Do you like coffee dates? Why or Why Not?

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I have had one coffee date in my entire life. It was a first meeting with a girl I met online. I generally prefer a longer first date, over dinner, because it gives me a glimpse at hos this lady conducts herself, her manners, her deportment, etc. (If she chews with her mouth open, there won't be a second date. If she orders four glasses of wine with dinner. . . same result.)

This particular date, she wanted to meet for coffee. Going into it, I knew we were a bit of a mismatch for education and lifestyle, but I'm not a snob about such things and I was willing to give it a try, because. . . her pictures looked cute, I had just gotten out of a relatively sexless marriage, and I was "ready for takeoff!"

I recognized her, we walked to the counter, ordered our drinks, then sat at a table to chat. It was then that I got a "good" look into her mouth:

Do you like coffee dates? Why or Why Not?

but her teeth were even worse than this. The idea of kissing her made me feel sick. I was glad that it was a coffee date and not my usually somewhat upscale dinner date! Obviously, there was no second date with Miss Plaque!

However, I have had probably 15-20 first dates since then, none of them were coffee dates, and I never had another first date that repulsed me in that way. But i think back on that meeting and wonder how could someone possibly not realize what a horribly insurmountable deficit that was for her to try to overcome.

Jean-Marie_Céline · Accepted Answer

They are alright, a catchall for a first date. But from the second onwards, an activity like going to a fair or even just a walk would be more effective!

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I like to meet at coffee shops cause they are cozy but a coffee date outside has very little appeal to me - since I buy the coffee for permission to sit in the restaurant and not because I like the taste. Coffee tastes okay but mashed potatoes and sandwiches taste better.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

I think they're a great way to get an idea on if there's an interest there in a more casual setting without the whole "who pays for the date" or "sex expectations"...
If it's going well, you can always extend into lunch or a nice walk and/or arrange a second date.

DarkCarousel · Answer

One of the best (first) dates that I've ever had was on a coffee date. We sat and had coffee and talked for a while and then walked around the area nearby the coffee shop. We spent a few hours there talking and walking. An instant connection. Then he walked me to my car and kissed the hell out of me. There was no tongue. But he put his hands around his face and kissed me like it was the last day on earth.
I've never kissed someone on a first date! I don't think it was the coffee date, it could have been a date anywhere really. But we had a great connection.

electromagnetic · Answer

Im obsessed with coffee so much so I’ve travelled to certain countries just to try theirs.
Coffee dates are cute. Sadly the cute coffee shops usually has the trash coffee. Real quality coffee comes from hold in the walls run by people of that coffees origin

Joey_007 · Answer

I've never been on one but my favorite dates have always been walks around the neighborhood or just walking and talking in general, for some reason it feels more comfortable to walk and talk, I never run out of things to say or talk about, sitting face to face and talking feels weirdly uncomfortable and I'm not a coffee fan so there's a strong chance I won't like them or be good at them.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Why? Because it's convenient, cheap, and the both of you can focus only on the conversation and if it gets you through the door, the both can negotiate. You don't always have to go to Starbucks. There's always fancy coffee shops to go to. Plus, if you're invited out, why complain about it?

SynthKobra · Answer

I enjoy them because they’re low cost, casual, and the caffeine stimulates my brain so I can talk about whatever comes to mind. There is usually no expectation of anything afterward and they can be as long as you two want. People usually leave it at an hour but it can go longer (or shorter if you wanna bail). To me, they are one of the most reliable first date spots.

Shark_61695 · Answer

Not a fan of coffee but don't mind a coffee shop as the location. They are generally comfortable, relaxed and conducive to chatting. I'd prefer a bar as they tend to have a wider selection of soft drinks and I find it easier to take my time with a cold drink, I usually finish my hot chocolate rather quickly.

Commander_Red · Answer

I tolerate them, but personally, I don't like them. Most of the time, they are incredibly boring. Also, I hate the smell of coffee in general. I prefer to get a drink at a pub or something. I drink enough to loosen me up and get into banter mode. It's gives the same benefit of the coffee date. I can leave early if in want, and if it is really bad, I can have a few more drinks to forget about it 😂

Citizenkirk · Answer

It's a good way to find out if she's a talker or not, getting her hopped up on caffeine and all that 😉.

zagor · Answer

Yes, but I'll be having tea as I don't drink coffee.

They are a good casual way to get to know someone. Plus they give you the option of easily cutting things short if it's a disaster - harder to do if you're waiting 30 minutes for your food. And going the other way, they make it easy to suggest something afterwards.

Alyssa11 · Answer

I love coffee dates. I just love it I don’t have an explanation. It’s nice lol.

