I’m sick of these same old lines from men! Can you help me with some good responses?

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I’ve been single my whole life and it was obviously a choice. I get tired of having to repeat myself time after time. I’m also sick and tired of men telling me that they’re surprised that I’m single or can’t believe I’ve never been in a relationship before. Then comes the sex talk. I just wanna know what’s a good response for whenever this topic comes up because I’m truly annoyed by it and really don’t enjoy explaining myself as to why I’m still a Virgin or how I haven’t had my first kiss yet or how I’ve never been on a date. I get told things like “no way you’re a Virgin, you’re way to beautiful” “I cannot believe someone as beautiful as you never had a boyfriend” when in reality I just haven’t come across anyone that I truly wanted to be with yet. I just always feel like crap whenever this topic comes up so is there any advice or straightforward answer that I can give to make this conversation short or avoid it all together? Like I’m aware that it’s not very common to find someone my age who’s never had a boyfriend before or even experienced their first kiss but the reactions I receive are so annoying.

FunkyMonkee · Accepted Answer

As for the sex talk, who says you NEED to respond? When someone launches into one of those questions, before they can even finish, just turn around and walk away!
If he's asking you for a date, ask him why HE'S still single? If his answer is even close to yours, just say, "Well;, THAT'S why I'M still single!"
"I was told by a Gypsy that I'm destined to marry a guy that's almost 7' tall and has long dark hair and, I just haven't found one that I like, yet." You can just make up whatever proportions and traits he DOESN'T have.

Dchrls78104 · Accepted Answer

I've gotten some of this too, and I'm a guy. I've learned to ignore them. I am single because I know my worth, I've got a type, and I refuse to settle for anything less. I've got standards that I refuse to lower for ANYONE, even if I had to go through this life alone (it's always better to be alone than in bad company). Anyone who cannot accept this is not worthy of me.

Hellothere543212 · Accepted Answer

‘I can’t believe someone as beautiful as you has ever had a boyfriend’, ‘no way you’re a virgin’…

You could just tell them that no one has met your standards yet.

This shows you value yourself and would not settle for anything less than you deserve. This will keep a man on his toes and he will make sure to keep himself in line!

Honestly - men will make a stupid remark about most things! You really can’t win. Too beautiful, too ugly, too thin, too chunky, too loud, too quiet, too pure, too promiscuous…

laura123iu · Accepted Answer

relatable, dont disclose your virginity unless you're serious w someone

loveslongnails · Answer

Couple of thoughts here. If and when you DO meet a guy who doesn't automatically say any of those things, that might intrigue you, right? So painful though it may be, each introduction with the typical response you get sort of gives you a heads up as to the thought process. But realize too, it the world of girl meets boy, boy meets girl, it IS quite shocking when you meet a person who is 25, smart AND attractive, that's never been involved with anyone. You can't really comprehend that because you can't see the forest for the trees - so it just annoys you that hikers come to the forest and exclaim how BEAUTIFUL it is !!

Anyway, back to the question. You could try including in the introduction: "Hi, I'm Sarah, I've never had a boyfriend, by choice, and if you tell me you're shocked because I'm smart, pretty or whatever, you're probably not going to be the first. So please, don't go there, it's annoying. " :-D

The_Maphio · Answer

You've been dealing with simps, not normal, level-headed humans of the male gender.
And if you actually want to change your "forever alone" status, maybe being a bit less of a cranky bish could help.
If you plan on staying alone though, the above mentioned crankyness is a surefire way to achieve your goal.

mark000h · Answer

Usually a guy is surprised because it's admirable for a girl nowadays to wait for someone special so it's kind of a pleasant compliment. I know you don't see it that way, but it's your personal business so no need to share that with a guy unless you want to. You're independent and know you want to be with someone special for your first. It's nice.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

You could simply say "I haven't found the one man for me yet". I haven't found that one woman for me yet. I've been single for many years now and that's ok. Better to wait then be in a relationship with someone that doesn't workout. I learned that the hard way.

MCheetah · Answer

"I'm gay/a lesbian/asexual." There. Done. And don't worry; I'm sure you'll be just FINE not wanting a man or staying single, especially after 29.

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

Don't give up. There are lots of guys that would be happy to find someone like you.

genericname85 · Answer

why do you even hang out with men? it seems you hate them.

Anonymous · Answer

What do you mean it's been a choice? Are you saying you could have had a boyfriend?

Fireguy17 · Answer

you just haven't met the right person yet.

noohair · Answer

How do they know so much about you?

Anonymous · Answer

Are u really a virgin?

Hulk30 · Answer

just be honest but natural maa'm

Anonymous · Answer

Tell them you have a penis

LegendaryIcon · Answer

Nope, sorry

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