Why do men say that they hate gold diggers?

[aliali8]

I see a lot of men on here who say they hate gold diggers YET, they don't mind dating a lazy unemployed woman. They don't care if a woman has an education or career. They say that women should date them because they are financially stable. Or that he can take care of his girlfriend and buy her things. He prefers to date / marry women that make less money than him.

Lets be honest, how is this not a recipe set up for finding a "gold digger"?

A woman without a career, has NOTHING to bring to the table, as a wife. A wife is a partner to raise kids with, not another liability.

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Does a grown woman who doesn't care about how to survive on her own in the real world , show Any responsibility Over her own life?

It shows she simply does not care about herself or is extremely lazy. She rather marry a husband to survive rather than to work to survive.

And once the husband loses his income or can no longer work, she can’t feed her kids. She can’t help feed her family. Do you think this sounds like a competent parent , in any way shape or form?

[Anonymous]

I think the men who complain about gold diggers and the women who complain about fuckboys have the same problem. They choose those people over and over again and then they come here ‘’ All women are the same, i hate them’ or ‘’All men are the same, i hate them’’ okay hate then? Why you share your hatred here? There are many men who don’t deceive women or many women who work for themselves and feminists and powerful and don’t need men for their money. So, but they are not preferred why? Because those men want needy women to feel powerful when after that needy women leave them for better option they say that all women are gold diggers. No, you preferred her. The other people who don’t deceive people and powerful alone say that they don’t need opposite sex because they are not preferred. So in the end everyone hate each other. If your every relationships are the same maybe you can sometimes criticize yourself. Everyone is full of hatred. It is hard to live like that.

[Archerer]

Wow that isn't even the beginning of it. It gets so much worse, those same guys want a traditional woman who will stay at home have no education and no job, AKA they NEED his money, yet the men will complain women are gold diggers, and on top of that, they also never hire women into their positions to have the same affluence, then when a woman does rise up to it, they are cowards and intimidated by them. Joke

[aliali8]

I know! Gold diggers tend to be uneducated, unsuccessful women who cannot survive on their own. This is why they need to marry a rich man to provide for them. Because they can't provide for themselves.

[Archerer]

Damn well I am less cynical. If I was a woman I would absolutely be a gold digger. The world was set up against women, why not play the hand you were dealt? Why introduce all these morals into an economic world that has none? No rich men made their money morally or ethically (well, lets say 90%) so why the fuck wouldn't I be just as cut throat as they are in business when it comes to my money?

[aliali8]

Because gold digging is not a secure happy way to live. Your husband can always stop providing for you by divorcing you. But if you have your own way to make money, you will always live according to your means. You can have the luxury of marrying the man you want without considering his income

[Archerer]

Well I don't disagree with that. All I am saying is that I don't blame gold diggers all the time. I think some are smart, and just doing the same thing their husbands are doing, exploiting people for money lol

[aliali8]

I'm gonna tell you something: Successful smart women who make decent money do not have to be gold diggers. Women who make good money can afford to marry the man they want without considering his income.

Gold diggers tend to be poor or unemployed women who lack career prospects

[Archerer]

I agree with all of that too

[Archerer]

What I was tryin to say is that sometimes people are made for each other. Men who like gold diggers often cheat, like fake girls, are assholes, made their riches through bad morals, etc.

[DarcRefractions]

I don't hate them. At best ill sleep with one not date.

[NightHawk99]

Because a gold digger tries to get your money. Not every "lazy and unemployed" woman does that.

[aliali8]

most gold diggers are lazy and unemployed. its just a fact. because a woman who takes responsibility over her own life would have a career

[aliali8]

there are a lot of lazy women out there who would prefer to marry a husband in order to survive rather than to work a career.

[NightHawk99]

What about the bitch that literally makes me pay for everything? Hell I only got her attention because my car was expensive.

[xPrince]

First of all a lazy n unemployment women doesn't means she is a gold-digger. Gold-diggers are mostly the rich bitch who already have lots of money but she isn't allowed to use all of them, by some reason.
A women as a wife doesn't needs career, its enough being a woman. No Husband wants money from his wife. He just wants her love, care, support for the lifetime in all the ups n downs.😊

[aliali8]

A woman who can’t raise her kids without her husband is not a competent parent. Let’s face reality

[aliali8]

The typical modern woman is college educated with a job. A woman without an education or a job shows lack of ambition , irresponsibility and laziness. A grown woman without a job is similar to being handicapped , such as not being able to cook.

Being able to survive In the real world as a grown adult is a basic life skill.

Does a grown woman who care about how to survive on her own in the real world , show responsibility Over her own life?

[aliali8]

Does a grown woman who doesn't care****. about how to survive on her own in the real world , show responsibility Over her own life?

