Why do men date gold diggers and avoid women who have their life in order?

[zeitgeist057]

Gold diggers tend to be more attractive not because they have focused on having their lives in order, but because they have focused on making themselves attractive to men.

I'm no expert on gold diggers, because women who try to get their hands on my wallet are not attractive to me, in fact it turns me off. But from my community (which has a lot of money in it), I observe that many women who have few resources are able to attract men who do with physical beauty and being amenable to his command. They appear to take good care of themselves, focusing on fitness and self-development, but also spending the necessary time attending to their sugar daddy. Many of them tend to be 15 or more years younger than their partners.

Again, I'm not an expert and could be dead wrong, but this is what it seems like to me.

"Women who have their life in order" sounds like a good thing, but if she's a workaholic, out of shape, or just has an unfortunate face, it might not be enough to attract most men.

[Not_Average]

These memes are toxic. Money is impressive because it showcases ambition, the ability to provide, and security. Men and women are different, and therefore value each other differently. Men don’t really give a single fuck about how much money a woman makes. We want a woman who’s loyal, submissive, and complements our life in a way that makes us both happy. A woman who’s passionate, selfless, shares our interest, and can relate to you through the turbulent life circumstances that get thrown your way. Women value men based on their leadership. They want a strong man who can provide security and be that rock that they can lean on. They want a man who will make a great father and be able to
hold together a family unit.

These feminist values you preach make women and men miserable. Look at the divorce and depression rate. It’s clearly not working lol. These people in relationships like this typically feel unfulfilled and build resentment. I’ve never met a strong married couple who actually thinks this way. Usually it’s some submissive beta male and a woman who resents him because it, but typically convince themselves that his inability to the lead the relationship is actually strength.

I’m honestly so glad I don’t have to deal with these feminist types anymore lol

[Xoxocutekitty]

Simple, gold diggers are pretty paid customer service bots whereas women who have their life together often have strong opinions and are ready to walk out based on their convictions.

Respect both, it's just as hard to fake being easygoing as it is to be lonely on a Friday night because the prince charmings in your area low key suck.

Men that date gold diggers often feel a sense of control, that their money is going towards an enjoyable experience, one not interrupted with someone trying to be right, or constantly trying to 'impress' a stranger.

[crazyish]

How are gold diggers able to achieve a man's attention in the first place? Their youth and their looks. Maybe their skills in the bedroom? They know they are preferred by men. They believe they can manipulate men this way. Which they do end up doing to some men. The ones who are superficial and easily drawn in by looks. Not all men are like this though. Plus I would like to point out that women who have their shit together and can take care of themselves should already be a regular standard for all women. It shouldn't be looked at as a bonus.

[jennifer_bloom]

Woman who earn their own money expect to be served while woman who do not earn their own money are interested in serving the guy they are dating

[Anonymous]

Because gold diggers chase the men, make them feel needed and liked, and aren't always obvious about their intentions. They aren't usually as afraid to show their interest in a guy, since if it fails, they can just go to the next one. Most guys avoid golddiggers, but when the only women who actively let's her interest be known is the golddigger, while the more accomplished ones spend little to no time chasing, doesn't it make sense that the goldigger is the one they'd pick?

Women do the same thing. If they like a guy, and even if they know the guy likes them, but never makes a move, they will go for the easier guy who does make a move. Humans in general take the path of least resistance.

[SirJohn42]

would never date a gold digger. Not worthy time or intelligence.
They are the most shallow people.
They dont make good dates let alone good relationships. Dont like high maintence women or to plastic. Most do not have empathy or they are to selfish.
Plus you stop giving them a free ride or you find hardships they walk away.

I prefer women who can take care of themselves. Know how to work for a living. Its ok if they deoend on you for things but aren't demanding. I find these women more kind hearted and have empathy more.

[RationalMale]

You might indeed have your life in order. It doesn't mean someone's going to find you attractive or likable though, and no one owes you dates, sex, or a relationship.

Instead of worrying about gold diggers, why not spend some time self reflecting on why your dating life might not be going how you want?

1. Are you likeable and have good social skills? If not, you can practice and improve.
2. Are you healthy, fit, and attractive? If not, you can eat right, work out, and dress well.
3. Are you happy with life and yourself or are you hoping someone will fulfill you? You can get hobbies, find goals in life, enjoy family time, and be a happy person.

[MCheetah]

Notice how the caption said "a man with money is a bonus," rather than it's irrelevant, unintentionally ruining her own own point and implying all women are some level of gold diggers. I find that hilarious and a woman accidentally telling the truth.

And only if the man knows she's a good digger is it really really bad. But the irony is, the best men are the ones smart enough not to waste money trying to buy their way into a stranger's. pants or heart, and as the caption implies, women won't want those "sexist" men, anyway.

[Qdbrown]

Let me get this straight, women can get what they want without much effort, and have a group of men willing to pay is a bad thing? Yes, it's sad, but encouraged.

Just look up Breffault's Law and Hypergamy. Women like most other female animals seek out the best partner that protect and provide. The provide is an expectation of humans. Must get a corporate license from the state and loan up all the property (the best) and vehicles to get by. Credit cards will be necessary too. So the man is enslaved, and doesn't fight the system, cause problems, get out of control, or just leave.

