Why am I so worthless and never good enough?

[worthless1961]

all my life I've compared myself to my sister and girls on social media. You know the pretty pretty ones, that guys want and lust after. Every guy always wants my sister, and my mom. I've never once had a guy come up to me, when they do its always asking about my sister. She's beautiful and now she's married. Every guy stares at her and gawks, guys whistle at her. And I'm always with her so it ruins my self esteem. I've never really had a guy take interest in me, I've had a boyfriend but it didn't work out. When he met my sister he just stared at smiled at her. But why would anyone want me? Guys follow half naked chick's online and claim they love their spouse while ogling at other women. Which i find absolutely crass and weird. I don't follow half naked men cause its weird. Why would I if I have someone? I know a model and she gets all the men under the sun. If a guy was to date me he would be settling for less. Why was I made so worthless? Why can't I be beautiful?

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+1 y

I'm NOT posting a photo of her and I. I did this last time and every man on here chose her so.

[JackSmy]

Oh, I thought that was my mom, telling me again, how much of a disappointment I have been!!
LOL!! You need to let that BULLSHIT GO!! People are always going to CRAP on you, because they, themselves are DAMAGED, and they take out their angst, and anger, about how THEY have failed, and put it on YOU!!
It's really FCKED UP!! But sooooo many parents do it!!
I don't know the answer, as I am still dealing with it, but it helps, when you make the CHOICE to REALIZE that the parents, brother/sister, or boyfriend/girlfriend, is REALLY FKCED UP, THEMSELVES, and they are just putting their BAD feelings on you, and judging you, for THEIR failures, and inadequacies!!
In the REAL WORLD, there isn't anything 'wrong' with YOU!! YOU are WONDERFUL, and SPECIAL, and AMAZING!!
It's the damaged ones, around you, that need to degrade you, judge you, and put you down, so they feel better about their own, fcked up lives!!

[BentAssassin99]

Stfu

[JackSmy]

@BentAssassin99 STFU?

[BentAssassin99]

Smfh look it up old man

[JackSmy]

@BentAssassin99 OK, be an ASS, little boy!

[exitseven]

You most certainly not worthless. I'm sorry that your sister makes you feel that way. You should find something you are interested in and concentrate on that. Workout and get healthy. You will feel better and feel better about yourself. Never think that you are not as good as somebody else.
The world is so much more than superficial looks. You are a unique person with lots of things about you that are interesting. Do not think that a person's total worth is what they see in the mirror.
Please do me a favor- change your screen name?

[JosyJosy]

Because of the first sentence you said in the description you gave. Stop comparing.

[worthless1961]

Why? People do it all the time

[JosyJosy]

Because that's the cause of your problem. If I was going to compare myself with others all the time, I'd never be satisfied, there are always going to be people better than you in some way. And you will always be better than other people.
Just look at yourself, work on yourself, for you, not for anyone else but you

[worthless1961]

My best friend has a boyfriend and he stares at photos of her sister and even has porn and naked photos in his PHONE. this is how disgusting men are.

[JosyJosy]

As long as they're both okay with it, it's none of our business.

[worthless1961]

She wasn't okay with it thats the thing.

[JosyJosy]

If he still has them and she knows, why didn't she break up yet

[worthless1961]

Why did he have it there in the first place?

I don't know maybe it's best i don't date men. They disgust me

[JosyJosy]

Yeah maybe it'd be for the best, if you think they're all the same that is. I love guys x)
For every rotten apple there's a good one out there

[BentAssassin99]

@worthless1961 ... ow

[OlderAndWiser]

Perhaps the problem begins with you equating beauty and value.

[RingOfFire]

Not everyone is blessed with good looks. But I've found that people who aren't often compensate by developing other parts of their person like their knowledge, wisdom, conversation skills or personalities. When it comes to romantic love you don't need to have everyone recognize your attractive parts... you really only need one person.

The kind of attention that comes from good looks isn't nearly as satisfying as it appears. It's superficial, and short lived. The kind of attention that comes from someone who gets to know you and loves you for who you are is really the only satisfying kind of attention you can get.

You should consider not worrying so much about who gets more attention, that will never make you happy, and focus on the kinds of attention that lead to happiness and satisfaction instead.

[Dchrls78104]

"All my life I've compared myself to my sister." Therein lies your fundamental problem. You cannot live your sister's life because you are NOT she; given the chance, you would not even want to, since that would mean that you'd have to deal with her problems---never a welcome prospect. To cure your problem, first look inward. Look at the mirror and appreciate your own peculiar idiosyncrasies, talents, and abilities. Consider these when choosing your friends and associates. That way you may smile more and feel less frustrated.

