Simple: YOU DON'T.
As someone that's been ghosted several times, I've learned people ghost you because they're trying to "nicely" turn you down, or they're too chicken to confront you.
Yeah screw them.
The fact that they're ghosting you should tell you they're not even worth dealing with anymore.
I typically delete and block them as soon as I realize I'm ghosted. Mostly to keep them from reappearing months or years later as if nothing happened... because yes, sometimes the assholes come back as if they're testing you.
Just say no and ignore.
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Move on in silence.
Remember a girl ghosted me via text one time as a means to teach me a lesson. She didn't know I just went out with other girls in her absence.
She got curious she hadn't heard from me and did some social media stalking me. Saw her end up watching some of my stories out of the blue and she started messaging me again months later.
Went about trying to get back into my life. I left the door open for that but was unwilling to do any work to make it happen. Only ever would accept plans on my terms that fit my schedule and what I was already doing. And only go places that worst case if she doesn't show up I still have fun.
In most cases, when someone ghosts that says more about their character and the type of person you're dealing with. In some cases do people act crazy that lead to being ghosted?
Sure, but the vast majority of cases people ghost because they're uncomfortable dealing with potential confrontation, bad feelings or really an uncomfortable situation. So they avoid it entirely. Some justify it by saying others have acted out in the past so they think it's safer to ghost.
But we all know that's BS
I think there are only two options:
1. Be devastated, bemoan the fact that life is unfair, and go into a depression.
2. Accept that you do not always get closure, learn whatever lessons you can learn from the experience, lick your wounds, and move forward.
I don't recommend the depression option!
Is there a response needed🤷🏼ââď¸ other than "Don't let the door hit yah where the good Lord split yah, Bye🖐ď¸â🏻
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The ghoster doesn't WANT a response. They want to be left alone. They have canceled you.
Leave them alone. They have poor manners and are cowards in my book.
The chivalrous thing to do is to politely say, I'm not interested in further conversation/dates. Thanks.
It's very simple and it offers closure. I think a phone call is adult.
But texts are easier. And if it's only been a few dates, a text goodbye is fine. But AT LEAST a text!
Ghosting is always inappropriate.
Be a man or woman and talk to someone. It doesn't HAVE to be in person, but a few lines or minutes and you're done. NO need for explanations. Be curt.
"I'm not going any further into it. We've spent six weeks and four dates together. We don't fit in my opinion and it takes two people. Good-bye and good luck!"I am currently on POF, which I'm sure that I've told you before. And I have been ghosted MANY times. When I was younger, it enraged and pissed me off to no end. But now that I older and mellower, I don't give a damn. In fact, I see it as them doing me a favour as ghosting is very cowardly which is indicative of weak character. I would much rather learn this about someone early so as not to waste any time on them. Like I said, they are doing me a favour. Screw them (and not in good way).
Easy, you don't respond. So they want to have fun, deceived you in some way to get that, and now are vanishing on messages, texts, calls, what have you. There's a short window there where you worry if something happened, maybe a day. Then it's obvious that they just don't want you.
So move on, start the dating grind again whether it was a man or woman who ghosted you. I mean, I don't get the ghosting term, I guess it's when women don't like a guy cutting out of the picture instead of them? The answer is pretty self-evident for most men, well, fuck them, time to move on.
There is nothing to be gained if you do "find them" or bother them enough that they reply to you. If you put that much effort into getting the last word in, man did they win, you went through a ton of effort while they were working on something else, or simply relaxing. Just move on.Block them everywhere, block and delete their number and QUICKLY move on. I had an ex do that to me twice. I forgave him the first time, because he apologized profusely and promised to never do it again... guess what he did it again and guess what? He got blocked!!! DONE DEAL! Ghosting is extremely disrespectful, this person is immature and a coward! Donât ever give them a second chance to disrespect you again!!
I figure it's his loss and he's the one missing out but thats okay i respect that even though he's clearly chicken and not mature enough to be upfront with me. A guy i went out with recently did this to me actually after he said he wouldn't lol but it was only one date and i found out he was a player so it didn't affect me much tbh. I think it hurts people more if they've established and built a connection with the person more than someone they haven't been talking to for that long.
I think you should address the person directly because if they donât have the courage to be forward and honest i do. So Iâve literally done this before (every time i get ghosted actually) asking the person âwhy have you stopped talking to me? Did I do something wrong or is there a problem you want to talk about?â
Most of the time the person would reciprocate. Anyhow their responses are usually all you need to decide whether you should move on.The best thing to do after a period of time has passed is forgive the person for hurting your feelings and move on. I've been ghosted by women I though were interested in me, and ultimately I had to forgive them for hurting my feelings and move on with my life. I'm very careful with who I message on dating sites. I have to be interested in actually dating them now. It used to be I would message women in the hopes of becoming friends with them, and then seeing where the relationship went, and if the dating aspect wasn't going to work, then just be friends with them. I've figured out that really doesn't work all that well.
Life's yo short to get upset over such ignorance, if they couldn't explain to you their issue then really there not worth having in your life âď¸
Nope since I will not waste my time on lazy ass that always complaining about being single but doesn't do nothing about. Ghosting is never replied unless they went something out of you. If you do give a attention. They just ghost. Don't give them the attention. They should find someone else
Donât waste your energy and time. Get someone else. You have to respect yourself. To make sure youâre treated with respect, you have to show people that. You teach people how to treat you. Chasing after her in this situation is desperate. That teaches people to treat you that way.
If you keep trying to go for it when sheâs clearly ghosting, sheâll lose all respect she had left for you. Thatâs when sheâs going to string you along to play games. Or use you for stuff then ghost again. Thatâs probably whatâs going to happen if she ever responds to actually start talking again.
Donât get confrontational, thatâs the usual reason girls ghost instead of saying theyâre not interested. 70% of guys are normal, 30% will get mad, aggressive, and crazy. She canât defend herself against even the skinniest guy. Itâs a safety precaution.Well, one time I got ghosted because I took an interest in the person's unfortunate circumstances (his sister was admitted in the hospital). Had no response but wondered where I went wrong, whether I was too *much* or too clingy, but nope none of that. Verdict: Guess it's his problem, not mine 🤷🏽ââď¸
You don't. If they're not brave enough to tell you that they don't want to talk or be with you anymore, then they're not worth your precious time.
Just block and ignore them. Move on, because better people will come to your life.Pretty sure ghosting warrants no response in return after that, Coach. Why indulge in talking to someone who clearly has no form of respect or decency to respond back?
Just ghost them back that person will get around if he/she wants to. I think knoone deserves attention that much. Everyone should get the same amount of attention otherwise they think that they are really special and act weird (this is my personal experience). You get what you give.
I just wouldnât say anything. Iâve never been ghosted and would never ghost anybody because itâs rude af but I guess if someone wasnât responding to my messages Iâd leave them be and peace out.
If you're being ghosted does it matter?
I see no point in saying anything. I mean you can insult them. But it really won't make you feel better and what does that say about you if you do? You can't MAKE people like you. And it wouldn't be beneficial to try and make them. Life is a marathon and i've had women ghost me before. And those very same women came back later to try to reconnect with me.Block, delete.. never come back. Never respond again if they ever come back. Keep them on read forever. They only come back out of boredom not thaylt they care about you! Such people are unrespect.
Realize that they've made an error in judgement and cut their losses. Stop wasting any energy on that person (verbal, cognitive, emotional) and forget they've ever existed. Be thankful for the harsh yet important lesson.
Move on. Life is too short to dwell on such stupid things.
It's happened to me before, multiple times. I've never really cared about most relationships, so It never really bothered me.
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