Which gender rejects someone interested in dating them harsher: men or women?

Question

Just an opinion on a question i saw. Do you agree with this person?

Omario2049 · Accepted Answer

I'm kinda hard pressed to say men are harsher with this. Hear me out. Women have had plenty of time and practice with rejecting people's advances. However men RARELY EVER get propositioned for sex, we're always the one chasing sex. So for us, when a chick we're not attracted to wants to get some, we don't know what to do because this has NEVER happened before. It's extremely weird for us. The only reason I can relate is because God blessed me with pretty decent looks and I did figure out style and such so I have had women pursue me sexually and also many exes. So my life's experience is a lot different than most men's. I was super harsh in the begining, one of my rejects even rage quit life after I rejected her and that's what opened my eyes to it. It legit takes practice. Now I'm so good at it that they don't even realize they've been rejected until sometimes days after.
Also just so guys know, there are PLENTY of women (particularly young) who can't reject a guy. I remember back in my pushy young daysni was really into this girl. She didn't seem really into me but I kept pushing until we got into all the way to the bedroom and while we're there I noticed she was avoiding kissing me but she was ok with me kissing on her neck and body and when it got to me shoving it in. I noticed she was looking away and just totally not into it. I asked her if she's good and she said yeah. I told her she didn't seem into it and she said I'm not. So I asked her what am I doing wrong and she said nothing I'm just not into u like that. So I asked her what the fuck does that mean and she said "I'm just giving u what u want so u'll leave me alone. I didn't wanna tell u because I didn't wanna make u mad". So I jumped off and yelled "EWWWWWWW , Bitch u nasty. Why the fuck would u do that?". I asked her when did she realise she wasn't into me and she actually said "from day one". I almost died. So yeah, not all women can speak up and reject a guy. I personally much prefer being told to fuck off at first approach than to go throught that again. I felt violated.

TheOracle10 · Accepted Answer

Women are usually in better stances to do such, I have passively rejected women before because I simply do not feel like hurting them, I have no vendetta against these random women.

If anything, I feel like it is harder for a man to reject a woman without being seen as "rude" or "mean", a few times I had to be aggressive with my wording while being indifferent to get the message across to them, for some women it seems like rejection is just absolutely out of the question.

I find that women typically are much more sensitive and easier to emotionally destroy, their insecurities so blatant. They come into these situations thinking they are so attractive and whatnot, that its an improbability that they will be rejected or ignored, and when it happens, it shatters them. They breakdown, they rethink everything. Of course I am only really talking about young women, women with more experience will obviously be used to this and not care as much, men are certainly far more used to it.

Women are extremely brutal, at least in my case, if you are ever put in an unfavorable situation with a woman, and she does not like you, you will not be pitied. It is almost like a requirement, that they must be absolutely brutal.

tatianamay · Accepted Answer

I think it’s not gender specific. Lol, I told this guy I liked him and damn, it was embarrassing. I still have the text he sent me:

Your mum is right communication is important, and you’re brave for telling me how you feel. I like you too and I think you’re sweet and pretty and you’re awesome to talk to. But I want to make it clear that I’m not looking for a relationship with anyone rn I’m just doing my own think yk. I appreciate your kind words beautiful girl and I hope you know you’re so lovely and easy to talk to so thank you ❤️ I honestly don’t know if this is what you wanted to hear or not but that’s just how I feel x

He’s depressed and got out of a toxic relationship 6 months ago? I met him only like 2 months ago lol. I felt so stupid tbh. He’s the first guy I ever made a move on. I thought he was giving me the “signs” yk? What I didn’t know was that he was talking to 10 different girls. Lol, when a guy is still online and doesn’t reply to your text for 2 weeks 😂 then you know that you’re getting ghosted for being “too nice” or not giving a “sense of thrill” or something. He’s a player. And IK that there’s gonna be some dudes telling me: don’t be bitter, you got rejected because you he didn’t like you” to all those fuckers: yes, I know. You can kindly fuck off

natured · Accepted Answer

It's not gender specific for the last time, there is no gender that does something better or worse than the other... we're humans
I might reject harshly while my best friend rejects kindly and we're both women...
I think it all depends on the situation, it happened to me to reject other guys, especially online because i'm obv taken in real and i respectfully decline and tell them that i'm flattered... only to get an answer such as : YOU ONLY DECLIED ME BECAUSE OF THIS AND THAT and trying to even offend me..
welp... sorry that i'm loyal?

