Girl is mad because I didn't kiss her?

[Anonymous]

Well apparently after the date last night I was supposed to kiss her and now she is posting statuses on fb like "I'm going to work to improve on my appearance this summer" and "money doesn't mean anything...its love that counts".

[Natalieee]

Did she tell you she was expecting you to kiss her? Just tell her you were trying to be a gentleman and take things slowly ,she might of been waiting for the kiss to come all night and was a bit disapointed that it never came...however her fb status could have nothing to do with it. She shouldn't make to much of a big deal of this.

[Elisue]

How do you know she's mad? Her FB statuses don't say that...or was it something additional she said? Are you going on a second date?

[Asker]

yeah

[Elisue]

So talk to her about it on the second date.

[toulouse]

if she wanted a kiss she should have kissed you. its a bit dramatic to be upset & passive at the same time. lame.

[Shaun]

It's common. Too common.

[toulouse]

i meant obnoxious-- as in not the kind of orson id want to end up dating , kissing or talking to for that matter - not dramatic.

in addition she did not say she was mad. that's your interpretation of her status, maybe it had nothing to do with u. Anyways she is super annoying if she is mad, I don't know her & I'm already annoyed. in fact she's annoyed me annoyed anyways-- her message is annoying whether its about your date or not.

[Shaun]

I'm not QA.

[toulouse]

i was not talking to you- t least I was not speaking with animosity. I was just clarifying what I meant. and I know you are not QA - You are 'shaun' no?

[Shaun]

Yes. I thought you were addressing my comment to you. Sorry.

[toulouse]

no problem. its confusing on these chats, that way.

;)

[Asker]

haha it is very annoying isn't it

[toulouse]

=-)

[Shaun]

Just be glad she isn't calling you gay. Chicks are weird, you need to make a move with them or they get pissy.

[knowmeyourself]

lol not all of them.

[Shaun]

How many girls have you gone out with? =P

[knowmeyourself]

Haha OK ok!

[Shaun]

It goes like this, you have to do the whole "I don't usually kiss on a first date thing but yada yada" She expresses the same sentiment and there you have it. People want to know if there is real chemistry as soon as possible. Kissing a woman definitely gives her something to think about when you're gone. : D

[toulouse]

if you like a guy, you do not need a kiss to think of him. I think anticipating a kiss is more fun then having it shoved on u.

[Shaun]

I beg your pardon, I don't shove myself onto anybody. Trust me, it's reciprocal.

[toulouse]

still, well seaking for mysef, I like to get to know a guy before I kiss him. and I don't date- because I like to get to knw people as friends & I hate eating out or psying fir thigs when doing things for free s way more fun, usually.

but if I did date. the first date would be the equivalent of not knowing him very well. So I wouldn't want to kiss on a first date. I already know if I am attracted to a guy as soon as I meet him. (and) I do not want to kiss a guy untill I know him.

[toulouse]

paying for things*

or spending time with someone I dot know with the possibility they will try to kiss me.

anyways its nice your kisses are reciprocal. I just don't need a kiss to have something to think about.

[Shaun]

All I know is that I've not kissed on first dates, and generally nothing ever became of them, or I have kissed on first dates and ended up with a girl who liked me. It's pretty hard to argue with that, I think.

[toulouse]

no ones arguing with you, as far as what you should do for you. my objection was you stereotyping women into getting pissed or getting kissed.

As I said I do not like dates , so its likely I have an entirely different outlook on these things than you do. I am not saying your experience is false. Your experience does not speak for the whole world. Obviously you know that is the case. I do not need to tell you that. Why not just say women you have been with. Not all women. Speak on what you know.

[Shaun]

I see your point.

[Anonymous]

It might be a not so good sign if she's willing to go faster than you are. Might want to rethink how much experience she's had