I understand, I think skinny is always much worse than chubby (males and females), in terms of physical attraction, because the person looks seriously unhealthy, weak, old, cold.
I think you could go for him canceling your sexual appetites only if you've got lots of experiences already and you just want to settle down with someone who shares plans with you and has conpatibility. Settling down needs an intelligent move, better if rational, and usually married couple end up -anyway- living decades without being attracted to each other anymore. In any case passion will fade for everyone and sex will change its way to be done.
A good point instead could be that getting out from underweight (if not given by a mental illness about food) is easier than getting out from overweight and chances are that in a long term relationships he will try gaining weight if you're not comfortable with it. But anyway it requires time so that means at least your first year of relationship will be made of no big passions, some arguments about your motivation to have anything physical, and wastes your initial moments of the relationship where everything has the potential to spark very strong but it won't and meanwhile you'll start discover flaws of each other + routine kicks in and "that" initial passion won't be available anymore anyway even if he gains weight later. So if you don't have already big plans in your life, then probably you're not going to enjoy this. Probably you could have been just close friends, but maybe you're not set for this if you're dating or anyway are in a context of possible dating (do not propose a friendship if he is already into you).
However if you abandon him you should tell him why. Will you be able to expose your reasons? Maybe before abandoning you could try having a night with him and then having the evident proof of your lack of attraction that can't be fixed. Problem is sleeping together means already some investment and trust so it might be cruel if he is into you already.
My conclusions can't be easier than these, I can't tell you "yes" or "no" because of these variables. But I might say in "most of cases" it would be, from me, 20% yes - 80% no.
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Sometimes attraction can develop over time, just as one sees more attraction or someone loses it. Women's attraction is normally more emotional than physical... As they will find how a man presents himself can easily shadow expected physical traits... If you like the guy and think you can be good together with both not changing who are then go for it... pay attention to how speaks, interacts with others, way he handles situations. Your too focus on what others will think of you regarding his appearance...
Do you have friends that this way? Read a lot romance novels? Watch a lot of girl meets guys movies? It all has to do with the way your brain is programmed.. Seeing as your questioning it makes me conclude youve been around groups of people or situations where looks has always been the focus... forget the other voices in you head a pay attention to what you already mention whats appealing to you conversation, natural connection, etc. just imagine (doesn't have to be when your His presence) and think of how it makes you feel and then concentrate how you want it to make you feel...
A to c transformation. Not how to do I become the women more attracted to abstract traits... its I am that woman, this is attractive here is my response.
If you believe physical attraction is that important don't waste his time. People get pissed the fuck off if they feel like you don't appreciate the way they are and if he ditches you I dont blame him. If its something that is so important to you that you can't overlook it literally just tell him straight up you aren't physically attracted to him. As a skinny guy myself, I realize that the ideal body type for a guy is looking like the fucking Hulk and if you knew you weren't physically attracted to him or aren't, then why are you even with him still? If a woman liked everything about me but my body I would tell her to take a hike and gtfo out of my life. Part of love and being in a relationship is appreciating someone you are with in everything. Their personality, their body, their interests and hobbies etc.. If you don't even appreciate something about them it won't work.
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You simply not attracted to gik its irrelevant how well the convo is going if u are not attracted to his looks a relationship won't work
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