What do you think could be a reason why this guy chose this other girl over me to date when I am prettier?

[Anonymous]

[HellGeist]

You're not giving much detail, aside from you thinking you are prettier. Personality matters. What is your personality like?

But this helps prove that it's not all about looks to guys, at least not as much as some women think.

Maybe she has a lower body count?
Maybe she is really nice to him?
Maybe she is low maintenance/chill.
Maybe they share common values/hobbies?
Maybe she's more attractive to him?
How do you know you're prettier?

Also, a lot of guys would rather have a long term relationship with a 6 or 7 as opposed to 9 or 10, because (true or not) women who look may look average to you or a man himself are perceived as more loyal/trustworthy than some knockout model who can have any man she wants any time she wants.

So if a successful handsome man wants to settle down, sure he would be open to flings with 8,9 and 10s, but if he really wants to settle down, he may feel more comfortable with a solid 6 or 7 that seems more virtuous/loyal (to him), because he doesn't want to get cucked or divorced. I know that if my SMV rose high enough, like I became a jacked millionaire, I would definitely NOT want to get into a serious relationship with a drop-dead gorgeous 10/10 woman. IDC how hot she is, I do not want to feel that replaceable or in constant competition with every other man on the planet that she could decide to monkeybranch to at any time.

Yes, that could happen and does happen often either way, but I think hotter women are perceived as more hypergamous and promiscuous for a reason.

But is that always the case or fair? No. Not necessarily. But perception is KEY.

That's pretty much all there is to that, unless you share more info. We cannot know for sure what is going on.

[Guardian45]

Agreed

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Your opinion of your own beauty is always biased. What you see is not necessarily the same thing that other people see when they look at you.

2. A guy's attraction to a girl is not always based solely on physical appearance. Really! All of us are not that shallow, despite your opinion to the contrary.

[Guardian45]

VERY well said!

[whirled_up_girl]

It often doesn't make sense sometimes how certain people work so well togehter, looks and personality has a lot to do with it of course but there also has to be a certain spark or chemistry that can't be explained. Don't take it personally though, it's also not something any of us can control or even anything we did wrong.

[Aurora1010]

He likes her personality more or maybe you're giving yourself too much credit and he is more attracted to her, or maybe he likes both her personality and looks more than yours.

[Zealashton]

if you loved him, why did you not just say it up front instead of bussing around him.

sometimes you have to be assertive, and forth comming, and take first step.
shit dont wait for no one,

make it a lesson learned,
but their has to be more to this then just your looks.

[Zealashton]

also. we men or everyone want a god or godess for a partner
but reality is, nothing is set instone, if i like hanging out with u , i like you more then some random junk on the side street. why because i know you.

[HellGeist]

Amen.

[Anonymous]

Women need to understand that all men don't go for looks. Actual good men always go for a balance of both of them. But since women get tons of attention they believe guys are crazy for them they are pretty and never seem to develop any personality. Only bad guys pursue a just pretty girl.

[HellGeist]

Exactly.

I think her post kind of speaks for and answers itself.

[FilmGuy93]

What kind of person are you? Did you form any kind of emotional bond with him?

[2021biguy]

Looks aren't everything and if that's the only reason someone is with you, the relationship would fail.

[nawtee_me]

maybe because you make it about you as if you are conceded... Doesn't he have the right to choose who he wants? I would think your personality may have something to do with it...

[Anonymous]

Not all about looks. Personality and a connection matters. And you think you're prettier, but you may not be to him (or equally so even)?

[zagor]

a) Maybe she has a better personality, in his view or

b) Maybe you're not really prettier

[Guardian45]

Brutal, but realistic

[cookiecrusher]

Does he even know you like him or did you give him the USE signals? The universal side eye.

[Guardian45]

HAHAHA! USE! 🤣🤪👍

[Wise4myage]

Personal preference, or perhaps she has a better personality.

[Jamie05rhs]

He probably felt like he had more in common with her.

[Guardian45]

Right there is your reason!

Your Honor, The Prosecution rests!

[Tomtom9494]

She’s more enjoyable to be around and he can stand listening to her talk

[RichSD]

Maybe you're not prettier.

[Asker]

I think I am prettier

[RichSD]

But you're a woman and have a totally different sense of what's pretty than a guy does. There is a lot that makes a woman pretty, and a lot that takes away from that. If you act like you think you're the prettiest one, you might come off as having a chip on your shoulder and nobody likes that.

[Anonymous]

Because he didn't want you

[Asker]

But I am way prettier

[Opinion Owner]

It doesn't matter he still didn't want you

[Asker]

My personality isn’t bad either

[Opinion Owner]

It does not matter he didn't want you so deal with it

[Guardian45]

@Asker. Imagine you are your guy reading your answers. What do you think about you? What do you conclude?
"Not, oh she's pretty, but she THINKS she is prettier." "What about who I think is prettier?" "Boy, this girl has a BIG attitude. I am avoiding her at ALL costs."

[Staximus]

Maybe he gets along with her better

[emperor90]

Because u did not meet his standards

[OddBeMe]

Maybe she’s less vain.

[Shiningtempest]

She had more compatible political views.

[Slim57]

She had a better personality