What do you all think about the 11th man THEORY?

[coachTanthony]

Check out the video below to see what the 11th man theory is all about.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5hRwPhvjgW0

[Anonymous]

True ish. The outcome is real, but I think the story of the theory is off. It's not that girls don't want a man who treats them well or that they want a man that doesn't care. They want the best ratio they can get.

The most accurate I've heard which I 100% agree with is that girls want a alpha male that other girls want, but for some reason he wants her over the other girls and decides to be faithful to her. He has all the strong, exciting alpha characteristics of a man who could be a wild sex crazed lover and all the options. But he doesn't take women up on it.

That's the ideal but for a lot of girls they can't find that so they look for the best balance between the alpha lover and the guy who will stick around to raise the kids.

The not give a fuck isn't the attractive part. It's all the social cues that indicates he is "that guy" and not being overly eager about one girl is one sign he's that guy.

If a guy is super eager about her right away she has to ask herself why he's so eager. Ultimately she decides because he's not that guy and finds that type of man or in this case the 10 men unattractive.

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, some people - men and women - want the one that they can't, or aren't supposed to, have. I have a guy friend who I introduced to online dating about four months ago. This guy has everything a woman our age wants: he has hair, he's healthy and not wrinkled up and wizened, he's extroverted, confident, and very successful financially. He has dated a couple of women who are very attractive and successful but the one he wants to chase after is the one that turned him down.

i think dating comes down to a simple dichotomy: there are people of both sexes who are happy when they are in the hunt and are less happy when they have "captured their prey." There are others who engage in the hunt so that they can find a partner and THEN they are happy. The eleventh man theory is another way of describing those who most enjoy the hunt.

[ct1243]

Wrong ! Most of us do like nice men. It’s the approach that makes a man less convincing to us. Most women do want nice guys a lot of women aren’t use to that. This is because a lot of men don’t court women anymore. So women respond to men how they treat them.

[purplepoppy]

I prefer the 11 o'clock man. If you haven't pulled by then you grab any guy who's left.

[coachTanthony]

Ha ha ha

[JosephPit]

There is some sense to it. Especially in the example of the video. If there are already 10 guys doing the same thing, and one guy does it differently, the 11th guy will stand out from the others. He will trigger her attention and intrigue her.

Chances are that when there is only 1 guy who is being nice and making sure the girl has a great time, the nice guy will still attract her.

I feel like in modern times a lot of nice guys have taken the words of girls to seriously. When you hear a girl talk about what she wants in a guy is that he treats her well, is nice to her, suprises her and all those things, but is also his own man and stands up for himself. The big problem is that the nice guys hear the first part of that sentence and think they just have to be nice to a girl to seduce her. The catch here is that girls want to be treated like this but only when they have already fallen for a guy

[Rockingjoe]

So, why don't girls say that in the first place? What is the approach and/ or way to get the women to like you back and approach you instead of you doing the approach

[JosephPit]

@Rockingjoe I have no idea, women are strange creatures from time to time...

I think there might be some truth in the video concerning the approach. I don’t have any actual other techniques to give to you right now...

[Smoothing]

Some how, I find a bit of truth in this. But I think it is explained out of context in this movie.

It is not because women don't want to be treated nice. But no body, man or woman likes being sucked up to in that manner, it causes a person to question, "why is everyone treating me this way?" " What is it that they want?" All of a sudden it feels fake and the nice people are up to something. Some body walks in to the room and they act different. That is refreshing and it is an escape from the alterior motive niceness.

[EssenceOfLight]

Leaving a slimy coating like an eel has never been a good strategy to gain attention of girls. There are is time and places to show affection and making compliments, but it has to be credible. Ergo, you have to be credible and receiving person has to take your words seriously for this specific kind of communication. Otherwise it's just "slime"

[coachTanthony]

Yeah nobody likes slime.

[Teyfet]

I know most women like to be helpful (which is the overarching/dominant archetype at play here), & that can a be good thing, but when the desire to help becomes distorted it can become a problem for them or the person in whom they are interested.

This theory is essentially a version of the Bad Boy Theory (which is very common): Some Women like to change people - actions, behaviors, opinions. For instance, in the 11th Man, the woman wants to change the man's opinion of her. I really don't understand the mentality of the Changer. I wonder what in their life made them that way. What made them want to try and "fix" some men.

Generally speaking, those (Changers) are not the women I'm interested in, and, thankfully, I've not run into many.

[ThePolishKnight37]

It is true. I worked ion the health club industry and always tried to stay professional. When a good looking girl would come in the guys would go in attack mode. I stayed professional. It turns out that got their interest up in me. They wanted to figure out why I never went in attack mode. I got quite a few dates that way, but I also found a lot of shallow women in the process.

[Neal_Anblome]

Some women are really turned on when someone ignores them, but I'd argue that you want to avoid such women either way. But also, those first 10 guys sound needy and thirsty as fuck, so maybe that's the real issue. We would need a concrete situation to evaluate, and even then it wouldn't apply to all women

[Celtero]

Heh, excellent clip.

You can either join the army that feeds her ego or you can be the one thing that inspires doubt in herself.

I've experienced it here. A hot girl posts a selfie, asks you to rate, or some general advice... What is the most likely to get a response? Good, heartfelt advice? Relating to it with a personal story? A mediocre joke? Or something mean?

[Princess_Kate]

Something to it. We don't want a door mat, we enjoy the chase too.

[cheapshotbob]

sam seems to have gotten smarter since frodo went too the undying lands
maybe he was held back by frodo

[Iron_Man]

I like the 12th man theory at the football stadiums

[SirJohn42]

I agrere with most of it. Women do like the bad boys over nice guys.

Women know what they like. They know who it is they want.

In the end id rather be myself either she likes me as who I am or not.

[Smegskull]

I've seen it done with 3. 11 sounds a bit excessive and wasteful to me.

[bamesjond0069]

True. I always ignore bitches at parties and bars and it works pretty well.

[SamFromFL]

The theory is wrong

[msc545]

There is no video here.

[Waldoe]

what video? I do not see a video or a link

[Slim57]

Sounds about damn right

[Anonymous]

I don't know what is 11th man THEORY?

[Calgarydirty69]

I don't know the theory

[Opinion Owner]

Why you don't know the theory 🤨