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I'm not looking for love right now. I'm fully focused on my career moves at the moment. However, when the time does come, I admit I am afraid of dating in the current societal and political climate in the U. S. First, I have only ever had 2 serious relationships. Second, the quality of women available to date seems very low. Third, a woman just has to say a man did something to her and by God he is guilty. Finally, it seems like women have this expectation that they can just take from men and not give something back. In other words, women my age and younger are brats.
Honest other than dating sites I hardly talk to women or come into contact with. No in my 20s I approached women. But now when out in public, in tge era where everyone is so easily offended? No, in the "Me to Era", I am lucky to gey a hello in return, or eye contact from a women these day. I don't bother women unless I am approached, which honest its not very often... if ever.
So here's the thing, it's never just one person's fault that a guy who doesn't want to be single is actually single. At the same time the guy has to acknowledge that he is part of the reason. That's the problem with the incel culture. Incels don't believe that they bear any responsibility for being single. I was a virgin without going on a date until 27 (lost my virginity 6 months later). I was just smart enough to recognize that my paralyzing shyness and social awkwardness was probably the biggest reason I was single. Since I never blamed others for me being single, I never became an incel.
I barely have any attraction to a given girl (I am straight) so I don’t often ask one out. When the case is I start dating one it doesn’t work out. I’m too superficial. I’m one of those people who shies Everyone, family , friends, strangers, a mask of confidence, and joy. Which I think attracts people, sometimes it’s too “freindly” for a romance sometimes not and I drop the face slowly. But when I start dropping that face I don’t think people are prepared at all, I become to clingy, dependent, truthful, self conscious, and in general calmer. Which is different to how they would first see me. Really it’s just ‘me’ why I’m single still, and In pure honesty I believe I’m best not with someone.
When I was single for extended periods of time it was because it was my choice.
I enjoyed my freedom to come and go, no pun intended, and I was able to do that quite often, but I was having a great time, and it would of been very hard to find someone to share that with.
I guess I am single coz I am not looking for anything specifically. Have plans and stuff to do. Open to any new experience come on my way!
"Single by choice not by fate" I guess
“If your voluntarily single you needn’t give an opinion.”
Gotcha 😅
Don’t mean to be rude just want specific individuals. Though it can be avoided with some reading lol.
Nah I'm 6 foot. Make 85k a year. I'm single by choice I'm seeing 2 women right now.
I'm not settling down for another 7-8 years.
I get up go to the gym everyday 90mins. Stop watch. 1 hour speed walking 10 mins running
10 mins of weight lifting and core exercise.
I don't masterbate, eat bad food, and I read for 30 mins a day. And cut my video gaming down to 3 hours a week.
You need to compete men
Quality. So your saying without purpose. That answers my question in a way I wasn’t considering. I got a gym membership but I haven’t used it in months. I work gy 6-6 6 days a week and it wares me down.
With so many guys failing to meet standards I think it’s easy to be quality if you apply yourself. But I don’t feel the need to apply myself much more than I already do. 72 hrs a week at work then I help my bro at his place with cars, yard work, my niece… anything I can help with so my schedule between work and family is fun. When I get vacation time I’ll drive to the coast and fish or go hunting with family.
Yep pretty much. I’ve seen how someone said something about his parents and the reason why he was born the way that he is. That caught my attention because I never thought of that. I have an older brother that’s married, a little brother that has a girlfriend, another little brother that has a girlfriend and 2 kids, a little sister that tells me how boys like her but treat her bad (I really don’t appreciate and I know that my brothers wouldn’t either), another little sister that says no guys like her, I have a sister that I never met before and I bet she’s in a relationship. I have another older brother that has his fair share of relationships. Another little brother and little sister that aren’t old enough to date yet. Then there’s me the 4th oldest that can’t get a girlfriend if my life depended on it
I've never looked for a job either... So could I complain it's the world's universe for not handing me one?
That would be stupid
I'm the same with girls, I mean yeah I'd love to have one... But I've never even tried to talk to a girl or even looked in a girls direction, so it's only my fault for never trying...
I also have little faith any will even like me anyway
It's always in your hands, I don't know if fault is the right word for it. You can choose to be single, and like it sometimes. I went single for three years once. I'd have a lot of flings and a lot of fun, but settle for no one.
If you are single and you don't want to be that is entirely on you. You can choose at any moment to make an effort not to be. Nothing is out of your control.
If you make a choice and miss out even if you made the “right” choice is still your “fault” you didn’t experience the other choice. Don’t argue semantics with me please. Just dealt with 40 replies from the ladies version of that bullshit.
Would prefer reasons for your situation rather than justification as that’s the point of this question.
I'm not sure I understand the question. You'll have to be a lot more specific. What choices are you referring to?