What are the pros to dating a musician?

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Cause im not seeing any. Okay well i mean yea, he could romantically serenade me if im bored or sad... and he's offered to teach me how to play. Okay and im totally gonna make him learn to play all of my favorite songs. But other than that, If he becomes famous, he’ll often be on the road. I’ll have to deal with those horrible ass groupies. He already never stops playing his fcking guitar. Yes, I love the sound of an electric guitar in comparison to an acoustic. But shit... giving me 30 mins of talk and 3 hours of guitar play is fcking annoying! Plus he only likes rock and country. Thats nice and all, but i like other genres too man. Thankfully he can't sing for shit cause i’d hate to date another one of those. The guy last year never shut tf Up. I wanted to plug his mouth with a marshmallow. Im tempted to ghost before the New Year rings in 👀 But i’ll try to be the bigger person and just secretly want to smash his guitar into a million pieces...
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I dont think some of y'all know the difference between a pro and a con lmao.
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InventorofWarp · Accepted Answer

Okay... so never date Desii, got it.
For the record... I LOVE the sound of my guitars, any of them, I am absolutely in love with music and love spending as much time as possible on it. But, first off... I have other hobbies. I'm more than just a musician: I HAVE to spend at least 2 hours a day conversing with someone or just with my dogs in German, French, Latvian, Mandarin and ASL in order to keep up with my knowledge of the languages even though my dogs have no fucking clue what's going on. I enjoy taking a day out of the week and just riding somewhere on my motorcycle and when I can I do enjoy hunting and seeing/riding horses. I am a country boy first and foremost at heart, the Ranch will never leave my heart.
All that said... I learned multiple instruments specifically for this reason. That is, being able to diversify and play not only multiple genres but just being able to make different sounds rather than just the same thing all the time. Some days I don't touch my piano at all. Some days I don't touch any of my guitars at all. Some days I don't touch my banjo or my violin or my harmonica at all. Some days I touch ALL of them for MANY hours. Some days it's just a piano day. Some days it's a banjo and piano day.
I CAN sing. Granted my range is worse than most.
And I have yet to do any major extended tours but if I ever get that popular (here's hoping) I wouldn't do any that were over two weeks so my beloved would at least know there's an end date coming. And honestly, I'd probably ask her to come with me.
Also, having played in multiple bands at this point, I can honestly say that groupies are not as fun as TV makes them out to be. A lot of them are creepy women who seriously need to go make some friends and get laid or just really sleazy type women who think coming up and groping you is a good start to flirting and no, it, isn't. It REALLY fucking isn't, it's just creepy. Maybe 'cause I'm a high-functioning autistic. But don't fucking touch me please, thanks.
Also the only two genres I don't touch are metal and rap/hiphop. No liking for it whatsoever and no desire to play anything even remotely resembling it. But I write and play shit from country/folk to synth/electric and right through to alt rock and haze pop.

For the love of fuck don't string this poor dude along, Jesus, sounds like you fucking hate musicians with a passion for some reason, sorry for whatever we did to you, just end this now for both of your good graces.

Mehzmeh · Accepted Answer

Well, some pros are. They are good with there hands, and depends on what they play, they are good with there mouths. And if they only play music and have a standing gig or, is a studio musician. They are making bank.

The con to that is, if they are career musician and they don’t have a actual job. They are always broke (unless it’s like I said earlier). They can be messy and lazy. They would only want to lay around and not find a job. And some don’t have a back up plan.

SphynxUK · Accepted Answer

I would get annoyed if they were playing the instrument while on dates or when at their place.
I’d also find it infuriating if they play music I don’t enjoy.
I grew up with ‘band practice’ taking place at home weekly. The genre was bearable. And now my daughter has a band lol. Luckily I can put up with it because it’s her and I’m proud of her 😅

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

They could be the stay at home parent when the kids are young. Gigs are gigs. They can be scheduled in advance and are ad hoc enough and are often at off hours which wouldn't affect someone else's 9-5 job.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

We are very good with our fingers! :) :) :)

Joeshamo · Answer

Con's unstable career, no 401, there's always a younger faster, & better looking person to replace you when you start to fall off or grow old. I don't like tyga or little durk's music, but I have a lot of respect for them because they were able to revitalize their career & that's not easy at all when people are laughing at you & calling you washed up. Even though I don't like their music I still respect them for that. entertainment is very oversaturated with people that want to make it big. Any type of entertainment jobs not just music. A lot of people want to be twitch streamer who plays video games all day & that's why very few become successful at it. Unless you have a magnetic personality or you're really good at the game it's very hard to become the next big hit on twitch. He might have very unrealistic goals & not taking any risk to reach that music career goal like saying he's going to be the next Michael Jackson when he barely practices. Michael Jackson practiced all the time & it's very easy to tell the difference between a Michael Jackson impersonator from the real Michael Jackson because even though they know how to do all the moves they still don't move as sharp as Michael Jackson because he practice it all the time to the point where can destroy his body.

