Would you date someone who still lived with their parents but really had no good reason to do so much like in the movie trailer below?

[coachTanthony]

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=evzBwXvqEl4

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I would, but eventually it would come the moment of moving out to live together, otherwise I'll move on. Naturally this doesn't mean I want her to cut off her parents - to be fair one of the things I'd really like is for my wife and I to keep a closer contact with her parents/my in-laws, but both them and her despite having a beautiful relationships prefer to mostly stay quietly on their own.

[Feelicks]

That's pretty subjective. Housing prices are stupid right now, in a lot of places. Living with family if you have no reason not to is fine.

Honestly it's the baby boomers who changed this as the norm, and they're generally considered the most selfish and destructive generation.

Family cooperation is how you get ahead in life. The push to move out just for the sake of it leads to poverty.

[coachTanthony]

If they would go into poverty should they even be dating?

[Feelicks]

Your idea of poverty and mine are probably pretty different. Most people are too comfortable saddling themselves with debt.

Mortgages and car payments are poverty traps unless you can pay for them with passive income.

[Juxtapose]

You don't need $ to date dude.

[Feelicks]

If everything you have is built on debt and it would all be lost if you quit or lost your job then you're not only poor your actually a slave.

A slave with privileges, but still a slave.

Seriously it's kind of sad the way people delude themselves these days.

How can you ever be free if you're blind to your chains?

But hey don't worry about it, you don't need to be rich or free to date.

Punch that clock, sell yourself to a bank and buy buy buy like a good little farm animal.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I would date a completely broke woman, or a rich one, makes no difference to me.

In sickness and health, wealth and poverty, that shit used to be valued by couples, now people are dumb and leave when shit becomes hard.

You are dating/marrying the person, not their success.

[Feelicks]

What do want a simping award or something?

My only point has been that living at home unless you're intending to live with your partner is fine despite what a lot of financially ignorant drones think.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Its not simping, its a criticism to coach.

People who give up on relationships when times get hard are way more common this decade than the last, and I simply find it stupid and childish.

This guy claims to be a relationship advice expert, he should know better, and people really need to stop spreading around the idea that people are tools to only be used and then discarded.

That attitude poisons people, and then it spreads more.

knock it off.

[Feelicks]

Ah yeah, and he's got that small brain boomer view of how life is supposed to go. It's actually kind of pathetic how parents and children are unable to cooperate for mutual betterment. We live in a society of thoughtless selfishness.

[TheSpaceGnome]

That I agree with, I personally think that it makes more sense to start a family run business and share a house, then share a mansion.

Family should only split up if they can't stand each-other.

Splitting bills is intelligent, trying to increase your expenses is retarded.

Power in numbers is strongest with family or close friends. But a lot of older people are like "you need independence! grow up!"

Fuck independence, we need power in numbers, not divide and conquer subterfuge tactics from old farts.

[Feelicks]

Yea, it's that kind of fake independence which leaves you in debt and at the mercy of your boss and a bank.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yeah the only worthwhile version of independence is either figuring out how to repair everything you use, or running your own business, ideally both (good luck having the time or money to do either if you live on your own lol).

[Feelicks]

Or even just working and investing in dividend stocks. Certainly not to buy a bunch of liabilities and pay interest for them as they depreciate. If you're not saving and investing you're living hand to mouth.

Living like that leads to failed marriages.

[TheSpaceGnome]

See thats where I disagree, a worthwhile marriage lasts through any amount of poverty and starts without monetary expectations.

No amount of planning is foolproof, you can still hit bankruptcy with a good plan and 10 backups in place.

People drift apart when utility is all thats keeping them together.

A spouse should make you laugh till you cry, should share your favorite hobbies and interests, should defuse your stress with affection and love, and agree with you on pretty much everything, and should make you feel wealthy and happy just having them around (not all wealth is money).

People these days favor partners who give them what they need or don't have, rather than the better option of having another you to keep you sane in a sea of people you can't stand.

A spouse is a best friend you fuck exclusively, not a means to an end or a way to achieve a goal or monetary wealth.

Granted you should share the same goals, but the idea is you keep them around no matter how bumpy the road is to get there.

it's not your spouses job to make you successful, its yours and your parents' job (hence moving out beforehand is stupid).

