What makes a man pursue a girl?

Question

Ex. Looks, personality, etc what about the looks? Or the personality?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

There have only been 6 women who I've felt an intense attraction to. They varied in height, age, and ethnicity. One a tall (5'10") red headed Celtic woman 7 years older another a shorter (5'2") Hawaiian/Vietnamese woman 1 year younger. The others were within 4 years and 2 were European, 1 Middle Eastern, and 1 African American around 5'6". The others were mostly too young or too old, but the Hawaiian Woman was just 1 year younger. I pursued her for a while until I found out she did not share beliefs. Ultimately I can only pursue a Christian Woman, but I cannot know that immediately without knowing a woman for a while. Physically Her pheromones were a match for me and physically it was mutual. However, because we were not compatible on beliefs the relationship did not work. I've been set up with women I didn't feel it for, but I appreciated their positive attributes, but the way I felt with the 6 is the feeling I'm looking for coupled with shared beliefs. So far hasn't happened or the age gap was too high.

Citizenkirk · Accepted Answer

You haven't had this conversation with your parents yet, okay. I'm going to skip the whole birds and bees and Stork with baby's b******* and get down to the nitty-gritty about human reproduction, and how babies are made. You see, a girl has 23 chromasomes in her genetic makeup, and a boy has an equal amount. Mother nature, hardwired all invertebrates with hard-ons for males in hard up for hard-ons for females, as a means of preventing Extinction by bringing those 46 chromasome together. Since humans are incapable of asexual reproduction, that means that if a girl isn't pursuing you, than it's up too you too pursue her, as any bonehead with a boner will tell you.

omgitskris · Accepted Answer

I think it is all of the above. However, I think a lot of times a guy is first attracted by a woman's looks. Men can be a... visual being. Once they start to get to know the woman a little more, then they start to pursue her even more because she is not just a pretty face and body.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

What I think is the things you use to attract your man determines the type of man you will attract. If you flaunt your money you will get a gold digger, you flaunt your body you will get a cheater, you flaunt your submission you will get a tyrant.

rjroy3 · Answer

1. Pretty face
2. In shape body
3. Well kept appearance
4. Feminine
5. Individual personality
6. All else

That list isn't exactly in order for every guy, but it's close and they all matter to guys. Some extra things on the list for some guys like religion.

Most guys will also tend to go down a bit in the first 3 if a girl is immaculate in the other departments. Like a guy doesn't simply go after the HOTTEST girl. Not for relationships at least.

Guys look at the overall package. But looks are very much a part of that. Make the best of what you have

curiousscorpio89 · Answer

Initially it's a woman's looks and how she carries herself that spark an attraction. But for me to want to pursue a woman. I study her subtly when we first meet to see if she has personality characteristics that I find attractive or charming. And it's not really an exact science. I can be attracted to a woman for many different reasons. I would say feminism, humility, intelligence, and kindness are probably at the top of my list. Once I spend enough time around her and I sense a mutual attraction, then I have no issue being the party that makes the first move. A good sense of humor goes a long ways too.

hahahmm · Answer

Men are very visual. But with experience we tend to make that a secondary to personality/character. A lot of modern women don't want to ever be told that a man's preferences are different than what she thinks it should be or that he doesn't want to date a woman (for serious) who dresses 100% like a street hooker. They want to argue about it and get upset. The older you get the more the guy's preferences matter because the successful guys value themselves and won't give you whatever you want just because you look "sexy". If you want a more traditional guy check out my mytake about a Lady. If not then skip it.

MarkRet · Answer

Partly, it's because guys are expected to, and they're pushed by society to chase women. If you don't, then people look down on you as weird or queer. Then there's the sexual desire. girls have that aura of femaleness that guys want, and having a girl in their life can give them a feeling of peace and completeness.

Finchie40 · Answer

Her eyes and personality , yes her looks are part of it but not the number 1 thing There are a lot of beautiful girls on the outside but the inside is what really matters , if she has a heart and doesn’t think her shit doesn’t stink , if I feel she is down to earth and has a good heart I would approach her and show interest

Walt832 · Answer

Looks nice, have brains, education and specially with a good attitude.

