A kiss at the end of a first date: what does it mean for you?

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Sometimes, I kiss on a first date and sometimes I don't. If I have no desire to see a girl again, then I certainly don't kiss her. Sometimes, the girl does not give me the option of having a goodnight kiss. But, if she is receptive and I am so inclined, I kiss her. . . on the lips. . . not a using-the-tongue-as-a-medical-probe-to-examine-her-tonsils kiss, but definitely with enough passion to signal that I am attracted to her and I hope to see her again soon. And if it appears that she enjoyed the kiss, then I hope that it had the same meaning for her.

What does it mean when YOU give someone a goodnight kiss at the end of a first date?

Lliam · Accepted Answer

A simple, polite kiss isn't a big deal. It's a better gesture than shaking hands but doesn't necessarily mean that I'll call her again.

Sometimes it means that I really like her and hope to see her again. In those cases, the kiss is more tender and slightly prolonged, but definitely no wide open mouth or tongue unless she initiates it.

I've had a couple girls initiate kisses after dates. Both of those girls turned out to be keepers.
I wound up living with one for over a year. After our first date to a nice restaurant, I walked her to her house, which was nearby. When we got to the door, she unlocked it, then turned, placed her hands on top of my shoulders, rose up on her tip toes, pressed herself gently against me, and gave me a kiss. Her lips were so tender that my head actually swam. It was extraordinary.

The other time was after the first date with my future wife. I walked her to the parking lot behind the restaurant. We had gotten along so well over dinner that we stood by her car and continued talking. When it was time to leave, we realized that the parking lot gate was closed and locked. I hopped over the 6' cinder block wall and got someone from the restaurant to let us out.
Before she got in her car, she stepped toward me and gave me a kiss. There was admiration in her eyes. I knew that she liked me a lot, but I later found out that she also thought I was her Superman for hopping over that wall. LOL

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I usually kiss on the first date the let her know I enjoyed the time with her and had a good time and hope to do it again , it pretty much puts the ball in her court on whether she wants to see me again or not , if she turns her head and doesn’t kiss back then you pretty much know she isn’t really interested in you So you pretty much go on with your life and. If she does call the next day then it’s a shock lol The thing is You can actually read someone by the way they kiss you by their body language , and if they really enjoyed it or they just did it to get you the hell out of there lol or it might lead to don’t leave and come on in and Fuck my brains out , just depends on how the kiss goes says a lot but it’s not always a hundred percent accurate , but it’s better then not knowing at all

muscularbumblebee · Accepted Answer

Actually would be a turn off, unless it’s just for physical attraction reasons or for sexual reasons why on earth would you need to kiss someone on a first date assuming you weren’t close before hand? You don’t get to know someone on one date so you can’t say personality!

Gwenhwyfar · Accepted Answer

I like the person

nickaboy · Answer

If I like her I try to Kiss mid date.

And 3 of 3 enjoyed it enough to keep kissing me again and again until the point it hurted 🙆🏻‍♂️

But as I am allready single for the last four years that probably is all I am good in.

About The consent part asking to Kiss ruins it so Just go for it but give room for rejection.
Same for all the other things Just make sure you move slowly so she has enough time to stop you before you actually touch her.

The slow movement also builds a bit of sexual tension. If she is uncomfortable with it and you have a brain you will notice she doesn't like what your trying to do with out her having to say it.

For everything that requires touch there should be consent from both People Just get it by playing the body langauge and eye contact game.

Actually asking for consent will always kill the mood.

Anonymous · Answer

The laughable thing is to think there’s a right answer. It’s doesn’t matter if you’re completely open to whatever approach she wants to do in that respect, whether it’s waiting or going for it. Regardless of your intent to do whatever she wanted to happen there, chances are you get it wrong and for some reason are held culpable for the discomfort experienced by women, I guess for not reading their mind.

The “right” answer is outside the box and the first step to finding it is to acknowledge the absurdity of the situation in front of us.

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Answer

The whole 'hold hands, kiss, sex' process is designed for you to not ask two questions:
- Are you transgender? (Most of them were changed as children so simply think they cannot have children - and only st that stage)
- Are you wearing contact lenses (blue eye colojr does not exist, only blue coloured lenses - eyes can get clear and reflect the surrounding light but they can be blue only when looking at the sky or the sea)

hahahmm · Answer

I only kissed a girl on the first date once in my life. But we knew each other really well before the 1st date and we had tons of chemistry. Then I married her.

