I believe that men will use the 2nd place option to make the gbf jealous and to make them see what they missed out on because I was treated fairly good when we we're alone together or through text. But they mix in a little disrespect to me and more respect to the gbf when she's around. Just one example a guy I was dating would leave the only class we had together early just to be with his gbf at the only lunch break we had together and come back late to that class. I later found out that the gbf had changed her mind about not liking him and he was having mixed feelings.
I want to here from guys if this is true why/why not and from the ladies if this is relatable have u been the gbsf or felt like 2nd place
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The problem is not the girl. Its the guy. Having a best friend of the opposite sex is never the issue. The problem is the intent of the individual that is seeking the opposite sex for these relationships. The issue is not so much a depression, but the fact that these people are seeking sexual relations for the sake of getting sexual chances and opportunities. They use the women especially these men as a way to make it out that they're more socially important than what they actually are. It's not that you are second place but the fact that they don't really care about you. They care about what they can gain out of you but they said they desire love and everything else but that's not what they really looking for. They truly desire one thing and you know what that one thing is because true friendships are about the real bonds that I was innocent, pure, and authentic. If you don't have that in a French tip how you going to have that in a relationship? That's why these men go out there any girl that basically says yes to them as any one that has the same mentality be at their male or female do the same sitting because they want to feel accepted. So what you're asking is the wrong question. The question isn't can you trust a man with a girl best friend. The question is what is the person's intent for a relationship with you?
You got to look at the context of why the person has a crush and what is a crust for that individual. But somebody like you it could be innocent, but somebody like him it could be sexual, for somebody like her is to be infactuation. Until you understand the motives of the person, you don't know who you're inviting into your life.
I know for a fact that I value friendships and relationships I have with people. I know to respect boundaries. Other people's family do not understand the meaning of the word boundaries, neither do they have good intent with us. If your heart is not pure, you can bet other things that you do may not be out of purity.
The truth is you got to really ask yourself why are you attracted to that kind of person who doesn't sound like he's stable mind it? If he cannot respect his female friends decision is, do you think he's going to respect you just because you're his girlfriend?