How do I enjoy life and stop feeling like I’m just paying bills until I die?

[Jaminabelle070]

My own answer to this would spend time with people I love and uplift me.

But I’m going to be 30 and I never had a boyfriend so I’m also faced with my biggest fear coming true.

I have some friends, about five or so and it hurts being with them (even on the outside I don’t show it) because each of my friends have boyfriends/husbands.

We do a hobby we enjoy together once a week and that’s all, because talking to them is really hard for me.

Boyfriends always come or are talked about, and it just triggers me. I feel really misunderstood around them.

I try online dating once every couple months, but it has been unsuccessful. I put my best self forward and go into it with the intention of having a good time, and leave disappointed.

I have a cat I love at home and a job I love. But my personal life is dull and soul crushing.

[SecretsofKB]

My suggestion is to have a girl's night. No boyfriends/husbands/partners of any kind allowed. Go out with them. Maybe you can meet someone that way with them.

Maybe try to do a girls only weekend trip with your friends.

Try to maintain those friendships as best you can. They are extremely important.

[Jaminabelle070]

Thanks. It just feels hard for me because we aren’t even close. It just feels like they have their lives already and don’t need me or anyone else in it

[SecretsofKB]

They need you still. Trust me.

I love my partner to death. Love spending time with them. But... I still need my friends. I need to hang out with them. They keep my grounded.

Continue to reach out to them.

[humpbackjack]

The sad fact is we all are gonna be paying bills till the day we die but I’m sure there’s someone out there for you can you honestly say you’ve put yourself out there enough or maybe your standards are a little unreasonable or maybe there’s something or something’s about yourself you can work on maybe just kick back and relax a little would need more info to help but I find that I usually know the answer if I look deep enough and am honest with myself

[bgreek]

Here's an idea
-Stop being picky
And try to put yourself out there
Maybe, some of your f/friends may know single guys
That's all women do, is complain, complain
What are you going to do about it?

[Jaminabelle070]

Have you known what I’ve done about it? you obv don’t know the full story so how can you make these assumptions? because you generalize how women behave? exactly type of man i would not want to be involved with

[zagor]

See? You're too picky. Bgreek could have been the perfect man for you...

[bgreek]

But, than again maybe she's not picky
But just a jezebel type of chick

[abc3643]

Win the lottery or marry a rich man.

Otherwise, get in line at the slaughterhouse for meat for the rich.

[Seangreen]

Oh, feeling doesn't go away you either going to have to sell dope or some other contraband or win the lottery or just get rich somehow otherwise yeah you're looking at all that it's going to be

[anylolone]

Find meaning and find people to love that love you back.
Start by meeting people enough to give them a chance to love you and loving people who love you.

[captain_voidwalker]

Basically like this

[Staximus]

You need to out in real life and meet people, and learn to stop making yourself miserable.

[Anonymous]

I recommend reading "How Successful People Win" by Ben Stein.

[2021biguy]

Life isn't easy but you have to try to do thing you like to stay happy at least.

[Anonymous]

Ditch the pet, it is an emotional crutch holding you back from finding the right person.

[emperor90]

Get out and meet new people