Do you feel like you are not good enough to have standards? (Page 2)

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I keep seeing people on my posts say they couldnt turn down a smoker among other things because they’re not attractive enough to have a dating preference. Thats honestly a sad mindset. Its disheartening. So here’s a few words of encouragement that even the cockiest mf may need to hear every once in a while when they’re feeling down... *puts on my Morgan Freeman voice*... 
 THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE FOR EVERYONE! IT IS TOTALLY OKAY TO HAVE PREFERENCES AND A GOOD SET OF STANDARDS. NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS. JUST BECAUSE YOU MAY NOT BE ATTRACTIVE TO ONE PERSON DOES NOT MEAN YOU WILL NOT BE ATTRACTIVE TO ANOTHER. IT IS NOT BK. YOU CANNOT ALWAYS HAVE IT YOUR WAY. BUT STILL, I HAVE A DREAM, THAT ONE DAY YOU WILL FIND WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR. AND IF YOU DONT FIND THEM, THEY WILL SURELY FIND YOU. ONE CALL THATS ALL. LIKE A GOOD NEIGHBOR, STATE FARM IS THERE. AND YOU ARE IN GOOD HANDS WITH ALLSTATE. REMEMBER THIS— YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH. FCK THEM HOES WHO TELL YOU OTHERWISE. #FeelFreeToList #YouAreGoodEnough #TheresSomeoneForEveryone

Ms_Vanderquack · Answer

I am the standard by which all others are measured.

Summerx-x · Answer

Thank you for this. This came at the perfect timing. I feel I do have a few standards. Like the guy being someone, I can see talking with for hours and making me laugh no matter how cheesy his jokes are. I finally found a guy like that who I can't help but simp over but I always feel as if I'm not good enough to even just be friends with him. So again this was a good reminder to stop putting myself down and let what happens happens

NathanDavis · Answer

I know I'm wholesome... but I don't have standards to measure other people, I will always seem them for their true worth, and not a list to check on my book, never done that in the past, anyway...

Anpu23 · Answer

I am not perfect but I am perfectly able to have standards.  Me in my tux.

melanieeeB · Answer

Nahh I'm way to high maintenance and liiiiittle arrogant for sure lmao  I don't lower my standards but expect others to get their ass up to match mine at least a little

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I feel I'm good enough but I never set my standards real high on a girl  but I'm careful who I decide to date or be in a relationship with and I don't judge a girl on anything

Agape93 · Answer

I used to. But that was also the time in my life where I'd have rather swallowed a bullet than got up in the morning, so I didn't care about my safety.

Anonymous · Answer

I always thought I'd give any girl a chance if they are nice but I do have preferences, not necessarily on looks but for one I need a spark between us and her not being like 6 months pregnant, nothing wrong with her being pregnant but knowing that her motive is looking for a daddy for her baby that isn't mind I couldn't do

Anonymous · Answer

I am poor and studying in grad school. Women don't like that, as men of similar age have higher income and time, so they can spend a lot of time only having fun. I know I can't afford that now. Perhaps later in life, when I will make more money I will have high standards too.

Lynx122 · Answer

You should uphold the standards no matter if there is someone willing to date you or not. I mean the most important ones.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

No, I generally have my own preference and I attend to keep them that way, I love a woman who can cook and play video games, instant babe alert

bigbluey · Answer

Yes I feel that way in sex sometimes. Like the person with me can give better than I can give. It’s discouraging sometimes

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No. I know my worth. And because of that I won't accept anyone that will not be good for me and be a positive in my life.

TheLittleInnocent · Answer

Yea sometimes I feel like that... then I go on reddit and feel better about my own existent.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Nah, I've never felt insecure before, but I do worry I'm running out of time because other people settle, and might take all my best match options before I do, leaving me with no options worth marrying.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

I'm not saying I'm the best a woman can get, but I know for certain that I'm one of a kind. People who downplay themselves only limit themselves to the bare minimum.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Thats more a low confidence thing. Look at this guy, he has standards even though he doesn't look like an Abercrombie & Fitch male model.

ZS007 · Answer

Im not that confident about myself but I still have standards and I lower them at times.

Anonymous · Answer

Preach girl. That's the most beautiful post I've seen of you.
Some people once told me (even my parents said that) "don't be so picky or you'll be alone your whole life. Well, obviously I don't expect to date Brad Pitt but how am I going to have sex with a guy I'm not physically or emotionally attracted to?
I'd rather be single my whole life than compromise and date someone just for the sake of it.
I'm sorry it annoys some people that much that I'm single

Anonymous · Answer

I still have my standards but I feel like as of right now that I am not in a position to be dating especially since I have nothing secure yet. So my standards are put on hold but only because im focusing more on myself.

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