How do I tell a guy I’m plus size? (Page 2)

[MTC29]

Do not imagine that every guy wants a skinny super model. A lot of guys want genuine women. If that means they're heavier than what a model in a magazine is supposed to look like, so be it.

I recommend that you simply show up ad you are. You'll find out a lot about him very quickly. If he has expectations of some 90 pound, 40 kilogram woman, better to get past that as soon as possible.

[FilmGuy93]

I'm not really sure why you need to say anything at all, just don't lie about it. Look, when he sees your pics... he's gonna know. It's not like you'll be sitting with him in a restaurant and dropping bombs on him. He's not going to be shocked like "oh shit, you mean to tell me that you AREN'T emaciated?"

[AnggieGirl]

Guys want to pick what they think is the best best ever! Looks really should not matter unless the person doesn’t groom or brush their teeth or try to wear a decent set of clothes.
If he wants you to say you’re bbw then men best be putting their dick size too and if it’s circumcised or not and how long they last before they cum! Lol
Dating is for men, relationships are for women

[Aakash_Hangargi]

You mention it in your Bio if that's what people are ghosting you for it will save you effort and time and getting emotionally attached from.

You could start talking and then you can say , I am not even sure why it's big deal that you ahve to specifically mention it.

Don't be disheartened there is someone for everyone.

And you don't need such people or negativity in your life.

So relax and the right person will be attracted ti you

[Andres77]

Just put it in your bio upfront and you won't have to worry about it because the guys will see it and the ones that connect online will be the ones that already know. Then you can get to the heart of knowing each other instead of worrying as much about appearances.
Change your bio.

[CasuallySamsonite]

Plenty of guys sort BBW to the top... that is like their whole thing. If guys are ghosting you, get better guys... If the one you are talking to means something to you then maybe be blunt about it. Tell him your feelings toward him, be upfront and ask his honest opinion. If he bails then find someone who won't and if it bothers you, then work on it... I was way over weight in my teen years but I worked through it, (stairs > elevator ftw) and so could you *If you chose.

[EyesOfGod]

BBW? More like BFF
(big fat females)

[pleasestopthis]

You should let him know as soon as possible, and it's best if you update your profile, that way you'll get rid of everyone who isn't interested in plus size women and you'll save yourself a headache. The best would be to put your picture in your profile or at least let people know in your description.

[Anonymous]

With that history of yours, I would tell him. Maybe your full figure pics don't show your size very well. I would take some new ones and ask a good friend to judge if they think it looks representative of how you appear in person.
Hope you have better luck in the future. Maybe it is more difficult being plus size on the dating market, but there are men who like it, so you need to get in contact with those :)

[Massageman]

You could use a screen name that implies it-
"little Bit Xtra" "BBWinnie" "Big And Rockin'It" "More than a Handful"

You could simply state the fact

You could just put out the info- sizes, weight- and left him draw his owns conclusions

You could not mention it, but avoiding the topic- any topic- isn't the best way to start any relationship.

[Anonymous]

Wouldn’t it be easier to tell him first so if you do get ghosted again it won’t be so bad? I know it’s a hard throng to handle b it honestly, just because a few guys have ghosted you, that doesn’t mean all guys will. But if you want to set a good impression I think you should mention it before you meet up. That’ll demonstrate courage and honesty over deception.

[Bee-Hatch]

If you've got full body pics in your profile they can see. You don't need to spell it out. If they're too dumb to realise then it's probably for the best they drop off. Helps you weed out those with low intelligence.

[Anonymous]

If you are not deceptive in your photos you won’t need to say anything. If every guy ghosted you after meeting you and you’re sure it’s your size and not your personality that is the cause, that would lead me to believe your profile/pics are misleading.

[crazy8000]

Do you want to be trustworthy be honest about it.

If you want to know if that matters just ask if body shape and size matters if not and he doesn't ask don't tell.

Some people doesn't care about someone's body shape and size.

( I do but I rarely ask and see at a meeting and she ends up in friendzone if she wants to meet more times )

[DWornock]

Just accept the fact that, based on your looks, you are not considered desirable by attractive guys. That is just the way life is. A few people are extremely lucky because they are 8s, 9s, and 10. A few people are very unlucky because they are 1s, 2s, and 3s. Most people are average and in between. Everyone wants 8s, 9's and 10s, no one wants, 1s, 2s, and 3s, not even other 1s, 2s, and 3s. 4s through 7s will usually settle for what they can get which is certainly less than what they want.

[RingOfFire]

If you get to the point you have to tell them it's too late. You should post pictures that let the viewer see what you look like. If you don't, you are asking to be ghosted because it shows you are hiding something.

Be who you are and let people who you are asking to take an interest in you see who it is upfront. Deception is a bad way to start a relationship.

[Mangospacho]

I mean, there are guys who like plus size women, myself included. There are guys who are really attracted to plus size women so you’re likely going to find someone who wants to date you. You might as well put it in your bio that you’re plus size so you get someone who likes your body type.

[Goatmeal]

Basically, you should represent yourself fairly honestly in your photos. It's fine if you choose the flattering ones, but try not to choose ones from 20 lbs ago or something.

There is definitely a market for chubbier women, but the point of dating is to find the people who are attracted to you, not the ones who aren't. So it's best to be upfront about it.

[Woman1]

It all depends on your comfort level, but you do not owe them anything. You posted the picture, it wasn’t hidden. They are just jerks and it’s honestly better that they ghosted you because you don’t deserve someone like that.

[Anonymous]

Women are really good liars when it comes to manipulating our eyes with the way they take their photos.
I feel that fat chicks should always put at least one unflattering full body frontal photo of themselves on their profile just so guys can see what she looks like and decide for themselves if they feel comfortable with all of that

[SmokinAces2000]

Those guys sound like assholes and aren’t worth your attention. Realistically you shouldn’t have to tell them that you are plus sized if they can see that if you have pictures up. It sounds too me that those guys have an inferiority complex and just like to lead women on. I don’t think it has anything to do with you being plus sized this happens a lot on dating sites and social media that’s why I personally think people should meet in person