When you like a guy, do you immediately assume he will probably like you?

[jennifer_bloom]

I only like guys I think I have a good chance with so I’m rarely disappointed when I try to attract somebody, if a guy isn’t interested or accessible, I can turn my feelings off like a freezer and go from hot to cold instantly

Yes I do

No I don’t

[Youryeodongsaeng]

In school, having crush was like this taboo-like feeling. It was like I was never supposed to have feelings or even little feelings for the opposite gender. I knew none of them would like me back. I did have a friend who went out with one of my crushes. I envied her, yet I was very jealous. When I'm jealous, I don't really do anything besides hate myself for even having feelings for someone who is so out of my league.
Heck, having feelings for guys will always give me this taboo-like feeling.

I have dated two girls before. I've spent more time with them than the boys I've dated before them.


No, I'm not lesbian... At least I don't think so. I know my sexuality, but I need more experience with the opposite gender to confirm anything.

[Alyssa11]

Yes because they usually do lol

[jerdanro]

I've never understood how people can turn their feelings off in an instant. I'm also suprised that when I hear this, it's almost always from women.

It sounds cold to me. I'd wonder if the feelings were ever real if they can be switched off so easily. I'm not criticizing women. I just don't really get it.

Do you think this is a survival mechanism for women? I studied Biology, so I tend to see things through the lens of evolution and genetics.

My guess is that it was beneficial for women back when men were important to their survival. For example, if a woman's mate becomes unsuitable, she is able to focus on finding a new mate to help her and her children survive.

Thoughts?

[FoxnEagle]

I would argue it's a bit of stubbornness on the part of men. It's part of the reason why there's the whole "no means no" that's going on, normally directed at men, because we as men pursue, get rejected, pursue some more in the hopes we get our chance.

Then there's the age old discussion that men chase and women choose, so women have the options. Despite being able to empathize better than men, if they tried to empathize with every man they refused they'd probably be depressed all the time; better to just freeze and go cold.

Going back to the previous point, freezing and going cold may help deter future propositions, 'cause if the man thinks there is ANY chance, he just may be stubborn enough to try again :P

[jasco]

Most guys when ask out by a girl will either say maybe or yes unless their talking to someone or in a relationship. Of course their are cheaters but they don't count.

[Cynicaldreamer]

I'm actually the opposite: I immediately assume he will only want to be friends, or he has no interest in me-

Unfortunately I'm usually right :|
That's why I usually don't get my hopes up when I approach a guy: I assume he's not interested until proven otherwise.

[FoxnEagle]

The Cynicaldreamer is cynical, what a surprise :D

[thimmslicc]

I liked him but didn't think he liked me. Until he stayed around.

[Shark_61695]

When I like someone I generally assume they are well out of my league.

[throwsomecheeseonit]

Why? You never know what can happen. If I like someone something more than looks attracted me to them. So why bot swing for fences even if they are extremely hot. Worst they can do is say no. But at least then I know.

[WowwGirl]

I assume my because of my skill set or my
Will he may eventually

[Leavesbound]

Generally, if a girl likes me and lets me know in some way it's easy to like her back especially if she's a nice person.

[Overmind]

I'm the exact same way, I make my interest known & depending on her reaction it's her one & only chance with me, but there's no malice afterwards on my part.

[kannettava]

My first assumption is usually that people won't like me, because I've been bullied in the past and a lot of it was because of my personality.

[FoxnEagle]

Bullied on personality?

[SupremeWarlord]

I remember when I was a little kid I always thought that only men liked women, since I was not attracted to men myself.

During adolescence, I always assumed that the girl would not like me back since I always felt inferior to them.

[exitseven]

I am a guy but when I was in the dating pool I always was surprised when somebody would like me back.

[ThinkSmart]

It's funny when i read here that girls like guys adding to that are worried they won't like them back.

I'm 25 and i have never heard that a girl liked me!

I bet it feels great being on the other side, i can feel it by just reading it.

[FoxnEagle]

Need a results button :D
If it's vice-versa I do not immediately assume she will like me.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

When I like a girl, I don't assume she would like me back but hard to say?

[moejoeloli]

You have to think like yes gurl!! Self esteem and confidence is the true goal to enjoy life

[karaspara]

No I usually worry he won't like me

[krin_m]

I don't like guys, but if I like a girl, I like her regardless of whether she will like me or not.

[Asianguy123]

Feelings are mutual but not all the time. There is always exceptions. Sometimes he attraction doesn’t come back.

[MLGbreezy]

Female privilege is a live and we'll

[oralqueen]

yup pretty much