Your spouses job is to love you no matter what, and thats also your job to them, and one side of that allows the other to continue to exist.

The stipulation is compassion, not money.

[Feelicks]

Yea but money trouble is the most cited cause of divorces. Most people lack resilience unfortunately

Being financially literate can prevent such troubles a lot of the time.

[TheSpaceGnome]

The statistic it's not worth considering though, because if they fail to stay together when poor and homeless, they never should have been married to begin with.

Lift each-other up after you fall, don't leave, or you don't deserve a relationship.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Love needs to be shoved back into relationships. Without it they are doomed to eventual failure

[Feelicks]

Ha you have a very romantic idea of women.

Most will turn on you the moment you can't keep them in comfort, it's how they're wired biologically.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Neither men nor women are wired the same as their same gender peers.

There is no such thing as the male or female brain, that nonsense is a complete myth.

People are drastically different individuals, and finding a like minded person for anyone is rare and takes more patience than anything in life.

One person's betrayal is another's love. People turn on each-other when not compensated for contribution because they weren't the same kind of person and aren't benefiting anymore.

The situation you mentioned is the result of incompatible people getting in a relationship together.

[TheSpaceGnome]

People ignore that fact because they think relationships are a struggle you have to work and compromise for, but thats a toxic relationship. Real relationships are forged on mutual idealism and sparking joy. without that, they are dead in the water.

[Feelicks]

You have to high opinion on average human nature.

[TheSpaceGnome]

People divorce each-other because they put up with each-other instead of loving each-other.

You are going to hate most people, put up with some, and love only maybe 1 or 2, and thats just life.

[TheSpaceGnome]

there is no average, commonality is rare, a person I think is scum might have undying love for a mind similar to their own.

[TheSpaceGnome]

the moral to the story? be picky, so picky you find maybe 1 every 3 decades that might work.

[Feelicks]

I think you'd be shocked at how few people are capable of any kind of selfless love. Certainly not the majority, probably not even half.

Most people are just killing time.

[TheSpaceGnome]

it's not selfless, its practical.

[TheSpaceGnome]

love is very practical so it makes sense to get it right who you pick

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'm a very helpful person, more than most, I won't deny that, BUT, put me in a room with a very religious zealot and im not me anymore, im anti them.

People act accordingly to deal with who they are around. niceness is selective. the same applies with relationship compatibility.

If 2 people don't get along, they won't be nice enough to stay, and most people won't get along with you or anyone else, because you are rare, just like they all are.

So the trick is to find the needle in a hey stack who is like you, that needle will act like a whole new person, but for only you.

[Feelicks]

Everyone breaks.

[TheSpaceGnome]

knowing this, you can see yes? how your view of the statistic might be clouded by your own experiences with them?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes, I've broken many times, and repaired many times.

I'm still me though.

[Anonymous]

In this movie he went through hard times, wife died, he still worked, and etc. different circumstances played here but again it’s not our place to judge. Yes I would

[coachTanthony]

Is there any reasons at all you would not date someone who lives at home? Any?

[Opinion Owner]

Only if the person isn’t ready to fulfill the experience of learning yourself better. A lot of us can help all we want but we have to help ourselves as well. A job is a job even from home. You just gotta be doing something even if it’s college ya know. most people suffer from depression and etc and they feel comfortable staying home until their life sorts out. The only way we couldn’t work is if I try to help and you aren’t putting in any effort at all 😞

[Opinion Owner]

If I give ideas and you constantly brush them off will hurt me

[coachTanthony]

Oh okay gotcha!

[electromagnetic]

If that’s his choice fine by me. But he can’t expect me to stay at his mama’s house as she makes us dinner and does his laundry. He needs to get it together.

[coachTanthony]

LOL yes agree

[Likes2drive]

Probably, we would just get a place together eventually, right now people are probably stuck in that situation because of housing prices now, no why for a young couple to get a house just starting out and an apartment is a waste because you can’t write it off or save while renting, you’re probably going to see more people living with parents longer because of this

[AdithyaR]

I'm from India where it's pretty much a cultural norm that kids still live with families cause generally families live together until the kid is married or sometimes after that as well.
So I wouldn't have a problem with that.

[Anonymous]

I'm 35 and living with parents, but it is because they have a lot of health issues and would not be in same place as they are now without me. Government would put them in one of those old people house, where they die in 3 months...