FlutteringFeelings · Answer

As a 10th date or if we have been dating for 2+ months then sure. A Coffee date as a first date? Definitely not. There are other options if the guy doesn’t want to spend too much. Picnic dates, beach date, and the list goes on.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yes definitely, it’s often more relaxed and no alcohol means more open chatting. also it gives both sides an out, as unlike an evening meet up, you don’t feel obliged to take them home, hotel etc.

legalboxers · Answer

coffee dates.. simple, quaint and quiet. opposed to the "bar dates" where its noisy and loud and others see it as an opportunity when people have "liquid courage" to start shit

slatyb · Answer

When I was meeting women on online dating sites, a coffee date was good for the initial meeting. It's only about a half-hour commitment but can easily become lunch or dinner if it's going well.

For a first date with a women I know, I would just ask her to dinner.

SaoirseS · Answer

Yes I like them. Juggling schedules can be tough sometimes. Coffee shops allow me to spend time with someone with little notice, or planning for events or meals.

purplepoppy · Answer

They're a safe option, he doesn't have to spend a fortune, it's easy chat and bests still 99% of guys there alone have been stood up so if I see someone better I can upgrade there and then.

NorthAfrican · Answer

They seem good! Because it's a good setting to discuss and get to know the other person well! I mean I also love going on coffee dates with friends!

nakshh · Answer

Naah... coffee date is so common now.. its like u r in a dating room with some coffee bcz majority of the people there would be on a date.. their u will have someone coming in between asking for order... people going here and there and noices.. like it's an okish place for a date but not the best

AzzaBlue · Answer

No, I hate them as both the man and woman sit opposites of eachother and ask awkward questions, like a very messed up interview. I prefer to keep it light and stress free therefore walks in park or walks along a beach are good options.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Sure. They’re fun short not usually too emotionally deep. Not a bad first date.

TurboKid · Answer

Kind of mundane for my taste. I like something else first, ideally something exhilarating, and take a coffee break in between.

erin_ireland · Answer

Is nice to get to know a few things about someone while sipping a hot tea or a latte

CuteLingsAppreciator · Answer

I like coffee, coffee shops are cozy and it's a nice public space to talk with other people. 12/10

Rok4bakAR · Answer

As long she’d attentive and had a nice body, and she haven’t been with too many men, yah.. and hopefully she’ll come to my place to play video games until 2am hahaha

Saville_Row · Answer

Of course. If is goes good or bad, at least I had the coffee. Which I love, by the way.

najekim · Answer

As a first encounter together, sure. Easier to walk away and not wait for food and dining if things aren't working out. Go to a damn good restaurant on the second date.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, I don't like coffee or just sitting somewhere doing nothing but talking.

exitseven · Answer

Oddly enough I never had a coffee date. Maybe because I don;t drink coffee and neither does my wife.

Wiredone · Answer

Coffee dates are ok. I've had a few of them. Then we usually go to the park or beach to take a walk and talk some more.

JackSmy · Answer

Before COVID, those were the best! You could meet, chat, and then leave, easily, without any worries, if it wasn't going well, or the other wasn't at all what they described, in whatever profile!

poneglyphs · Answer

I don't know, never been on a coffee date just a brunch date.

Iron_Man · Answer

Sure it’s something to do better than going to a bar and getting a DUI after

Wise4myage · Answer

Yes, coffee dates are a great way to get to know a person.

Shihab91 · Answer

I don't drink coffee but yeah a restaurant or something more fun even.

David_Bayer · Answer

I prefer good cup of black tea but I won't reject cup of coffee either.

Kuressento · Answer

Yes, the coffee date is a essential tool when meeting new people without going all out. Simply order a drink talk about simple and generic topic for about 15 to half an hour and see if either side want to go see each other again, if not nothing loss.

Daper · Answer

Not ahuge fan of coffee, will drink it to stay awake

River31 · Answer

I like them for two reasons, I love coffee and I love open conversation

DarcRefractions · Answer

if im intrested coffee dates if i like her we can go out to someplace else

msbrightness · Answer

If there is no red wine/the truth involved, why bother? Sex is certainly not worth it.

Lola154 · Answer

I think it is the best ones where can go on unpredicted after

EaterPeter · Answer

No. Allergic to coffee?

msc545 · Answer

Mostly I hate them because they feel like job interviews.

meleyy · Answer

I like dates but not coffee.

Slim57 · Answer

Nope dont like coffee

ChiTown33 · Answer

Nah I don't drink coffee.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yeah... Mostly because I like milkshake and cake.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I love them. (Even though I don't drink coffee.)

Shy_Steve · Answer

No not really because I don't drink coffee.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Ew, I only drink bagels for breakfast

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Yes. Because I refuse to be a "foodie call".

princeofromance · Answer

No, because I hate coffee.

genericname85 · Answer

I don't like coffee... So...

Coolkat12345 · Answer

Cool way to get to know eachother romantic too.

lpoots · Answer

dont drink coffee

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