I got out of it on my own with “vitamin D” and weight-training. I also started using the sauna, the pool, and the jacuzzi. Literally like that, in an row
And I do some slight tanning too for 1 hour. Once a week.
The sun increases metabolism and testosterone in men. So you should really look into it.
Always eat meats and animal protein cause that’ll help you grow muscles if you lift weights. Protein Shakes and protein bars will help too. But ONLY if you’re weightlifting. Otherwise they’ll just make you fat.
To me, these things are incredible mood-boosters. I completely got out of my depression that I even started dancing all alone for an hour in my room. And I started downloading music.
Sure, at first I did only start practicing all this and entering the gym for weightloss. 🤷🏻♀️ But it definitely enhances the mood. Now I go to the gym everyday. And at work I walk 8 or 12 miles cause I patrol by foot. So far I’ve lost over 30 pounds. 🎉
( KEEP FAR AWAY FROM PORNOGRAPHY, FAR AWAY FROM WEED/ POT, FAR AWAY FROM VAPING, FAR AWAY FROM CIGARETTES. JUST KEEP FAR AWAY FROM ANY SORT OF SMOKING OF ANYTHING )
I've never smoked anything in my life. But I heard that those vapes and weed. If you come off of those. It enhances feelings of anxiety and depression. It’s best to quit them all forever. Eat healthy. Eat real Natural Food that has its own colors. 🍓
Everything that is mainstream and everyone is doing. Is made to destroy you. Always research. You could even incorporate WATER-FASTING in your life cause it clears your mind. And pornography makes you loose testosterone because it keeps you at a high estrogen State specially if you do it a lot. Not only that but it keeps you tired.
Be careful with taking medications from these Psychologists. At the end of the day that is a business. And the more they can pull from health insurance the richer they become. They’ll immediately pump you with medications that later you can’t get off of.
TWO BIG THINGS. And they might be hard to overcome.
ONE. Habits. Change them. Whatever thing it is. Place, people, activities. Change them. You can't expect things to change if you aren't actively trying to change your life.
TWO. The hardest part, is your mind. Imagine you're in a volleyball team. And your team happens to be behind. If you, in your mind, have given up, you will perform worse than someone who still believes they can win. "The ball is flying pretty far out, I'm not going to be able catch that" and you let it touch the ground, another point for the other team, because you didn't run and try.
Negative energy attracts more negative energy. If you think you're sick you're body is going to follow that believe and feel worse. That's how those doomsayers and shaman swindlers get their money's worth. The mind can bring you great success but can also put you in a deep mess, like depression.
That mindset to fight can not waver, no matter how bad things get. "Things get better they say but it never does" Stop looking at the desired result and go day by day.
Well I will be quitting my second job so hopefully that helps
That would probably help, more free time, more sleep. Good sleep is a great way to start off the day!
A lot of great answers already on here, and at least one person has said all the things I'm going to list, but I just wanted to add the point of keeping it simple. Focus on the BASICS. You sound like you're already overwhelmed. So here are the basics:
1. Diet
2. Sleep
3. Exercise
4. Connection with others
There are more things that other people have listed that are important, like stay away from alcohol, nicotine, and other drugs. But those 4 things I would say are the top basic things to do. I am blown away how much diet affects mood. I have to say, I ate some sugary foods, and I think just that gave me a minor "depression", not full blown but I feel my body and mind being slower and more tired. Sugar is inflammatory. Same issue for unhealthy fats and fast/junk food. Lack of proper sleep is also HUGE, as is lack of exercise.
I think if you focus on 2 weeks of eating healthy, sleeping ~9-10 hours a night, exercising at least 15-30 minutes of intense (sprints), or 60 minutes of moderate (walking), and talking with a friend or family member face to face for at least 20 minutes a day, you're going to start to feel at least a little better.
It's possible you have a mental health issue, but it's also possible you just need a basic reset.
Cherish your masculinity. Avoid the habitual disclosure of your emotional well-being. Initiate a regime of weight training. Amplify your protein intake. Work until you feel like you need to quit, and then work some more. This will help you understand your unique capabilities as a man. Do not shy away from dissenting viewpoints. Articulate your opinions, ensuring they are expressed with decorum. Address your fears by accomplishing minor victories progressively. Strive to elevate your earnings to provide stability for those you care for. Master self-defense techniques by participating in a Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu class. Grasp the essence of humility from your experiences in training. Serve those in your surroundings. Adopt a self-sacrificing lifestyle, prioritizing others' needs above your own. Seek wisdom and guidance from a higher spiritual authority. Engage in reading proverbs from the bible even if you have not embraced faith yet. Abstain from watching pornographic content. Practice discipline in all aspects of your life.