[paraXaraq]

Its avery shitty part of like that we and society have allow it to create in our heads, we compare ourselves and look for perfection in others rather than loving the unique beautys we have. I'm sure you're a very beautiful woman, all the years of looking at your mom and sibling in that way may have tainted your outlook on yourself, give your time always from social media and develop your self love, the confidence that will blossom from that will overshadowed the insecurities you have because you won't need validation from irrelevant people that bring no substand to your life

[Sandshrew]

Well, that can be really hard to deal with, you might want to speak to a professional, plus a very cheesy thing "only love others when you learn to love yourself" that can explain why you are so focus on how people prefer your sister, if someone really likes you, they won't let you to go for your sister, also we all going to get old and shit, if they like your sister just because she looks good, someday she won't look good

[jasco]

You wanna know why no one likes you, its because you don't like yourself. You have to love yourself so that other people's love can love you to. Also most men that follow half naked women are quite young and simply want to see more so its more of curiousity than anything else. Plus most men don't post themselves half naked anyway

[worthless1961]

I've seen men older than my dad following these chick's. And they don't unfollow them so

[jasco]

Old men usually do it because there horny, unhappy, lonely and want attention that they don't get from their wives

[worthless1961]

What about the tons of guys who are in relationships that do it? Lmfao

[jasco]

look fam, if your so worried about being cheated on than simply not date. Men will always look at other women, but that doesn't mean he's gonna cheat on you

[worthless1961]

Then stop saying how men don't do this lmfao and I don't plan to ever date. Because men are like this

[jasco]

Than why did you ask this question?

[worthless1961]

Why did you comment?

[jasco]

Because i thought you needed help with relationships

[Chimeguy]

Without just trying to give empty platitudes, I do feel for you in the situation. I get the comparison, but part of an attraction to people does revolve around confidence. I know with your past experiences that it can be hard to build that up. But that would be a good place to start. I do understand that there is a beauty standard in culture and some fit it more than others. But that doesn’t mean it’s hopeless. I hope you can find someone. If you just want someone to talk to, let me know

[BrickBiggems]

Don't compare yourself to others. Doing so would be like judging a brick by how well it behaves as a tire. Your goal should be to make yourself the best you, you can. Grow your strengths and shrink your weaknesses.

[David92506]

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.” HENRY FORD

[Iron_Man]

Don’t think that way you have your whole life ahead of you you’re special and you can do a lot in life. Keep your head up and think positive and be positive

[worthless1961]

I wish I could. But I can't.

[Iron_Man]

You can you have to pick yourself up and move forward you can’t live like that you’ll be just fine but be strong

[worthless1961]

Nothing is fine. This is the worst years of my life.

[Iron_Man]

You will find yourself a good boyfriend one day you’ll be OK

[worthless1961]

I won't.

[Iron_Man]

You have to be positive you’re just having a bad time you’ll be OK

[worthless1961]

I hope so. Thank you.

[Iron_Man]

You’re very welcome my friend keep your head up you’ll be fine

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

You're not worthless and you're def. deserving of someone.

I wish you believed that too

[mgt1ger]

Never judge yourself by people on social media you are your own person

[Twalli]

If you want a guy that won't look at other women you will have to find a blind guy.

[BUNroaster]

Well for starters not that beauty is all on the outside but a picture would help

[Bklynbadboy12]

Your not worthless and looks aren't everything

[BentAssassin99]

Stop it 1961..

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Because you just suck.

[worthless1961]

Thats very fucking rude.

[BentAssassin99]

Go to hell

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Do not test the empathy that I don't have

[Chimeguy]

@fyrdracadocincel funny you should be running your mouth the way you look. Who needs to test your empathy when they could look at you and see the funniest joke of the day.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

@Chimeguy

Oooohh!! The white knight with his mighty lance!

[Chimeguy]

@fyrdracadocincel oh please dude. She doesn't need help from an online troll I’m just here to taunt you because you’re a piece of shit.

[BentAssassin99]

*eats popcorn*

[FýrdracaDócincel]

@Chimeguy
Yeah little boi you wreck that patriarchy! WOO!!

[BentAssassin99]

*puts popcorn in mouth then looks at chime expectantly*

[Chimeguy]

Please dude. I don't give a fuck about that shit. The fact that you say stuff like this just proves you're a little pussy. You're nothing but a basement dweller looking for attention. You try to make claims about what I am looking for when I am a guy who already got the pussy and your ugly ass is just upset that you lost one more chance because a girl here said she's not interested in you. Are you one of those guys who posts online about how there should be redistribution of pussy so that one day your tiny cock might feel the inside of a girl?

[BentAssassin99]

*looks at the other guy while still eating*

[Chimeguy]

@BentAssassin99 Oh he will reply. He has no life, so he ha to have some way to make himself feel meaningful

[BentAssassin99]

*takes a drink looking at chime and nods. Looks back to the left and takes a bite of popcorn*

[Chimeguy]

@BentAssassin99 his mom must have told him its past his bedtime.

[BentAssassin99]

*smiles but then goes back to stoic*

[FýrdracaDócincel]

@Chimeguy
If you don't care then why are you whining like a little bitch?

[BentAssassin99]

*drinks and looks at chime*

[Chimeguy]

I'm not. I'm taunting an asshole who is obviously upset. go cry to your mom

[FýrdracaDócincel]

@Chimeguy
You are though. I just used inductive reasoning. Here you are trying to look like a hero by complaining your ass off about the behavior of a superior.

[Chimeguy]

You don’t know what reasoning is. You look like one of those guys who tries to get little girls to come over. You’re a creep and you probably imagine your mom and cry when you can’t get pussy. you’re a piece of trash and everyone knows it. You’re all alone and that’s why you’re so mad.