Has this "Me Too" movement shaken your trust in dating women or changed the way you interact with them?

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Everyone knows that when a guy tries to kiss a girl she can have sexual assault charges brought against him. Anything I mean anything that a girl you are dating she could have you thrown behind bars without the police even questioning the crime. In domestic disputes the police always throw the man away to prison even if the woman was beating on the man. The woman is always "right" and if the media gets involved you are guilty even before a trial. Hell being alone in the same room with women today at the work place is "VERY Dangerous".
Do you trust women in the same way before this whole femenazi and Me 2 movement?

Qdbrown · Accepted Answer

The original idea of MeToo was not bad. It was something that allowed women to go after their predators. It was so successful that many women now use it as a tool, in their box of tricks to use if they get mad at you. And this crap is real. Any person who discredits this is either types that like what it is, or doesn't really understand it, but let's be honest the problems and false allegations are found in many periodicals like Forbes that talk about men being too close to women in the workforce, where many managers and senior management were hit hard by all kinds of allegations after the initial MeToo phase. It showed up in Dating as well, and even effecting men just walking down the street. This is now way more than a way to stop creepy harassing guys. There were laws on the books before MeToo to combat that. It demonstrated how well it could be weaponized.

Now are women running around in packs hunting men down with MeToo? No. But are awkward and short guys who made a move and approached getting the police called on them stories coming out? Yes, and so bad that there are all kinds of warnings about approaching women to ask for phone numbers and dates without knowing the girl on men's dating sites. I have seen them on GaG. The stories got so bad that I seriously doubt many women get any attention from guys, just to avoid legal issues. There is even stories of men offering to help a woman in a public setting, and she feels threatened, and police show up to stop and nearly arrest a man who asked a woman if the credit card on the ground was hers?

And I have had people in my community ask why I don't ask out around town. I tell them that I have been burned. I have had a woman say I harassed her because I came into a conversation she was having about sex with another coworker, in the break room, and I laughed at what she said. And then I had my own daughter say she felt threatened by me. I have never spanked her, but she wanted to go live with her mother, and she was scared I or her mother would say no. So she went to the school counselor and had all kinds of crazy stories that got the CPS involved. All found to be false allegations. Where did she learn this? From her dumb friend that had a single mom who was a family law attorney. I am not sure how the 13 year-old girl got the inside, but this is a common tactic with many women.

And then you have these righteous women who think Incels worry about this stuff. In all, that tends to be a shaming manuver. They also might be young and idealistic to think, along with these guys, who assume if your getting called in, like the police and the media, the guy must have done something? In the old days, yes. These days, I now tend to not believe anyone until well after the investigation. Of course you will not hear the outcomes in the local news. You will have to research later or hear something if you're lucky.

Which reminds me, my neighbor's nephew is going to prison for 10 years for aggravated assault after his young wife got mad, and beat herself with her coffee mug. She called the cops. His life is ruined.

cth96190 · Accepted Answer

As a result of experiences, my trust in females was less than zero before the #MeToo insanity.
#MeToo provided me with validation and something to which I could point, when I discussed female behaviour with blue-pilled 'not all women are like that' simpletons.
True, not all women are like that, but enough are that females, as a collective, pose a serious danger to all men.
Unless they look at behave like Chanty Binx (aka Big Red) there is usually no way to tell that a female is a hateful insane misandrist, who will tell any lie to destroy a man's life for shits and giggles.
We can reduce the risk by such things as dating only registered Republicans (in the US context) and avoiding women who have obvious tells, such as tattoos and nose rings.
Having said all that, there is no safe way to engage with females.
Do not have physical contact with a female. No dating, no sex, no relationships, do not give her children. Never, never, be alone with woman. Record all interactions. Bodycams that have a battery life of four hours can be purchased via wish. com for about $US35, plus postage.

lumos · Accepted Answer

Reminder for the guys: 15 out of 16 of actual rapists will never be jailed. The vast majority of cases that actually make it to court (which is a fraction of the rape cases that actually happen) end up with the rapist walking free. So the chances of you getting "thrown behind bars" for a false accusation is very low, even if you actually do sexually assault someone. Most sexual assault cases are word against word. There's usually little to no evidence in these cases that would be enough to get someone jailed or fined.

That's not to say false accusations aren't horrible. They are. And they ruin it for everyone who is a true victim. They can ruin someone's life, even if proven innocent, simply because it taints the public's opinion of a person. So I take this very seriously and my heart does go out to those who are falsely accused by some vengeful bitch.

However. Let's be realistic here. The likelihood of a woman actually being sexually assaulted/raped in her lifetime is immensely higher than the likelihood of a man being falsely accused of rape or sexual assault. So shifting the narrative like this with fearmongering statements like "don't look in a woman's direction, don't be alone with women, record all interactions with women" is honestly batshit crazy. If you are genuinely so afraid that a woman will accuse you of something you didn't do, I'd honestly want y'all to ask yourselves where that fear is coming from. Because it sure as hell isn't based on logic or statistics.