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

It's not gender specific. Some people are incredibly harsh and cruel in their rejections, and some people choose to let people down easy because they have the ability to put themselves in their shoes. I think it has to do with personality, selfishness, and empathy (or lack thereof).

I will say though, that there are times when it's necessary to get pretty firm when someone cannot take "no" for an answer and refuses to drop it after you've politely and clearly told them you're not interested.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

It's not gender specific.. You have men and women that will turn down nicely.. And you have men and women that will be rude with it... Depends on the kind of person they are, not their gender..

AmandaYVR · Answer

Women are harsher. They also say no way more often.

Account · Answer

It has nothing to do with gender in my opinion

victoriaxoxo · Answer

I said women because a couple of times I rejected a guy in a way that was harsh. Either by ghosting, blocking or telling him to F off. Usually guys don’t do much of that and either lead you on continuously just in case they might wanna get with you or just tell you that you aren’t their type. However, I see it’s quite common for guys to share that a girl asked them out with their friends, I suppose for brag points or something. That can be quite harsh. As a girl you might share that someone asked you out but it isn’t super exciting as it happens so often.

Jazquee · Answer

I don't think it is gender specific. It depends on the situation and the type of person you are. I have been in some awkward situations were a more than direct approach had to be taken and other that have gotten the "I'm very flattered but I'm sorry I'm not looking to date right now" approach.
Truth be told if your an ass your an ass... undepended on your sex

Sarahr123 · Answer

It doesn’t depend on male or female. I have seen a lot of men (especially Black and Asian men) reject women EXTREMELY harshly whereas educated White men tend to be more polite in general. Chavs amongst White people tend to be rude but then again Black and Asian chavs were the ones that I witnessed being rude about rejecting girls.

Girls in general seem to be harsher with rejecting men. Especially little girls, uneducated women and chavs. Whereas educated women are probably more polite about rejecting a man.

So it totally depends on the person and not their gender. I think upbringing and education affects how people tend to treat others and it seems like the more educated a person is, the more likely they are to be polite in general.

LonelyDeer · Answer

I find that the topic is often subjective due to the nature of the word harsh. I find men can be more blunt and rude about it but being straightforward, in my opinion, is less harsh than some of the things women tend to do when breaking up. An example of this is in my life where I was rejected but I was ignored for a month as opposed to being told "no, sorry, not interested". That month was an awful month for me as a result, as I found the mental damage harsher than simply being told "no, you're ugly". Some people prefer being told no without being told "no" but I do not. I, personally, find it harsher to be indirectly told no or getting a shaky answer or response rather than someone just saying "no".

weasley8 · Answer

I’ve never been rejected, but I can say that when I reject someone I try to be as nice about it as possible about it. The meanest thing I’ve probably done is ghost someone, and that was only after I told them several times that I wasn’t interested and they still didn’t leave me alone. So I don’t feel bad about it.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

Some women are cunts & some men are pieces of shit, both can reject someone in a harsh fashion that isn't necessary. It doesn't take much to reject someone respectfully & to respectfully say in response to their rejection "sorry to have bothered you, have a great day," & move on.

K-I-S-S · Answer

Women are more harsher 100%. And they kind of have to be because tons of guys are assholes or think they are playing hard to get, guys are also stronger so there is this added sense of danger.
Also dick is plentyful.

