How should someone respond if they get "GHOSTED"?

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rjroy3 · Accepted Answer

Move on in silence.
Remember a girl ghosted me via text one time as a means to teach me a lesson. She didn't know I just went out with other girls in her absence.

She got curious she hadn't heard from me and did some social media stalking me. Saw her end up watching some of my stories out of the blue and she started messaging me again months later.

Went about trying to get back into my life. I left the door open for that but was unwilling to do any work to make it happen. Only ever would accept plans on my terms that fit my schedule and what I was already doing. And only go places that worst case if she doesn't show up I still have fun.

In most cases, when someone ghosts that says more about their character and the type of person you're dealing with. In some cases do people act crazy that lead to being ghosted?

Sure, but the vast majority of cases people ghost because they're uncomfortable dealing with potential confrontation, bad feelings or really an uncomfortable situation. So they avoid it entirely. Some justify it by saying others have acted out in the past so they think it's safer to ghost.

But we all know that's BS

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I think there are only two options:

1. Be devastated, bemoan the fact that life is unfair, and go into a depression.

2. Accept that you do not always get closure, learn whatever lessons you can learn from the experience, lick your wounds, and move forward.

I don't recommend the depression option!

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Simple: YOU DON'T.
As someone that's been ghosted several times, I've learned people ghost you because they're trying to "nicely" turn you down, or they're too chicken to confront you.

Yeah screw them.
The fact that they're ghosting you should tell you they're not even worth dealing with anymore.

I typically delete and block them as soon as I realize I'm ghosted. Mostly to keep them from reappearing months or years later as if nothing happened... because yes, sometimes the assholes come back as if they're testing you.
Just say no and ignore.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Is there a response needed🤷🏼‍♀️ other than "Don't let the door hit yah where the good Lord split yah, Bye🖐️✌🏻

Screenwriter · Answer

The ghoster doesn't WANT a response. They want to be left alone. They have canceled you.
Leave them alone. They have poor manners and are cowards in my book.
The chivalrous thing to do is to politely say, I'm not interested in further conversation/dates. Thanks.
It's very simple and it offers closure. I think a phone call is adult.
But texts are easier. And if it's only been a few dates, a text goodbye is fine. But AT LEAST a text!
Ghosting is always inappropriate.
Be a man or woman and talk to someone. It doesn't HAVE to be in person, but a few lines or minutes and you're done. NO need for explanations. Be curt.
"I'm not going any further into it. We've spent six weeks and four dates together. We don't fit in my opinion and it takes two people. Good-bye and good luck!"

AzzaBlue · Answer

I am currently on POF, which I'm sure that I've told you before. And I have been ghosted MANY times. When I was younger, it enraged and pissed me off to no end. But now that I older and mellower, I don't give a damn. In fact, I see it as them doing me a favour as ghosting is very cowardly which is indicative of weak character. I would much rather learn this about someone early so as not to waste any time on them. Like I said, they are doing me a favour. Screw them (and not in good way).

razelove · Answer

Easy, you don't respond. So they want to have fun, deceived you in some way to get that, and now are vanishing on messages, texts, calls, what have you. There's a short window there where you worry if something happened, maybe a day. Then it's obvious that they just don't want you.

So move on, start the dating grind again whether it was a man or woman who ghosted you. I mean, I don't get the ghosting term, I guess it's when women don't like a guy cutting out of the picture instead of them? The answer is pretty self-evident for most men, well, fuck them, time to move on.

There is nothing to be gained if you do "find them" or bother them enough that they reply to you. If you put that much effort into getting the last word in, man did they win, you went through a ton of effort while they were working on something else, or simply relaxing. Just move on.

katyya_lov25 · Answer

Block them everywhere, block and delete their number and QUICKLY move on. I had an ex do that to me twice. I forgave him the first time, because he apologized profusely and promised to never do it again... guess what he did it again and guess what? He got blocked!!! DONE DEAL! Ghosting is extremely disrespectful, this person is immature and a coward! Don’t ever give them a second chance to disrespect you again!!

