Why am I so attracted to very tall and buff men despite being short and petite myself?

[Anonymous]

The question is pretty simple but I can't explain it to myself well let alone to anyone else. I just automatically drool over these guys. I don't mean tall and fit guys but more like buff, very muscular, very masculine hunking men.

Is there a way to stop or change your preferences/what you're attracted to? Even I personally don't like being like this.

I'm short and quite petite myself, why I'm not into more ordinary looking men? I don't really mean the looks now, more of the build thing.

[LZPanzer]

There is nothing wrong with having a type.

The only advice I can give you is to try to separate the ideas of the ideal and the reality.

By that I mean identify what traits that want as your ideal, and then list viable alternatives

For example instead of buff a realistic might be goes to the gym regularly.
By be ok with guys the go to the gym regularly he may eventually become the buff guy of your dreams once he finds out you are into that thing.

[FilmGuy93]

Why do you want to change what you are attracted to? I don't understand. To answer your first question though; the reason is that buff guys look like they could protect you. Biology and instinct is over riding your logical brain.

[Asker]

Because it drastically limits my dating options. It's much harder to find this type AND at the same time to have the man be into women of my build and looks.

Also, my friends, especially my guy friends, tell me it's superficial and that I am overly picky despite not being of the same "level" as those men. I'm single for some time now so I guess maybe they're right.

[FilmGuy93]

I see... it's good that you are taking time to reflect on the role you play in these things.

[Anonymous]

On general sense, every one have their own interest and taste. Yours might be tall and muscular body while mine are more incline to girls who are small @ petite and on skinny side. All of my past girlfriend and female friend are actually quite petite even the current one are petite too.

[Asker]

Is there a chance to change it though? What you're into? It really limits my dating options and even my friends tell me I am too picky (because I'm into this only pretty much).

[NatalieKeller95]

yeah just switch to 5'6, 5'7 men

[BirdshotJohn]

Evolution!

The tall buff guy will be able to win battles for your tribe against those vile other tribes, defend you against tigers and bears, and chop more wood for the fire faster.

[allin246810in]

Have you seen what a big strong man can do with a little woman like yourself? That's why.

[Asker]

This only makes me more into them xD The thirst is real.

[allin246810in]

I bet lol. Im sorry

[TheSpaceGnome]

Your genetics decide what you are attracted to, so no you can't change it.


As for why. Why am I attracted to boobs even though I don't have them myself? What you look like really isn't directly correlated to what looks you like.

[NatalieKeller95]

lol that's retarded, genes don't play that much of a role, genes pretty much determine how tall you are, how much you'll weigh, what abilities you might have, your weaknesses, and how well your immune system operates

[TheSpaceGnome]

@NatalieKeller95

Actually, you're wrong (which is ironic since you are calling me retarded).

Your height and weight are also drastically governed by lifestyle, diet and what your mom did/ate while pregnant, not just your genes.

Your abilities are largly things you learn through practice and knowledge, so those in most cases are more environmental than genetic if we are talking about talents/skills.

Your immune system is based off of microorganisms. So if you took 2 identical twins and kept one inside a sterile room most of his life, and let the other play outside or with animals, the latter would have a far superior immune system despite being genetically identical to his sibling.

Now things like sexual preferences, or taste in food, those are primarily genetic, because they are a basic, immediate, genetic response to stimuli.

You can choose what you do, but not what you like.

[Daniel_Dano]

You mean men like these?
I think its your type and there is nothing wrong with it.

[Anonymous]

aren't bald guy attracted to women with long flowing haeds of hair?

[Anonymous]

Lots of big buff guys have small dicks though.
Look at bodybuilders.

[ayomanwya]

Men are tall and you’re short so it’s obvious why you’re attracted to them

[Anonymous]

Because its human tendency to like something they will never get :P

[Anonymous]

It's common for females to want tall man despite being short and slim 🤣

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Ah, classic. All the way from Salvo