If you're an attractive man (at least six feet tall, at least a "7" in looks, have a decent-paying job, under 40, no kids, never married, white or Hispanic, etc). Your chances of success are as "high" as 4%.
If you are what is considered an "average" man (according to women; such as being six feet tall, a 6 in looks, white or Hispanic, etc), then just 1 in 50 women will choose you, but it could even be lower than that. The "average man's" chances of success of are about 2%.
If you're an unattractive man (less than six feet tall, less than a "6" in looks, aren't making something like $48K or above a year, older than 40, non-white non-Hispanic, etc.) then you have a 1 in 200 chance of someone choosing you! and could potentially be even lower than that. Your chances for success are 0.5%.
Also, in case you didn't know, Tinder has a matching algorithm (as well as all the duplicate-apps). It is based on your right-swipe-to-being-right-swiped ratio. Swiping right gives you a -1. Being swiped-right by another person gives you a +5.
The more you swipe right but aren't chosen, the more "desperate" you come off, and the app thinks you're unattractive and will bury you further down the deck. The less you swipe right and the more you are swiped right on, the more "selective" you come off, and the app will think you're attractive due to the pickiness (this is also what most women on there by default) and will move you further up the deck. So swiping on everyone is literally the worst thing men can do on Tinder.
Online dating for men is a total waste of time.
Online dating for everyone, including girls, is a waste of time.
Online dating is not a waste of time.
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The average "right swiped" success rate for men on Tinder is 2%. For women, it's 50%. Still think dating apps aren't a waste of time?
I read the thing that guy did on the Tinder economy awhile ago, its not balanced but its not women's fault that there is like way more guys on there.
Tinder is also a hook up site, people don't go on there to find a marriage partner. If your looking for something serious, worst place to go.
Online dating has been very successful in getting dates for myself, but it is super scary though, meeting someone for the first few times. So far none have turned in a husband, and many have been creeps. Guys that don't get a lot of dates, have a really had time dating because they have little to no experience.
Even though I can get dates online, I don't prefer it, seems kind of a waste of time. Online is when I wanted a hook up. I would rather be setup by friends or meet someone in person and start texting from there to see where things go.
If your a guy, it is still better odds than winning the lottery.
I despise dating apps... I want to meet someone naturally. Reading people profile, are so annoying. They all say the same thing. It's like a resume that has been fudged enough to make themselves sound like an amazing person. That and most people don't read the profile. They just swipe based on looks.. This is how a dating app should work. You swipe based on what is written. You don't get to see the person, until after you match on a deeper level.. that would be an app I would use!!
Those apps already exist. No one used them because people (especially women) only cared about the looks of the person. Yeah, I'd use those kind of apps too, but it turns out we're the minority.
Tinder is just a hookup site and is not representative of other dating sites. And since it is free, it is not surprising that it is flooded with guys just wanting to get laid.
"Since 1940, traditional ways of meeting partners – through family, in church and in the neighborhood – have all been in decline, Rosenfeld said.
Rosenfeld, a lead author on the research and a professor of sociology in the School of Humanities and Sciences, drew on a nationally representative 2017 survey of American adults and found that about 39 percent of heterosexual couples reported meeting their partner online, compared to 22 percent in 2009."
Maybe you are just butthurt because of your lack of success. That doesn't mean that online dating doesn't work; it just means that you aren't making it work for you.
As far as statistics in general go, okay, but even if accurate, those same numbers would be way worse offline.
If you have no luck when being seen by thousands or millions of women all over the country or globe, then why on earth would you think chances are better when you reduce that population to only local women you happen to stumble on? Many of which are going to be taken, out of your age range, have nothing in common with you, are gay, or are simply not looking for an SO (none of which, is going to be printed on their shirt for you to conveniently read).
Plus on dating sites I only hit like on 0.0000000001% of women, or some other variant of less than 1% that I'm unwilling to do the exact math on.
Being picky is normal, and basing the odds of finding a woman to be with, on other men's choices to settle for anything with tits and a pulse, or on boring versions of women not being interested in me, seems rather silly to me.
I go into dating in general with the idea that it's a needle in a haystack search no matter what, and the ability to sift through the hay faster is better than the slow, useless method of just going out to a bar to try to meet a girl who hates alcohol and bars as much as I do.
Plus I only like female gamers near my age, and you either meet them online, or you don't meet them at all.
Simply put, short of blind dumb luck, my chances online are an eventual success if I put in the time, but offline it's essentially a zero chance of that, and I'm hot.
