Are there still good guys out there?

[xxalyss]

I recently broke up with my ex by him literally just blocking me on everything after two years I’m starting to lose hope

[MrOracle]

Your "2 year relationship" was all long distance, which means it was never real anyway.

You need to get your personal life OFF the internet and into the real world, and ONLY date LOCALLY. Yes, that means you need to actually go out into the world, and meet men in person, rather than believing the lie that an app gives you a million guys to choose from, and that you can be super picky about things that don't really matter.

And here's a shocker: men want things in a relationship partner too. You need to make sure that you are the kind of woman that the men YOU want are likely to want - and if you aren't that kind of woman, you either need to become that kind of woman, or you need to accept that those men are out of your reach, and accept men that are on the level of what you DO have to offer.

The bottom line is that if you want to have a successful, quality relationship, you have to go about that in a mature, realistic way, which means meeting men IN PERSON (which limits you to local guys - only guys within 20 miles of you) and you need to choose men based on their character rather than their looks, money, or status. That won't let you "win Instagram" but it will get you a solid, quality relationship.

[Moose304]

^^^^^^^^ I agree 100%!

[xxalyss]

I knew him for years out side of the relationship we went to school together since grade 3

[Djaay]

And look at ya now !

[MrOracle]

That doesn't change anything. If you don't regularly see your man at least twice a week and spend time with him in person, then it's not a real relationship, and if it's not a real relationship, then you're just wasting everyone's time.

It's really that simple, and following that guideline will vastly improve your relationships.

[t-8900]

Good guys? Yes. Your definition of a good guy? Who knows.
So many girls have different definition of what a good guy is. Chivalrous? Polite? A Push over? A great monetary provider? Sexy as hell? I've heard girls refer to these different things to qualify what a good man is. I feel the same about a lot of women. Very hard to find one who wants the real thing and to stick around. Found a girl older than me, totally into her. We click and she gets me more than young girls ever could. Today people are growing up so goddamn immature.

It's like a requirement everyone screw around like jack rabbits, go to parties, constantly talk dirty, etc. I like a girl who knows there is a time and place for everything. Also I dont like girls who get super political. There is no bigger turn off then a chick who goes on and on about social justice politics or how terrible men are. Also I like a girl who actually appreciates me holding doors open for her and pulling her chair out for her at a fine dining restaurant. I like her to dress with class and style, not too much skin. That's reserved for us time. I dont like a social media hawk or someone who needs constant validation from other men when she already has me. I should be enough for her.

[GaGirls]

You know many guys think plus size women are beautiful and many guys do not. Perhaps beauty is infinite but has to be recognized or perceived. Some men think feet are beautiful. Anyway, there is something called the reticular activating system. It is a science term. Anyhow I urge you to look it up. I don't think the issue is the lack of good guys. I think you cannot recognize a guy good even if one hit you in the face. That isn't meant to be an insult.

[Aerissa_Jade]

There are a lot of great guys out there.

Move on past your ex, you'll find him... now start searching that haystack. Don't wait for anyone to come find you, get out there and do it yourself.

You'll have setbacks and broken hearts but that never stopped myself.

[OlderAndWiser]

Sounds like it's over and the only thing that hasn't happened is you accepting that it's over.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Easier said than done but, agree

[Interstate]

@WhiteBoyChill I'll second that

[jiffyjeff1029]

Yes there are good guys.
But they don't put up with mis behavior.
They are NOT the bad boys that most women seem to crave.
They work jobs.
They may not be rich but they like to keep what they earn also.
They don't like gold diggers for women.
And if your not finding them it's because they not only "hide" but they they cover they're own Ass because to many women like "Things" like jewelry, cars, nice clothes and expensive products.


Real MEN don't want a woman that has to have nice things in order for him to "Prove " to them he "Loves" her.

Men like me like women that wear knee high dresses.

Don't wear make up so thick you could spread it with a knife.

Don't mind women being a "damn woman" instead of trying to be "one of the guys".

We don't want to change our "Masculinity "

We don't want to be "Nagged"

We wish a women would tell us what she wants besides the standard answer " I just want a nice guy"

Cause to be honest NO YOU DONT WANT A NICE GUY CAUSE YOU DONT RESPECT NICE GUYS!!

YOU WANT A MAN IS WHAT YOU WANT!!

that's easy to fix ladies!!

Be a self respecting WOMEN and then learn to respect MEN and you might find a guy that not only respects himself but respects YOU also.

Sincerely A Nice GUY!!