I understand the discipline part, Thankyou
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How long has this depression lasted, first off? Has it only been two or three weeks? Well, it's not clinical, yet. How about minimalist tactics.
Are you a regular exerciser? Exercise keeps the doldrums away. Spend 20-30 minutes a day walking, bike riding, weight lifting, doing some calisthenics. Your choice. Get up earlier and exercise BEFORE work because after work, you'll be too tired.
Exercise when you're starting the day and fresh. You'll get an energy return that'll surprise you and in a week or so, you'll feel minor depression dispelled.
Start off at three days a week and work up to five. M-F. Take weekends off for recovery and rest from your exercise.
Be consistent and incorporate exercise into your routine to keep you energized.
ALSO, make sure you get at least 15-30 minutes of sun to keep your circadian rhythms in line. Wear sunscreen and a hat to protect your skin. But remember, getting proper sun exposure sets your sleep clock. A sure sign you ARE depressed is you aren't sleeping properly. But the sun equation can help reset your body clock.
If you've been depressed a month or longer, you need to see a professional to try talk therapy. Keep exercising, though. And that therapist will ascertain whether you need to see a psychiatrist after working with you for a few weeks. Good luck.
Well I work out side so I get sun and exercise, unfortunately my life has always been this way it’s genetic my moms the same way. The only time I was ever active with friends on a daily basis was when I was into drugs
WEll if depression runs in your family you need to see a psychiatrist and get some medication and talk therapy support. You also need to develop some healthy friendships with new people. People you have activities and interests in common with.
Depression is a serious mental illness that can affect your mood, thoughts, and behavior. It can make it difficult to do everyday things, like go to work or school, or take care of yourself. If you're feeling depressed, it's important to seek help from a mental health professional. They can help you identify the causes of your depression and develop coping mechanisms to manage your symptoms.
In addition to professional help, there are a number of things you can do to help yourself get out of depression. These include:
* Getting regular exercise. Exercise can boost your mood and energy levels, and it can also help you sleep better.
* Eating a healthy diet. Eating a healthy diet can help improve your mood and energy levels.
* Getting enough sleep. When you're sleep-deprived, it can make it difficult to concentrate and think clearly. This can make it harder to cope with stress and depression.
* Spending time with loved ones. Spending time with people who care about you can help you feel supported and loved.
* Avoiding alcohol and drugs. Alcohol and drugs can worsen depression.
* Learning relaxation techniques. Relaxation techniques can help you reduce stress and anxiety.
* Seeking professional help. If you're feeling depressed, it's important to seek help from a mental health professional. They can help you identify the causes of your depression and develop coping mechanisms to manage your symptoms.
Getting out of depression can take time and effort, but it is possible. By following these tips, you can start to feel better and enjoy your life again.
Well first, one signs up for therapy, because depression is a serious medical issue.
Second, focus on orienting around self-care and support. Take small steps to push yourself out of the lovely bubble that is your safe space. The only way out of a situation is by changing it. If it's your job, see if there's anything you can do to adjust your work-life balance, or, long term consider changing careers/occupations. If you struggle with loneliness, start reaching out to people, even if it's just family, friends you lost contact with etc. It's awkward and difficult for some, but having more social interactions and really help. And finally, work on managing your physical health and setting small, achievable goals, rather than putting large tasks in front of yourself. Today you'll do laundry, or write the first page of a report, or go to the grocery store. Completing achievable goals boosts self-confidence and gives your brain that nice little burst of serotonin. It's kind of like when you manage to get through a really grindy video game. You might also be able to make tasks more approachable/enjoyable but changing little habits. Put on music or a tv show when cooking, or call a friend on the way to do an errand.
Hope this helps and I hope you feel better in the future. Managing mental health can be a difficult task and it's ok to seek professional help.
Well Thankyou for sure! I do have a therapist but I don’t think she likes me very much,
That’s true but it’s hard to find a therapist that fits my schedule plus my health insurance cancels at the end of the month
I don't know my bro but I feel the same.
What helps me is trying to be realistic about the reality we live in.
We are living in the best time to be alive as a human. We have so much We can do and infinite possibilities.