Paolaa988 · Answer

I figure it's his loss and he's the one missing out but thats okay i respect that even though he's clearly chicken and not mature enough to be upfront with me. A guy i went out with recently did this to me actually after he said he wouldn't lol but it was only one date and i found out he was a player so it didn't affect me much tbh. I think it hurts people more if they've established and built a connection with the person more than someone they haven't been talking to for that long.

Alyssa11 · Answer

I think you should address the person directly because if they don’t have the courage to be forward and honest i do. So I’ve literally done this before (every time i get ghosted actually) asking the person “why have you stopped talking to me? Did I do something wrong or is there a problem you want to talk about?”

Most of the time the person would reciprocate. Anyhow their responses are usually all you need to decide whether you should move on.

etexbearkat · Answer

The best thing to do after a period of time has passed is forgive the person for hurting your feelings and move on. I've been ghosted by women I though were interested in me, and ultimately I had to forgive them for hurting my feelings and move on with my life. I'm very careful with who I message on dating sites. I have to be interested in actually dating them now. It used to be I would message women in the hopes of becoming friends with them, and then seeing where the relationship went, and if the dating aspect wasn't going to work, then just be friends with them. I've figured out that really doesn't work all that well.

Splatzonelover1 · Answer

Nope since I will not waste my time on lazy ass that always complaining about being single but doesn't do nothing about. Ghosting is never replied unless they went something out of you. If you do give a attention. They just ghost. Don't give them the attention. They should find someone else

Anonymous · Answer

Don’t waste your energy and time. Get someone else. You have to respect yourself. To make sure you’re treated with respect, you have to show people that. You teach people how to treat you. Chasing after her in this situation is desperate. That teaches people to treat you that way.

If you keep trying to go for it when she’s clearly ghosting, she’ll lose all respect she had left for you. That’s when she’s going to string you along to play games. Or use you for stuff then ghost again. That’s probably what’s going to happen if she ever responds to actually start talking again.

Don’t get confrontational, that’s the usual reason girls ghost instead of saying they’re not interested. 70% of guys are normal, 30% will get mad, aggressive, and crazy. She can’t defend herself against even the skinniest guy. It’s a safety precaution.

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

Life's yo short to get upset over such ignorance, if they couldn't explain to you their issue then really there not worth having in your life ✌️

Kvinnan · Answer

Well, one time I got ghosted because I took an interest in the person's unfortunate circumstances (his sister was admitted in the hospital). Had no response but wondered where I went wrong, whether I was too *much* or too clingy, but nope none of that. Verdict: Guess it's his problem, not mine 🤷🏽‍♀️

menina · Answer

You don't. If they're not brave enough to tell you that they don't want to talk or be with you anymore, then they're not worth your precious time.
Just block and ignore them. Move on, because better people will come to your life.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Pretty sure ghosting warrants no response in return after that, Coach. Why indulge in talking to someone who clearly has no form of respect or decency to respond back?

Anonymous · Answer

Just ghost them back that person will get around if he/she wants to. I think knoone deserves attention that much. Everyone should get the same amount of attention otherwise they think that they are really special and act weird (this is my personal experience). You get what you give.

TikiTook · Answer

I just wouldn’t say anything. I’ve never been ghosted and would never ghost anybody because it’s rude af but I guess if someone wasn’t responding to my messages I’d leave them be and peace out.

ChiTown33 · Answer

If you're being ghosted does it matter?
I see no point in saying anything. I mean you can insult them. But it really won't make you feel better and what does that say about you if you do? You can't MAKE people like you. And it wouldn't be beneficial to try and make them. Life is a marathon and i've had women ghost me before. And those very same women came back later to try to reconnect with me.

GoldenTulip · Answer

Block, delete.. never come back. Never respond again if they ever come back. Keep them on read forever. They only come back out of boredom not thaylt they care about you! Such people are unrespect.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Realize that they've made an error in judgement and cut their losses. Stop wasting any energy on that person (verbal, cognitive, emotional) and forget they've ever existed. Be thankful for the harsh yet important lesson.

_SillyShoes_ · Answer

Move on. Life is too short to dwell on such stupid things.

Toast792 · Answer

It's happened to me before, multiple times. I've never really cared about most relationships, so It never really bothered me.

