If Online Dating Sites/Experience Is So Bad Why Do People Keep Using Them? (Page 2)
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they might have no other outlet to find people to date.
otherwise yeah i used to be on couple and i pretty much gave up after awhile. its particularly difficult for guys because there's soooo many that just want sex so the ones that actually want something serious get overlooked. Plus im definitely not a conventionally attractive dude with huge biceps and abs lol so yeah i gave up.
I mean I like biceps but that alone wouldn't make me be with it not be with someone... And I'm sure there's other females that feel the same way
yes but on a dating site they usually get the most traction unlike in the real world. A good picture does matter for a lot of women on there.
That's an excellent question thankfully I've never used them, I don't even use Facebook, Instagram, any of that nonsense. I prefer to be my own cause of stress 😉
Same here
LoL 😎
For that "needle in the hay stack". I keep going on them because I live in a small town and don't meet women in general, never mind single ones, so even though any kind of "success" is very rare, I have had some dates at least that never would have happened if it weren't for online.
I can see that. I just see so many posts or comments about how people user em just for attention or hookups or they get ghosted, so made me wonder why they would keep using them then
Yes, ghosting is particularly bad. And it's definitely limited my use, but recently I actually had someone message me and we've been on a couple dates, so it does/can work. But you have to have thick skin and lots of patients! lol And no expectations.
Sometimes you can come across a good person on there even tho you may come across some flaky people or liars, you never know it's just a chance you take with dating and sometimes people dont meet at work or public so a dating app could help you put yourself out there a little more.
I work from home, live in a very small town and have 2 kids. I was married almost 20 years and have never went to a bar or club (I hear they are worse). It is really the only option I can think of. I'm not sure how to meet someone socially and where. And even then I don't want to hit on someone already "taken". At least you get an idea of who the person is with a profile (may or not be real) and can make you decision based on the chats. But I haven't had luck. Just my heart broken be an emotionally unavib. guy that updated his dating profile before he broke up with me (same day, I got a notification he updated his profile)
it is usually the cirle - you go online, you get the rush something will happen - noting happens - algorhytm puts you in dead mode - you get dissapointed and leave online dating - time passes - you get desperate again - move to point 1.
the thing is, if you really devote into it, eventually you would meet someone ok. i have several friends who got their girlfriend online, but usually it took them 1-3 years of active usage. you should not be needy if you date online and you should use it as a supplement.
everyone needs to learn for themselves... it is kind of like learning math, just because everyone that has finished the 8th grade knows math, doesn't mean a 3rd grader should know math, they need to be taught... people need to learn about dating sites by being ripped off/// how else will they learn?
I guess
There is a supermarket mentality. People are there to buy people, not to look for someone to be in a relationship with. They buy people based on characteristics such as hedonic attributes. They continue to use them because they are a hyper simplification of reality that eliminates numerous approach problems. Also because in decayed countries these would now be seen as harassment, while with apps there are no such problems.
Eh... im relatively new to this space but yeah so far it has been pretty awful. I am not even trying to hook up irl and its still just the absolute worst kinds of people when it comes to dating. Thankfully I have some good people here to just talk to that help me get through it.
@Ez-Bri-Z I thought you already had a partner. Are you poly?
She encouraged me to explore myself online. So I can do whatever I want online it just can't take place off of it. (Phone is ok)
@Ez-Bri-Z. Oh, cool. Well, do your thing, then!
Not my style, personally, but I don't judge others' consenting relationships.
😊 so far it has been working fine
I don't know. I personally never used them. I have met people in person after communication with them online but all those always have been in professional context and not personal.
I do think that if are careful and have very low expectations about getting results, they may be a means for finding dates. But that is just my opinion that is not backed by any experience or solid logic! :-)
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People tend to get overly dramatic when there is misfortune or a negative experience, just to avoid the chance of another misfortune or negative. We think this bad experience is "the worst", so we just say that we aren't doing this again just to convince ourselves to keep distance. Then when that feeling of drama dissipates, we turn back because we think there will be no more negativity from it again. It's as if in our mind, it never happened in the first place.
Anticipation and positivity that the next one will be better.
Even if they don't get what is desired, they can at least 'window shop' and try different experiences virtually. They at least feel some efforts are made towards their 'goals'.
It's like watching FTV and anticipating - the next one will be nude 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Easier for most to use their fingers not their feet. However if the result are bad all it takes is a finger and a click, but in real time you use your feet and run like hell.
But in person you find out sooner sometimes
True less games
The pandemic jazz certainly helped to shoot "virtual stuff" through the roof, not that it's anywhere near as good as meeting IRL.
It's a lower effort option: for some, it's that or nothing.
I guess
Same reason why people continually play the lottery when they know the odds are slim: they hope this time will be different.
Good point... But at least the lottery you don't have to deal with BS people lolol
No, but you do have to spend money in order to play. So we lose in both scenarios I guess
I'd rather lose $2-4 dollars hell even $20 than put up with bs
Especially when the payout is so good!
Right! LOL
No other options available. The last year had been a nightmare for going out and meeting new people in person. And in general overall it seems harder for this generation to meet love in person. So you end up feeling like you have no other options but to go for online dating. That's been my experience at least. I don't like online dating, it's awkward. But I feel like at this given moment I don't have much of a choice.
It is different for every person. It worked so good for me. I ve meet amazing people online. The man im in love with.. I meet him online and it is such a beautiful feeling he made me feel. Never been so happier not even with people i meet from school or work. So it depends on the person and how they know to make a good connection.
Because for a lot of people, that is their only or only realistic option.
But how realistic is it if it doesn't really work out?
As Long as People dont have real options IRL or they have the illusion there’s something better online, they’ll keep doing it.
I never have, but I think the idea is that that's what people use, so that's where they are. With lockdowns shutting down a lot of in-person options, many feel they have no real choice- and likely aren't wrong.
Because people are apaparently really really really lonely in this mechanised world full if shit technologies and then they search for some real connection on dating sites. They can't help themselves.
But then it's packaged in a box with a fake bow.