This actually depends on her exact views. My personal sense of smell is limited plus you get used to smells over time, so the biggest issue would we couldn't be around other people as easily and that is not fun.
But the idea behind not showering typically is, that the body will self-regulate and improve the balance between good and bad bacteria. So if she does it for more than a few weeks and nothing like that happens, it's time to discuss what her plan is. If it's "shrug, whatever" than definitely stay away. You can even get infections from people who don't care.
However, if she is defensive when people bring up the smell, but has an actual plan that ends with once-a-week balance where hopefully she would not smell that much any more, there is space for negotiation. The fact that some people tried doesn't mean there is no way to talk some sense into her. Getting a great looking and otherwise fine girl early before she can figure things out and keep her after she figures them out is a great way to cheat the system.
If there is no plan and she wants to continue forever because her parents told her she should, then pretty soon it's time to ignore her.
Yeah, she'd be easy to control
Oh hell no!
I wouldn't date anyone who stunk.
I don't date girls but regardless if the person stinks Im not hanging around them! Im too sensitive to smells. Plus it makes you question what other issues they may have that isn't so obvious.
Sorry but if the person smells wretched I don't care if the guy looked like Apollo the most handsomest of all the greek gods, I would not be interested!
Yes, because stench can be washed off but ugliness is forever.
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u That a big negatory on that question! If she's a bit stinky, I'm staying away from her.
I've done a lot of crazy things in my life so dating a woman who smells would not affect me at all. I focus on a woman's inner beauty and not her outer beauty. I mean anyone can date a woman that smells bad if they're willing to tolerate the smell. Take Rob Schneider from Dukes Bigalow European Gigolo as an example, he took a woman that smelled terrible on a date he eventually helped her in her situation so maybe I can do the same with her if I ever dated a woman that smell terrible. It also makes since to date a girl while having a stuffy runny nose, that way you can't smell her.
I'm not a boy or a lesbian, but I would only date a person who smells bad in two situations: he has a health problem that it is very difficult to control, or he has not been taught to care for hygiene properly.
I would like a guy to take care of his smell, but if it was a health problem, that's something I could definitely deal with, the most important is the soul, nothing more
also I have for many years dealt with bed smell and still do, it is so embarrassing, but I always try to do my best to control it. I manage to control it mostly. I shower, use lemon or deodorants, and like to use clean clothes. if I were to go to an event I would prefer long sleeves.
now if a guy is simply careless, then that's a no.
Yes i probly would cause the solution is simple. Convince her to shower. So lets say it's me instead of you. I would send her a secret admirer letter giving her direct strong feedback. Something like:
Hi! I think you are very pretty and smart and i have a crush on you. I would like to ask you out on a date. I would have came up to you to tell you this in person but to be honest... you seem like you haven't showered in a while, like i can smell you from here and im sitting kinda far from you 😭. So for the time being i would like to remain as a secret admirer. At least until one day i see you smelling all good and fresh just like how your beauty and personality is🌹❤. I can't wait until you take that good shower and i hope you end up liking me when you see me 😳.
Warm regards,
xoxoxo (after you shower though)
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I had a pretty girl in 1st grade approach me, but she wore this perfume that was awful, I could barely be near her. Note to all 1st grade girls... stop putting on yucky perfumes. smelling good is important, or at least compatible. honestly, no, I couldn't have gone to lunch with her.
I like garlic, my girlfriend likes garlic... the aromas cancel each other out... so we are compatible. Otherwise, that might be something to compromise on. My girlfriend smells good, she likes natural perfumes that don't hurt the nose and found some oils that smell amazing.
It's actually important... anything could be a stressor if not handled well.
That’s disgusting. I have found that men take better care of their hygiene than the women I know. Smelling bad is really repulsive. If a guy smelt bad I wouldn’t want to see him again tbf.
You know they say that when a person smells good it makes them 10 times more attractive. I guess if they smell bad then it makes them that much more repulsive too then.
I grew up in Philadelphia. Everyone smells like sh*t there and has poor hygiene (well, not literally everyone, but most of the city is poor; also, most of the city smells like sewer gas as well). So in my case, yes, I would date a girl like that IF I could get her to smell better some way (like steam showers or extra strength deodorant). But if she was committed to stinking, then probably not.
No, dude. Life is not all about looks. It may seem to be when you just look at pictures but it's really not. She's basically a walking public toilet that hasn't been cleaned in weeks & you're seriously daydreaming about licking it.
She's someone who thinks life is all about what she wants and zero about what a partner might want. Start training your mind to tune her out & ignore her. It's a skill that gets easier with practice & will be very valuable to you as you go forward in life.
On first approach, I wouldn’t mind. I would want to get to the bottom of it and find out if its a health issue, poverty, broken plumbing, etc. I would want to be her friend to get her the help she needs, but there is only so much one can do and boundaries need to be set if she doesn’t want to make herself presentable to make new friends, etc
That is so hard to awnser... I would say yes. But if it's hard to be near them then what's the point.
She might not need to use shampoo and soap every time but at least wash herself.. damn it. It's okay to be natural but naturally we also did wash ourselves. We just didn't have the luxuries of today. Right?
If it were me and it was a guy that smelled bad. I would have a discussion and explain what others are feeling plus your feelings and if she doesn't care then ultimately it's your choice.
If you can handle the people staring and whispering because of it then so be it.
For me I don't care who you are even if your a family member I'd give them a chance to change it and if not I wouldn't be around them.
Hygiene is so important for many reasons.
I can be neutral towards that. I want to see see what's inside of person's heart.
Naturism is maybe just an excuse. What if she's poor and can't afford too much water consumption or food is more important item to buy for her family than hygienic means?
Sometimes homeless people might seem completely normal socially, but hygiene tells them off.
It would be one thing if it was caused by a medical condition (some people do struggle with this), but since she’s saying it’s just because she practices poor hygiene… I would say you’d be within your right to avoid involving yourself emotionally with this person. Maybe it’s a lack of maturity and she will change but I wouldn’t count in it.
If this is even remotely true, then it's absolutely thoroughly disgusting.
I simply cannot imagine for one moment, anyone, especially a woman, not taking any pride whatsoever in her hygiene.
No, but I digress - - - - - - -
Please don't get upset with our friends who are into naturism.
Just because people choose to shed their clothes at certain times
does not make them dirty and smelly. Bad hygiene does.
In fact, need/naturist clubs typically have somewhat strict rules about
bathing before swimming, ALWAYS brining a "sitting towel", etc.
Its like saying, would you date a dude if he smelled bad?
Of course not becauseI'm straight.
But regarding your question, I would imagine it being a little challenging trying to date someone that doesn't care about hygiene. So that would be a no.
She could have a nerve problem, it does happen.
She could have family problems.
She could have a mental problem.
There are several thing that could be wrong.
SO before condemning her try talking to her by being a human.
It wouldn't be a determining factor for me.
There are 'poor princesses' out there, so to speak.
You can easily tell someone you like they need to pay more attention to their... fragrances (and help them with it.
You cannot make someone who smells nice but is unattractive to you become attractive.
Is she poor and not afford laundry 🧺 and toiletries? (I’m not wanting an answer but it’s some insight to why people do strange things sometimes they are super poor). It’s good she made it to school! She is confident in her own self
Hell no, I wouldn’t pursue her if I were you, I don’t know how old you are but I’m assuming you are old enough to know that a girls genitals smell extremely bad (like a fish smell) if she doesn’t shower regularly and if you are sexually active or planning to be in the next couple of years or so I would not suggest that you try to date her
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