My boyfriend gets all weird and sad or upset when I talk about other people (other guys)?

[Anonymous]

This is absolutely ridiculous honestly, the other day i said got back onto connection with a guy friend and thats all we ever been we both have partners but we never hangout 1 on 1 it’s always with a group of people. His face went from a smile to a drop as he always does when i talk about guys, these are just guys to me i see them way as friends as i do as my girls.

I dont care if he hangs with girls and we spoke about that already, he claims he doesn't care if i have guy friends but he gets all weird and distant when i bring one up or what happened when i hung out with them and others, this makes everything weird cause h’ll stop talking to me for the night or for the day and say he feels sad because of his mindset, although i only notice this when i talk about guys. Even when i talk about male clients who are from WORK i have zero relationships with these guys other than work. My boyfriend is also very hypocritical, when he goes out with his friends he won't text me for hours but he’ll post about his night everwhere. When i go out he makes me feel ashamed of going out with my friends and he feels i give him no attention during this time… i just can't stand it he's being a literal baby.

Is my boyfriend jealous?

[Anonymous]

If this were like 8 months ago I’d completely agree with you, and I don't know maybe it’s bc I’m about to be 30 I’m having like some sort of epiphany or something lol. What I’m learning now tho, is that when our boyfriends have these fits about us having guy friends, it’s because they recognize that more often than not, your guy friends want to sleep with you. I know, I know and I hate to even say it. Trust me I fought for my best guy friends to keep them in my life, I was adamant about it, they’d either have girlfriends, we’ve been friends since high school, etc. And I still have two guy friends that I refuse to give up! I had so many reasons, like feeling as tho my boyfriend didn’t trust me, that he was jealous or trying to control me, etc etc etc. But it’s a complete shock and disappointment, recognizing that many of your male friends are only that because they are either friend zoned, don’t find you attractive, or you tried at some point and it didn’t work out. I swear! Too many times I’ve had the deep disappointment of realizing my guy friends weren’t really my friends. Like I said, only two of them made the cut and I refuse to let them go. Moral of this rant is, try not to be so furious with your boyfriend. He has a perspective that you just will never get. Same as there’s things about women that he just can’t understand because he is a guy. So do with this info what you will, I’m just sharing this perspective as someone who’s fought tooth and nail to keep my “guy friends”.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry that was so long but I just had to share my POV because I just 100% get it! You may not until you’re older. Like I said it hasn’t even been a year for me that I’m having this sad, unfortunate realization but it’s true, girl.

[Asker]

Its not even just friends….. he does it to EVERY guy mentioned even my work colleagues and clients, I've had one guy friend since i was baby… one is even gay and he still acts this way, I understand that some guys try to wedge their way through to sleep with you but these guys are either in standing relationships or gay, neither of is like eachother and its been made very clear.

My boyfriend just seems selfish cause i can't even hang with my girls without him hounding on who im with, what im doing, where i am, and he ALWAYS akss if there were guys there, i wanted to get back into this business which some artists were guys and he got weird….. its even happening work related and these are random men

[Opinion Owner]

My boyfriend is the same way!! I’m not even saying this to make comparisons he literally will get so insecure about ANY guy. I definitely don’t agree with every aspect, especially him not liking you being out with your girlfriends, that is far and I wouldn’t be ok with that.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe he’s just not a good fit for you rn? Don’t get me wrong, I feel like I’m some ways when it comes to guys, I understand my bfs perspective now more than ever. But you also don’t want to be controlled, especially if you’re trying to network for business ventures, dealing with all the Arguments and stuff can be too draining.

[Rob70]

Not only is he jealous! He is being immature and childish. I don't understand guys that think a girl needs to stop being friends. or talking to male friends. My girlfriend has male friends and I have no problem with it. The reason is I trust her. I expect her to do the same for me. I have female friends and that's what they are friends. Hopefully he will grow out of the childish behavior and stop treating you as property instead of a partner.

[PatrickFusion]

I did read an article one time that said some women will talk about other men to their partners as a way of signalling that she's more interested in the other guy.
It's supposed to be a red flag. Maybe your boyfriend read the same article?

[Asker]

Those things are ridiculous, they interview 3 women and automatically that becomes the act of every woman… ridiculous

[Wise4myage]

He's insecure and needs to get over it.

[In_Trance]

Yea ok

[Asker]

? What does that even mean…

[In_Trance]

No girl wants to hear about other girls

[Asker]

As far as im concerned 😂 if you read the other replies quite frankly they do and were interested in leaving me lengthy info on their views…. Wasn’t directed to you love just wanted someone elses view on it so please leave 🥰

[In_Trance]

Whatever works for ya. You're wrong though

[Asker]

LMFAOO not a guy tying to tell me A GIRL what girls dont want to hear😭 this is so funny.

[In_Trance]

I was afraid you'd say that. SMH. I'm out