions when it comes to men.

tennisgirly · Answer

Most beautiful women tend to have bad relationships because they aren't focused on real love and their inner personalities- they're entirely centered on physical appearance and attraction.

RawIronhide · Answer

Because beautiful men tend to be on a power trip, they can be extremely entitled and even narcissistic. Good guys know what it's like to be bottom dog. Namean shorty.

VIVANT · Answer

Well VERY attractive people get picked for superficial reasons At least there's no way of knowing. I can see this being problematic. And relationships can be based on superficial basis.

slatyb · Answer

Why do you believe that? When famous people have difficulties, we hear about it. We don't hear anything about the celebrities who have long stable marriages.

Flower7 · Answer

The guys who are attracted to her are probably there for the wrong reasons.

nana2121 · Answer

because sadly we run after guys that make us suffer while we ignore those who are amazing and really do want us.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

It’s the inner beauty that will last and count and will have healthier relationship. most outer beauty without inner beauty will only be used.

fonduegirl · Answer

Because of the effect "what looks good is good". They can't live up to their beauty. That is, society has higher expectations with them. Can't speak for all, true for mum.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Because beauty is subjective and understanding that, a beautiful woman can be dogged all her childhood and grow up with severe insecurities.

Anonymous · Answer

because they lay down their guard for most trash men and not men who actually wana treat them well and by that all he has to do is say i love you and you should belive that but you dont so obviously whos in bad here

Mariana1097 · Answer

Lack of confidence plus it could of started out good then get into your partner then things happen. That they don’t like themselves. I didn’t have confidence in myself after finding out I was product of an affair.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Has nothing to do with if your beautiful or not. Its all the about attitude you have and selecting the right person for you.

annie6815 · Answer

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder so, what may be beautiful to one is not beautiful to another

normalice · Answer

Normal self-aware guys are generally too timid to approach them.

bobbidigi1 · Answer

Because they meet guys that are very attractive. Must guys that spend more time in the mirror than the S. O most likely have insecurities and belittle others to compensate the hate for themselves

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Because most beautiful women have poor taste in choosing men.. and usually don’t want a boring, mundane characteristic in a “bad boy” and those two don’t mix

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