But there's more competition online and you don't get to really talk to the person, hear their voice, listen to their social skills and way of communicating, and anything else. It's like trying to fall in love with a picture. I think online dating is supposed to be a shortcut to FINDING people, but not a replacement for real world interaction. But people seem to have forgotten that.
I think online dating is worse than the real world. I have NO luck with online dating, but can impress a girl by being funny, charming, empathetic, helpful, kind, etc, in the real world, to make up for my lack of height and looks. It's near impossible to come off charming online (I have the writing skills to do it, but most women won't read a profile anyway, let alone a charming, humorous one.)
Not for me, I don't compete, and I don't date indecisive women, or super social women. I date hot nerds who crush on me. If she likes multiple guys and isn't sure who she wants, I reject her.
I may initiate conversation with silly nonsense, but I never flirt, and I only become interested in dating her when she has already fixated on me after being friends for a while, so online or offline, it's the same.
I date girls who like me and don't take no for an answer, and ignore the rest. The internet lets me make more female friends who share my interests/hobbies, and more likeminded female friends means a higher chance one I'm compatible with will fall for me when I'm just being me.
"you don't get to really talk to the person, hear their voice, listen to their social skills and way of communicating, and anything else."
Horse shit... You can do voice chat, video calls, party chat and game chat on gaming consoles or pc, phone calls, etc. I hear their voices all the time while we are playing video games... Are you really that removed from technology?
"It's like trying to fall in love with a picture."
No, thats how it feels to meet people in person before knowing them online, because all I can confirm is what they look like, whereas if I met them online, I immediately know her hobbies, goals, aspirations, views, interests, ideals, morals, habits, what she wants and doesn't want, if she has any vices, and if she's single or not, all in minutes, just from reading a profile, and if her profile doesn't list that stuff, i hit pass, even if she's hot.
" I think online dating is supposed to be a shortcut to FINDING people, but not a replacement for real world interaction. But people seem to have forgotten that."
It is a shortcut, it's a shortcut to finding those whom you would prefer to interact with, it's a way to apply a filter to the real world, not a way to avoid it.
"I think online dating is worse than the real world. I have NO luck with online dating, but can impress a girl by being funny, charming, empathetic, helpful, kind, etc, in the real world,"
I can do those things online or offline, but I won't bother offline, because I have no way of knowing who is appropriate to do that with without a profile page (be it a dating site, social site, or gaming system profile). I won't know if I'm interested in being her friend without that, unless I waste a ton of time getting to know a lot of strangers in person, and fuck that, that would take an eternity and I'd have to frequent every large city in the country, because I like rare types (gamers, artists, atheists, science nerds, etc.)
"It's near impossible to come off charming online (I have the writing skills to do it, but most women won't read a profile anyway, let alone a charming, humorous one.)"
First off, women who don't read profiles aren't marriage material, they have low standards, and aren't even worth friending tbh. Second, I talk in voice chat online the same way I talk offline, and I have no issues being charming in either situation, because all I gotta do is just act how I do around any of my friends (ie act normal).
I see no point in trying to put up some kind of act to win someone over, either we get along and giggle at the same stupid shit, and enjoy the same games, and think the same way, or we don't. It's love through commonality, not contest.
The statistics are misrepresented a bit though. So many guys say how they swipe right on literally every girl that gets recommended, regardless of whether he's attracted to her or not, just to see who'll match with him. Men seem much more inclined to be in a mediocre relationship than single. Most women would prefer to be single than in a mediocre relationship.
So it's not as if men and women are all swiping right or left for the same reasons.
All that said, I do believe dating apps are a waste of time for everyone.
In Dante's Inferno, there are 9 Circles of Hell, the circles are concentric, each one increasing in wickedness, ending with Satan in the middle. If Dante back in the day, had to swipe right for potential dates, no doubt he'd reserve a 10th level, the worst one, exclusively for online dating apps!
I only go on tinder to smash in the summer cause in Cali its super poppin i don't ever look for dates i always had matches and i tell every chick upfront im just tryna smash some are cool with it and some are not & i unmatch them i won't add them to snapchat at all unless they down or else i gotta block lol i can't imagine it to be too hard in some areas cause i seen some ugly chicks on tinder and super fat ones looking for D and i would never lol
Dating apps are fast food for dating. Fast and more convenient usage but the quality is awful and ultimately not good for you. It's always been a flawed system.
Tinder is a bit different from more traditional dating sites or meeting people in person, to which the same trends apply but not as extreme. This is what happens naturally when a sizable percentage of the population does not expect monogamy.
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