The_Outlaw · Answer

You don't. And while it's justified under some circumstances, it's still the shittiest thing to do to someone. To them, you just aren't worth a response.

sheikalana · Answer

Respect the ghost's wishes and do not ever talk to them ever again.

ct1243 · Answer

I was recently ghosted by a former friend. I ended up blocking him. No communication between us.

supercutebutt · Answer

Thy should dress up as a scary ghost and haunt the person for ghosting them.

msbrightness · Answer

Block them and ghost them Let the town sort itself out - not your problem someone's scared (or menacing)

Walamagicc · Answer

I don’t say anything. I’m not putting my energy where it isn’t wanted

Loolucy · Answer

I find it depends on who is doing the ghosting. My last one was a old girlfriend. I finished with her , she was getting possesive , getting upset me going with other people.

Anonymous · Answer

No response at all. The other person doesn't care and likely isn't going to respond anyway so it's a waste of your time.

boombastik · Answer

Respond to who? A ghost? You can react but not respond.

Pink_sky16 · Answer

Just don’t say anything they’ll eventually get the hint

joshctlee · Answer

I’ve ghosted and been ghosted. I mean, take it as a signal to move on and forget about the person.
Would you rather them keep stringing you along because they don’t want to be rude and you thinking they’re still interested?

Ghosting sucks but it’s better than them being fake

TacosRAwesome · Answer

You don't. Or call them a spineless dick which kinda proofs their point why they ghosted you.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

By doing nothing. You now see how that one person feels about you

Belgie · Answer

You don't respond. What's the point? If someone chooses to leave, they will either come back or not. But don't disgrace yourself by chasing after them looking for some crumb of attention.

Jjpayne · Answer

You make a detailed final message on wherever you are allowed to post on. Spell out how you feel and do your best at a reverse dear john letter. Then move on. You are not worth their time

RelevantJ · Answer

Moving on with your life. They did, why embarrass yourself even more

Wiredone · Answer

I've been ghosted a few times. I just forget it and move on.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the reason, it it was hard ghost or not.. Just be around every now and then, she might forgive and remember the good times.. No jealousy ever... Look but don't expect a thing.. Luv bomb her if she comes around.. Ask questions here.. Be ready.. Yes or no.

Anonymous · Answer

Hi can you please report this Influencer I talk about?  He claims to be reformed and always acts positive and friendly but I don't believe him and I think he's putting up a coreographed front

msc545 · Answer

Do nothing but delete the person's contact info and block them, and move on.

Waldoe · Answer

if you're "Ghosted" you cannot "respond" just move-on and be glad you are free from that Drama

Bookluvr25 · Answer

Dont say a fucking thing. Put the phone down and sleep on it then block the number. That person isn't worth the stress or anxiety.

Jesus_is_the_guey · Answer

Nothing just move on that person is a pos and doesn’t deserve to be on anyone’s mind or for you to waste any time

Biancam13 · Answer

Just let them ghost, if that’s really what they’re doing.

Sammie97 · Answer

If it was by someone I dated for a while I would be hurt. Honestly I would try to get answers

Jazquee · Answer

Block them and move the fuck on. Lol the person wasn't even real anyway.

LilliBilli · Answer

Nothing. They rejected you. Consent. Move on, find yourself someone who wants to be with you

Rosegold020 · Answer

Simply DO NOT. If someone wants to walk out of your life let them.

Anonymous · Answer

you don't. do you really think the person who is ignoring you cares to read your response? let it go.

Anonymous · Answer

Clearly if they ghosted you, they dont want a response from you lol

kamalravi25 · Answer

The thing is we cannot predict what will happen if you did or didn't ghost them back. But do what you feel is right and with love.

worldscolide · Answer

Remove the from my life, move on, and treat them like they don't exist.

pleasestopthis · Answer

The best thing to do is to take it with dignity and move on.

Marhaban-1 · Answer

Just say why do you never reply to my texts or phone them up

friendzoned4life · Answer

I normally responded by double texting.  But the healthy response is to never talk to the bitch again.

FreyaRed · Answer

Deleting their number is lesser effort

RedSauce · Answer

You don't... that's the point

The_Maphio · Answer

Too bad, on to the next!

nikkiflue86 · Answer

Move on and be proud about it

SavageGirl101 · Answer

Just don’t respond at all duh

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