A kiss at the end of a first date: what does it mean for you?

[OlderAndWiser]

Sometimes, I kiss on a first date and sometimes I don't. If I have no desire to see a girl again, then I certainly don't kiss her. Sometimes, the girl does not give me the option of having a goodnight kiss. But, if she is receptive and I am so inclined, I kiss her. . . on the lips. . . not a using-the-tongue-as-a-medical-probe-to-examine-her-tonsils kiss, but definitely with enough passion to signal that I am attracted to her and I hope to see her again soon. And if it appears that she enjoyed the kiss, then I hope that it had the same meaning for her.

What does it mean when YOU give someone a goodnight kiss at the end of a first date?

I never kiss at the end of a first date!

I kiss at the end of a first date just because it is customary

I kiss at the end of a first date just because it is customary. . . unless I REALLY am not attracted to him or her!

I kiss at the end of a first date as a sign that I hope there will be a second date

I kiss at the end of a first date as a signal that I am happy with the date and see them as a potential romantic partner

I kiss at the end of a first date in hopes that things will escalate into making out!

Kiss at the end of a first date? I've probably got my hand in his or her pants!

[Lliam]

A simple, polite kiss isn't a big deal. It's a better gesture than shaking hands but doesn't necessarily mean that I'll call her again.

Sometimes it means that I really like her and hope to see her again. In those cases, the kiss is more tender and slightly prolonged, but definitely no wide open mouth or tongue unless she initiates it.

I've had a couple girls initiate kisses after dates. Both of those girls turned out to be keepers.
I wound up living with one for over a year. After our first date to a nice restaurant, I walked her to her house, which was nearby. When we got to the door, she unlocked it, then turned, placed her hands on top of my shoulders, rose up on her tip toes, pressed herself gently against me, and gave me a kiss. Her lips were so tender that my head actually swam. It was extraordinary.

The other time was after the first date with my future wife. I walked her to the parking lot behind the restaurant. We had gotten along so well over dinner that we stood by her car and continued talking. When it was time to leave, we realized that the parking lot gate was closed and locked. I hopped over the 6' cinder block wall and got someone from the restaurant to let us out.
Before she got in her car, she stepped toward me and gave me a kiss. There was admiration in her eyes. I knew that she liked me a lot, but I later found out that she also thought I was her Superman for hopping over that wall. LOL

[OlderAndWiser]

Wonderful story!

[Lliam]

Thanks, my man.

[Finchie40]

I usually kiss on the first date the let her know I enjoyed the time with her and had a good time and hope to do it again , it pretty much puts the ball in her court on whether she wants to see me again or not , if she turns her head and doesn’t kiss back then you pretty much know she isn’t really interested in you So you pretty much go on with your life and. If she does call the next day then it’s a shock lol The thing is You can actually read someone by the way they kiss you by their body language , and if they really enjoyed it or they just did it to get you the hell out of there lol or it might lead to don’t leave and come on in and Fuck my brains out , just depends on how the kiss goes says a lot but it’s not always a hundred percent accurate , but it’s better then not knowing at all

[muscularbumblebee]

Actually would be a turn off, unless it’s just for physical attraction reasons or for sexual reasons why on earth would you need to kiss someone on a first date assuming you weren’t close before hand? You don’t get to know someone on one date so you can’t say personality!

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay, that is how you feel, and that's fine, but most people actually do kiss at the end of a first date, if it went well.

[Moimaris]

I think so too. I had 1 date were a guy sticker his tongue inside my mouths after the date and I didn’t want to kiss him because I only kiss when you know this person is going to be it

[OlderAndWiser]

@Moimaris Yes, a first date good night kiss should be a simple lips-to-lips kiss, not a using-the-tongue-as-a-medical-probe-to-examine-her-tonsils kiss.

[Moimaris]

Exactly

[InventorofWarp]

I disagree that you can't get to know someone well enough over the course of one date to know if you like them based on personality. My crush (which I've had for a long time on a friend I can't have), I knew I liked her within the first 5 minutes. I knew she was gorgeous first time I saw her but her personality was shining within 5 minutes and I had already realized I liked her. From there it was just uphill.