But we all seem to mourne for the days when we lived in tribal groups, hunting every day and dancing and singing after the hunt.
That primitive life was the epitome of the human experience and since straying from it we have become depressed.
But if I think objectively I see how wonderful the world we have created is.
But we have all of these communist and feminists telling us that we are nothing but slaves in a corporate machine.
That government and corporation have shackled us all.
But the real truth is that we are free. And I suppose we don't know how to handle that freedom.
We wish we could. go back to where we were forced along by the situations at hand. Hungry go hunt. Hot, find a tree's shade. Cold, skin an animal for its fur.
Everything you did was essential to your survival. But now, we do things purely for the sake of doing them.
It's hard to enjoy this wonderful world of opportunity we have created.
100% agree with you!
And despite thinking these things, I have to remind myself over and over.
It honestly helps in the moment.
But I think that deep down my programming is "the world we live in is a capitalist dystopian nightmare and we are all slaves in the machine" and deep down that programming just won't go away.
So I'm constantly battling with it.
Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe the fucking communists and feminists are right.
But the more I study them the more I think they're idiots lol.
You literally cannot escape depression if you're already at the point of no return.
I knew it was over when I read "I just want to lay in bed and dream about a different life."
I did this when I was 9, it was a coping mechanism that I used to escape reality. My brain is fried up and foggy because I refused to retain information in class due to my very lucid daydreams about a life I'll never have.
My dad used to hurt me physically, and both of my parents were home. I'd see my mom for a few moments a day and I had no supervision whatsoever. I never learned any discipline due to being alone, so I never learned how to cope with hardships.
I think curing my depression is impossible, I've socialized but it all led back to the same thing again.
I've been depressed ever since I was 12 years old, I'm literally 18 now.
There is no god, and I am now identifying myself as an antinatalist. My advice to you is to not read any of the blue pill that people are spazzing out here in the replies section.
Therapy is a waste, cherishing your "masculinity" is such a joke. Just go MGTOW, and live a life of solidarity and stop believing in false hope.
But if you really want to try and live a happy life, you probably already know what you need to do to get that life. But that path is most likely very long and bumpy, with lots of hard work and adversities.
Good luck.
Yeah I kinda feel yeah but there’s got to be some way out right?
Or some way to fight
Yeah there is but you'll feel extremely out of place. I've tried this before, I spent almost 4 months fixing my body and I lost over 40 pounds. I spent 3 months working my ass off on clothes that would help me stand out a bit and make me look nice. Literally all it took was one party and I was back to where I started, I didn't just "give up" my body literally shut down.
After a good month of socializing and trying hard to be "happy", I couldn't even get out of bed in the morning because even though I was making "friends", every night I would try and hold back the tears before I went to bed.
You can be like me, and cope as much as you want, but if you've been through as much as I have, it is literally impossible to find peace or happiness.
Now I am literally fucking struggling everyday, I moved to a different continent because I thought it would help with the pain but things are only worse for me and I actually feel like I'm dead.
Honestly if you want happiness you cannot ask other people on the internet how to find it, that is something you have to work for yourself and figure out what it is you really want.
What you need to do:
You need a very specific goal that is achievable so that you cannot fail. Once you accomplish that very small and easy goal you can make it a bit more challenging and then try to accomplish the next goal and so on. Doing this will make you feel accomplished, and you'll actually feel like your life has meaning. Start by making a super small goal, like cleaning your room by the end of the week, or making a friend at work, or spending more time with family. Doing this may help you on your journey to self-discovery and inner peace.
Honestly, like I said before. Good luck man because this shit is awful and hard as fuck.
Ok man this is my honest opinion and how I've dealt with it.
1. Find a purpose. I love knowing I have useful skills in my job and I'm earning good money. In your case I'd look into new employment.
2. Try purchasing a dog. Seriously like a labrador, german shepherd etc.. they can read emotions and love you unconditionally. You will feel really good walking them too.
3. Drink coffee in the morning. Seriously look it up if you don't believe me. It blocks the adenosine in your brain so you won't want to stay in bed all the time and it works as a mild antidepressant.
4. Avoid wasting time on games, movies and porn. Seriously if you haven't caught up with an old friend in a while, I'd recommend it.
5. Don't be too hard on yourself and work on it slowly at your pace. Man it's not fun and unfortunately mental illness sucks, but never give up.
6. Take time to appreciate the accomplishments you've made in your life. Don't look at other people's lives, most people fake that their lives are better then they really are.