[cth96190]

Most young men begin life as 'good' men, but they learn early that very few women want good men.
Women say that they want good men, but after lights out the good men are alone and the women and spreading their legs for the bad boys.
Most women want sociopathic shitbags who do not care about them and do not have a future past welfare housing.
A large and increasing number of good men of all ages are realising that they have been lied to and that women are not worth the effort (as well as legally extremely dangerous), so they are walking away.
When the game has been rigged against a man, the only way that he can win is to not play the game.

[Interstate]

You need to understand that the phrase, "There is somebody for everybody" just isn't so. There are people who are destined to date, get married and overpopulate the planet even more, and others are not. Now this doesn't necessarily mean your future is laid out to say you will be single. Spend time to yourself doing what you want, keeping your mind off of relationships for a while. Don't think about if there is somebody out there worth it for you. Utilize this time to go and travel the world or do whatever you have always wanted to. I have seen it happen on this site before, where their being single had completely consumed them to the point where wanting a relationship had turned into a "has-to-be" OBSESSION. There are good guys out there. People say that to me about Women, but I have yet to stumble across any who are single and good news at the same time. But I gave up dating over eight years ago, so for me that is irrelevant.

[MCheetah]

Yes. Women just call them "incels," "simps," or "short" nowadays.

Also, I'm pretty sure your ex broke up with you two years ago and you must be out in the Boomerang Nebula or something and only just now got the signal.

[Heartache0405]

Boomerang Nebula 😂 I’m gonna use that from now on

[xxalyss]

Not two years ago 😅 we where together for two years

[InferiorElegy]

Yea good guys are still out there but let's be honest, most females go after money or looks or confidence even if it comes at the cost of being with a guy who's not that good of a guy. The good guys are typically the guys females aren't attracted to so your chances of finding one and dating him are pretty slim also the good guys are getting tired of putting themselves out there and getting rejected for those other guys so they are giving up.

Good luck finding someone though, I'm sure with your looks you won't have any problems with guys throwing themselves at you.

[drdank518]

Statistically speaking, the probability is in your favor. You just gotta have the right attitude and move forward. It's not going to be fair to the next guy if you're still feeling strong emotions about the previous dude. And then you're gonna scare men away with that crap

[HighValue]

Yes for sure. I am one of them, but good guys have high standards and most women are not good enough for an actual good guy.
First she needs to consider what good qualities she brings to a potential partner, especially when it comes to her morals and her past. the past is unchangeable and it will always matter.

[Eeyore18]

There are some good guys still out there. Even though this world is becoming shit. The good guys are sometimes hard to find.

In my opinion, the guys who don't want to be seen In class or want to blend in with the crowd are the best guys to be with.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, good guys… I’m not so sure. Some that are better than the rest, yeah I think so.

I know it is the same with women, but men really know how to make you hurt. For you to feel an ache in places you didn’t even know where there.

I eventually found myself a better one, but he’s still not a good guy. He hurts me sometimes. He flirts with women he shouldn’t and likes photographs of them…

[dankstranger]

There are. but take a moment and consider that your idea of "good man" may be what some others call "captain save-a-hoe"

Captain save-a-hoe doesn't exist.
he never did
and he never will.

[Mangospacho]

Well that is a cowardly way to end a two year long relationship with someone. It’s not like you attempted to harm him physically. Ghosting is the way you break up with serial killers and not good people like @xxalyss. Just saying.

[MJtheCoach]

All the good guys either became an asshole or they been friends zoned so many times they stopped caring and now they have became successful went after wealth money spiritual or something else.


Are used to be stupid enough between age of 16 to 25 to believe the girls one of the nice guy what a fucking dumb ass I was.
All men have been there we listen to women and then we get fucked for it.

[Anonymous]

Yes. You're just not interested in those guys. There's a YouTube video that explains why we choose the partners we do. We choose what's comfortable to us. The problem is what can feel comfortable can also be unhealthy. It's why you most likely have a repeating pattern. In short you're seeking out your problem.

[ohshee]

There are a lot of good guys dont lose hope you have nothing to worry about . Your eyes tell me you are beautiful within with a beautiful heart and that's all that matters

[Wgatap999]

We're definitely out here we just haven't been found yet. I say the same thing about women's are they out there because it seems like today a lot of women are dating the wrong men

[Heartache0405]

They probably don’t want to be found

[FunkyMonkee]

Yeah, there's a bunch of us running around! Mostly because you girls couldn't see a good guy if you were standing in a very crowded room full of them!!

[mark000h]

You're kidding right? The world is full of decent, kind men who have been overlooked for more flashy bad boy type guys.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Sis, you're only 23 and you have to remember that there are more people out there besides your ex.
To answer your question, yes there are still plenty of good men out there, but are you worthy of a good man?

[TruthBringer]

Check your friendzone. That's often the the place where 'good men' end up.