Men are just clueless or in shock, usually, when it comes to rejections. A lot of guys don't get it when a girl asks them out because women aren't as upfront about it and just "act" uninterested.

Never met a guy who rejected a woman in bad taste. Seen plenty of women do it. Just laughing is my favorite, soul crushing 😅

Miah02 · Answer

Tbh i would think the way society is set up women.
See men ain't used to women engaging or showing interest so they would feel more flatterered.

Women get asked out a lot and sometimes it can get frustrating almost every time ya go out someone hitting on ya, so it can make us act a little more colder.

LuminousMind · Answer

I also believe it’s not gender specific, simply because there are nice men who wouldn’t reject you harsher as well as nice girls who wouldn’t reject harsher. It depends on who the person is and their level of emotional IQ to understand what rejecting too harshly can do.
Also, if you wouldn’t mind, I’d like it if you can follow me because I’d like to ask for advice through PM tho I can’t because of your settings,

electromagnetic · Answer

I really think it’s personally based more than gender.
growing up, I remember hearing “you’re ugly anyways” every time I guy got turned down. But also some girls used to get very catty about it. They’d be like “ewww, I can’t believe he even tried to ask me out. He looks like (insert something offensive here)”

ProCoffeeAntiSleep · Answer

I think what says a lot is that the ratio Women that voted that Men reject harsher, is about the same as Men that voted Women reject harder.
Obviously % wise its close as not that many people voted over all and most voted that gender doesn’t matter, but I think the gender bias is interesting even still

Cutie0059 · Answer

I think any rejection is hard to deal with, from anyone, and it really depends on the type of person you're asking to go out with you. Some people are less emotional or at least far more blunt than others, but I don't think gender determines that.

beebella · Answer

I don't know, but I have rejected guys in some pretty harsh ways. 😬

SpiderManFan2002 · Answer

Rejection is always harsh, if you love somebody- regardless of whether it’s a man or woman rejecting, or whether they are brutal or kind in their rejection.

Selene001 · Answer

I know that people said that it's not gender specific, however most men that find me unattractive have been really mean to me (either giving me angry stares full of contempt or openly making fun of me) and I've never even asked anyone out so far. They just hate me for having the audacity of being ugly. I imagine they'd sue me, if I ever did something like that

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I don't know what to think, this one girl who I had a crush on her came down on me pretty harsh with giving my sister a note, to give me saying that Sandy Loves Steve so I
got the message but I believe she could have been kinder to me and the strangest thing when I last saw her working in our local Rite-Aid she did not have any rings on her finger so yeah makes you wonder?

rievious · Answer

Women reject harsher than men. I say this not bc I have had much experience or saying that it's the same with everyone. I personally have always ended a relationship in person while being as understanding to their emotions as I can be. When I get dumped it's over text or her just saying it isn't working anymore... I am only 23 so maybe my opinions will change

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Men.. Men usually string women along regardless of whether they like them or not unattractive or attractive only to get sex. That's usually their primary motive until they actually DECIDE they want to invest time in getting to know a woman

Bogoboj · Answer

Women of course.
From own experience alone i rejected Women in such a way that she always feels good about it because i can't stand it when Women are sad, that feels so painful to my heart so i always put the blame on me.

I NEVER experienced a Women taking the blame for rejecting me and the same goes for my friends they take the blame when they break up.

Goatmeal · Answer

I would guess men have more experience being on the receiving end of rejection, so perhaps they would tend to be nicer.

Whereas women get a lot of unwanted attention, so perhaps they sometimes snap or just grow cynical.

I have had some women treat me like absolute garbage, but I have also had really empathic, gentle rejections from others.

Philippa_Sallow · Answer

Women reject harsher than men on average, because lots of women think they can handle it. It doesn't work that way, it's still gonna hurt regardless of what you have down there but yeah

patriots123123 · Answer

It's not gender specfic each gender can reject someone in a mean way. I mean yea in general women are more harsh when it comes to certain things but men can be harsh when it comes to rejecting someone too.