Body shape I really don't care honestly. :). I prefer a good shape of heart :). I want to spend my life with a lovely female. 🥰.

I am still single lol 🤷‍♂️. I swear I may find my female when I get older. Pretty sure she is doing the samething I am doing. Staying home watching HBO Max while hoping to find a boyfriend or girlfriend. In the mean time we both eating strawberry ice cream 😆.

shade_19 · Answer

I'm not really interested in gender, religion and looks
In my case it's understanding compatibility , personality and morals
In terms of Looks to me means that the person just keeps themselves clean and hygenic, that's sufficient
U can't change ur face

exitseven · Answer

I look at things like fitness (not looking like a model but athletic), how nice they act. If it feels like they are "present" when we go out. There is nothing more annoying than when a date spends the whole night looking at her phone. I appreciate humor and kindness. A girl does not have to look like a movie star but they need to be able to relate to me.

Anonymous · Answer

Mostly personality. Looks matter as well but for me at least the face and weight is the #1 thing. As long as your relatively fit then to doesn't matter if you don't have big boobs or butts lol. The eyes and hair are things that draw me in lookswise. But as for personality I really like just cute lovey dovey girls that just want to love and be loved.

Browneye57 · Answer

It's both. Love can't start 'till attraction does, and then there needs to be a conversation.
The NUMBER ONE thing a guy looks for is HER level of attraction and desire for HIM.
Everything else is secondary, for nothing is going anywhere fast without it.

Mark987 · Answer

biggest thing is personality.. and the way she carries herself... My most important thing is I like a woman that is humble ( she treats everyone equally).. likes to laugh... honest and trustworthy. I've learnt over my dating life looks are important, because you have to be attracted to the person. Personality over looks for me

art84 · Answer

How she looks and dresses for starters and her personality so a mixture of both. For me it's how she acts whether it's being quiet, shy, awkward those are what would attract me to a women. As for looks mainly dressing modestly and not showing off her body. Has a great pair of breast and curvy and a nice butt. Loves herself on the inside and out and accepts herself as she is. She wants to better herself in her life and improve herself.

TOTEMPLASTER · Answer

You have to 'pursue' a girl if you just can't introduce yourself under appropriate circumstances and ask her to lunch, dinner, a snack, to have a Timmy's, or for a quickie in the back of you All-black Suburban.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Dropping her purse and chasing after her to hand it back.

However, I would always take personality over looks.

Red head, feisty, personality, confidence, outgoing,

none of that apart from hair starts off with attractiveness etc

TayTay21 · Answer

As someone who's been on both sides of the fence, it's def physical. Don't ever think it's anything else. Personality counts for relationships, but interest comes from physical appearance.

Anonymous · Answer

Looks and presentation first, inside second. For me and I know this sounds shallow, but I have to be physically attracted first. So her presentation style and first impression tells me a lot. I tend to gravitate for girls who dress nice, smell nice, nice hair wear, wear nice clothes (skirts, dresses, heels, etc), def nice nails done (I hate and am turned off immediately gross boy hands and nails!). Then i want to get to know her and learn about her and personality etc.

forever-or-never · Answer

Energy. If she's fun and has a nice personality, and i feel comfortable talking to her, Id pursue her. Looks matter, to an extent but aren't everything

Anonymous · Answer

For me it’s not looks it’s two factors. How she sees me and her body. For Example I’m 100% negro and this fine ass columbian was eye balling me in the gym with a huge ass on her. Turns out her husband was away and she needed some long black salami. Personality doesn’t matter when you look at a girl. by the way You can only know a person’s personality when you have conversations

VenusXO · Answer

I obviously don't know what makes a man pursue a woman, but I would have to assume it's a mixture of confidence and looks. Men tend to be more visual

serious · Answer

A lot of factors, it is tough to say which ones will make a man pursue a woman. It can be subjective also.

EyebrowChewie · Answer

Because he noticed some grass on the back of her dress and wanted to pat it off and allow her to thank him for his kindness.