And as it is SOOO important to some people, I do my own laundry, cook and even pay most bills in the house...

And in case I meet a women that I like, I would have to move out, if it would get serious and still pay some of my parents bills...

Before that I'm happy where I am.

[hellacray]

I don't mind. In fact a lot of people I know live with their family.

Where I come from when we become adults we should be taking care of our parents. And also because it's stupid expensive here kind of gives more people a reason to stick with the family, until we start our own.

Now if you're rich then yeah it doesn't make much sense to live with your parents.

[ChiTown33]

I would date them but I wouldn't get serious until I knew she was serious and making strides to leave. As I said this is a situation you have to play by ear. Not everyone has lived the same life. I'm less concerned about what she makes and her livelihood than I am about her character. You can have a million dollars and be morally bankrupt.

[Juxtapose]

I don't give a shit so long as the family stays out of my way.

I'm not a fan of judging people by their financial situation and housing prices are so fucking retarded it's a wonder people can move out at all.

I live with my roommate who is like family to me, so it's really not much of a change moving from home.

[Wiredone]

In the tough times we are living in now due to covid there are a lot of people moving back home. It is either to help their parents out to keep them safe, or they didn't want to stay in their place due to loss of income.
For those reasons I would understand and wouldn't have a problem dating them.
Fortunate for me, I'm married so I don't have to worry about that

[TallAnon]

Depends if they plan to keep doing so. I'm 25, I could end up dating someone.. ~22 which means they could still be in college.. Which sounds strange as fuck since I've been living on my own for 5 years, working fulltime. But yeah, it's still definitely something to consider. Living on your own is a good experience in independence.

[chapawapa]

In California... there's always a good reason to live with family. I wouldn't mind. But if it got serious I'd want to find a place together to see how we fit on an everyday basis.

[WowwGirl]

Either way no, no, and no I moved out at 19 disabled. Unless someone is sick or their parents are it's not ok

[Ryfyle]

So you moved out with Government Retard money? Poor Baby...

[greyislife]

Only if it was more for cultural reasons since many people do not leave home until married or in a serious relationship, but not from immaturity/comfort of being taken care of by his parents.

[rcljr]

So long as they had moved out, tried to make it on their own, stuff happens, I had to stay at my folks a few times when life threw me a curve ball. But if they NEVER left the nest, NO. This issue grows exponentially with age.

[Bee-Hatch]

My preference is for an adult. Nobody living at home working their way to middle age and leaching off their parents qualifies as adult.

[TheSpaceGnome]

People who stay with family and work toward family run businesses are not children. They are just smarter than the person who left at 18 to work at McDonalds and pay off college debt.

[Bee-Hatch]

The question quite clearly states living with parents and no good reason.

[Sugar100]

I think it’s better hav boyfriend that don’t live with parents or u will have no future with him and u will live alone forever , find guy that has own place to live already

[TheSpaceGnome]

That would have zero impact on my choice to date them. As would their financial status.


Only things that matter to me are intelligence, views, looks, loyalty, interests, and hobbies.

[A_Bell]

If it was Matthew McCaughney? I thinj my answer is yes.

[Starwitch23]

Yeah, I would because it is in our culture to live with our parents. Kids are moving out from their home in the big cities but still a large part of adult Indians stay with their parents.

[Daniela1982]

Not my ideal date. I would prefer someone who has all their eggs in a row.

[Gwenhwyfar]

In that movie Matthew McConaughey has a very good reason for doing so

[JennBITx]

Depends on the reason. Some stay long enough to finish college.

[topramen1565]

I would prefer not to, I would like our privacy away from the eyes of our parents.

[SenseiSeptred]

Yes, I would as long as they are their own legal guardian.

[madprofessor]

Nope. They need to have have left the nest and not couch surfing either.

[45Fstraight]

Only if he was Matthew McConaughey 😍

[ArrowheadSW]

I want to see that movie!

[Miah02]

Naw..

[Jeannettesimon]

I could

[Ryfyle]

Strange, I have the opposite problem.

[SmokinAces2000]

No tf

[JesseJayNeak]

I'd bring at my house if I had to

[crazy8000]

Probably.

[Slim57]

Nope