Girls, when a guy who doesn't show he doesn't care, doesn't give a f**k, or is whatever about everything does it make him more attractive?

[Anonymous]

So, I have been reading and listening to the book "The subtle are of not giving a f*ck" by mason mason. And, it's very enlightening after listening to the book for a few hours, and I would recommend everyone else to give it a listen to or read, however just be prepared for the profanity language the author uses.
So, there was this part about women, gave example of guys and what ever, but mentions the guy who is whatever about everything, doesn't show he cares, or just straight up doesn't give a flying F***. And, this guy gets all of the hot girls and gets laid all the time, instead of the nice guy. I mention this because I was always hit with the nice guy comment or he's way to nice. I will always be the nice guy no matter what, but once I read and listening to this book I wanted to give this "i don't care attitude" and just see where it takes me during this pandemic stuff also I'm pretty bored from school stuff.
It's been 2 weeks since I have trying the "I don't care attitude" and it's been working, a girl who friend zoned me who I talked to here and there called me to ask me out to brunch, then a girl I matched with on tinder is willing to drive 2 hours away from me to come see me, hook up, and send me nudes whenever I want. I don't know what I'm doing, but I'm in aw with every thing and stunned,. I passed the book on to my friends and the same effect happened. My friends are really sensitive, super nice guys at hear, and caring, but got with certain girls that would give us time of day, but this little tweak really made a huge difference.

So, ladies what is up with this?

Has any dudes experienced this or already do this

this is attractive

not attractive

I'm a guy who already does this

[comberchick]

Cause most of us are headcases , which hardly any woman will admit. I believe that it is from having a bad experience with men early on which damaged us into thinking that that kind of treatment or relationship what we want or deserve
because of society putting this bad guy image in front of us that that's the cool thing and we accept that it's what relationships should look like. or we have issues with our fathers or mothers and we are trying to subconsciously recreate either a horrible relationship they had in front of us or a horrible relationship that we had with them I don't know it's messed up either way but I know myself I'm guilty of doing that passing up on a great guy for the a******.
I know as you get older you do get tired of the guys ghosting you or treating you like crap or all the really good ones are taken but it doesn't make it any easier to date a good guy cuz we at this point are too old and we don't really know how to function properly in a relationship so if we did get a good guy we probably just f*** it up solution I don't know if there's one sorry I probably wasn't much help

[SamFromFL]

Refreshing perspective, something I had not considered. Sounds like you are saying girls are often jaded by multiple bad experiences.

[Kas19]

I read the book, still have it. I think someone that is too apathetic is annoying to be around. But I love people that don't tense up like me, or just go with the flow. I'm naturally a pretty tense person on the inside, so having someone balance me out would be great.

[Citizenkirk]

Clarification or confirmation on double negative required to answer this question, cuz I'm not certain whether you realize that you double negative means that this guy is being extremely polite and respectful to you, by not doing these horrible things. Because it double negative the he doesn't not show you these things means he's being a perfect gentleman, and is completely free of imperfections or faults. If you didn't realize that your question was a double negative, and he in fact, does these things around you, then I'd say "don't 🚫waste your time with him."

[Anonymous]

Yes, it’s attractive with guys who don’t give a fuck. Ofc they have to give a fuck about some things, things that contribute to their attractiveness. But a general ”Zero fucks given” attitude is attractive because you want to tame the guy to care about YOU then and also learn from him to care less about stuff. Life will be easier then it seems like.

What have you done to make these girls think you ”dont give a fuck”? Just curious :D

[CriticalDiscourse]

No. I don't like emotionally unintelligent men who like to play those weird insecurity mind games with people. It's an indicator of an abuser, usually.