Pros: If he's realistic about what he want's to do, it's a very rewarding career even if he doesn't make it to the big stage. There are still lots of job opportunities out their like making jiggles for commercials you can make a ton of money doing that. having a music degree is similar to having an art degree. Yes you're probably not going to the next van gogh, but you can still work using your art skills like with graphics design & web development. Creative fields are very rewarding careers, but you have to be realistic about what you want to do. Like maybe being the next Drake is not possible, but maybe just doing covers on youtube will work just fine for you. As long you really love doing music & are not just doing it for the money than you will find success in it. Just have realistic goals.

wisewolf1756 · Answer

Technically an artistic brain is far more connected with abstract reality and far more prone to carve his/ her own path. I always believe that if our schools taught music with the same rigor they teach math or other linear subjects; we would have a much better civilization. The primary reason why artists are belittled socially it’s because society has not carved a space for then…in a linear society … automatons rule with their social conformism … mocking the artistic mind… and creating an atrophy of creativity and discovery which basically leaves us where we are today… a barren world ruled by common ignorance … there is a reason why we no longer produce a Michaelangelo; a Leonardo da Vinci: a Mozart; Goethe or Beethoven…. and many are reverting to crazy ideas such a flat earth 🙄

Our brains have been atrophied and desensitized to such a degree that we fail to even understand the basic meaning of what music really is and how important and critical it is for our brain development and social health

Anonymous · Answer

Personally, I've been drumming for 7 1/2 years, I could easily see people getting annoyed with me turning into a music nerd when something comes up. Also drumming in itself is loud! Even with electric kits. Plus me tapping along to a bunch of shit.
BUT...

The question is for pros:
Finger/forearm stamina (lol)
Free tickets to their gigs
Watching a partner play is really nice and is a great way to bond or get to know them
Inevitably, if they play guitar or piano, they will compose a song for you (probably)
Exposure to music and culture
They often hang with some real unique people so you can meet some exiting personalities.

Starla1234 · Answer

Pros:
You would always be surrounded by music and instruments which would be the coolest thing ever, you could ask him to play music to you, you could bring friends along and go to his gigs/shows which would be soo fun, he could teach you how to play some music, and he would probably be super hot because most musicians are 😆

Miristheiss · Answer

None really... other then the fame and fortune... you make have a "status" amongst some of your peers that you are with someone famous and you may have some access to moneys and some travel, wining and dining.
Relationship-wise... no pros really, always gone, groupies, drugs... those are prevalent with lots of musicians.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

You picked the wrong guy.
Musicians should date other musicians.
The fact that you find him enjoying himself to be annoying proves my point.
I make music, draw, and play challenging video games, and if a girl doesn't do all 3, I'm not touching her, because couples who don't share the same hobbies just irritate eachother until they both snap and breakup.

donnny2367764 · Answer

I'm a seasoned studio recording guitarist. Most of the women I date have some musical roots and I'm not sure why that is but I've been able to jam with each and every single one and have a great time. We certainly share lots of ideas for songs, and we're constantly vocalizing harmonies it's ridiculous

syskerully · Answer

Your capacity for pity and patience will increase. No one will ever be able to disappoint you after that. You'll be able to do other terrible jobs like putting down animals at a farm or cleaning bed pans at an old age home because of the skills you'll perfect while dating a musician.

cookiecrusher · Answer

As someone who plays few instruments and knows plenty of full time musicians.

It's usually not that bad. Like regular people, they will spend a lot of time with their band or working on their skills. Most won't be famous like that, but work small venues.

NathanDavis · Answer

they tend to have priorities, that is for sure... they either sacrifice their career or their relationship (s)

better said, risk it... as 99% of musicians' career won't even work at the end, or ever, lol

mobiusforniner · Answer

None, really. In engineering school we had a saying for different majors. Physucks majors ask "why", engineers ask "how", and art majors ask "do you want fries with that?" Now, if you met an engineer who was ALSO a musician, well then...

Berethor · Answer

You should date Chris Brown, he's a great guy. :)

DryGermanGuy · Answer

"Well, actually I have two rules. See, one: I don't date musicians, and two: I do not kill people, okay?"   - Jordan Tate, Under Siege

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I guess you get flexing rights on your girlfriends. I wouldn't want to marry into fame. I'm already working in the limelight and I'd rather that I didn't. Money is nice but fame is exhausting.

t-8900 · Answer

Dating a traveling musician? Sounds like a nightmare. Lots of room for cheating and drug abuse. No thanks.

lucas262 · Answer

Anastasia  Isabel  Natalie  Rachel  Ashley  Off the top of my head

LegendaryIcon · Answer

typically, they'll have two jobs, so, they'll bringing in lots of money the con to that is, they'll be working two jobs, so, not a lot of time to be spent on social stuff, like a girlfriend/boyfriend

bigbluey · Answer

If he was like a star or something then you would have a lot of money

Ad_Quid_Orator · Answer

They could play your ass like a drum: LITERALLY!!!

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