The say there is two kinds of prostitution. The type where you pay her to leave, and the type you pay monthly installments. Is it any wonder that some girls specialize to ensure no money is left on the table.

[NetSapien]

Perhaps it's based on the perspective.

I've consciously dated gold diggers, though I'd never suggest one is marriage material, but I'm not looking to get married.

I always seen it like 'renting' a relationship which you can always just end whenever. Like an over glorified form/longer term type of escorting.

[Citizenkirk]

Maybe they have the same type of nesting issues as nurses who fall in love with their most broken patients. You know, if a person is broken Or messed up, then I'll be there too fix them syndrome.
Or, it could be that these guys are either gullable, or looking for someone as shallow and self centered as they are.

[t-8900]

just so you know not every man puts a ring on a gold digger either. But he may play with her for a while before moving onto the next one. Men value youth and beauty. Women in the early 20's are the preferred. its just how it is. we all got sold a pack of lies by Walt Disney.

[Ifriqyan]

According to my brother and my soon to be Fiance men and women care about different things.
They don't want a dumb woman but ultimately they don't particularly care for "boss ladies". They want someone who has good motherly instincts and a good homemaker and someone who respects and is willing to take care of them and their children.

I think that us women were deluded into thinking that men mostly look for a boss ass lady who makes big cash and is up the corporate ladder or smth.

Of course I'm basing my answer on what the men around me tell me.
I do acknowledge that this isn't a general truth since not all men are the same and these things can highly differ depending on the society and culture.

[loveslongnails]

Men date them because gold diggers are usually hotties and men like eye candy. But if the sex isn't really good, and/or the woman is a bimbo, they soon become an embarrassment. Then the man will look for someone he'd be proud to be with who is still good looking but has a brain.

[NightOfTheSun]

I believe it's pure manipulation on the woman's part, from what I've heard of these types the men may be desperate for love or the woman is so good at covering it up that he brushes off the gold digger behavior, same could go for women when men are being gold diggers

[ThisAndThat]

A gold digger's prize is the gold very obvious. As far as the girls that have their business together (no defined here what that means.) But if you are talking about a level of success IE career, then that could be seen by men as competition. A man's place is to provide and success (depending) can be a turn off to a lot of men for the obvious reason. Besides competition, he's also aware of female hypergamy, no fault divorce, divorce rates and the outcomes for men.

[BlueEyedBaby88]

Depends. I'm a successful woman and I have attracted rather successful men. One whose business pulled in 3 million last year. Another who owns multiple rental properties. And a third whose private company does specialty work.

Am I a gold digger? No. I have no interest in their money or success. But being extremely intelligent, confident and decent-looking I attract these men because I am more valuable than a dimwitted piece of eye candy (a gold digger). I frequent a bistro for coffee where a lot of local businessmen go (I know the owner) and have even had guys blatantly ignore their airheaded companion (aka eye candy) standing beside them to ask the owner who I am.

[tallcuck]

Cause a gold digger goves him sense of masculinity. Women that has life in order doesn't need him other than sexually and emotionally. A gold digger needs more. Man wants to give more. Sad is when simps do it without getting laid... Mutual exploitation is ok..

[Heiniken]

Because gold diggers give them sex. Men want sex from attractive females. Attractive females know this and offer sex in return for a better quality of life (money).

Guys dont give two shits about your job - they only care about how good you are in the bedroom.

[misanthropistkev]

True as a guy how has a pretty high income for my age I use to go after the gold diggers because their lazy and you can let money do all the work for you in that kind of relationship but a woman who has money all ready would need something more my answer is because it’s easier I myself have chased enough skanks and I only date women who work a gold digger is basically like taking care of an adult child really annoying

[likelyOK]

Either they don’t know and they really think this far more attractive person is actually interested in them or they are older and just see money as a trade off for a better looking partner.

[RustlessRodney]

Because women “who have their life in order” are typically the kind who don’t need us. Men like to feel needed, to feel useful. If you’re a “strong independent woman who don’t need no man,” then we constantly feel like a burden. With gold diggers, at least we feel like we’re good for something

[hellacray]

The only men that I can think of that would be ok with dating gold diggers are those that are super rich. Men in general aren't super rich and wouldn't want to put up with a woman only dating for money.

[EssenceOfLight]

I think guys who date obvious gold diggers prefer predictable women. Love to their materialistic resources is something those guys can calculate with, while love to them as people isn't something they want to believe.

[genericname85]

Men that go for gold diggers, look got a young bimbo with tits and asses.. they don't have the time or whatever other reason that they don't want a relatable and sustainable partner that is somewhat on eye level with them.

So why waste your time with sugar daddies if that's not what you need/want?

[Aakash_Hangargi]

There is a saying that goes like.

"When a man earns money he thinks, how to spend on the women and take care of her. But when a wonen earns money she thinks she doesn't need a man".

This is not made up by me now ok don't blast on me.
It might be the reason women stop listening when they earn

[aliali8]

It’s not because women who work are lacking in femininity. All women have to work nowadays , otherwise she would be homeless! It doesn’t mean we are suddenly now all masculine.

