How important is the way you carry yourself to attracting people?

[jennifer_bloom]

When I was in my teens and gorgeous, only one guy asked me out in a decade because I was full of self-hatred and super depressing.

When I was at my ugliest in my late 20’s and early 30s, I constantly had guys hitting on me whenever I left the house and I wear conservative clothes. I think I attract guys because I’m more confident and happy now and I appear innocent and friendly.

I remember the guy I liked from work didn’t show interest in me until I made the decision to smile and be happy when I showed up at work. When my mood changed, he began to chase me.

A guy who knew me at 18 said, nobody thought of me as normal when they met me.

And a girl who saw me in my early 30s said I looked like a very popular girl.

[Staximus]

It's not just the way you carry yourself, it's more about the feelings you project. If your mind is in a bad place, it effects your mood and the way you interact with people becomes more negative. I'm a door man at a bar. One day about 12 years ago, I went to work extremely angry with a terrible attitude. Everybody who passed by me or interacted with me were immediately put in a foul mood. The bartender, who is a good friend of mine says said "lighten up man, you're bringing the whole place down with you like a black hole!"

[Lliam]

I find great posture super attractive. A positive attitude is also super attractive. On women in particular, that means smiles. A good attitude makes one seem fun, bright, positive, friendly, and approachable. They're like sunshine on a cloudy day. People want to be around someone like that.

[melanieeeB]

Very important and it's exactly how you explained it.
Also like I don't wanna meet people, so therefore my aura is probably saying "don't even talk to me" so it's not really happening, but when I was actively dating back in I don't know even when, I had people talk to me on the street constantly.

[purplepoppy]

Think like a dog. Some dogs carry themselves in a way that says "I want a stoke" others that say "I want to bite your face off". It's the same with women, unless your giving off the "safe to approach" vibe, most men keep a safe distance.

[Shortman70]

Definitely how you carry yourself affects how people interact with you. If you have a bad disposition and manners that's who will draw to you. Positive attitude, clean looking, happy demeanor will bring people towards you, add a smile and the crowds will gravitate to you.

[jamesgoldman]

Hugely
see on dating terms I'm old and tired and can't be asked with it all
But in business terms I know a lot about various markets and what is going well and what isn't so without real intent I end up attracting monied people who want to bask in my advice to make big profits

[Zerokoool]

Well you tend to attract the same energy you put out. So if you're miserable all the time and lack confidence.. then you will miss out on quite a lot.

[boobliker]

I think it is very important how you walk talk and just stand it is what others see first.

[Anonymous]

Very important because i want to set a good example

[Shy_Steve]

It's odviously extremely important for most of you Girls, But for us Guys it's not that important.

[EaterPeter]

Somewhat