Is it cheating to remain active on dating apps, after you'd been dating someone for weeks?

[DaveJord]

You meet a person on line, you go on several dates, text often, had sex several times, over the course of weeks. You discuss wanting a committed relationship, and mention your concern about their online activity. They react negatively, block you from their profile, but still want to date and see you. Is it cheating or as good as cheating?

Yes its cheating. You can assume they are or would be willing to see other people.

No its not cheating. Just because they are active on the app doesn't mean they're doing anything wrong.

Cheating or not cheating, they should be willing to deactiving their account while dating someone.

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+1 y

Let be clear, I dud make it clear I wanted a committed and/or exclusive relationship. And it was communicated.

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+1 y

I did break it off with this chick, because she was a flake. She would not confirm or deny wanting an exclusive relationship with me. She blocked me from all her dating profiles after I expressed my concern over her level of activity online, with out truly address my concerns. Instead of talking about it in productive way she called me a jack ass and two days later texts again.

YES I think its a form of cheating to remain active on platforms without addressing your partners concerns.

[horatiohornblower]

It's only cheating if both parties agree to an exclusive relationship. If only one party wants a committed relationship and the other refuses. Then the party who wants the committed relationship has to either end the relationship or continue the relationship knowing the other party will continue to date other people.

[slatyb]

Blocked you but still want the sex? They should have been honest and said that they weren’t ready to be exclusive.

[DaveJord]

I think you're the only one who actually read the question. Thats my piont, blocked me but still pursued the relationship knowing I wanted to be exclusive.

[GoldenCage]

It is cheating if you both discussed exclusivity.

It is otherwise not cheating. Because you don't know if they're active first and second they can't read your mind that you're exclusive. Just communicate.

[DaveJord]

I. made it clear I wanted an exclusive relationship. It was communicated

[GoldenCage]

hmmm tough one.. how long you've been dating? did you try to address your concerns with her?

[DaveJord]

2 months and yes... when I did she blocked me from the app and continued to pursue the relationship. Did not read the intro to tge question?

[GoldenCage]

okay than she's definitely cheating

[GoldenCage]

I mean two months is enough time to at least know if you'd like to proceed exploring the person in exclusivity. If in two months a man would still be unsure than I'd be okay no worries wish you luck.

Also, deleting the dating profile in two months is unreasonable request. However, leaving the profile is one thing and being active there is another.

[DaveJord]

Right you can deactivate the profile without deleting it. When block someone or go into private mode... its sneaky and insincere

[GoldenCage]

yes I agree with you actually

[SnakeBoop]

weeks?
WEEKS?
I really doubt you should think you have a "claim" on them after a couple of weeks to demand anything of their dating profile XD

[DaveJord]

2 months, over night trips, and conversations about seeking committed relationships. I don't make any claims on anyone, but they aren't being honest... thats my opinion.

[SnakeBoop]

had you both agreed to turn it exclusive. Just you saying you wanted an exclusive relationship.. was that about in general or did you say "i want our relationship" to be exclusive?

[DaveJord]

That's my hang up she would not be specific, she general wanted a committed relationship... but when I talked more specifically she it got really difficult to pin it down. I felt I was very direct... so if she knew that why pursue the relationship?

In the end I broke it off with her. I just said I don't think we communicate very well, we don't seem to want the same things right now, and ultimately I don't think we speak the same love langue. She called me drama filled jack ass. Which only made me feel better about my decision... I was more than willing to talk it out with her and try to see if it could reach some agreement... but her go to was call me a "Jack Ass" for expressing my feelings. So who wants that type of person, in their life?

[SnakeBoop]

I was going to say she sounds super flaky and that would probably be best to get rid.
Sorry dude, I know it sucks even if its for the best.

[Ninani]

No. Dating isn't exclusive unless you've made that an agreement.

[DaveJord]

I guess that's the question, I made my desire for aexclusive and committed relationship. But they continued to pursue the relationship while remaining active on the site.

[Ninani]

Did you ask them to be exclusive?

[DaveJord]

Yup, but they would not clearly communicate their intent. When I told her I was beginning to feel a little put out and put off she called me a Jack Ass. This is why I broke it if off... it wasn't what I was looking for.

We can debate if it was technically cheating or not, but in the end she was seeing or wanted to see other people and she was being not honest about it.

I agree its not exclusive unless we both agree that its exclusive. But I also think that when one person express their intent to want it to be exclusive, then you need to do the right thing and be honest... not string them along. Once you start getting sketchy and playing games it to me cheating. So I just ended it myself.

I was only curious what most other people though.

[Ninani]

I do agree with you on that. It's one thing for you to make your intentions clear without followup and her avoiding the topic altogether.

[okeydoke]

It’s only cheating if you have agreed to be exclusive and monogamous. Don't leave big questions up to chance. Thorough communication is what wins the day.

[DaveJord]

My desires for a exclusive relationship were communicated, but they pursued the relationship.

[ChiPaPa]

I would dump them. You're supposed to be with me, delete your profile.