It is all due to a mans ego. Men like to feel important so by supporting a woman, he feels like he matters a bit more.

[FilmGuy93]

Women who "have their lives in order" (to be honest, I feel like that means something different for everyone, so I'm curious what you mean by that) tend to feel more like colleagues and competitors than lovers. As a man, I don't want my lover to be a colleague.

[pervertedjester]

One of the perks of having a bunch of gold is spending a bunch of gold on things you've long wanted but couldn't afford. Homes, Cars, Vacations, Gadgets and People. (Everyone has a price.)

[Screenwriter]

Only one reason a man would date a golddigger: he wants to impress her with his money. It's a self esteem issue.

[Anonymous]

A woman with traditionally feminine qualities is more attractive than a woman without them. If by women who have their life in order you mean a career woman, she's probably lacking femininity even if she looks feminine.

This is the same reason women date bad boys who are more masculine but no good while ignoring nice guys who are more wimpy but would be more stable and loyal.

[Iron_Man]

They just want pussy and they don’t mind paying for it through merchandise. They don’t want to be with a serious woman because it’s like a professional strict watch dog on their player asses

[Tomtom9090]

Because men want attractive women and attractive women want rich men. If you have money and choose to pursue that path then you got what you were looking for.

dating pool opens up significantly when you got it

[Ripper_E]

1) Because those women manipulate them
2) They are so desperate to be wanted/loved that they take what they can get.

[scott04sa22]

Gold diggers only wants money. Either way if the money gets dry she'll dump her victim and find another victim. She'll always repeats. No matter what.

[KibblesBits]

It all just comes down to their physical attractiveness usually.

[bamesjond0069]

Because men primarily/only value youth beauty fertility and obedience. Anything else is basically useless at best or bad at worst.

This question is exactly equivalent to why do women like men who are successful and dont want men with extensive pokemon and star wars collections? Hmm answer that one while you're at it. Lmfao. Your question literally sounds that dumb to most of us men.

[sheikalana]

Maybe women who have their life in order are not attracted to those type of guys.

[dpy87]

One of the reasons is the man thinks attracting women is based off money so he thinks he's doing it right when he finds one that is impressed by his spending.

[jasco]

For some, its difficult to tell if she's one or not, also the ones that have there life together may not be the type of person we want mentally

[MzAsh]

Distracted by shiny objects. Gold diggers are often good looking, young, and foolish which is every narcissistic rich man’s dream for a short term situation.

[someginger]

Generally the guys who date gold diggers are rich older men who want a young thing around there arm. Which ya know is hard to do when your old and fat.

[arlesche]

Because gold diggers are easier to sleep with (f you have money obviously😝)

[Massageman]

Maybe they are afraid of commitment with of a real woman?

[HawkPerception]

Lmao it's crazy seeing the amount of guys here that don't mind gold diggers and even prefer them.

[anylolone]

The word "bonus" and "upgrade" show the same entitlement, but one shows a little more value put to it.

[ovixs90]

Because a woman that reached a lot she wants a man that has reached even more in society.

[ScottSummers]

I think its because they are usually better looking also they are more like a trophy girlfriend

[Anonymous]

Because if u spend ur younger years focused girls have an issue with it. If they dont get enough attention they leave. So when i get 35 and got my stuff all in order im not dating some 35 year old. I want someone 18-25. I earned that right to be a sugar daddy. I won't marry them but id date them. I would only marry a nongoldigger but she needs to be younger than me. 18-25 roughly. Preferably 23-25

[Avicenna]

A guy often doesn’t have a choice. Sometimes only the gold digger is available and the other woman isn’t because she’s not interested in a relationship.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

I guess for some men they are just like trophies otherwise its her being manipulative

[Anonymous]

men want to feel like a protector, an alpha. also when there is a clear power imbalance, he will always have the upper hand in the relationship because she depends on him

[themythos]

Not all or even most men are like that. My s. o has an engineering major and will be fin without me

[hellohruu]

So that they could complain about how there are no normal girls out there and there are only gold diggers

[laPrincesitaRoxi]

Beauty, guys really don’t care about personality but want us to so we give ugly men a chance as beautiful good looking women.

[Unit1]

Man, the answers from the blues here perplexes me to no ends. Men really do love gold diggers 🤢
But at least it works in my favor.

[midnightmoon05]

Not all.
So don't look for those men who are after gold diggers.
Find a man who has smiliar value as you. :)
good luck

[crmoore]

I don't like actual gold diggers but I like delicate, dependent, helpless woman. I'm not entirely confident you're referring to men like me, but figured I'd speak my mind in case you are.

[Anonymous]

Men want feminine women. Gold digger or chaotic.

Some woman are like men, they move men into their feminine. Men hate those women.

[Asianguy123]

Because they are dishonest when they make money. They want someone dishonest to take dishonest money

[Slim57]

I dont have enough money to get a gold digger wth you talking about

[LeftHappy]

Probably because they got more time on their hands for sex!

[Anonymous]

I try to avoid those women; but it seems like more women are going down that road these days.