İ never ever got a boyfriend so I falling into depression how can I do come out of depression?

[Molluk]

İ'm so hopless

[forthright]

You have to force yourself to acknowledge the negative things about relationships that you're currently not. You have to remind yourself that relationships aren't the end of all problems. They're the beginning of more complex problems. And that you'd never truly know beforehand if it will all work out in your favor & feel worth it.

After you've done that (altered your beliefs), you'd be ready to move on to other value structures. Ones that don't involve being in a relationship but can still bring you happiness. And the first step to that is to stop thinking that you're hopeless. And the first step to that is to stop saying it and instead replace it with other more constructive sayings.

[Molluk]

How i don't be hopless i love many guy but they don't

[forthright]

I thought the same thing as you about 4 years ago. I saw myself as less than because I didn't get love from certain people. But my huge flaw was equating me not getting the love to my level of self-worth.

I had huge issues with viewing myself as inferior to others. You might just have to ask yourself questions that make you question your beliefs & value structures. Things like:

• If you have the belief that you need them, ask yourself why they deserve you?

• If you have the belief that you life will be better with them in it, ask yourself what will change? And would it outweight the cons of the change?

[forthright]

And if you're sure that you want a relationship, then you could just ask yourself questions that address the insecurity of not being good enough.

[Mofunfour20]

Write down everything reason you feel hopeless and write the solution next to it.

Im too skinny - work out and eat more
Im too fat - eat less and workout more

Use logic to solve problems, not your emotions. Thats why you feel hopeless, you dont know any better. Focus on the solutions and be honest about what your problems are

[Molluk]

İ'can't for example i'm divergant maybe i'm divergant therefor nobody want me and i can't solve be divergant

[Mofunfour20]

You can you're just stubborn. Thats a habit u gotta break to be happy from within.

[karaspara]

Definitely seek professional help but in the meantime some things that helped me were taking up hobbies especially ones with a physical element then I met new people and just generally felt better about myself but I know confidence and or motivation to do things like that can be difficult to find medication can help but really only in the short term

[PrettyPriya]

Oh no! This is sad to read. 😔

You can always seek mental health experts. There are also many supportive people here to talk, including me!

@chrismaster69
@SecretsofKB
@karaspara
@ez-bri-z
@jennbitx

these are just a few that are excellent to talk to about emotional issues.

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you for mhg and I really do hope you are well. You can always @ mention my username if you need support 🙏❤️

[SecretsofKB]

Honestly, when it comes to depression, I will always refer you to a qualified mental health professional. They will be able to give you the help you need that's tailored to what you specifically need.

Whatever advice I could cook up for you would be nothing more than a shot in the dark.

Please consider seeking professional help! It's what's best for you!!

Good luck!!

And thanks @PrettyPriya for the tag!

[PrettyPriya]

@SecretsofKB

Thank you for the quick response.

@Molluk

She is a nurse and has much knowledge for things like this.

[OddBeMe]

Changing whatever routine you’re currently in. I’m a depressive on mild meds and go to therapy. Both help. But break the monotony of whatever you’re currently doing. Go kayaking. Play racquet ball. Look up a Meet Up group to go to.


But stats say the more people you meet the more likely you are to find someone.

[Molluk]

But nobody love me why this isn't continue?

[OddBeMe]

you have no idea who could love you. No one can make that statement logically. This is internal depression clouding your thinking.

[Yaharro]

Keep your self busy don't use too much social media I mean chat is ok and Keep developing your curiosity I have similar situation so I do this. it's doesn't make you completely depress free but its help me a lot and keep looking for someone you like without rushing good luck😁👍

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Depression =/= not having a boyfriend.

You might actually be clinically depressed. Have you gone to a doctor to get a diagnosis?

[VikingWarLord]

Lose the weight and start doing light weights and cardio.

Stop chopping your hair and cutting short like a BOY

Those two things will get you a boyfriend or two.

[Molluk]

İ'm slim and my hair long

[VikingWarLord]

PROVE THAT SH! T!!

[JennBITx]

Thank you @PrettyPriya. I ask always available to talk. If you have insurance, they offer a lot of free Help for depression now.

[PrettyPriya]

@jennbitx

Thank you for the quick reply! I know I can count on certain people ❤️

[SamFromFL]

By making new friends and focusing on fun activities. When you are out and moving there is no time for depression

[Molluk]

This is everytime in my brain

[SamFromFL]

Then it’s less when you are hiking a trail than it is when you are laying in bed at night. Our bodies want to move and be stimulated by our senses. When we are still the mind becomes anxious.

[Anonymous]

Be sure that you're not alone dear. There's plenty of us women in our early 20s in the exact same situation. Stay strong! And don't give up. I too haven't found a boyfriend yet

[Sarairocketship]

Seek help. But Jesus can help you in everything. Not just that.

[Anonymous]

Ironically having a boyfriend isn’t what’ll cure the depression. You have to find fulfilment in your own life first before you can be genuinely happy with anyone else.

[scuff1986]

you need to keep yourself active, find things you enjoy

[Anonymous]

It's okay, I don't have a boyfriend too and boys hate me and don't talk to me. You can talk to me if you want to, we can be hopeless together :)

[sponge-bob]

why would boys hate you?

[Opinion Owner]

@sponge-bob Because I'm either too quiet too loud or too weird for them

[sponge-bob]

why do you think your weird?
I like weird.

[TacosRAwesome]

You need to ask a friend who is honest and not an asshole why they think you don't get boyfriends.

[Luckycharms12]

Why does having boyfriend mean so much make yourself happy having boyfriend will be added bonus

[Molluk]

Because i want love even once

[Luckycharms12]

You will get it. I Always found when wasn't looking and out enjoying myself with friends get hit on

[Drzen]

Probably you want someone looks like Henry Cavill. Get along with normal good guy

[CreamySeed]

Lots of single men out there its sposed to be easy for girls

[Anonymous]

Are you saying you are a woman who is 21 and never had a boyfriend?

[Sam_The_Savage]

Don't you have life beyond boyfriend?

[Molluk]

Of course got but i want a have love in my life even once

[Sam_The_Savage]

Love yourself first...
Build confidence in yourself.

Than I bet guy will go to their knees for you.

[Molluk]

Ones i used to be confident but things that happen my confident very down

[Sam_The_Savage]

Girl it's just phase of life everyone go through. Relax.

[clampfan101]

You’re still young. Calm down.

[Clarke498]

Same thing here and i got two years on you...

[Mofunfour20]

Hit the gym every day for the next three years. Get your protein as well, Thank me later

[Clarke498]

@Mofunfour20 Yeah I'm planning on starting to work out. Just gotta get the job secured first, then I'm gonna start losing some weight and get some more muscle.

[Grubhub]

You’re very young. You’ll be fine ❤️

[Anonymous]

Simple..
You are female, pick a guy

[Molluk]

İ'm pick but they not pick me

[Opinion Owner]

Do you take care of yourself? Are you over weight?

[Molluk]

No guys like me but not become lover

[Opinion Owner]

Don’t put out to easily and let them get to know you.

[Molluk]

Some know some don't know and i'm incompatible/divergant i think maybe reason this but i'can't solve this

[Joker_]

lol you're hopless

[bigd9972]

Ill be ur fuck buddy