Personally, if I had lost interest in someone, I would never waste time chatting with them. That would be torturous and extremely boring.
So why do you think someone would keep talking to someone they’re not even interested in?
This is just the vibe that I got is that when a guy is in a relationship and he wants to cheat so he goes out with somebody else. And he makes the girl feel something else so she starts contacting him but he never has time to chat because he's busy in his relationship so he has all types of excuses on why he can't meet up for do this or do that. And then on certain days he might be feeling certain things so he might send an email talking it up wanting to do things. But then all of a sudden that moment passes and he's right back to making excuses because of his relationship until it happens again you might be in an argument she might be gone he might be online so he's going to send another email instead of just being honest. No I don't know if any of the above is true it's just the vibe that I got when I read your post
This really sucks for you. He is having some kind of an ego trip because he thinks you are interested in him. Give him one more chance, then forget him.
Sounds a bit typical. I would say he’s ‘bread-crumbing’ you. Seems to be a real trend these days. Your best option is to not be available to him for his convenience.
Yeah I think it’ll either work in your favour to give him a push/wake up or you’ll just know where you stand. In my opinion it could be for multiple reasons, such as an ego boost, purely out of boredem, have you as a back up plan, also maybe just the way he is wired - Unfortunately a lot of people love games. So maybe he’s genuinely into you but pursuing other people who are less available to him; like a chase thing. He doesn’t have to make that extra effort with you cos you’re just there. This all has nothing to do with YOU so long as you know that. You deserve 100%. If you haven’t already, maybe just say something and hope he’s not a coward and doesn’t gaslight you, but life’s too short not to be blunt so I think confront him on potentially wasting your time. OR if you don’t feel comfortable, test him out by casually bringing up dating someone or another guy in general and see his reaction. I rather the straightforward option personally because that one could possibly backfire. Anyway I feel this post girl, it’s a really confusing predicament to be in. It’s hard but I do believe if someone wants to see you, they will. So unless you’re in apart of the world like me in strict covid lockdown craziness, he shouldn’t really have an excuse
Wants to sext/send nudes? Or keeping you as a backup plan.
Cause he does like you just not as much as the girl who’s his main plan
Just a thought. Or he could just want free online/phone/video sex stuff.
Then you’re probably a backup plan
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Its tough but once you feel you can break it off without hurting yourself go for it. My advice.
I've had women string me along and gradually exit my life, it actually hurts a lot less than telling the other person you don't like them and quit suddenly. You can totally tell them all the things you dont like about them and encourage them to do things that are good. Just spend a little less time on them every week until you just finally ghost em.
Much gentler easier way if you actually like thr person enough to fo that at least. After learning about that method I've used it and it was much better for the woman I was seeing.
That's why I would do it. Some people probably just are lazy or don't care about the relationship enough to even breakup. They might be of two minds with a lot on their plate. Either way, im a full throttle guy or im easing on the brakes, no inbetween. This guy sounds like a slowpoke and wishy washy. Tough but true.
I love practicing thr advice ill give my daughters if I ever Have them. Hopefully, they will be as smart as you
No one likes to walk a tight rope over a space without a net. That’s why a lot of women and even men will have somebody as a “back up“ or a Plan B. I can say without a shadow of a doubt that I have had a number of girls I’ve broken up with, or more accurately broke up with me and still want to be friends. I Reminders most of them, that there’s no such thing as “Friend“ in ex girlfriend or ex-boyfriend. If you’re being honest, do you really want to hang out with guys doing the things you want? No. If somebody stringing you along it’s because they’re not totally comfortable in their current relationship and like the idea of having you around as a back up or a Plan B.
no clue, but most guys either are idiots or are capable of doing stupid stuff.
Keeping you in reserve, or doesn't want to "hurt" you by saying we just aren't right for each other.
Unless he is just interested in having you as a friend. But even then, he'd probably see you again if that were the case.
Yeah it is weird. If it were me and I just wanted to be friends and not really "date", I'd try to meet up for coffee every now and then at least.
I don't know, I never string anyone along. I can’t do that. Not that I worry about it happening to me. I can deal with it but I don’t like hurting people.
You give him something - attention.
Or he wants to keep you around if he gets rejected by others. As a safety net of sorts.
That's my guess at least
The best thing to do is to forget about him. If he is making excuses, it is a 🚩 he is not interested in dating you, but enjoys your conversation.
I agree stringing someone along is not right, you either want to date them or not date them is how I see things... My best advice is to tell them you've moved on
They're bored, want attention, and/or they haven't found someone else to give them whatever they're getting from you.
It's cos your their 2nd choice if things don't work out with someone else
Maybe he's overthinking the second date. Tell him to just keep it simple.
Oh. Hmm. Is it because he thinks you want to have sex with him?
Oh. So you called his bluff lol.
Well, if you want to have a relationship with the guy, you're going to have to reset things a bit. Reassure him that you would also enjoy hanging out with him doing something that doesn't involve sex.
So you're not looking for anything serious, either?
So a boyfriend is not serious?
Hmm. That's a good point, I guess. I always thought that was serious, but maybe some people don't think of it that way.
You should do a poll.
maybe he doesn't really love you but he's holding it in reserve because he doesn't want to lose it.
No idea... but yes, annoying
Maybe because they are players
Possibly seeing other people
boredom; had nothing else going on
Or he's a player
ego boost
They're a jerk lol
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