7. Try spending some time in nature. Maybe next time you've got the time, go camping with some buddies away from all the hassles.
Be very careful of therapist, psychiatrist and psychologist. They earn huge money to repeat strategies from books and psychiatrist are quick to put you on big Pharma drugs. I spent 5 years addicted to antidepressants and they are seriously the last option. Erectile dysfunction, brain zaps and a numbing zombie feeling are just a few side effects.
A therapist or psychologist always thinks that they have the answers. Just be careful in my opinion most are charlatans.
A psychiatrist is a big Pharma puppet. If you need to go on medication then you need to go on medication, but seriously just because careful.
Avoid alcohol, weed, anything psychedelic, uppers, dowers etc.. Man I might get some hate for my opinion, but I've actually studied mental health and have lost family because of their problems. Don't be hard on yourself. Try taking vitamin B, vitamin D and exercise. Unfortunately a lot of people have been brainwashed. I actually study mental health for 2 years, but an old school psychiatrist was the one that basically told me that most people in this field are charlatans. You need to want to feel better. Having a dog for personal therapy, exercising, using strong coffee in the morning shower to increase your energy, increasing your vitamin D, vitamin B levels and very importantly, try to find other employment if it's giving you grief. I know you'll feel a lot better
Men were not created to lay around for 7-8 hours/day watching tv or daydreaming in bed. Men are meant to be constructive. That means solving problems, fixing things, or planning to do that stuff. Unless you work long hours at the day job, then after work you should still be getting personal stuff done.
This is why a lot of guys have hobbies like building cars, motorcycle, carpentry, or bother to learn additional stuff that is constructive.
The more you do the less time you have to navel gaze & feel sorry for yourself & if you're smart about the hobbies you pick you'll also be learning valuable skills that will pay off later.
Beyond that, look into nutrition. Some things are very bad for your mental health even tho they are common food items or eating too much of them. Do a little homework on that stuff.
Exactly.
I work two jobs so I definitely do work long hours, plus I don’t watch tv but I know what you mean!
Eliminate all sources of stress that are not necessary for your survival. If work is stressing you out then get a job somewhere else that is less stressful. Get sunlight and exercise every day. Go to sleep at the same time every night. Do not participate in social media. Only use your phone when necessary. Go on vacation or take some time off from work if you can afford to. I was working 6 nights a week dealing with drunk assholes. I only had Monday off for 6 months. I never saw the sun, I was a vampire, it was hell. All I did on my day off was lay in bed. Now I'm only working 4 days a week and feel much better. I get up every afternoon and go out into the sun and tend to my hot pepper plants like a fat farmer. Make a change in your routine. Don't isolate yourself from people.
I can relate. I think... find something you love/trust... and soak it up while shutting everything else out. I can't deal with humans anymore, and it's basically shut my system down. But I love animals, and so I'm taking my girl pitbully and heading to indefinitely camp and hike all the trails in the Rockies indefinitely with her. Checking out of society. I grew up in the PNW, so it's in my element, and with the 1 I trust. I can relate... find what you trust, and shut everything else out for good. For me, it's animals and rugged scenery.
Yeah dogs do help, my dogs a pitbull German shepherd mix
Whenever I’m in the midst of a spiral of depression, I remember that there’s better days ahead. When it was really really bad, I was lucky and I was able to get help and talk to someone about it. The medical professionals then put me on medication that changed my life.
There’s an old saying from the 70s that I always try and remember when I’m in a depressed state. “Keep on truckin’”
Just keep doing what you think is right and eventually things will work themselves out. But it all starts with continuing to live and then facing your problems.
PM me if you feel like talking.
Medication is really the only way to get rid of sadness. There are ways to vent though. Write down all your feeling in a journal or write poetry, write songs, and write about your feelings in them, or you could do what I do and write novels, or even short stories, and then you can give your characters all your feelings. It works for me!
Anti-depressants is really the only way to get rid of the depression completely.
When I was depressed it was usually thinking that I am a burden on everyone and I deeply cared about what everyone thought of me.
I remember seeing a YouTube video saying something along the lines of "If someone is offended by your presence while you are genuinely trying not to offend them, forget about them. You have better things to do and bigger things to worry about than some moron who thinks their own excrement doesn't stink".
Not to mention another video that says that you should never apologize for something unless you know for sure that it was your doing.
One final thing was "confidence is not getting everyone to like you. Confidence is knowing you will be ok if no one does."
