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My first honest impression looking at your pics, and I'm strongly against making "judgments" without getting to know someone (but lots of people do it anyway), you look like you have a very strong personality lol. Like you could be "bitchy" maybe? You just have that very serious look in your face you know? That could be something maybe guys make assumptions about you? But being a mother won't help either, that will turn a lot of guys away. But also just age and it's hard in general. And I don't mean age as in "your old", not at all, I mean age as in guys might just assume you're not single. I know I assume this with most women myself, that they either aren't available, or aren't looking, because in my experience, it's often 1 of the 2. But I wouldn't take this personally. There's nothing "wrong" with you. Just approach guys you're interested in. Nothing wrong with that and most guys would LOVE this! I would.
Well, I assume you want an honest opinion, so here goes- main thing is that you simply don't appear to be friendly and approachable and seem kind of pissed off at the world. Again, that's just perception and I don't assume you're like that, but the truth is most people judge a book by its cover. I think that explains it even more than you being a single mom, although that discourages lots of men as well. You also look somewhat older than your age, and that might also be a problem.
Contrary to what some people say, a woman having a good financial situation and career is a plus in finding a guy for a long term relationship, especially since you're a single mom (guys don't want to have to support someone else's kid).
You named off a degree, a car and a home.
Resources. Resources are no things that attract men. They can be pluses but that's it. Women like that in men.
Men are attracted to how your gonna compliment his life how good you see for him.
You have a son. Which signals to many men responsibility for another man's seed.
Which brings in a slew of emotions from a former partner id personally want nothing to do with.
Maybe look at single dads, because o would never advise any man to Date a single mom but single parents can go for each other.
Single parents can understand each other better as well.
Lets go over what you said:
I’m 33 years old = post wall so not very desirable age
5 foot 115 pounds = attractive body size
I have my associates degree = irrelevant
a career = irrelevant
I own my own home and car = irrelevant
and have a 12 year old son = highly unattractive
The fact you think a degree career home and prior child are good things means you have zero understanding of men making me think you're doing a lot of things wrong wrong wrong = highly unattractive
All together im surprised men dont want to hookup with you more because you seem pretty attractive for casual sex (physically appealing + independent ie we can dump you and not feel bad). Im not surprised men aren't into dating you because you seem pretty low in terms of what men go for in relationships.
Career. Son. Both things taht don't usually bode well with a relationship.
For somebody even the fact that you have a degree could represent a problem. For they might feel inferior.
And finally age. Most guys prefer younger partners, that are going to stay beautiful for longer or be better candidates for pregnancy.
@djdt2021 you look really lovely.
I have a distinct impression you are going to get hit on a lot.
you can unfortunately expect a load of shit about being a single (?) mother.
however, you look gorgeous and loving your tattoo or is it Tattoos?
welcome to GaG and it’s often Toxic content.
it’s a bit like walking across a dog walking field in the dark, you never know what unpleasantries you will stand on.
It’s been an issue I’ve had my entire life though...
@djdt2021
No seriously?
How come, that is to be frank crazy you look great, you have a career, house, son etc. That’s a whole lot of stuff going for you.
, including looks.
I don’t know that’s what I’m trying to figure out. It’s a bit frustrating Because I hear about girls constantly getting hit on and guys messaging them in all different kinds of situations and scenarios.
@djdt2021 being hit on is not always what it’s cracked up to be.
The country you live can also play apart, some countries cultures the guys simply cannot handle strong confident women and basically feel emasculated.
In the UK, we tend to be used to confident women, and where I am they often take the lead in the hitting on lol. Likely because we’re lazy fuckers at times lol.
Thank you everyone is giving me a lot of input and I appreciate it.
@djdt2021 no problem, feel free to chat any time.
Now have to do that house work lol, it does not do it’s self.
I would approach you. When will you be in the city of LA?
Sexy pictures. You look gorgeous, you kidding me. I'm young and still very much attracted to that fine ass body. Have to meet you if I want to know about your character. For now, you are very much sexy in all of be above manners.
I'll date you, without a doubt.
Maybe your going about it the wrong way maybe the way you see yourself or project your self is wrong , I don't know you but threw your pictures I feel you and what I feel is very nice it's beautiful but I also feel a misunderstanding on the way your projecting or acting. Not sure but would be easy to figure it out
You're clearly a very charming woman but you give off an uptight vibe the likes of which hitting on you might earn a guy a at best a glare and at worst a kick in the nuts.
Don't worry about it too much, a lot of people have unfriendly faces (I am one) so you might need to make a tiny effort at first but as soon as someone feels comfortable around you no doubt he'll appreciate the charm
Honestly, as a guy who's only dated older women before, you're super attractive and charming.
Maybe you should smile more, but I don't personally see that as a problem.
Job, career, house, car don't really matter much UNLESS you want a sugar baby, and I don't recommend that.
All is goood until the 12 year old son part honestly, that's a major turn off for most guys, I would need to be massively in love with you to look over that fact, and going the long haul with you would be a tough decision.
Overall, again, you're really attractive for your age, I would date you casually in a heartbeat.
Though for a serious relationship, I'd need to have a pretty promiscuous past to even things out between us you know?