Having said that, never have nor would I kiss on the first date. Just seems like something more reserved for the second or third date in my opinion. Like, you don't just want to give away all your mystery and aura right off the bat and kissing is sort of something that goes along with that.
Then again I'm the guy who accidentally let it slip the first time we met that I was a virgin so there you go, can't follow my own advice.

[InventorofWarp]

Also seriously? I just went back to this comment and had to do a double take 'cause I was like "does that fucking say 'muscularbumblebee'?
And yes, yes it does.
Few things on GAG make me laugh like that anymore.

[muscularbumblebee]

Sorry lol, didn’t mean for my name to be distracting or anything haha

[InventorofWarp]

It makes me picture those fucking 'roided out bodybuilder bees from that one Family Guy episode.

[Gwenhwyfar]

I like the person

[Gwenhwyfar]

Thanks 😊

[nickaboy]

If I like her I try to Kiss mid date.

And 3 of 3 enjoyed it enough to keep kissing me again and again until the point it hurted 🙆🏻‍♂️

But as I am allready single for the last four years that probably is all I am good in.

About The consent part asking to Kiss ruins it so Just go for it but give room for rejection.
Same for all the other things Just make sure you move slowly so she has enough time to stop you before you actually touch her.

The slow movement also builds a bit of sexual tension. If she is uncomfortable with it and you have a brain you will notice she doesn't like what your trying to do with out her having to say it.

For everything that requires touch there should be consent from both People Just get it by playing the body langauge and eye contact game.

Actually asking for consent will always kill the mood.

[Anonymous]

The laughable thing is to think there’s a right answer. It’s doesn’t matter if you’re completely open to whatever approach she wants to do in that respect, whether it’s waiting or going for it. Regardless of your intent to do whatever she wanted to happen there, chances are you get it wrong and for some reason are held culpable for the discomfort experienced by women, I guess for not reading their mind.


The “right” answer is outside the box and the first step to finding it is to acknowledge the absurdity of the situation in front of us.

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

The whole 'hold hands, kiss, sex' process is designed for you to not ask two questions:
- Are you transgender? (Most of them were changed as children so simply think they cannot have children - and only st that stage)
- Are you wearing contact lenses (blue eye colojr does not exist, only blue coloured lenses - eyes can get clear and reflect the surrounding light but they can be blue only when looking at the sky or the sea)

[OlderAndWiser]

Dude, you REALLY believe this?

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

I do mate - it is made to prevent you, Americans, from socially ostracising the Egyptian cross genders.
Remember the law advice you gave me - invite them for a bbq?

[hahahmm]

I only kissed a girl on the first date once in my life. But we knew each other really well before the 1st date and we had tons of chemistry. Then I married her.

Usually, if I was on a date it was to investigate/discover/figure out if I wanted to be with this person or not. Not to make out. Yes, I know many people have a different approach.

[bobalife]

Typically I try really hard not to have that first kiss on a first date even if I was feeling him haha. But if it somehow happened, I think we just got lost in the moment or the guy smoothly kissed me w/o me realizing but it’s cuz I also see him as a good potential.

[slackbabbath]

The kiss after the first (second at most) is really essential because it’s a dealbreaker for me. If there isn’t a spark or chemistry with how we kiss, I want to know right away, so I won’t pursue it further. I don’t think of it as, “oh I like them so I should show them by kissing them”.. but instead, “I like them so far, I need to see if I like them on this level too.” I believe in the spark and that kiss being telling of it. Can’t stand a bad kiss.

[Bluemax]

I'm curious. Have you ever been attracted to a man In every other way but turned off by his kiss

[slackbabbath]

@Bluemax nope. It usually just locks what I already feel

[Bluemax]

I have a theory. 90% of being a good kisser is just being the right person. At least I have found this to be the case.

[slackbabbath]

@Bluemax no not at all. I was dating a guy for 6 dates and I liked him and he kissed me and it was awful and I realized we didn’t have chemistry then. I was attracted to him until then.