420Rachel · Accepted Answer

Bitches be acting CRAZY these days. 🙄 Also these women who falsely accuse men of sexual assault just because she didn't "like" him make it so that actual victims of rape and assault are doubted and are less likely to go to the police and seek justice. Women are shooting themselves in the foot when they cry wolf.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

No. I am still the same charming and wonderful guy who tries to get a goodnight kiss on the first date! :) :) :)

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

I do hear horror stories about false accusations and whatnot, but in day to day terms it's not really landed on my doorstep. Evil women have existed since the dawn of humanity, just like evil men have too. This metoo shit is just the latest trend the evil ones are trying to cash in on. And yes, GOOD women who have been victimised by EVIL men should 100% get their justice -- but all well intentioned movements are invariably corrupted from within, because it's not like these big social movements can vet their new members. Anyone can claim "metoo" and just destroy an innocent life, just as any woman can call herself a "feminist" and then treat men as scapegoats for everything bad in life.

But I see all of that shit as just the inevitable erosion of a cultural movement of the day. Every movement becomes fragmented and corrupted from its original intent eventually, that's just atrophy increasing within a closed system. But there's still plenty of women who have zero interest in dabbling in cancel culture or anti-male rhetoric or false accusations. Ie: GOOD women. It's the same shit, just different day, the good men have to find the good women while keeping eye out for the bad ones; and the reverse is equally true for women. Remember, for every genuinely good guy a girl dates, she might have to bat away a dozens creeps, weirdos, perverts, and narcissists. Us men aren't the only ones having to navigate such perilous terrains. And besides, if we guys don't all wanna be lumped in with the creeps and psychos and rapists, then it's reasonable to assume that many women won't wanna be lumped in with the misandrists and manipulators and false accusers. So, I'm by no means suggesting we should just be naive and always assume good intentions. But jumping straight to the opposite conclusion about women as a collective is equally naive.

Slartybartfast · Answer

I gave up trying to date years before metoo.

That said I think meetoo is great,
Women please understand, the bad boys you live so much, most guys hate them. We are always taking the blame for the actions of the tiny few men who act like wienstien. We are tired of approaching women who are afraid because they are convinced that men are all like a serial killer potential rapist.

Most men are very shy about approaching, on average a NORMAL GUY only asks out a few women a year TOPS. Women's perception of men is based on the tiny few men who agressively approach women. ( Understand this is from an American perspective, most foreign men seem to be agressive and misogynistic from my point of view )

For example, most men won't approach a women who is working, such as a waitress or stewardess.

The men who don't care about women's feelings or discomfort , approach agressively. So women, going by the very few men who act like this as they are the majority of the men they interact with , think this tiny minority is representative and feel justified in treating men like potential criminals because of this.

Women also , no matter how much they object to thus clear reality, PICK AGRESSIVE AND ABUSIVE MEN.

This is not me complaining, this is an observation I made AS A CHILD long before puberty !!!

Women pick abusive men, then complain about ALL MEN.

METOO , is needed to punish these very few men , so that decent men have a chance at a relationship instead only the worst men find dating easy in the USA.

Remember, a sociopath has no trouble approaching many women, while a good man who listened to women complain about bad men all his life won't approach because he respects Women.

dillbill561 · Answer

Wish I could say yes or no but depending on where in the question it could be mis-perceived. I wouldn’t blame individuality or followers to this regard, or even the court and deputy system. So as a guy that does not regularly talk to or flirt with women I would say my trust has been shattered by many different avenues and that doesn’t help. It can be very intimidating and scary to the point where more than my emotional security is at risk. It’s all too easy for some false accusations to get carried away and I’ve seen this too. Many things besides reputation and ego get thrown into harms way. And this is pandered to despite the fact that less women respect their chastity. Many of these movements are ironic, silly and I feel bad for the misguided people following it, but I look after myself now because there is no use feeling bad for people that don’t want sympathy but would continue to hurt and use it to further antagonize. The situation across the board is sad and that is why even the cdc has declared 1/4 youths consider suicide, an appalling stat and something I had never considered until I met my narcissist ex, who likely uses movements like this to further their destructive habits. Cheers

Anonymous · Answer

Along with BLM almost any leftist movement usually starts out with good intentions but quickly devolves into malice and conceit.

Anyway the answer is yes. Metoo made me much more paranoid especially when being assertive and making sexual advances.

About 3 years ago I was approached by a random woman at a casino. After some small talk she asked if she could get a drink with me in my hotel room. Normally I would stay the hell away from that. But I was a bit depressed at the time. Just a week earlier a girl who started dating cut off the relationship because she wanted to pursue someone else. I had to go to my company Christmas party as one of the very few single people out of a group of 200 people.

