If only ugly guys are after me does that mean I’m on the same level of attractiveness as them?

[Anonymous]

Literally every guy that was after me I’ve never been physically attracted to. I see all of my girlfriends with their hot boyfriends and only ugly guys are after me. I don’t understand why I can’t be happy with a hot guy. Every girl in my friend group at college says that these guys would be great matches for me when they’re literally not even good looking compared to the boyfriends that they have. I just sometimes question my looks now. I always saw myself as a good looking girl and I think I would know if I was ugly. This happened to me in high school and now it’s happening to me in college where only below average looking guys are after me. Does that mean that I’m on the same level of attractiveness as them if only ugly guys are after me?

[Anonymous]

People who take an active role aim for a combination of what attracts them and what they can see themselves achieving a relationship with.
So most people who aren't very attractive aim a little to somewhat higher than they consider themselves to be.
I don't have more insight to offer in this. People on this site love to judge, so a more engaging question would include information about yourself that could let us tell if we find those things attractive, average, or bad.

[Asker]

Well I’m a ginger with really long hair and big blue eyes. I’m 5’11 and I’m slim with some curves but not a lot. I’m not one of those gingers that’s pale with a lot of freckles. I actually get tan over the summer and I hardly have any freckles on me. I’m pretty unique. I have long legs too.

[Opinion Owner]

Try updating the question with this information ^^
I think that as long as you look feminine (never confused with a male from any angle) with those stats you can consider yourself attractive. (and disregard the guys who pursued you in the past)
I notice your height is above the average man's height, can I ask if your suitors were mostly shorter or taller than you?

[Asker]

They were shorter than me but what’s wrong with a girl being 5’11?

[Opinion Owner]

I did not say something is wrong with it.

[Asker]

Then what were you trying to say?

[Opinion Owner]

My only mention of it is that it's tall, and I asked the question about the suitors out of curiosity.

I am not trying to 'say anything', respectfully, your question has no place.

[Asker]

There’s nothing wrong with being a tall girl. There was a study done that tall girls are more attractive than short girls.

[Opinion Owner]

Saying this to me has no point. I never remotely suggested that being tall was wrong. You are just sounding aggressively insecure, and frankly, annoying.

[SupremeWarlord]

Not necessarily, but probably, most people tend to marry people very similar to them in the attractiveness department. Sorry I don't want to hurt you in any way I'm just saying what I read sometime ago.

[Asker]

I feel like I’m good looking

[SupremeWarlord]

That's awesome, you should feel like that, and I hope you find your hot boyfriend and be happy ;)

[Asker]

Thank you :)

[Anonymous]

I would say your in the ball part similar range... i think dudes will hit on women hot or not... although I tend to date uglier than me... I don't know why they still make me feel like crap but I'm not comfortable with dating good looking men. To insecure

[notwoke]

my experience is that most women only want men who are a few levels above them on the eligibility scale, so probably yes. Either that or you are hard to be around. there isn't really a choice C

[Asker]

I feel like I’m really good looking though.

[notwoke]

are you "curvy or thick"

[Asker]

I’m kind of thick but not really.

[notwoke]

bingo

[Asker]

What do you mean by saying that?

[notwoke]

I mean the media and all try's to portray that men like "thicK' women with big butts, but polls where men are asked anonymously say otherwise

[Asker]

So you’re basically saying that you have to be thick to be beautiful?

[notwoke]

no, the opposite

[Asker]

Oh ok cause I’m slim but I have some curves but in the right places. I kind of have an hourglass figure but not really.

[Neosporin]

Nah you’re attractive otherwise you wouldn’t be getting any attention at all.

[Asker]

Maybe that’s true thanks

[Neosporin]

I find it annoying that other girls think you should be matched with an ugly guy. It's insulting. Tell them that they're a good match for the guy next time or something.

[Asker]

Thanks I’ll tell them that next time. Thank you :)

[rienna888]

LOL no were all the same, only after attractive people. So you are hot, if many guys are after you.

[Danny_dan92]

Not necessarily..

[Anonymous]

It’s a matter of opinion