420Rachel · Answer

It's not gender specific. Men and women can both be harsh lmfao. Anyone can be an asshole.

IveGotNoName · Answer

Women mostly say it's not gender specific, and men mostly say it's women...  Questions starting with "which gender" or "why do women/men" dont work because... news flash... people are individuals...

fonduegirl · Answer

Def women. Cuz men are hornier and nicer (in my opinion). Of course, few assholes online and offline are striking exceptions. But mostly if you propose to a man, he's willing to give it a chance. But then again, he might just be horny.

MoonStalker · Answer

I don't want to be mean but if I'm nice then they turn into a stalker and that's worse. It's complicated...

lakotabebebe · Answer

From my perspective, I KNOW I'm a bitch when rejecting men. I try to let them all off nicely but sometimes guys just don't get the hint. Meanwhile, all rejections I have gotten were really nice.

Neko911 · Answer

Depends. Women can be complete assholes. But so can men for even stupider reasons

A_Bell · Answer

This is nonsense. Horrible people are divided equally among the sexes.

Medhat-M · Answer

I think women because they reject more so it can be annoying and repetitive... Personally when I rejected people I was so smooth you couldn't even feel it.. Except for maybe once or twice because i have some serious communication problems

menina · Answer

As someone who has a lot of experience with rejection I would say that men are usually harsher. Probably because they are more vocal than women.

devilish-cutie · Answer

i would say women as men are more likely to not take no for an answer

RichardCranium6201 · Answer

I think it boils down to individuals. I think gender wise, u have to many people that ain't right in the head...

loves2learn · Answer

It’s not gender specific. It depends on the person’s personality.

shortster · Answer

I am blunt about things. So if I am not interested in you then I will tell you exactly why. If that is rude, then I am sorry. But I would rather be rude than dishonest.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Men can reject in the nicest way possible but a woman will still be offended by it.

exitseven · Answer

I say women. I may be prejudiced but it seems that way to me.

Wiredone · Answer

It doesn't matter what gender they are. Both have been harsh and kind. It all depends on the person's additude.

Chthou95 · Answer

Yeah it can be gender specific yada yada but I've always said that one gender does something more than the other and i gotta say women are more harsh with rejection

Friendlybro79 · Answer

No one can give an answer to this question without it being just an opinion. Everyone is everything.

John_Doesnt · Answer

Women always say "Get out of here you skinny freak" then they mace me in the eyes.

Slim57 · Answer

Well I've never heard of a man being super interested in someone and then he ghosts her when he asks for a recent pic, when the same ones they've seen before are recent too. But maybe

Tstrbrainer · Answer

I would say women, but some men can be really rude if caught in the wrong mood.  If it's about handling rejection, I think men are more harsher

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

Women generally are less assertive. Not always ofc but yknow in general. So it makes sense they generally are more mild in their rejections.

InferiorElegy · Answer

It's definitely females who are harsher when rejecting. I know from personal experience..

dolemite89 · Answer

women, guys have way less opportunities to reject than women do.

Asianguy123 · Answer

I think both can hurt someone interested but it's not the same. woman can scratch men's self esteem and men can really make woman feel trashhh.

kevyhanma · Answer

You it’s not gender specific people can go suck a hot fart from a wet ass

WowwGirl · Answer

Women are taught to be nice more so

Tiptoetamm · Answer

I think both can be brutal honestly.

pink_and_inlove · Answer

It’s not gender specific

MountAverage · Answer

Why would this have anything to do with gender?

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Neither depends on the person

worldscolide · Answer

I think it depends entirely on the person..

Supernormal · Answer

Naturally women do just that. Men 40%

ewok737 · Answer

I've seen both sexes be brutal.

Which gender rejects someone interested in dating them harsher: men or women?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Which gender rejects someone interested in dating them harsher: men or women?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.