Anyway she started hitting on me and she wasn’t a hooker. But before I took her up on it I asked for us to do a quick “consent” video. I videotaped both her and myself looking into my phone camera saying “Im so so and I consent”.

10 years ago I would have never thought of going to such lengths to cover my ass. But according to modern feminists “regret is rape” so unfortunately you have set an impossible standard for many guys out there.

Yeah we did it (with a condom) and nothing bad happened. But still this is ridiculous.

Anonymous · Answer

I have met some very psychotic women growing up.

One of which faked her pregnancy on a good friend of mine, the same one cried rape on some guy and thankfully her attempt failed after his girlfriend cleared everything up because she was there when the rape supposedly happened. She has also been caught shoplifting prior to all that.

Another one had no hesitation beating the shit out of another good friend of mine in public and bit my hand leaving a mark for the rest of the day after trying to get my phone back that she stole, there was another girl who falsely accused that same friend of rape and got him kicked out of his university despite being found not guilty.

My mother doesn't exactly get along with many members of my family including the immediate members and I'll leave it at that. Her manipulative tactics sort of resemble the first girl.

Up until like four years ago, I thought women were very violent and manipulative people so I avoided them at all costs. Then I actually managed to date one of the very few who are amazing human beings and my views have greatly mellowed out.

However, I still know that women are just as capable of using any means necessary to bring people they don't like down so as long as the idea of due process is being used as toilet paper, I'm probably going to avoid women I don't know or trust.

VanillaSalt · Answer

10 years ago ide help anyone in need. Now idc if your a naked hot homeless women. I don’t stop I don’t help. I’ve been the target of this shit. Accused of sexual assault in jr high. Yelled at for holding the door and saying excuse me. Do you know what kind of looks you get when a woman starts randomly screaming at you in a crowded supermarket? I saw a news report of a man that went to jail for 6 months because she falsely accused him of rape without evidence… he got it because of a video recording of the incident proving his innocents… I saw 3 girls at my place changing a tire. They might have finished I don't know I left.

MalesGOD1 · Answer

I love your question. Just want to say that its not just sex act things that land good innocent men in jail. Every single way a man interacts with women has a law that can put him in jail, cost him amounts of money that puts him out on the street or a friends couch for the rest of his life, If he has kids they are taken away from him most of all of their childhoods. These women are not stupid they know the laws and how to work them against men that displease and or upset them in anyway and are not afraid to do so. Sometimes its just for the attention and sympathy at the cost of an innocent man.

Anonymous · Answer

Most of them are useless cunts that can't keep their legs closed & have no self respect. Take all those two-bit no-name unknown/really good-for-nothing actresses with Harvey Weinstein. They claimed "rape", etc. ROFL. Sure thing princesses. Reality is they fucked him for a part & got nowhere because they had no talent so blame the guy.

David_Kek · Answer

Pretty much.
When the law and culture no longer cares about your human rights, then the only protection you have left is your own best judge in a partner who isn't crazy. Actions have consequences, and when you live in a society in which toxic and crazy women aren't held to account for their own actions, then the consequence of that is all women being treated as potentially toxic and crazy.

That's one of the biggest short sighted mistakes feminism made, which by treating men as a group as all being potential rapists and such, to the point of successfully demanding the erosion of men's humans rights such as presumption of innocence, that has landed innocent men in jail for decades, that it has had the knock on effect of harming women as a group when it comes to dating and marriage. Only a very stupid man would get into a relationship with a woman without extreme careful thought about her character as a human being, given what the law lets them do in this day and age.

bolverk · Answer

#METOO who suffered?

Initially a good idea, then hyper feminists got involved and it turned in to a dog pile which has resulted with men backing right off, adopting the "Pence Rule" in defence, which has resulted in women today not getting the same face time one on one with their managers, not being mentored as they were before,

Along with other things they're loosing out on and all because the hyper feminists got involved, sounds as though the "Law of Unintended Consequences" turned around and bit those same hyper feminists well and truly in the backside, but did you notice that it isn't those hyper feminists who are paying the price?

It’s those women working their usual 9-5 jobs (or equivalent) who are paying the price with guys avoiding all interaction with them.

Lionman95 · Answer

Yes it has changed my behavior but I´m not mistrusting women because of it. I´m just more cautious. MeToo has mainly showed me the dangers of sex.
All the guys accused had sex with a woman they probably didn´t know very well. If you don´t the other persons goes and no-goes it´s likely to be accused of rape/abuse as a guy. So communication is important.
Another thing guys need to learn is self-control. Don´t sleep with a woman you don´t know or trust because chances are that you don´t like the same stuff.
I haven´t lost trust in women and I still like women for who they are. Don´t get me wrong. I just feel like that all this happened because these guys were lust driven and couldn´t control it. They thought their companion liked it with out talking about it.
For me all metoo did was changing my way of dating and seeing sex as a possible goal of a relationship and not something to start things of with.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I’ve not really changed how I interact with girls.

it’s always been about respect and being open with your communication.

what the Me Too side of things has highlighted, is just how many abusing people of both genders there are out there.