[Bluemax]

Interesting

[slackbabbath]

@Bluemax please no peck kisses. Please no stone mouthed kisses. And please don’t go straight into biting a hunk off her lip

[k2ocon]

What about if both parties consent to it? If you both say that you like eachother & both parties want to kiss, go for it!

[OlderAndWiser]

Consent is not the issue in this question. Consent is assumed.

[Fion3il]

consent should not be assumed.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Fion3il I knew that some keyboard warrior would want to jump in and make such a comment.

1. I meant, FOR PURPOSES OF THIS QUESTION, assume that consent is not an issue.

2. In real life, people who actually go on dates and have real relationships don't really stop and ask "May I kiss you now." That is just something that people suggest when they have no experience with dating. If you go on a real date, when you are standing close to a girl, talking quietly, preparing to say goodbye, and you look into her eyes, she responds with facial expressions and body language that signals that she is receptive to being kissed. Most often, consent is implied from the circumstances.

And I don't care what third wave feminism/me, too response you have. I don't want to hear it. If you think that is important for you to say, write a myTake and create your own forum on that issue. Do not try to do that here.

[Fion3il]

no thats fair. I was mistaken what you meant about consent is assumed.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Fion3il Okay. We're good.

[somesoul]

It's obvious if a guy kiss you on first date, it means he wants to fuck you a lot second date onwards. Congratulations on your new hookup hahaha

[OlderAndWiser]

I have kissed many girls on a first date and I don't remember ever having sex on a second date.

[m33lad]

I thought you were 16 or something! Haha kiss on the first date? I think over age of 25 kiss is like a hug on the first date.


And sex in the first date is just common now.
Is not 1950’s anymore.

[OlderAndWiser]

I am aware that SOME people have sex on a first date but I don't think it is a majority of folks.

[m33lad]

What you think men go on dates for? To play checkers? Or to hear women’s Philosophy on quantum physics?

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't think most men expect to have sex on a first date. Perhaps that is your expectation and it works for you, but that doesn't mean everyone is doing the same thing.

[Nobefore]

If he event tries that, I understand he is not into something serious what he wants only sex and I run away immediately.

[m33lad]

I don’t run away immediately. If the girl has keeping skills I’ll stick around. If she’s annoying I’ll run away the first 10 minutes of meeting her.

[Steakismeat]

If I were to have a date to kiss on the first one it would be because she kissed me. I would be too scared to do it. If I went on a date with her I obviously would want a kiss and I hope things will go from there as it tends to be very rare that I would actually go on a date. If she does kiss me I'll be super happy because she probably likes me. Also I won't be crying my eyes out afterward.

[LeoElias]

You didn't consider the old school religious good girls who don't kiss until the 3rd date or even beyond that.

[OlderAndWiser]

Option A is "I never kiss at the end of a first date!" What more did I need to do to accommodate the reserved women?

[Jemini_Crocket]

Voted E. If the chemistry is good and the date turned out well, I want to show the guy how I feel about the whole moment. I'm always shy about the kissing so it often turned out awkward. xD

[pjf1958]

That type of romance is always eternal. that is a "butterfly in the stomach moment".

[K-I-S-S]

I don't feel the need to do it on the first date.

If i like you and we get along, i will kiss you during the date.

Maybe it's a first date maybe it's the tenth, depends on the person and the connection.

[pleasestopthis]

Option E. I would not kiss a guy on the first date unless I already have feelings for him, and want to take things further, like a serious relationship (of course this would be with a man I already know before dating).

[Goldnessy]

I would not prefer to have it on the first date. I would be irritated if he would kissed me. For me it does mean he is not interested in me.

[Aquariusmystery]

For me personally kissing on the first date is a no from me. Only because I barely know the guy. Give it maybe one or two dates and I’ll consider

[I-C3_ME]

I've actually never kissed someone at the end of the first date. Even when I'm interested cuz I'm just to scared to do so

[PeacefulRainDrop]

I have never allowed it to happen.. I take things slow!

[AdithyaR]

Kiss on the first date is a no for me, too soon.
I prefer to hold off any physical stuff until I get to know them well.