MUSIC!!
MAESTRO?
umm do everything that will make you happy. I know this may sound bad but sometimes I still get really sad and feel like unaliving. But then I think if i'm going to unalive myself, why not just yolo and do whatever the fk i want. If I wanna travel, I travel. If I wanna look prettier, I get botox or something. If I wanna eat something unhealthy, i'll do it. And then it makes me feel better ;)
I am like that. I dont know what to advise you because i dont know the cause of your depression or how is ur life. But u can't start with little steps like watch a funny programm. I do watch a funny programm called impractical jokers it gets me out of depression. Or u can just take anti depressant
Notice how people will often speak of worldly solutions, turning to man and attending to the physical body. But if your depression is of the spiritual kind then this will not do. We are both physical and spiritual and both sides need to be tended to. if one or the other is not tended to then the result will be imbalance. Listen to what the guy in the below short has to say:
https://www.youtube.com/embed/aM0n9Azz27sYou find a purpose, a thing that drives you forward. Maybe it's a romantic interest, or a status interest. Whatever it is you discover it and it consumes your time. Before you know it you'll forget what made you spiral downward in the first place.
Small steps of self discovery
You don't, I'm aware that sounds like piss poor advise, but it's true. You can find plenty of shit to distract yourself but the depression is still there. And that's ok I think, you just have to work through it in your own mind. I think it's important to let yourself feel those fucked up feelings, it's how you know you're still alive.
Getting out of depression often requires a multifaceted approach. Seek professional help, such as therapy or counseling, to gain insight and coping strategies. Prioritize self-care, including exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep. Build a supportive network of friends and family. Engage in activities that bring joy and purpose. Remember, recovery takes time and patience, so be gentle with yourself throughout the process.
Trust me, there were days where I lost battles with my depression BUT I DONT WANT IT TO HAPPEN AGAIN IT WAS SO DARK AND IT MAKES ME FUCKING UGLY so whenever I fall into depression now, I force myself to get out of my house OFTEN to hangout with my friends or just a date with myself at the mall and it works well for me. Give it a try. If you want.
+ Ashvagandha supplements helps to relax you
What is Ashvagamdha?
Google it
Give yourself a task, only one task, only one goal, go out and have a walk.
I try to walk every night cuz I have a dog but Thankyou thankyou
Whatever people say do not go to a psgychologist or a therapist its a scam.. trust me.
However force yourself to be healthy, eat well, sleep 8 hours and work out. And start searching for jobs.
It works differently on people though. There are many other things that works or not on anyone
@Aiko_E_Lara no its a scam. Its spelled "the rapist".. trust me I've been to many they are scammers but you believe what you want
You dont project your experiences to anyone. You know, id less likely trust people who do that.
What’s do you mean “the rapist”?
Its spelled therapist "the rapist"
It's not different if i say depression don't exist and it's a scam just because i don't feel it
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Glad you wanna get better. Best of luck!
I would be happy if u want to chat about it but your account is anonymous, but anw , I advise u to read about childhood trauma and reiki , most "therapists" aren't going to help u unless they specialize in trauma healing or qhht
i want soup. tomato and basil but its nearly midnight and i moved to the middle of no where - shops aren't open. i miss east coast life.
What made you move to where you live now?
i didn't like the people around me, i used to have more my people around me then the riff raff moved in. they are a fucking nightmare.
You have to change your thinking. That's it. Stopping accepting ideas that make you stressed and sad. You get to accept whatever you want. Your intent has to be perfect even though your life is a work in progress.
Setting small and consistent, easily achievable yet highly constructive goals.
What are you daydreaming about?
what kind if work that cause you to feel this way?
Goals and focus would be the main habbit anyone with depression should be practicing to boost motivation. But other than that, more different practices works different for anyone.
You don’t I’ve lived with depression and anxiety for nearly last 10yrs. It’s my norm now anything different seems off
go do something! Get outside and see the sun
Have some good sex brother and you'll be like what depression?
Meds and therapy help
When I did meditation it never really helped, but I Thankyou for your feedback
Not meditation (though that helps too). Medicine. And you’re welcome.
I meant medication auto correct
Oh ok
You can't, it's impossible
Antidepressants. Its in the name.
Dance course can help.
Dance course?
Yesss
i have high sex drive sso sex helps me
You answered your own questions.
Distraction is one way.
As always, everything is a man's respo
Magic Mushrooms help
Prescribed meds.
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