If you're gonna have no other criteria other than her looks / body when it comes to selecting a wife, then you will only be dating gold diggers. Because gold diggers tend to be either unemployed, uneducated, lack career prospects or poor.

[aliali8]

No woman would be jobless nowadays unless she really does not want to work.

If you want to avoid gold diggers , I suggest you go look through the employed pile rather than the unemployed pile of women. Otherwise you’re just asking for a gold digger.

[xPrince]

Agree with you but in my opinion u can't say an unemployed, uneducated, poor woman is a gold digger. No woman in nowadays wants to be unemployed, its just her situation her family background who is financially weak makes her poor and without money u can't afford career and good education which makes her unemployed in that situation she just want someone to fulfill her basic need to at least survive in this cruel world. A poor girl (here poor means lack of money) can never be a gold digger and i would definitely go for her and make her well educated to be able to grab a job. Try to observe her intentions that why she wants her husband's or boyfriend's money, if she wants tha to do party clubbing and enjoy with friends then she is definitely a gold digger whether she is rich or poor, educated or uneducated, employed or unemployed and if she wants that money for her basic need and to make herself more productive in her life job career then she won't be considered as a gold digger

[aliali8]

No woman who is hard working , intelligent and responsible would be unemployed. A woman who is unemployed shows that she DOES NOT CARE about her own life. It shows that she is not a responsible person. If a woman does not care enough to take responsibility over her own life, how do you expect her to take responsibility for children?

I came from a poor family. I ended up graduating with honors in high school and pulled out a loan to attend college. Now I am a professional making very decent money. I get myself an education / career because I want to raise children one day. By doing this , I have shown that I am hard working and take responsibility over my life and also responsibility for my children's lives.

Sure, not all stay home wives are gold diggers. But the fact that she rather marry a husband to survive rather than to work (like everyone else) shows she has gold digging tendencies.

[aliali8]

Even if a woman does want to be a stay home mom, at least check if she has an education or worked hard towards something in her life. You should be aiming for a woman who has proven she is a responsible person.

Not some lazy freeloader who has never worked towards anything in her life. Never held a job, does not know anything, did poorly in school. Never paid for anything she has. Has no clue how to survive in the real world as a grown woman.

Is this the type of person you want to be a role model for your kids?

[Anonymous]

How do you feel about dating or marrying a guy who is predominantly into you for your looks? You're 25 and your looks will never improve, they will only deteriorate. Do you feel confident that the guy you invested your time with will stick around as his salary increases and you get older?

[aliali8]

Well if you're gonna have no other criteria other than her looks / body when it comes to selecting a wife, then you will only be dating gold diggers. Because gold diggers tend to be either unemployed, uneducated or poor.

[Opinion Owner]

i don't care about a women's education or job. I have met much nicer waitresses than corporate women. That isn't my point though.

I was drawing a parallel between men and gold diggers. I guess it was lost on you though

[aliali8]

if you're gonna decide to date an unemployed woman, you're just asking for a gold digger. Sorry but this is just the reality. Any reasonable man would prefer to marry a woman who has something to bring to the table.

[Opinion Owner]

I never said that I would marry and unemployed woman, so don't get your hopes up.

[aliali8]

you will only begin to care whether your wife works as a waitress or a corporate job , once you have 3 kids, 3 college tuitions, a mortgage, car loan, retirement savings to save up for. This is when you wished you married a woman with something to bring to the table. It actually happens for a lot of people as they get older.

[Opinion Owner]

No, that is not true. I want a women of substance. Her character is more important than money. the last kind of women i would want is the angry career feminist type. I would be in jail within 2 year for killing her with one of her own high heeled shoes. I am much too pretty for prison and I despise that type of female

[aliali8]

there are tons of nice , decent, women working careers out there. Actually most women are college educated and working careers.

You just prefer a woman without a job because you want to control every aspect of her life by making her a stay home wife. You just worry about her leaving you once things go bad.

[aliali8]

A woman with good character but cannot help you raise children, is also worthless as a wife.

what is wrong with having both good character and good income / career?

[Opinion Owner]

What is wrong with you? Who said that she was not good with raising children?

[aliali8]

A wife without a career CANNOT RAISE CHILDREN. How are you going to send your kids to college? what about not being able to provide your kids enough food and clothes and video games? what about working until you're 80 because you didn't have enough money to retire?

[aliali8]

You suffer a heart attack and you're bed ridden for the rest of your life, how is your wife ( a parent) going to raise your kids? she CAN'T. she's not someone who can feed anyone.

[Opinion Owner]

You paint them as useless pathetic creatures but hundreds of generations have successfully raised children without the need of a grand career. Why do you insult these women? Aren't they human beings too? Aren't they women too?

[aliali8]

because cost of living has risen. Costs of going to college has risen. Millennials are the first generation where we are still living with our parents into our late 20s-30s. They are also the generation the biggest student loan debt. Back then, families can survive comfortably off of one income. Nowadays, this is far far from reality. Its also much harder to get a job today than 30 years ago.

