How do I tell a guy I’m plus size? (Page 2)

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So I started online dating and I didn’t put in my bio that I’m plus size. I do have pictures of my full body and you can see that I’m plus size or thicc or curvy. The last 5 guys I’ve met up with, ghost me after seeing me. We have a good time talking and keep that same energy when we meet up but I’m blocked right after the date. I did tell one guy that I’m plus size before our date and he ghosted me, another guy told me I should really disclose that to people before we meet up. Now I matched up with a guy and he’s pretty cute we’ve been talking for a week and he’s giving hints all day that he wants to meet up for dinner tonight. Do I tell him I’m plus size before hand or do I just let him see me in person? I really don’t wanna screw it up.

scott04sa22 · Answer

Size should never be an issue. If he doesn't like then move on. Some people like there woman to have a husky side. Also respecting yourself is a plus too.

BCA6010 · Answer

If you're already clearly visible in your photos, then there's no reason to fret over it. He has seen it already.

jshm2 · Answer

You did. The size is not your problem, it's what little personality you have in it, that is the problem.

Nik1hil · Answer

If guys are ghosting...  I think you need to loose weight..

OddBeMe · Answer

I’d say real pics are important. But I promise you, we luuuvv “plus sized” women. Own it. And don’t feel like you have to label yourself. Just don’t lie or send filtered pics.

David_Kek · Answer

Just tell them over text;  "i'm a little bit chunky, so you won't be able to pick me up. But, i do have more folds and crevices in my body for you to use. That cool with you?"

TallAnon · Answer

Look, plus size doesn't mean much to us. I've seen the skinniest girls call themselves that. You just need to post honest pictures that show your body.

NoLookingAtSoleil · Answer

Typically female, lies, cheating, expecting because you are female it is acceptable.
He'll dump you or cheat on you for it. Bit too late for that one. Be honest then see who you find stating you are overweight.
Or fix it before advertising.

thathonestman · Answer

Maybe after 5 times you’ll stop wasting everyone’s time?  State it in your bio up front and you will significantly lower the chances of that happening.

Anonymous · Answer

Just make sure your profile has pictures of what you actually look like today. If you're being ghosted after a date due to looks it's because your pictures are deceiving compared to the reality.

exitseven · Answer

Don;t make an issue out of it. He will find out soon enough. If it is an issue you will know it soon as well.

Leavesbound · Answer

Don't tell them if you already have a full body photo posted.

key_statistics · Answer

Reverse psychology: ask without asking without saying it.  What kind of women do you like? Do you like your women with meat or without? What figure do you like on a women?

2ndTryatThis · Answer

You don’t “owe” anyone an explanation. These guys just sound shallow. You’re not missing out if that’s how they behave. Just keep being you.

dudeinohio · Answer

Well, you need to change your bio. Go ahead and go on your date and see what happens. The odds are starting to turn in your favor... sooner or later someone will want to date you.

loveslongnails · Answer

You ask him if he's taken a good close look at your photos and did he see that you're a plus size girl?

AFellowWeeb · Answer

Have you ever tryied going for ''plus sized'' males?

karaspara · Answer

If you start chatting with someone just straightup tell him a lot of guys prefer thick curvy women good luck xx

Stevefiveo · Answer

I think a picture of you is a fine way to tell them. If they can't handle that you're plus size, then f them.

OutWestBandit · Answer

those are some pretty shitty guys. i bet they have their own weak ass bodies and no stamina - but they all want a tight ass with great curves

zagor · Answer

Doesn't your dating app let you select your body type? You don't want to waste your time with guys who will be put off by that.

ryckrohan · Answer

Just tell him. Ye I know that sone guys will walkaway but those the losers u don't have to deal with anyway.

In_Trance · Answer

Wow... someone from a dating site that's plus size... shocker.  Change your profile; make it clear

JosyJosy · Answer

You already told him through pictures. Guys are visual. They'll go through every picture

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

If you already have full body photos that they can see and only ghost you after meeting up in person then they just wanted to lead you in.

clampfan101 · Answer

Some guys are into that. Some guys aren’t, but don’t mind. Just be yourself. If they don’t want you because of that, they’re not suited for you.

Anuakshay · Answer

Be as you are be confident and meet him if he rejected no problem it's his loss there are many fishes in sea

wearehere2002 · Answer

tell him before hand cuase if he does like you as the sexy curvy women you are he will still met you for dinner

Wise4myage · Answer

Add thick and curvy to your bio immediately. That way, their is no misunderstanding. And just tell this latest guy before you meet him.

msc545 · Answer

Your size is ruining your social life and your health. Lose weight!

Lildiq · Answer

By saying "I'm plus size" That's literally how you say it... What u wanna do? beat around the bush? Speak in Code? "I'm a marshmallow but x3 in the form of a human"? Jus say what you mean..

TimlovesKristine · Answer

You didn’t screw anything up, they are shallow and worthless! If you have pictures of yourself they can see what size you are.  My girlfriend uses the phrase she is a curvy girl though.

blondfrog · Answer

I would totally date a plus size woman. Send her my way.

LoveIsFake · Answer

Most guys know that plus size girls only put face pics. Anyways best way is just to be straight up. Hey I'm plus size by the way

Anonymous · Answer

If you have a full body pic that should be enough to let guys know how big you are. Unless they are blind it should be obvious to them. It sounds like these guys don't know what they want. I think that you are better off with out them.

Anonymous · Answer

You could ask guys you're chatting with online what kind of women's body types they like and dislike and see how they reply.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm guessing those pics are from a few years/pounds back. Possibly heavily filtered.

Tomsta · Answer

When you say plus size do we mean media plus size? which isn't actually plus size really

TessCasie · Answer

Why can’t you just hit the gym and get fit. Moreover always put up full body snapshot. I’m sure your pretty they like your face.

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Even if it is online, if one has to tell or explain, that's not worth a relationship to go with

Maatthew · Answer

Undress. Then, take it like a woman and then tell his sorry ass he better do the dishes before he leaves.

wkkylie · Answer

I think you can better say it before you go to dinner

Hanrej · Answer

You just did. Several guys actually. It's that easy.

he-takes-a-part · Answer

First lemme see then it would be easier to arrive at a better decision.

CHadwww · Answer

Being fat doesn't make you ''curvy or thick'' stop sugarcoating the word fat with ''plus size'' just say it like how it is your overweight

I_want_a_moustache · Answer

"I'm a whole lot of woman" I forget where I heard this but I thought it was cute

Clarke498 · Answer

I mean, the pictures are there right? He probably knows

Asianguy123 · Answer

Honest is the best polish. What will you lose anyway. You will not get much response but only serious ones.

fonduegirl · Answer

Are you out of shape? Unfit? If not, you needn't worry. Sure, it was kinda stupid of you to keep that from him but he'd be okay once he sees you. Guys love curvy.

Sambelfast198526 · Answer

Nothing wrong with plus size. a lot of guys like it.

Anonymous · Answer

You really need to tell guys this beforehand because most guys prefer slim or average

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Wow.. I like plus size girls.. can I see ur pics.. dm me

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Your pictures are misleading. People HATE being misled. Upload some authentic pictures that don't lie.

Anonymous · Answer

They leave because they see you've catfished them. Noone likes or should like an unhealthy BMI.

red324 · Answer

You put up accurate pictures. Put your weight too.

Iron_Man · Answer

Just show him a picture

anylolone · Answer

By telling him your fat.

Anonymous · Answer

What’s your weight and height?

Supernormal · Answer

Show him a picture of you.

EyesOfGod · Answer

The arms are a dead give away on weight anyways.

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