Usually, if I was on a date it was to investigate/discover/figure out if I wanted to be with this person or not. Not to make out. Yes, I know many people have a different approach.

bobalife · Answer

Typically I try really hard not to have that first kiss on a first date even if I was feeling him haha. But if it somehow happened, I think we just got lost in the moment or the guy smoothly kissed me w/o me realizing but it’s cuz I also see him as a good potential.

slackbabbath · Answer

The kiss after the first (second at most) is really essential because it’s a dealbreaker for me. If there isn’t a spark or chemistry with how we kiss, I want to know right away, so I won’t pursue it further. I don’t think of it as, “oh I like them so I should show them by kissing them”.. but instead, “I like them so far, I need to see if I like them on this level too.” I believe in the spark and that kiss being telling of it. Can’t stand a bad kiss.

k2ocon · Answer

What about if both parties consent to it? If you both say that you like eachother & both parties want to kiss, go for it!

somesoul · Answer

It's obvious if a guy kiss you on first date, it means he wants to fuck you a lot second date onwards. Congratulations on your new hookup hahaha

m33lad · Answer

I thought you were 16 or something! Haha kiss on the first date? I think over age of 25 kiss is like a hug on the first date.  And sex in the first date is just common now. Is not 1950’s anymore.

Steakismeat · Answer

If I were to have a date to kiss on the first one it would be because she kissed me. I would be too scared to do it. If I went on a date with her I obviously would want a kiss and I hope things will go from there as it tends to be very rare that I would actually go on a date. If she does kiss me I'll be super happy because she probably likes me. Also I won't be crying my eyes out afterward.

LeoElias · Answer

You didn't consider the old school religious good girls who don't kiss until the 3rd date or even beyond that.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

Voted E. If the chemistry is good and the date turned out well, I want to show the guy how I feel about the whole moment. I'm always shy about the kissing so it often turned out awkward. xD

pjf1958 · Answer

That type of romance is always eternal. that is a "butterfly in the stomach moment".

K-I-S-S · Answer

I don't feel the need to do it on the first date.

If i like you and we get along, i will kiss you during the date.

Maybe it's a first date maybe it's the tenth, depends on the person and the connection.

pleasestopthis · Answer

Option E. I would not kiss a guy on the first date unless I already have feelings for him, and want to take things further, like a serious relationship (of course this would be with a man I already know before dating).

Goldnessy · Answer

I would not prefer to have it on the first date. I would be irritated if he would kissed me. For me it does mean he is not interested in me.

Aquariusmystery · Answer

For me personally kissing on the first date is a no from me. Only because I barely know the guy. Give it maybe one or two dates and I’ll consider

I-C3_ME · Answer

I've actually never kissed someone at the end of the first date. Even when I'm interested cuz I'm just to scared to do so

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

I have never allowed it to happen.. I take things slow!

AdithyaR · Answer

Kiss on the first date is a no for me, too soon. I prefer to hold off any physical stuff until I get to know them well.

LemiaOfChampions · Answer

Either she enjoy her time with me or its a no from. her

Avicenna · Answer

I wouldn't be kissing her at the end of the first date unless I wanted her to be my girlfriend

crazy8000 · Answer

If she doesn't start doing it, it won't happen. It says she wants to explore for something more. maybe just sex or the whole package.

Matt57 · Answer

I never kiss on a first date, that’s too fast in my opinion.

Browneye57 · Answer

Reasonable. It's a 'I had fun and I like you' in a romantic kind of way.  If not, skip it.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

It means we both seem to be interested in each other.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I don't do that. That is WAY too early to be putting your lips on someone's mouth!

dudeinohio · Answer

It's a custom. Some first dates never led to a second.

jeffryrobertbabb · Answer

If there is no kiss, there's not much prospect for a second date.

Joshua0213 · Answer

I normally just hug then its pretty easy to tell if she wants a kiss or not during that.

legalboxers · Answer

depends on the kiss.. if is a kiss on the lips... probable 2nd date.. cheek.. iffy

Asianguy123 · Answer

I haven’t had a proper date. I think many people here are same too. I just imagine what it is like and watch it on TV or in the movie

Slim57 · Answer

Means attraction is there and date probably went will there will be a 2nd

Likes2drive · Answer

Never got a kiss on the first date, maybe a peck on the cheek or hug but that’s it, never seems like they want it or expect it, I suppose if I got one then there would be a second date for sure

Anonymous · Answer

I don't bother, since I am going to get ghosted anyway

kitty71 · Answer

I even made out on my first date, tongue included and all haha

Bluemax · Answer

It's a sign I like the person.

Walamagicc · Answer

I only kiss if he kisses me first

Massageman · Answer

That miracles ARE possible!

JennieF · Answer

I've done a lot more than kiss.

jeremy_09 · Answer

The opinions on this one surprised me a lot.

EaterPeter · Answer

I haven't kissed on first dates so far.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Not at the first date

White_Boy_506 · Answer

I don’t have that level of confidence.

IveGotNoName · Answer

That wouldn't happen

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