Gosceewual · Answer

99.9% looks for me cos I don’t really understand what’s good about personality or why people desire them, I don’t care what a girls personality is like... good or shit, it makes no difference to me

maybe I’m jus a psychopath

boggboss · Answer

First the looks then personality makes him stay simple

Juxtapose · Answer

I don't pursue women because they refuse to make the first move themselves and I don't like passive, boring people. Being bisexual KICKS ASS! I have OPTIONS!

tara_w · Answer

usually guys go for looks, looks and looks. brains, attitude, education, etc all come second

broken_heart_at_48 · Answer

All guys have their own taste in women the only thing that we all have is a pecker and ultimately it's the pecker that makes us pursue her

dragoblack · Answer

Each guy is different, but it's mainly physical attraction, then getting to know your personality, then interests.. etc. physical attraction is the starter regardless of gender or sex

TheAfrikan · Answer

Personality come in the first place once you do get to know her pretty well ad you feel that connection and trust then nothing beats up that
But once we are meeting them for there first time we are driven by their looks and style.

RHK36 · Answer

Bit of everything for me, honestly it's just a gut instinct. I rarely ever pursue and just let it play out.

Paul09 · Answer

Physically fit, great personality, empathy, caring, respectful, fun, funny, gives a fuk about nature and everything in it. Gives me their full attention (I do not remember what that's like).

CynicalWriter · Answer

Boredom... pure boredom. I pursued my wife out of boredom. My friends knew I am Asexual but wanted to see me in a relationship. So I chose an Asexual woman to avoid the stupidity of sex. I pursued her for her mind.

beastmode1 · Answer

I look at the way they act if a girl show her family respect then I know she will show me respect another thang is I search my heart if I find someone I love Im going after her if that mean walking through a mine field I will bc of love

CaptainSmartass · Answer

Well, I go for both. A woman has to have the looks and the personality, like the lovely @melissamarie9614, for example.  Simples...

certifiedalphafemale · Answer

100% confidence, being ambitious, having good social skills, doing rather than talking, and obviously KNOWING HER WORTH!

hhH2traveler · Answer

First if all its the invitation, no one likes to be rejected.

thecuriousone2020 · Answer

I pursue a girl because of her looks and personality.🙂

RingOfFire · Answer

It's a combination of looks, personality, intrigue, aura, spirit and soul and je ne sais quoi.

carmanCA · Answer

Her smile, the way she looks at me, her voice, the way she moves, how she socializes

zagor · Answer

The combination of the whole package. Unless you mean just for a night, then it's looks.

Unit1 · Answer

If she steals his money, then  he will  pursue her.

JSmuve · Answer

If she's got that fat ass, tight figure, and full DD tits

townhouse · Answer

The way they carry themselves emotionally mentally physically her character also the eyes and dimples

Jupiter1 · Answer

It starts with physical attraction but her accommodating personality is what clinches the desire to pursue.

nathan1403 · Answer

Usually at the beginning it's looks since you might not know them yet, but if they keep pursuing the girl after it most likely means that they've found a mix between both personality and looks.

Hedonistic-1 · Answer

Looks initiate the pursuit. Personality decides if that pursuut is worth "Pursuing!"

Cowboy6666 · Answer

longer hairs, good personality, sense of humour, beautiful smile, loyalty, open mindedness

imfreeze95 · Answer

It’s different for every man each one has different traits they like.

dpy87 · Answer

Looks first but the way they make you feel. So ya their personality and vibe they give off.

Wowboi · Answer

Her uniqueness. Anything similar to the rest of women is off putting

EaterPeter · Answer

Man pursue a girl? Her age. She mist be 18 . Don't see him as too old weak or bad person.

Anonymous · Answer

The way a man feels about a girl. If the man really feels like he wants to be a better person cause of the girl is why he wants her. Looks and personality are also pluses

Anonymous · Answer

For me, it is when we have that 'click' think happen.

Bhavin2184 · Answer

Both.. Looks and personality

ohshee · Answer

A cookies and milk will work

guesswhoseback · Answer

What do you exactly mean by “pursue”?

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

It depends on the man. Not on the girl.

VikingWarLord · Answer

Big tits, slim waist and big ass

Floppy2112 · Answer

Looks, mutual interest, then personality.

Meldrum · Answer

All of the above and more.

msc545 · Answer

Looks and personality.

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