The only guys that are worried about this type of thing, are those unable to show and have respect for others, especially the girl they are talking to or interested in.

we shifted a few managers at work, who were high risk individuals and a law suit waiting to happen.

there is no place for these types of guys in modern society and there never really was a place for them. The majority of guys know that type of guy but that Silence is Violence thing comes in to play

Arabella_Rose · Answer

Nobody would be accusing you of sexual harassment if you chose to keep your behavior professional at the workplace. So if you really won't have any reason to be "shaken up". Unless you know you want to sexually harras someone then yes, you should be shaken up.

Sexual predators or lewd men on here blaming the "MeToo" movement for not letting them sexually harass women.

Women do get sexually harassed by men in power. It does EXIST. Its just that rich people always get away with crimes. Poor men like you wished you could get away with something like that.

FatherJack · Answer

No , not really. Same as I have been for years , strictly NO touching , not a tactile person , keeping my distance , polite & businesslike only , no attempts at flirting ( forgot what that was anyway ) and never , ever any attempts at compliments. I keep my distance from everyone by default. What has soured my view of women , I used to be far more pro female , than male ,(and in general , both genders view females much more positively than males ) is the hostility and hate & I received from women , mostly mothers , as a single dad taking my 2 to various functions / events. They clearly assumed I was a sex predator / pedo rapist in waiting , solely because I am male. My daughter aged 7 , ran over and told one woman off for " being nasty to my dad for no reason " . She still glared with utter hatred at me !!! Thankfully they are teens now doing their own thing.

Celtero · Answer

Sure. I've seen women who WANT to be a part of the metoo movement for attention, asking others if a dispute with HR was enough to be part of metoo. And it seems like a common trend for women to want to be a victim. That's pretty much all feminism is, is claiming female victimhood against reality.

And that leaves me feeling like normal romantic advances can be taken as sexual harassment just on the woman's whim. There's not much a man can do but cross his fingers and hope the girl he likes isn't a crazy bitch.

tuvwxyz · Answer

I touch women all the time (idc how that sounds, any reasonable person knows what I mean), make sex jokes, innuendo, and have virtually never experienced any issues. On exloration, I found it was because I don't do it as a "technique" to obligate, or even think about, getting anything in return, I'm just myself, and if someone lies, or talks bad about me, idc, because nothing about my actions are a strategy to get anything in return.

My experience has been women are very kind and understanding, what drives this movement is women feeling men don't care about them, not the actions themselves (unless it's genuine harassment, assault, etc.). I just live my life, on my train, she can get on if she wants, but it's my train, my rules, and allow others to live by the same mindset, compromise comes naturally, if things don't work, they don't, if I get screwed, all I can do is change my choices, and focus on my preparation.

chaznthat · Answer

When it comes to a night out, I have a number of friends who will start talking with women. I'll admit that I dont do this because I dont have the confidence to flirt with women on nights out lol. Nevertheless, I dont see anything wrong with guys asking women for a number (provided the guy isn't being creepy). One of my friends who is a feminist said that she thinks that its wrong for a guy to ask for a number?

How are guys then supposed to make the move? (lets be honest I know some girls on here will say that its not all guys who do but it is the vast majority). Others would then advocate online dating which I dont think is a good thing. If a guy asks for a girls number on a night out, she respectfully says no and then he backs off I dont see anything wrong with that

Anonymous · Answer

You can't get charged for such bullshit due to "guilty until proven" law. I have seen enough women whose rapist is not even charged or police did not take women whose body is full of bruises serious. Why i have never ever seen this bullshit happen to any man? You need proof. Without proof nothing will happen to you. Even if she has vaginal bleeding or bruises around her vagina, it is not enough proof since some rapist victims get told that they did rough sex. That is why i recommend bodycam or voice recorder.

Ekvark · Answer

Is this why women are hardly ever believed (especially by men) and proceed to blame the victim? I mean, c'mon dude, you're 15, you're just getting in to the meat of your teens. You may think you're grown but you are not. If your uncertain of the things you do to women could land you in trouble then maybe you ARE doing sketchy shit. I'm 30 and I'm not worried at all. But again that's just me and how I have lived my life respecting boundaries that I have and other people have, that along with common sense. What you have to realize is that this issue doesn't go one way or the other. That there's problems to your stance as well and you are definitely not helping yourself with how you present your case. You come off as highly reactionary.

Has this "Me Too" movement shaken your trust in dating women or changed the way you interact with them?

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