A woman who cannot raise her kids without her husband is not a competent parent.

Hard working, Smart educated women with good work ethic are never stay home wives. Even if they have to say home to raise kids for a couple of years, they will eventually return back to the workforce. Stay home wives tend to be uneducated and lazy, wanting the easy way out.

[aliali8]

Being a stay home wife is the PERFECT position for a gold digger. She doesn't have to work hard and she gets to be fed. She gets to have poor work ethic , do the least work possible and still gets to survive.

[Opinion Owner]

you are a misogynist

[aliali8]

i think you're a misogynist. Misogynists' can't handle smart women.

[Opinion Owner]

right. keep telling yourself that all of the men who reject you are racist, sexist, misogynists. It will help you get through your life alone with your cats

[aliali8]

All of the men I date, will not date an unemployed woman or a woman who works at mcdonalds. Only misogynists would date an unemployed woman or look highly upon a woman who makes minimum wage. Smart educated men marry smart educated women. Misogynists only marry women without an education or job.

[Opinion Owner]

right, you are delusional. More evidence that those women are just better than you.

[aliali8]

There are more women than men in college. Go check

[Opinion Owner]

so what?

[aliali8]

it proves that most men have no problem dating a woman with a career or college degree. statistics show that college educated men tend to date college educated women.

[Opinion Owner]

No, it doesn't prove anything. I happen to know many college graduated females who are lonely spinsters. Many of them are homely and therefore have nothing to offer. I have recommended that they become lesbians because lesbians like ugly women

[aliali8]

i think thats what you like to believe , not whats true. Only misogynists like to believe in that kinda stuff

[Opinion Owner]

i support women who work for a living, not sleep their way up the corporate ladder. you are the one who support whoring your way to the top

[aliali8]

you just said you would date a woman without an education or job. thats what you call a loser

[Opinion Owner]

What part of "i support women who work for a living" are you talking about? Corporate women are usually ugly and they get old quickly and are no longer attractive to most men. Maybe you can find a beta simp who is ugly himself

[aliali8]

corporate women and men usually are the most physically attractive. these jobs are prestigious and competitive. Its not something that Ugly people can easily get.

If a woman isn't responsible enough to care to support / take care of herself, why should any man trust her enough to be responsible for children?

[Opinion Owner]

money does not equal happiness. I think that you have been fooled by the worst part of modern society to believe that. I make more than enough to raise a family and be happy. Our kids can go to state colleges instead of ridiculous private colleges

[aliali8]

a parent who cannot raise their kids on their own is not a competent parent. Enough said.

You can't raise kids without money.

[Opinion Owner]

A person who is completely unemployed and living off of assistance can raise their kids right. Love and guidance is free. Emphasizing good behavior and school is also free. It is the poorest who get free rides at university unless they Asian

[aliali8]

You can’t send kids to college without money. The only colleges that you would be able to afford are shitty community colleges where your kids won’t be able to get anywhere in life.

And lastly a mother without an education will not be able to teach or tutor her Children if they have any trouble in school. Nor would she be able to offer her kids any career or job advice.

A welfare mom who does not care about herself, lazy , never had an education , never worked hard toward anything in life is NOT a good role model for kids , in any sort of way

[aliali8]

If the mother is lazy, has no goals , never worked hard toward anything , never took responsibility over her own life. What makes u think the kids won’t learn from her and turn out the same way?

And the kids will also have a MISERABLE childhood with holes in their shoes , never played a video game , never had new clothes , never went to summer camp , never had a smart phone , never went on vacation , could never get anything they wanted at the store

[aliali8]

If the mom is a welfare mom, there is a good chance she will be living in poor neighborhoods where there will be a lot of drug dealing and crime. The kids will only grow up into criminals

[aliali8]

How do you emphasize good behavior , if your mother is a lazy uneducated bum who doesn’t care about her own life?

[Opinion Owner]

What does your mothers do for an occupation?

[aliali8]

i don't think that matters.

because the reality is, lazy moms with no work ethic or goals tend to raise kids with no work ethic or goals.

[Opinion Owner]

You're wrong. It matters. You just spent 3+ days telling me how important it is and now I can see that your mother is a loser and she must have done a bad job raising you

[aliali8]

you have no evidence my mother is a loser.

I turned out into a hard working ambitious young lady because my parents worked hard in life. Smart parents make smart kids. Dumb parents make dumb kids. Lazy parents make lazy unsuccessful kids. Hard working parents make hardworking ambitious kids. Educated parents tend to raise educated kids. Uneducated parents tend to raise uneducated kids.

A mother is their child's first role model. there's nothing you can say to refute this.

[taboomaster]

Because they only are with us for money.

[Hotboy_booblover]

Because they dont have enough gold😂